Jamie21

Ugh I’ve been found out. I do like my dishwasher, he loves dirty stuff. It’s much better than my fridge, which is cold to me and the freezer is even worse…totally frigid. The cooker is hot 🔥, he loves a roasting. I tried to get things going with the microwave but after a minute he was done so that was rather unsatisfying. I like the washer/dryer because it’s versatile, and of course the vacuum cleaner can suck for England.

The answer to that question isn’t solely related to my trying to maximise revenue. If I wanted to maximise revenue in that way I’d say I prefer the every 10 days client but in reality I don’t want a client to visit every 10 days (because things would become too ‘routine’) so my answer is I’d prefer the less regular client who tips. I think the price elasticity of demand for sensual / erotic massage services is greater than 1: people can choose alternatives to having a massage.

This topic is a never ending debate! It seems to bring out really strong opinions in some, and plenty of prejudice and misunderstanding about the position of providers too. I don’t understand why it’s so emotive. Tip if you want to, or don’t tip if you don’t want to. What others do is up to them, you do you. I’m grateful if a client tips, but I don’t expect it. If a regular client is generous with tips then I will go out of my way to accommodate him if he asks about my availability whereas I’m not as flexible for a non tipper, obviously.

They’re compensating for a lack of something (usually they lacked attention as a child, and they feel inadequate as a man in some way) so they compensate their fragile ego by seeking power and wealth and outward appearances of success - like driving an expensive car, having self aggrandising job titles, wanting to own Greenland, or having lots of big phallic missiles parade past you in Red Square…that kind of thing. Best to laugh at them. Don’t argue just laugh. They hate that.

The advice on here to avoid drugs (including Viagra etc) is sound I think. You do have to be attracted to your sexual partner to get hard, regardless of Viagra. All that does is help make you harder for longer. The drugs will just mask the underlying issue and aren’t good for your health. I think the best sex is when you’re completely and totally present in the moment and you can’t be that if you’re high on something, including drink. My experience is that if you’re anxious about getting hard then you’ll find it difficult to get hard and therefore you get more anxious…which is kind of a circular problem. The way to break it is through breathing and practice in being in the moment so that when you’re with the guy you’re focused on the activity and him rather than thinking ‘I’m not getting hard’. You do that by removing any expectations from the session except that it will be intimate - kiss, cuddle etc… no plans to fuck, no need to cum etc. and simply slowing everything down and thinking about how you’re breathing. That’s best done with an understanding provider. You’ll get into the session and should find, perhaps to your surprise, that you’re hard. Once you break that anxiety circle then it’s easier next time and you find that you’re over the anxiety.

I bareback, and I’m on prep. I wouldn’t bareback if I wasn’t on prep (and I’m aware of the risks and that nothing is guaranteed). I also get tested very frequently. All of that is my choice to protect myself. I expect clients to make their own choices and to take responsibility for their health. I don’t ask their status because it’s irrelevant to my decisions. Sometimes clients ask my status and I’m fine to tell them but I add that they shouldn’t make any decisions based on what I tell them. I’m often surprised by the amount of ignorance about such things there is out there, especially given that guys who hire ought to be well informed about the risks and protections they need to take.

Please don’t spread misinformation like that! It’s bad for business.

Something similar happened to me one time too. Worse thing was that it was a duo so I’d arranged for another escort for the client. We both turned up at the address (both after travelling an hour each) and suddenly the client goes quiet on text. I called him: no answer. So we hung around for a few minutes just in case and then left and had lunch together (the other guy was a good friend, and understanding fortunately!). That’s the thing. I had a gut feeling about the ‘client’ I mentioned above. The more experienced you are doing this work the better your gut instincts are. I was swayed by the money and the prospect of working with my friend (the client wanted to watch us for part of the session) but my instincts told me he’d likely be a flake.

I only take bookings by letter. Handwritten letter (in black ink). I dictate my reply to my secretary whilst I bathe, and my butler arranges for it to be delivered to prospective clients. I can’t be doing with these telephone calls, emails and texts.

I had 2 clients on Valentine’s Day. Neither of them wanted flowers or a card…

No, I don’t engage in it. Just keep it to responding to clients requests. I never initiate the conversation, and I don’t respond (except to just politely acknowledge it) to chat because it starts to blur the line. Sometimes clients try to start sex chat, or send pics etc. I never respond to that. Only one client has become a friend who I do socialise with but I guess I first met him in a social setting (actually a sex party 😂) so it’s kind of different. He’s no longer a client, now a friend. But otherwise I definitely avoid interactions that are outside of the professional relationship.

