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On 8/1/2021 at 12:57 PM, HoleTrainer said:

The only time I feel annoyed about the lack of tip is if a client has gone significantly over on his allotted time, 

Like therapists, It's always up to providers to control the time.  Your specialty, fisting, can NOT be rushed, and if you are going to feel slighted if not compensated when it does run long, you really need to make it clear at the beginning how time consuming fisting can be, and that while "I don't want you to feel rushed, I do keep a busy schedule (insert something about ha ha it's not ALL clients I'm not THAT much of a whore ha ha) and so it's really important that", well the rest is up to you.

Yes, it's important that clients feel comfortable with you.  Additionally, however, it's important that you not feel resentful or you will not enjoy escorting as much as we all want you to.  So, create a compassionate, firm, playful script and stick to it.

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I’ll also say: I feel tipping is especially appreciated because you don’t always know when a provider could have his next client. 
 

For example: today is Tuesday night. My last bookings were last Tuesday night, Wednesday night and Thursday afternoon (3 separate bookings). I was feeling on a winning streak! I might of had a booking Friday, but the “client” was not following instructions to text or call me. And he’s in a hotel messaging me on Adam4Adam. I have a strict stance that I do not meet any clients who can’t furnish a phone number. On top of that, the more he messaged me on Adam, the further away I was going because he had contacted me as I was driving past the particular town he was in. 
 

When he finally offered a deposit, I was already 40 miles away. I was not about to turn back around, meet him, and then turn back around again to my destination. In that case a big tip would have been expected.

But the point being: my last visit gave a nice tip. However that was the last visit I’ve gotten. I can imagine a decent restaurant waiters going for tips, knows that there’s going to be business everyday that they’re open. We on the other hand, things can be going great, and then just go bottoms up over the course of a week/weekend.

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I was hoping for NAMES of great clients. ; )

I've stopped asked masseurs who they go to to get a massage for themselves - they take it as an indirect way of me looking for someone else! "Oh, I don't really get massages, to be honest" would be the most common reply.

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On 8/3/2021 at 10:50 AM, Rod Hagen said:

Like therapists, It's always up to providers to control the time.  Your specialty, fisting, can NOT be rushed, and if you are going to feel slighted if not compensated when it does run long, you really need to make it clear at the beginning how time consuming fisting can be, and that while "I don't want you to feel rushed, I do keep a busy schedule (insert something about ha ha it's not ALL clients I'm not THAT much of a whore ha ha) and so it's really important that", well the rest is up to you.

Yes, it's important that clients feel comfortable with you.  Additionally, however, it's important that you not feel resentful or you will not enjoy escorting as much as we all want you to.  So, create a compassionate, firm, playful script and stick to it.

I think tipping when your session goes 40 minutes overtime is COMMON sense to anyone who respects the value of our time and the service we are offering.  And anyone who doesn’t feel that they should tip after taking up more than 1.5X the amount of time they actually booked and paid for is not really a good match for me as a long term client.  I am not interested in potentially souring the beginning of every appointment with a speech about time on the off-chance that someone may go overtime and may not have the common sense to compensate me - especially because it’s not really about the money for me but about common sense and mutual respect.  I would much rather succeed at opening up his hole, realize he’s not the kind of client who’s thoughtful enough to tip for overtime, and then make decisions accordingly about our relationship moving forward, than risk failing to create a sufficiently relaxing environment because I started our session with a reminder about the clock.  There are better ways to deal with clients who overstay on a case by case basis IMO.  For example, if someone went significantly overtime on our previous appointment, I’ll encourage them to book a longer appointment if they inquire again to re-book.  I definitely wouldn’t say that I feel “resentful” if a client doesn’t tip when we go significantly overtime, but it does make me feel like he’s inconsiderate of my time and energy and probably not a good match to become a regular of mine- but I’ll usually give the client a chance to correct his mistake by suggesting a longer session if he tries to re-book a 2nd time.  If a client makes a pattern out of overstaying without compensating/tipping after I’ve suggested a longer booking and he’s insisted on the shorter one, then I’ll generally stop allowing him to book and let him know that’s the reason, as he’s already been made aware of the issue at that point and chosen not to adjust his behavior or compensation moving forward.  But I honestly don’t have this problem often as I find that most of the guys who overstay on their one hour booking without tipping are one-offs anyway.

My favorite clients book more time than they need, tip me on top of that, and often don’t use up their entire session time before they tap out and send me on my way.  They’re not my favorite clients BECAUSE of these things, but this just happens to be what happens and I really appreciate it!!

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On 7/1/2021 at 12:03 PM, mike carey said:

With the caveat that I live in a society where tipping is not the norm, I have the view that an escort sets their rate and that's what I expect to pay. I see a tip as something that I pay if I think they are charging below the going rate for the market, or if they astound me with the experience.

