Do you share with others that you hire?

[BaronArtz]

Never - except on this board. Having said that, I have had in-person meetings with a few fellow clients from this board. Great guys. It was fun comparing notes with them.

 

I would advise against discussing it in your workplace. This hobby technically speaking is illegal in the USA. You could get in trouble.

Edited August 27, 2020 by BaronArtz

[+ sync]

Only with bar mates. I was never able to understand the responses "I'd never pay for it." I could understand it if these individuals were exceptionally good-looking and sought after, but that's not the case, and they would tell tales of endless time-wasted pursuits netting rejections and disappointments. I have almost always paid for "it" and I have no regrets for the options of selection, convenient times, and no strings. Apparently, I'm among the minority of clients in that, when I find someone who satisfies, I stick with him exclusively until he is no longer available to me.

[marylander1940]

Only with bar mates. I was never able to understand the responses "I'd never pay for it." I could understand it if these individuals were exceptionally good-looking and sought after, but that's not the case, and they would tell tales of endless time-wasted pursuits netting rejections and disappointments. I have almost always paid for "it" and I have no regrets for the options of selection, convenient times, and no strings. Apparently, I'm among the minority of clients in that, when I find someone who satisfies, I stick with him exclusively until he is no longer available to me.

 

I've heard that expression too and I've read plenty of profiles who ostentatiously claim it.

 

Have you ever been out of Smallville, KS ?

the brothels in Nevada aside, in many countries & cultures around the world, prostitution is legal & there is no stigma attached to hiring & no reason for secrecy, embarrassment, shame, etc., etc on the part of the one doing the hiring.......discussion among friends, etc. commonly happens openly & frankly....

however fair warning in case you ever do some foreign travel.....some countries / some cultures do mete out punishment for gay sexual activity - whether for free or for hire - some places the punishment can still be ummmmmm, severe / brutal....life-changing, errrr ending.

 

I think he lives in Palm Springs and over there is more customary for older gay men to have a houseboy or a kept man permanently living with them.

 

yes, we must be aware of the laws (and use google) if we want to hire in a different country. There are also states and cities where I wouldn't take chances either.

[+ poolboy48220]

I had a friend who worked as a cam show performer, he later escorted. He & I were looking over the ads in the local gay bar rag and he laughed about one advertising "Hot cat with a big dick" - I didn't mention that I'd hired that guy a week or two earlier :-)

 

That friend and I were at the stripper bar in Canada once, where one of the dancers picked me up and we played in the back seat of his car for a bit. I was totally surprised, apparently so was my friend...he struggled with how to ask and finally blurted out "Did you pay the guy?"

[+ Charlie]

(one of them said once "I've paid for sex, and I've been paid for it"), .

Thanks for that line! I think I will use it if anyone ever asks me directly (because it's true).

[liubit]

I talk about hiring only with you guys ?, escorts, and my partner (15 years together), who is very understanding ? and also hires occasionally, a lot less than I do, actually ??‍♂️

 

Although I am openly gay to family, friends, and co-workers, this hobby does carry a stigma and it is difficult to share.

[+ JEC]

I only share here, I've made a few friends here and we have a regular chat going about our trevails which is liberating and refreshing. But, this hobby has legal considerations, and will not be viewed objectively by many so I prefer to keep the circle very tight.

[+ Axiom2001]

Not sure if this has been discussed before.

I usually hire masseur and escorts once in a while. But I don't share this with my friends.

This forum is the only place that I talk about this.

I was wondering what others do? Do you casually share with your friends that you hire?

Or do you keep it to yourself? How do others react when you mention it?

I'm single and out to my friends and coworkers if that matters for this topic.

 

I have only shared my experiences with escorts with my now deceased very good friend prior to 2019. He was always interested in my playtime activities although he never pursued this on his own.

 

When I took him to Rio de Janeiro a while back for Carnaval, I introduced him to the great sauna scene that existed. There were at least four saunas at the time that had guys who would play. But while back in the states-- I would occasionally tell him about some of the escorts who visited me and vice versa. Other than that--I have kept my fun time away from others excepting another friend of mine who, too, had previously engaged the services of escorts but stopped after he had prostate surgery. For three years now--he has not asked me about my sessions which have been all right with me.

 

I read all of your initial thread and have two questions of you. Do you think it's necessary and important for your friends and coworkers to know about your engaging the services of escorts? Do they discuss their sexual liaisons and related activities with you (singles/marrieds)?

Edited August 27, 2020 by Axiom2001

[OrBlanc]

First time posting here in the forums (but I've lurked for ages), this seems like an appropriate place to start.

 

I don't share with anyone on my social circle with the exception of a former partner who, while we were on a trip together, expressed a desire to have a threeway and with limited time to find a candidate, I suggested we hired someone; in the end he got cold feet and I cancelled on the guy. So he doesn't actually know but if I showed up somewhere with one of my usual types, I'm sure my ex would assume it was an escort.

[+ 7829V]

First time posting here in the forums (but I've lurked for ages), this seems like an appropriate place to start.

 

I don't share with anyone on my social circle with the exception of a former partner who, while we were on a trip together, expressed a desire to have a threeway and with limited time to find a candidate, I suggested we hired someone; in the end he got cold feet and I cancelled on the guy. So he doesn't actually know but if I showed up somewhere with one of my usual types, I'm sure my ex would assume it was an escort.

