I've been in touch with a young guy that I met a few times during my trips to Latin America. In total over the span of 8 years. He's good, we've always had good times getting together. He's not an escort but needless to say that when we meet I cover all expenses, which are nothing scandalous because on one side prices are very cheap there and he's not demanding at all, doesn't ask for anything and when we plan something he always helps me find the best deals at the best places, and we have a lot of fun.
I know how many times we've talked in this forum about not taking a young boyfriend to live with him but I think there is a difference between this young man and the average North American youngster. He's very considerate, not self-centered at all, not demanding, great in bed of course, he has a job (low-paying but he has a job), and speaks very decent English, which I think it would help him a lot if I'm successful bringing him home.
We haven't specifically discussed this idea I have in my mind but we have talked about life in a developed country vs in Latin America and he seems excited with the idea of "going one day" but we've never talked about initiating a formal process to help him stay. Maybe one time we had a conversation in form of jokes where I told him that IF we lived together he would have to understand that I might see other guys occasionally and he said that would be ok. Maybe because he's straight-ish. I would say more Bisexual because I know he has fun with girlfriends and boyfriends where he lives.
I've been in talks with an immigration agent and it seems that marriage is one of the options to bring him home and give him a quick kickstart. In any case, I want to do this not because I'm in love with him (I'm not) but because of the great person he has demonstrated to be, and the potential I've seen in him to be a good person who would lead a productive life, different from that one would see by helping the typical young immature and unappreciative guy who would dive into drugs and other vices. I also don't discard being in a relationship with him if things evolve in that direction but I'm realistic and I know he might find someone else, but that doesn't deter me from helping him because I know that he's good material, not only as a potential partner but, in the worst case, as a lifetime friend.
So ... What do you think of all this? I know that there are members of this forum who have had similar experiences and I value their advice on the best way of doing things in this context. I appreciate constructive criticism but please refrain from negativity and toxicity in your comments.