I regularly tip generously if I feel the rate is under what I received. This mostly applies to masseurs…if I go in expecting a nice sensual experience but received much more I will pay escort rate for the time. I met a very nice masseur a couple of weeks ago…was up front about what I was looking for..the basics only. Towards the end he escalated things very gently, did not ask and did not force it on me…it was lovely and I paid him extra. As we were chatting in his kitchen afterwards he took the money and said “You gave me X and the rate was Y.” I explained my reasoning and he very much appreciated it. 

 

 

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I was interested to see that some of you tip (in part) because you feel the provider undercharges. When I started seeing my regular guy he quoted me a standard rate for that session, and at the end offered me a substantial discount if I wanted to see him regularly. I appreciated the offer, but had such a great time that I continued to pay the standard one-off rate — and still do, because FUCK he gives good value for the money …

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1 hour ago, myophile said:

I was interested to see that some of you tip (in part) because you feel the provider undercharges. 

I haven't quite done this, but I have tipped in appreciation of a provider providing an excellent time at a lower rate than others and being willing to inconvenience himself for me

I saw an escort in Paris last year and had a fantastic time.  He charges a lower rate if you come to him.  During a more recent trip, I arranged another meeting and, although he wasn't able to host, after I volunteered to host, he said that he said that he would charge the incall rate.  True to form, he arrived and showed me a good time.  I added an extra amount because I knew that I'd have a good time and because he'd volunteered to take the incall rate for an outcall.

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On 4/11/2022 at 7:23 PM, Hlparx said:

I haven't quite done this, but I have tipped in appreciation of a provider providing an excellent time at a lower rate than others and being willing to inconvenience himself for me

I saw an escort in Paris last year and had a fantastic time.  He charges a lower rate if you come to him.  During a more recent trip, I arranged another meeting and, although he wasn't able to host, after I volunteered to host, he said that he said that he would charge the incall rate.  True to form, he arrived and showed me a good time.  I added an extra amount because I knew that I'd have a good time and because he'd volunteered to take the incall rate for an outcall.

It's not a tip, but after seeing a regular for 5 years at the same rates, I insisted on giving him an "inflation adjustment" after the past year. Mainly because he owns a car and drives to me, and gas prices have exploded.

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I have generally just paid the quoted rate if it is at or more than what seems to be the standard in my city. I am very vanilla and really don’t ask too much of the provider so I feel that’s fair. On the massage side, however, I usually go in expecting massage, some mutual touch and a quick HE…if it ends up being more than that, more attention, kissing, oral or whatever, I tip generously which ends up being the escort rate rather than massage rate. 

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On 6/19/2021 at 2:59 AM, RandyVue said:

Are your favorite clients, the guys who tip the best or the guys you like personality wise? 

money, compatibility, reliability, easygoing, looks, etc. Some clients are good for one thing but not for another. I guess is always nice to hear your phone beeping knowing a client who hires you for an overnight of a weekend is contacting you... 

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On 8/4/2021 at 12:22 AM, Jarrod_Uncut said:

I’ll also say: I feel tipping is especially appreciated because you don’t always know when a provider could have his next client. 
 

 

The best tip many escorts get is a simple "let me know when you're back in town, I definitively want to see you again". 

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On 4/13/2022 at 5:40 PM, DrownedBoy said:

It's not a tip, but after seeing a regular for 5 years at the same rates, I insisted on giving him an "inflation adjustment" after the past year. Mainly because he owns a car and drives to me, and gas prices have exploded.

This is a good gesture on your part. I also own a couple vehicles, and not only is gas expensive but my commute to clients can generally be pretty far. I either travel between cities or have to drive to neighborhoods/areas of town where clients are more common. Which has often meant going clear across town. Which I don’t mind…but it adds up day to day, and a nice gesture is welcome.

4 hours ago, marylander1940 said:

The best tip many escorts get is a simple "let me know when you're back in town, I definitively want to see you again". 


Yes, between that and reviews, it too is a welcome gesture. But I must say: that does assume an escort is frequenting said area often enough to “be back in town”. Some areas I do visit every few weeks/couple months, but others I may not tour again for a year or 2. Or in the case of my last tour: places I haven’t been in years. Unless an escort is consistently hitting the same locations for a regular period of time, it’s often that the same clients won’t be available when they’re back. 
 

With that being the case, it doesn’t hurt to add a bit of extra thanks at the end. Don’t wait until “next time” to show extra gratitude, it can be done while the time is present.

 

On 8/4/2021 at 9:03 AM, Sixty said:

Jarrod, it seems that you always have problems. Maybe time for you to move on????????????????????