Glad you decided to post and share your story. Hopefully you’ll share more in the future

[OrBlanc]

Glad you decided to post and share your story. Hopefully you’ll share more in the future

Yeah for sure I will! I'm located outside of the US (Latin America) so my specific experiences are gonna be a bit outside the mark for most of yall but I'm happy to share whenever I think you guys could be interested!

[alexslaveboy]

Same as @harey

I became very friendly with 3 NYC based muscle escorts, to the point where I would have sleepovers with 2 of them....of course no real session fun if not paid for....except maybe a little bit of touching and feeling their muscles. Anyway I digress. They liked to discuss other escorts I hired or was considering meeting with.....

[+ oldNbusted]

Select good friends, one of whom escorted years ago...

[Danny-Darko]

I almost never share that I hire or pay strippers unless I have a rare friend or acquaintance that does as well. I've found the Gay "Community" to be far too judgmental and hypocritical when it comes to this subject. It does carry a stigma. Plus my father taught me "a gentleman shouldn't kiss and tells. private matters should stay private". So I tend to be discreet.

[MikeBiDude]

I've found the Gay "Community" to be far too judgmental and hypocritical when it comes to this subject. It does carry a stigma.

I’ve encountered this frequently ?

[down_to_business]

Absolutely not.

 

While I may have come to terms with my own participation in this hobby, there is no way I would expect others to -- especially given the general pops false equivalating of escorting and sex trafficking. (FOSTA-SESTA etc.)

[cmennow]

Thought about it, but have never come to a point where it has come up with some of my close besties. I did meet a friend who lives in another state who reached out to me on RM to inquire about services of someone I rated. He offered that I could call him after my first response because he said I was being politically correct LOL. We ended up talking on the phone and we spilled all our juicy details in a long therapy session. We had nothing to lose because we didn't know each other. That was 3 years ago and we are still going strong....talk and text daily (and not just about escorts). I feel as if I know him just as well or better than some of the besties. I will say it's nice to have someone to share the ups and downs of the escort escapades with and I am so glad we met. We have yet to meet in person and sometimes forget that, but I know that we value the "friendship".

[SirBillybob]

On a very few occasions over several decades I suspect that a provider has spilled the beans outside of the dyadic bubble about selling me sex. Never ever disclosing my commercial habit to others in my social radius (mostly thirsty yet perpetually parched), outside of likeminded punters who are separate from my peeps, gives me the advantage of plausible deniability, however delusional my thinking about this. lol

[Cliff]

No, I haven’t shared it. The term Pandora’s box comes to mind.

[dbar123]

I keep a spreadsheet with a forced ranking of all the guys I've hired, just for my own amusement. I've never shared it with anyone.

[MscleLovr]

@SirBIllybob you made me laugh aloud when I read this

others in my social radius (mostly thirsty yet perpetually parched)

[Daverwr]

As the years have progressed I’ve become quite open with my hiring. I don’t discuss what I do and don’t do with the providers. But, I have zero shame in doing it and am not the least bit embarrassed by it. I usually make a joke about it. I don’t discuss it with family but we don’t discuss sex at all.

[Rudynate]

mostly not. but I have an old friend who I talk about it with. He doesn't have a lot of disposable income so he hires low-cost inexperienced young guys. I told him I only hire pros and he said "Im jealous." I was thinking I could hire him a pro as a present.

[Danny-Darko]

mostly not. but I have an old friend who I talk about it with. He doesn't have a lot of disposable income so he hires low-cost inexperienced young guys. I told him I only hire pros and he said "Im jealous." I was thinking I could hire him a pro as a present.

 

Wanna be friends? ☺ LOL Where does you friend live because I no longer see those "low-cost younger guys" since the trade went on line?!

 

I don't underestimate them because the very best BJ's and some very good "quickie" sex I've received from some of those "low-cost inexperienced young guys"!! The two BEST BJ's I've gotten was from an adorable very willing to please young blond guy doing the Polk in SF a few decades ago. He charged $5 in the bookstore peep-shows! And the other was a brown hair with blue eyes handsome tall young skater with skateboard and all, also decades ago at The Fruit Loop in Balboa Park, SD. He charged $30 and got $40 because rent guys like ATM's don't give change! ? Worth every penny too! They were clean, young, masculine and willing to please and preformed better than any $300 Escort I've ever hired as far as oral services is concerned. Like everything in life, more expensive doesn't necessarily mean better. ?

[gilbert]

I was visiting a friend who lived around 5 hours from me. As we were talking she just blurted out "Are you gay?" Knowing that she was pretty open minded, I said "Yes". As I tried to explain my situation to her I came right out and told her I hired escorts, and we talked about it. Recently, one of my best friends from high school came out and even has a partner. I came out to him and plan to soon tell him my history, including my experiences with escorts. I guess I wouldn't shout it from the mountain tops, but with people I'm close to I don't think I'd have any problem discussing my escorts with them. I have nothing to be ashamed of and I think escorts provide a valuable service for people like me. I'm so glad we have these guys. They've certainly made my life much more interesting.......and FUN!