Sex at 50, how is or was your sex life at 50 y/o

[Luv2play]

You're not alone but we're talking about 1 year of our lives, hopefully we'll be vaccinated by summer or 2022.

 

Compared to what other generations have suffered 15 months of social distancing in the era of internet, zoom, Netflix, delivery, etc. is not bad at all.

 

yes, tops do most of the job!

I beg to differ. I like to think I do my bit to give the top as much pleasure as he gives to me. It’s work too but someone has to do the dirty work to get things done properly. Lol.

[+ Charlie]

Could you please expand on this?

I've been thinking of getting a dog myself but I'm challenged with many doubts.

How does it change/structure your life?

What are the ups and downs?

Dogs need structure more than people do, in order to be trained and happy. They need to know what they are going to be fed, and when. They need to know how often they will be given an opportunity to empty their bowels and bladders, and where and when. They need regular exercise and playtime. In other words, you start to structure your life around their needs, or both of you will be dissatisfied.

[Luv2play]

Dogs need structure more than people do, in order to be trained and happy. They need to know what they are going to be fed, and when. They need to know how often they will be given an opportunity to empty their bowels and bladders, and where and when. They need regular exercise and playtime. In other words, you start to structure your life around their needs, or both of you will be dissatisfied.

That pretty well sums it up.

[Luv2play]

And if I had to sum it up in one word, it would be “commitment “.

 

Everything’s else like love, companionship, obedience, fidelity and enjoyment stems either from the commitment you give to caring for a dog or lack thereof.

[marylander1940]

Responding to this thread:

I find my sex life right now in my 50s to be precarious because of this God-damned f*cking Wuhan virus.

But if I account for the last year before this pandemic started, I would say that it was not that bad at all.

Obviously, it pales against my drive and sexual industriousness from when I was in my 20s.

I think that being a bottom it's mostly my partner doing most of the job so that allows me to keep the joy despite my age.

 

Agreed

 

I beg to differ. I like to think I do my bit to give the top as much pleasure as he gives to me. It’s work too but someone has to do the dirty work to get things done properly. Lol.

 

And don’t you forget about getting ready to bottom.. the top just needs to remember to take a pill

[lonely_john]

And don’t you forget about getting ready to bottom.. the top just needs to remember to take a pill

Ugh, the good side of not hiring during this pandemic is not having to do all that "pre-work". It's worthy though! ?

[+ Reisr30]

I crossed into the mid century mark recently. Sex life none existent due to covid quarantine but would say I’m still pretty excitable/horny (did I really just admit this in public)...

[lonely_john]

(did I really just admit this in public)...

Yes, slut.

[Benizel]

What lubricants do you guys use? I am looking for something decent that wouldn not give my partner skin irritation. Our intimate life had been not as active and adventurous for some time, so we decided to get some sex toys to spice it up. We didn't realize that we needed a good lubricant for a more pleasant experience until we started doing it while watching سكس movies. I'd highly recommend anyone who buys something like this not to try the toys without lubricant as it can cause discomfort and irritation.

Edited December 6, 2021 by Benizel

[Rudynate]

On 1/14/2021 at 6:25 AM, JamesMorris said:

I feel I am slowing down with the intensity or getting I would say bored.

Hired many guys but lately I get aroused but not able to finish.

Kind of embarrassing but true

As always thanks for your input

I'm almost 70.  I still have a strong libido, but need pharmaceutical assistance to get and maintain a good boner.  My husband and I are fairly kinky, so that helps to maintain interest.  Interestingly, the right man gets me so stimulated that I can get and maintain a good erection - he has to be the stuff of fantasies. I have mentioned a couple times that I have a new FB.  He is 6'4, slender, handsome AF, horse-hung and used to be an escort.  No erectile problems with him.

[+ purplekow]

One thing I can assure you is that sex in your 50s can be great but it is likely to be different than sex in your sixties.  In my fifties I was still able to orgasm 3 times in a 2 hour session and usually 5 times in an overnight providing the provider was willing to keep going.   While I now am able to enjoy a full two hour session, it is usually a one shot deal for me.  Knowing that ahead of time, I can take my time and fully enjoy the non-orgasmic aspects of sex rather than rushing to get orgasm number 2 and number three done before my guest is ready to leave.  I have grown to appreciate watching and controlling my partner orgasm for a second or even a third time during our session.  I encourage him to come rather than having him holding out to please me and while watching my partner orgasm is not as physically satisfying as having an orgasm myself, it is usually emotionally more satisfying. It plays into my sense of power and control.  Knowing that I am able to get my sexual partner aroused a second time, feeling his erection grow and then watching as his muscles tense and then watching him convulse in pleasure a second or third time has made my one orgasm as memorable as most sessions when I came two or three times. And in the end, once my partner has come two or three times, I have the ultimate pleasure of having a younger man lying tired and sexually spent while I come to completion over his sweaty prone body.

With overnights, which I tend to have less often these days, the nighttime session is usually a prolonged session with multiple orgasms for him and a final orgasm for me.  The morning session is all about getting me off a second time, which was once an easy task, but which now requires my partner to work diligently to get the job done.

Fair warning here, you need to find a partner that is willing to make the commitment to have multiple orgasms and who is able to change the focus from getting you off to one in which he allows himself to be the focus of the quest for orgasm and who still has energy enough to insure your orgasm at the end.   Having a regular partner who knows this is the goal makes it easier.  Finding such a regular does take effort as many escorts are not so interested in allowing you to enjoy their orgasm as they are in getting the client off.  