I’m glad I didn’t even notice this. Way back in August lol. This person sounds like a regenerated troll, based on his previous posts.

I hope everyone has enough integrity and common sense not to feed into such vile, discouraging, hating, spiteful, and lack of decency and inconsiderate language. People like this, will likely suffer later in life for how they treat people. If they aren’t already. In fact, the very fact this person claims I “always have problems” is in itself a giveaway of what perception this person holds. Which is a shitty one. All I was doing was describing a circumstance that I encountered. The negative commentary was very unnecessary, childish, and petty. Get a life, Seriously. The world is at war, people are getting sick and dying everyday. People are having a hard time just trying to get by day to day. Nobody has a right to unprovoked negativity and nonsense. Keep that shit to yourself, where it belongs 
 

Now that’s addressed, back to the topic at hand 👏🏽 

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1 hour ago, arnemgreeves said:

I'm not an escort but I don't see how they don't have favourite clients.

There will be some clients they click with more, for whatever reason. Looks, engagement style when working, they treat them well, they don't push boundaries, easy to work with, etc. 

A good escort wouldn't necessarily give their favourites better services (though it might in some or many cases). But I know if I were a provider, I'd like people who were clean, respectful, not weird or harassing, etc. more than those who weren't. 

Yes, there are some clients who when they book I think ‘oh 😐’. The reasons are always to do with how they behave not what they look like. Things like being late, asking for discounts, that kind of thing. Of course if they’re a complete asshole then I just don’t take another booking from them (it’s rare fortunately).

I have a client who likes an outcall to his apartment, but it’s very messy and cluttered. That annoys me. I don’t mind the client, he’s nice and friendly,  but I really am not comfortable in his apartment. It’s not a good environment for a relaxing massage. There’s hardly space to move around my table, and when we move to his bed I usually have to remove a pile of washing and the cat…(It isn’t even his cat, it just seems to drop by). I have resorted to taking extra towels that I can use to lay on the bed before we do anything on there. Oh and his shower has low water pressure, it’s like showering under a dripping tap. 

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Basically be a decent person yeah? That’s kind of a given but it’s surprising that there’s some clients (only a few) who don’t manage that.

The difficult clients for me are the guys who seem to have massive issues about seeing me: they won’t make eye contact, they are uncommunicative and seem kind of inhibited but then very quickly they start to behave like they’re in a porn movie and then once they climax it’s like ‘oh I’ve got to get out of here immediately’ levels of shame.

I know doing any kind of sex work is akin to being a therapist of the mind as well as the body…. in fact I think that’s the key to doing sex work well, understanding the motivation of the client (the brain is the biggest sex organ!), but really there’s a lot of therapy some clients need working out about their issues over seeing a sex worker. Much of it seems to be guilt caused by religious indoctrination. 

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On 10/26/2022 at 1:56 AM, Jamie21 said:

Basically be a decent person yeah? That’s kind of a given but it’s surprising that there’s some clients (only a few) who don’t manage that.

The difficult clients for me are the guys who seem to have massive issues about seeing me: they won’t make eye contact, they are uncommunicative and seem kind of inhibited but then very quickly they start to behave like they’re in a porn movie and then once they climax it’s like ‘oh I’ve got to get out of here immediately’ levels of shame.

I know doing any kind of sex work is akin to being a therapist of the mind as well as the body…. in fact I think that’s the key to doing sex work well, understanding the motivation of the client (the brain is the biggest sex organ!), but really there’s a lot of therapy some clients need working out about their issues over seeing a sex worker. Much of it seems to be guilt caused by religious indoctrination. 

My favorite meets are when talk and play are good.

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11 hours ago, arnemgreeves said:

legal or illegal - it's about mutual benefit. The escort wants money to live, as it's his job. The client wants pleasure and a good time. 

I’d say it’s a bit more complicated than that. Yes one of the reasons for doing sex work is for the money but if that’s your only reason for doing it you probably won’t be very good or last very long. As well as getting paid the motivation to do sex work is in my experience much more than just making a living. 
And whilst I agree clients are human… some don’t see their sex worker as being a normal human. That’s the problem.

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6 hours ago, Coolwave35 said:

All of your posts tend to make me smile with delight, but this had me laughing out loud so hard that I scared my dog. Thank you for this. 

Ah sorry to your dog! 

I’m glad my posts bring a smile. Honestly some of the experiences I’ve had while being a sex worker should be made into a film. I’ll write it all in a book one day…

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On 4/9/2022 at 11:16 AM, Boink said:

I tipped the last provider I saw generously because I had a fantastic time.  No 'thank you' whatsoever.  

Some people are naturally unappreciative. 

Whatever nice things you do for them (tip et cetera) they take for granted. 

Fortunately, not all providers behave this way.  

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