Escorts for "general companionship" (no sex)

[ICTJOCK]

So I had inquiry about my escort services and was asked if this was for "general companionship"  or if I was a "full service"  escort?      

 

He stated he would be into general companionship  (which I asked him to define),   but wanted all services.     He said he didn't just want a dinner date,  that he has hired

men that only go to dinner!    We chatted and asked me some questions,   but I wondered if there were any  "without sex"  escorts still out there?    If so,  are they really in demand?                         Curious?

[Jamie21]

I get hired sometimes for that. In the sense that it involves being with the client with no expectation that sex will happen. It usually is simply spending time with them. We’ll probably be naked, we’ll do some massage, we’ll eat, chat, just cuddle. It’s important to them that there’s no explicit agenda. So much of people’s time these days is scheduled and structured I think the opportunity to just chill with someone who is like minded is welcome. 

Of course most of the time because the session is unstructured and relaxed then some kind of sex does happen. Whether that’s full sex or just intimacy but because it’s not the purpose of the session it makes it all the more fulfilling. 

 

 

[Simon Suraci]

Here’s a relevant thread. I do general companionship from time to time, but it’s not in high demand. 

 

[soloyo215]

8 hours ago, ICTJOCK said:

So I had inquiry about my escort services and was asked if this was for "general companionship"  or if I was a "full service"  escort?      

 

He stated he would be into general companionship  (which I asked him to define),   but wanted all services.     He said he didn't just want a dinner date,  that he has hired

men that only go to dinner!    We chatted and asked me some questions,   but I wondered if there were any  "without sex"  escorts still out there?    If so,  are they really in demand?                         Curious?

I mean, not to be a smart ass, but you guys advertise as, escorts, that's what the word actually means, to accompany someone. Think of it as people who go to peep show places to actually buy DVDs.

[CuriousByNature]

18 minutes ago, soloyo215 said:

I mean, not to be a smart ass, but you guys advertise as, escorts, that's what the word actually means, to accompany someone. 

Or they drive a model of Ford that hasn't been produced in 20 years?  (I am being a smart ass)

[pubic_assistance]

I've been to events where single gay men show up with hires as their plus one.

Nobody wants to be the sad only lonely queen at a black tie affair...so they hire someone so stunningly beautiful we all forget to pity him for being alone.

 

[+ DrownedBoy]

It looks like escorts get hired for companionship all the time.

However, I don't think RM/FB is the place to advertise if that's the only thing you're offering.

A guy in Chicago put out an RM ad for that a few years ago. The ad was gone after one month with no reviews.

[Marc in Calif]

21 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

I've been to events where single gay men show up with hires as their plus one.

Nobody wants to be the sad only lonely queen at a black tie affair...so they hire someone so stunningly beautiful we all forget to pity him for being alone.

 

I'm sure that lonely bisexual queens do the exact same thing. They hire a male "companion" for special events so they won't be pitied. 

[BonVivant]

On 9/29/2023 at 4:00 PM, pubic_assistance said:

I've been to events where single gay men show up with hires as their plus one.

Nobody wants to be the sad only lonely queen at a black tie affair...so they hire someone so stunningly beautiful we all forget to pity him for being alone.

 

Wowza. Did you intend to be so harsh? At least the “sad lonely queen” gets to fuck a beautiful man and make everyone else jealous. Money has its privileges. Thank god for Seeking; we can all just be discreet about what’s going on. 

[+ DrownedBoy]

2 hours ago, BonVivant said:

Wowza. Did you intend to be so harsh? At least the “sad lonely queen” gets to fuck a beautiful man and make everyone else jealous. Money has its privileges. Thank god for Seeking; we can all just be discreet about what’s going on. 

Yeah.....

....if I was hiring an escort to go to an event with me, I'd hire someone who looks believable as a date. 😄 Wouldn't get a beautiful guy.

[BonVivant]

2 hours ago, DrownedBoy said:

....if I was hiring an escort to go to an event with me, I'd hire someone who looks believable as a date. 😄 Wouldn't get a beautiful guy.