As a result, I usually hire mid week during the early afternoon and I am able to send my partner off to the rest of their day, while I am able to lie in the warm sweaty sheets inhaling the thick musky scents of the remnants of my sexual encounter.  

[jbsjbs99]

18 hours ago, purplekow said:

One thing I can assure you is that sex in your 50s can be great but it is likely to be different than sex in your sixties. ...

I like this advice a lot. Thanks @purplekow.

[+ mature_guy]

Sex is certainly different in my 50's, but I'm still as horny as I was in my 20's.  I've also noticed that it's changed somewhat as I've now advanced into my late 50's.  I have a partner, a couple of fuck buddies, hire on a regular basis, and still try my luck on Grindr from time to time, so the interest is definitely still there.  Sex is different in that like the previous poster I'm only good for one shot per session so I've developed strategies for prolonging the experience and have found that I'm paying more attention to my partners and their enjoyment.  I've also broadened the pool, whereas I used to be only interested in younger, fit men (the Belami look as an earlier poster referenced), I've had great experiences with older, chubbier, and alternative (trans, CD) individuals.  Perhaps I'm mellowing a bit, or maybe just becoming less of an asshole as I age...  but the sex is still good.

Edited December 6, 2021 by mature_guy

[Rudynate]

On 12/3/2021 at 6:47 AM, Rudynate said:

I'm almost 70.  I still have a strong libido, but need pharmaceutical assistance to get and maintain a good boner.  My husband and I are fairly kinky, so that helps to maintain interest.  Interestingly, the right man gets me so stimulated that I can get and maintain a good erection - he has to be the stuff of fantasies. I have mentioned a couple times that I have a new FB.  He is 6'4, slender, handsome AF, horse-hung and used to be an escort.  No erectile problems with him.

My new FB and I trained together yesterday.  I drove him home and we made out in the car for a few minutes before he got out.  I felt like a teenager.

[Phil_musc]

Any selfies to share, Rudy?

 

[dbar123]

I’m well over 50. Still as horny as a 20 yr old. Sex is still good yet evolving as my tastes and body changes. It’s all good 

[pubic_assistance]

My doctor tells me my testosterone levels are unusually high for my age...so I've seen no changes thus far.

Lack of exercise, alcohol and drug use can and will negatively impact those levels.

Take care of your body and your body takes care of you.

 

[+ Tygerscent]

On 1/14/2021 at 8:25 AM, JamesMorris said:

I feel I am slowing down with the intensity or getting I would say bored.

Hired many guys but lately I get aroused but not able to finish.

Kind of embarrassing but true

As always thanks for your 

On 1/14/2021 at 11:56 AM, cany10011 said:

 

 

Though I do agree to an extent about getting bored... sometimes during quarantine I have to watch videos now and i'm searching weird things like older younger or uncle son, or chubby guys... that really gets me off. In the past none of that would do it for me. My belami subscription is stagnant now... though in real life, those are the types i like to hire. So, yeah. I am getting bored to an extent. But IRL hiring, i do go for the nice and fit, good looking guys.

Saturation effect~ 

[+ Tygerscent]

On 1/14/2021 at 5:52 PM, nycman said:

My sex life at 50 is better than it was at 30....and a million times better than it was at 20.

 

Once you’ve been to a thousand huge dinner parties and tried every dish at the buffet....you find a nice small perfect dinner at home is best.

I’m with you here… better then in my 20’s, (had no idea what I was doing or why),  and 30’s, (relationship sex),… Better than in my 40’s, (porn star sex), as well~
 My sessions now are longer and I’m pounding out between three to five or more in a 6hr period~ My marathon moment was with this guy in Minneapolis: 14 loads in a 16hr period in 2019~ I fucked so much I bruised my dick~ To make sure everything was still working properly, I made him suckle on my nipples and jerk a 15th load out of me~ All was fine~ I took the next day off~
True story~ 

[+ Tygerscent]

2 hours ago, Tygerscent said:

I’m with you here… better then in my 20’s, (had no idea what I was doing or why),  and 30’s, (relationship sex),… Better than in my 40’s, (porn star sex), as well~
 My sessions now are longer and I’m pounding out between three to five or more in a 6hr period~ My marathon moment was with this guy in Minneapolis: 14 loads in a 16hr period in 2019~ I fucked so much I bruised my dick~ To make sure everything was still working properly, I made him suckle on my nipples and jerk a 15th load out of me~ All was fine~ I took the next day off~
True story~ 

I think part of it is that my Body, brain and heart are all aligned and fully invested into my experiences~ It’s like I’m better integrated and my lust/love personal investment can move between emotional, physical, sexual, sensual, spiritual, psychological planes with fluid ease according to the flow of things~ So, some or many parts of me and the experience are completely fulfilling/fulfilled, regardless of the direction and in a mutual melting together with my partner(s)~ When I can explain this better I will edit my post~ 

Edited December 11, 2021 by Tygerscent

[Alex93108]

On 1/14/2021 at 6:52 PM, nycman said:

My sex life at 50 is better than it was at 30....and a million times better than it was at 20.

 

Once you’ve been to a thousand huge dinner parties and tried every dish at the buffet....you find a nice small perfect dinner at home is best.

well said 

[+ sniper]

Worse mostly for physical reasons.  Back and nerve impingement hasn't rendered me impotent, but it has definitely curtailed my capacity significantly. And that has led to a reticence to engage in the first place.