I prefer a text or WhatsApp. I’m often busy, or in public/with others so it’s not convenient or appropriate to be discussing booking details with clients on the phone. I have one regular client who always calls to book, and his name comes up so I know it’s him and I answer. That’s fine, because all we discuss is availability and booking. He’s an older guy (I’m guessing 70’s) so I understand why he wouldn’t text. All my other clients book by text or email. If there’s complicated questions then I sometimes offer a phone call. With people’s busy schedules it’s so much more efficient to engage via text.

Doesn’t make any difference to me. I have a few clients who wear them, I assume for aesthetic reasons or medical reasons. Either way it’s fine by me. If you’re using the cock ring as a signal to your masseur then I suggest you just need to be less subtle about it. If you want a happy ending style massage then book a masseur who clearly does that kind of massage and tell him what you want (if it’s possible to be explicit).

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It’s just simpler to top. I’m vers (and mainly do massage rather than escort sessions …but of course sex does happen sometimes in massage). It’s simpler to top: if clients want me to bottom then I need to know beforehand. It’s more preparation needed. I think this is one reason why guys say ‘mainly top’. It’s just so much simpler.

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Reality check: you hired a guy you really like for an overnight. 12 hours. The evening started well, a drink in the bar, some flirting, getting to know each other. He’s engaging, intriguing, sexy. He looks only at you as you talk, he touches your hand as it rests on your thigh, he squeezes it while he casually orders you another drink. Over dinner he listens to your stories, smiling, nodding, asking questions. All the while dropping you teasers about what will happen later, in the bedroom both on and off the bed…especially off the bed. You’re hard under the table, driven there by the anticipation he’s built up. As you eat dessert your excitement causes you to get some ice cream on your fingers. He reaches over, takes your creamy hand slowly lifts it to his face, and licks your fingers clean… all the while maintaining eye contact with you. The lift takes for ever to reach your floor, stopping at every floor to let people out. He’s holding your hand, standing so close to you that you’re sure he can feel your heart beating. Now there’s just the two of you plus a hotel employee, who must be going to your floor, because the only remaining floor button lit up is yours. The lift ascends and as it does he leans in and kisses you, cradling your head with his hand, his body pressing you against the lift wall. The hotel employee turns to face the doors, and she exits quickly as they open on your floor. You try to move towards the door but he’s pinned you to the wall, kissing you passionately, his hard cock pressed against yours. Finally he steps back and taking your hand he leads you out of the lift and then he pauses, realising he doesn’t know your room number. You look at each other and grin, but before you can do anything he pulls you in for another kiss, and as he does so he reaches around to your back pocket and pulls out your room card, reads the number and silently leads you to the room. It’s early hours of the morning. You awake at the glint of light peeking through the gap in the curtains. He’s asleep next to you, facing away from you. Your arm is around his body, your chest against his back, you feel his warmth and slow deep breathing. You recall the two, three, was it four rounds of passionate sex. The shower session, the bedroom floor, the chair. Now he sleeps. A thought pops into your head: I paid $2400 for this, that’s $200 an hour…am I being ripped off for the hours he’s asleep?

I do. ‘We shall go on and fight it out, here or elsewhere, and if this long island story of ours is to end at last, let it end when each of us lies choking in his own blood upon the ground’.

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That’s it 🎯Get two ‘it’s all about me’ guys together and I’d say it’s going to be a frustrating experience. Most providers are focused on the client, which is helpful because that’s generally why clients hire.

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Their focus is on you. I’m quite happy not to cum (tbh it’s much easier if the client isn’t bothered about me cuming). If it’s clear to me that he really wants me to cum then I will (or I’ll try) but if it’s up to me, then I won’t cum. The other guys I know who do this job have the same approach. I think you’re right to assume they won’t cum unless asked.

Only if you swallow it.

I get massage clients asking me to cum. It’s not unusual. Some want it on specific body parts or in their mouth. Always happy to oblige. If you want it, ask them.

😳😳😳😳 That’s extremely niche, verging on S&M scenes. I’m not sure how I feel about a nazi uniform, makes me very uncomfortable. I know this is role play but that’s something I’d decline. Similarly I’ve declined to wear stockings/suspenders because it really isn’t me! Clients tend to ask me to wear a jock, shorts, wrestling singlet (with open back 😉), and of course socks. Sometimes it’s also special underwear that the client has bought me.