Umm Kay. You do you. Why not just ask a friend or your lonely spinster f@g hag? Save some money and enjoy the event. 

Edited October 4, 2023 by BonVivant

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

On 9/30/2023 at 10:41 AM, Marc in Calif said:

I'm sure that lonely bisexual queens do the exact same thing. They hire a male "companion" for special events so they won't be pitied. 

Good point! Bisexual queens may also hire a female escort, or hire both a male and female escort as a plus 2, or hire a they to have the best of both worlds as a plus 1!  It would be cheaper to pay for just 1 they instead of a man and woman separately.

Edited October 4, 2023 by Vegas_Millennial

[+ DrownedBoy]

16 hours ago, BonVivant said:

 Why not just ask a friend

Depends on what kind of event it is.....

[Rudynate]

On 9/29/2023 at 4:10 AM, ICTJOCK said:

So I had inquiry about my escort services and was asked if this was for "general companionship"  or if I was a "full service"  escort?      

 

He stated he would be into general companionship  (which I asked him to define),   but wanted all services.     He said he didn't just want a dinner date,  that he has hired

men that only go to dinner!    We chatted and asked me some questions,   but I wondered if there were any  "without sex"  escorts still out there?    If so,  are they really in demand?                         Curious?

In the screwball comedies of the mid-20th century, when women could not go anywhere without a male escort, there were often wealthy widows who had to attend an event such as a wedding or a charity ball, and they would call an escort service, which would send over an escort who turned up perfectly dressed, with perfect manners, etc.   I have often wondered whether those escort services actually existed or whether they were just a thing in the movies. I think there are guys on cruise ships who are hired to provide company to unaccompanied women.    I don't see why you couldn't hire a provider just for company.  I wouldn't expect a break on his rate though.  Service is service.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

 I wouldn't say they're 'in demand,' but being a great actual escort requires a lot more intellect, conversational skill, eye for detail and organization.

It's not something every guy can do, which is why many escorts are best left hired for a single hour at a time.

A gent who's able to effortlessly combine the two has cracked the code:  A guy who's fun in bed, but also mentally stimulates you as well.

 

[BonVivant]

30 minutes ago, DrownedBoy said:

Depends on what kind of event it is.....

I agree with you there. It depends: charity ball vs. MAL vs. Ibiza vs. Dinner with mom. Thank God for the options. 

[Guest]

51 minutes ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

 I wouldn't say they're 'in demand,' but being a great actual escort requires a lot more intellect, conversational skill, eye for detail and organization.

It's not something every guy can do, which is why many escorts are best left hired for a single hour at a time.

A gent who's able to effortlessly combine the two has cracked the code:  A guy who's fun in bed, but also mentally stimulates you as well.

 

I would sometimes ask "uncle Joe" ( he's not really my uncle 😜 ) "what about this guy..... ?" and often his reply was, "nope, he's not for me, he wouldn't know what fork to use" 😂🤪 We always joke about that 😜

[ICTJOCK]

1 hour ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

 I wouldn't say they're 'in demand,' but being a great actual escort requires a lot more intellect, conversational skill, eye for detail and organization.

It's not something every guy can do, which is why many escorts are best left hired for a single hour at a time.

A gent who's able to effortlessly combine the two has cracked the code:  A guy who's fun in bed, but also mentally stimulates you as well.

 

You sound like one of my friends who encouraged me this direction in the beginning.   The difference between a professional and one that isn't.

[+ DrownedBoy]

5 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

 I wouldn't say they're 'in demand,' but being a great actual escort requires a lot more intellect, conversational skill, eye for detail and organization.

It's not something every guy can do, which is why many escorts are best left hired for a single hour at a time.

A gent who's able to effortlessly combine the two has cracked the code:  A guy who's fun in bed, but also mentally stimulates you as well.

