This guy would be perfect for me….I enjoy the massage, the nudity, the mutual touch and a little play but it is not necessary for me to climax…at least not then. It definitely sounds like he has his own mental boundaries and has decided what his limits are. Maybe you posted this but I didn’t see….have you actually asked him, in the moment, nicely, if you can join him in climaxing or something like that? It’s interesting to me that he is willing to rim ….. many straight guys I think can rationalize receiving oral as “not gay” but rimming a guy? Hmmm…..