 

Yup. College alumni networks worked the same way - they wanted college boys who could discuss the finer things. All those 'useless' courses (philosophy, art history, literature, etc.) provided cultured conversation material. It also helped to know current events, and a little about business and finance, the fields the alumni often worked in.

[Luv2play]

On 10/4/2023 at 5:02 PM, DrownedBoy said:

Yeah.....

....if I was hiring an escort to go to an event with me, I'd hire someone who looks believable as a date. 😄 Wouldn't get a beautiful guy.

This makes a lot of sense.

[Luv2play]

7 hours ago, Rudynate said:

In the screwball comedies of the mid-20th century, when women could not go anywhere without a male escort, there were often wealthy widows who had to attend an event such as a wedding or a charity ball, and they would call an escort service, which would send over an escort who turned up perfectly dressed, with perfect manners, etc.   I have often wondered whether those escort services actually existed or whether they were just a thing in the movies. I think there are guys on cruise ships who are hired to provide company to unaccompanied women.    I don't see why you couldn't hire a provider just for company.  I wouldn't expect a break on his rate though.  Service is service.

I met a man back in the 90s in NYC who was in his 70s and gay. Had a life long association with the NY theatre world. When he was in his 30s he was once asked to escort Marilyn Monroe to a charity event as she was without a current husband. He dined out on that story for years.

Edited October 5, 2023 by Luv2play

[Guest]

29 minutes ago, Luv2play said:

I met a man back in the 90s in NYC who was in his 70s and gay. Had a life long association with the NY theatre world. When he was in his 30s he was once asked to escort Marilyn Monroe to a charity event as she was without a current husband. He dined out on that story for years.

That's cool! I have a friend who escorted  Vladimir Horowitz in the early 80's.... nothing sexual but rather to ensure Vladimir got in his daily walks, made sure he got his daily Dover Sole with greens 🥬 imported from Italy 🇮🇹 ( no joke; he ate that daily  ) and also to accompany him to  numbers for dinner. 2 weeks and he's got the check to prove it lol 😂  Vladimir played his entire concert for him one night ( said that tonight no Numbers ) and brought my friend that I still see currently to tears 😭 It was a very handsome amount even for the 1980's 😳

Edited October 5, 2023 by Vin_Marco

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

37 minutes ago, Luv2play said:

This makes a lot of sense.

It makes sense, but it's also incredibly sad to read.

I spend time with guys who might not be in the same looks/body league as me, but the way you genuinely interact with someone makes all the difference.

If you don't act like hired help, people around you won't give a shit. 

The bigger issue is how someone deals (or doesn't deal) with their own mental hangups.

[Rudynate]

53 minutes ago, Luv2play said:

I met a man back in the 90s in NYC who was in his 70s and gay. Had a life long association with the NY theatre world. When he was in his 30s he was once asked to escort Marilyn Monroe to a charity event as she was without a current husband. He dined out on that story for years.

Actually, come to think of it. I escorted an older woman to the opera once.  It was the mother of a co-worker.  The mother was coming to visit and wanted to go to the opera and my friend hated the opera, so she asked me if I would take her mother.   My friend paid for the tickets, the mother treated me to dinner and we went to the opera together.  It was a great evening and It was nice to give the mother an experience a nice experience.

[Rudynate]

31 minutes ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

It makes sense, but it's also incredibly sad to read.

I spend time with guys who might not be in the same looks/body league as me, but the way you genuinely interact with someone makes all the difference.

If you don't act like hired help, people around you won't give a shit. 

The bigger issue is how someone deals (or doesn't deal) with their own mental hangups.

I've never been in a situation like that, so I can't be sure,  but I just don't think I would care.  Obviously, the guy needs social skills, but why not choose somebody who's drop-dead handsome?  I don't feel like I have anything to hide. For years, I have thought about hiring a guy to go to church with me.  I love midnight mass on Christmas Eve and my husband won't go because he hates Christianity.  It would be great to make an evening of it with a guy who looks terrific in a nice suit, have dinner before, and turn heads when we walk into Grace Cathedral.  Actually, my husband would be completely OK with it.