Jamie21

Yes it’s not Wendy’s. What happens is clients would book the cuddle and hand job session but then expect to fuck bareback just because they got more horny in the moment. Then it gets awkward…mid session negotiations on extra services. I’m not going to up sell in a session nor do I want to negotiate extra services mid session. It kills the whole thing. Pay his rate and do whatever you’re comfortable with within the boundaries of his services.

I’ve found clients from here, but it’s not my primary source of client. All exposure is good exposure so I have as many platforms as it’s possible to manage but some of them are tangential to advertising for clients. Places like X, Bluesky and Instagram are good to get exposure but aren’t what I consider to be where I advertise. RentMasseur or RentMen are the best places to advertise and I have a paid advert on RentMasseur. Plus a couple of other advertising sites that are specific to my market (UK). I also have presence on sites like Onlyfans and Justforfans but those are not specifically for advertising (and in the case of Onlyfans it’s definitely not advisable to use it to communicate with potential clients) but they serve as a way of having presence in the industry so that clients can feel confident to hire you. I ask clients where they found me and it’s a surprisingly wide variety of sources. A lot come from a simple google search which hits on my website. I’d advise you to have a website because it adds professionalism to your offering and is a place to put info for clients to read (otherwise you’re endlessly repeating your proposition in texts). Finally the best way to get clients is to keep them. Be good at the job, be reliable and be fun. It’s so much easier to keep a client than find a new one. Most of my clients are long term regulars. A lot come back. If they come back you’re doing something right.

There’s WhatsApp and Telegram groups that I’m in which are provider only (and venting does happen in there!!!) plus I’m friends with other sex workers and we talk about common challenges. Sometimes though one wants to speak to a wider audience, especially an audience that is interested in the work and that buys the services.

Guilt about having sex with a guy, paying for it, finding same sex attraction, possibly cheating on their partner. All sorts of things some people feel about using a sex worker.

True. Mine sometimes aren’t up to that. The guilt is so much they just want to get out of here. So sad.

I think @JB_Studio38 vents his frustration here sometimes. I try to see things from his perspective (after all I am doing similar work, so feel that I can empathise with a little more gravitas than some commentators who seem to know a lot about sex work without actually having done it…). There are a lot of frustrations with the work: the marginal legality (in some jurisdictions), the very flaky clients, the variability of income, the lack of structure, the dealing with the public (there are some very stupid people out there…it’s astonishing sometimes). But on the other hand there’s great benefits to doing the work; flexibility, meeting fantastic people, great experiences, the money, the feeling one gets when someone says to you that you just delivered one of their all time fantasies (only sex workers will be able to understand that). And you can manage and structure your business to mitigate for all the drawbacks I mentioned above. The biggest challenge though is that there’s so few people to talk to about the work because only those who do it can really understand how you feel. It can be very isolating. I think this is where he is coming from. And I’ll add you can make decent income from Onlyfans (I do) but it’s not without a lot of work. It’s not quite as simple as it looks.

Because they see it as the ‘goal’, and they cum once I penetrate them, then the ‘guilt / realisation’ kicks in and they want to go. I’m dealing with the world as it is rather than as it ought to be.

Ha ha yes, although most of the time it’s not like work is it!

I do massages, and I provide sex. It’s included in the massage. What am I? Masseur or Prostitute? Or the all encompassing Sex Worker? I don’t mind what you call me. The label isn’t important.

Very rarely visit the US unfortunately. But it’s available in London …😉

Do the bathroom first. It’s always the most satisfying to get done.

Come to London. I rim and you can sit on my face the whole session if you want to 😂. Though tbh I find clients like it extremely light and suggestive at first, even just blowing on his hole initially and then the softest of touches around the edge. I don’t just dive in and bury my face as deep as possible straight off. That needs building up to. There’s a few massage moves one can do such as starting with kisses on his neck and working your chin slowly down his back towards his hole (and balls) as he lays on his belly. I do it slowly to build the tension…will he lick my hole? Will he stop at my tail bone? First time I stop before the hole, massage back up and lay on him with my body so he can feel my cock on his balls. Then I slide down again, even more slowly, and as I reach his hole I hold his hand and gently rim him.

Yes, but some of his plans were destroyed so later architects have had to interpret and try to piece together what he wanted.

From my perspective as someone who is hired I do get some clients asking for a face pic and I’m happy to send one. Occasionally they say ‘thanks but no thanks’ which at first caused me some consternation but now I just don’t care. I’m glad they had the decency to reply. If my face isn’t to their liking it doesn’t cause me upset because I’m confident in my services through being successful. You can’t be everything to everyone. The worst thing is sending a pic into the void. I’d recommend clients to always reply to your ‘provider’ (or whatever terms we use, I prefer sex worker tbh) with a ‘thanks but not for me, best wishes’ or something like that. There’s a person the other end. Always remember that.

Outside it seems a bit of a muddle, probably because it’s had so many different architects. Inside it’s astonishing and the light and space is astounding. It deserves its place in the pantheon of cathedrals.

Hmmm your German genes are evident, I was being light hearted. But since you mentioned it, all those in the 13 colonies were subjects of British King George III …who was mostly German (but we aren’t fussy where we get our Monarchs from as long as they aren’t Catholic).

You were 250 years ago. That’s where it went wrong.

One could use ‘one’

I agree that with big parties it’s good to allow arrivals at various times and to allow people to leave early too otherwise what tends to happen is no one wants to cum until the end. If you have guys ‘dropping in’ there will be those who are happy to cum and go so to speak. It keeps things fresh and interesting. Also with larger parties you need a few play rooms because it allows a separate groups to get going. Guys can join the group they like. Important to have a rule of ‘no closed doors’: all play areas must be accessible to everyone. It’s simpler to have a rule of ‘only bareback’ sex or ‘only safe’. That way everyone knows where they stand. Finally the best parties I’ve been to have had a wristband system where the colour of your wristband denotes your role preference. Wear one on your ankle too because in a pile of bodies it’s sometimes not possible to see a guys wrist 😉

For many guys sex happens too quickly. Guys rush to penetration, and then it’s over…all too fast. This could happen easily with an escort. Massage slows all of this down. Sensual massage is like choreographed foreplay, the build up of tension (including ‘will he fuck me? or will he let me fuck him?’) is part of the journey and the journey counts just as important as the destination. Good masseurs can have you absolutely begging for it after an hour 😉

@Vegas_Millenniallives in a constant porn scene. He orders a pizza and the delivery guy gets blown. The plumber arrives to fix a blockage and leaves minus a load and when he visits church on Sunday the priest fucks him through the glory hole in the confession box. He’s amazing!

I understand why you say this but I think it reveals a misunderstanding about the work: I never discount for anyone, including regulars. It’s simple that way and they don’t get mixed messages. It’s an important rule that most experienced and successful providers will follow. It’s your work and your income, and as such you take it very seriously (be punctual, sober, client focused etc). That approach actually makes for a better experience for the client than someone who is monetising their sex life and charging different amounts depending on how much they like the client. Those guys tend to be flaky with arrangements and have lots of things they won’t do. Not a good experience. Just because money is exchanged doesn’t mean I’m not enjoying it. Again it comes to a professional approach vs someone just trying to earn from their sex life. It’s not easy doing sex work properly so you need to enjoy it to be able to do it sustainably. The money is for being available when the client wants (within reason), for your experience and expertise and for your focus on the client. It’s not ‘compensation’ for having to have sex with someone you’re not enjoying.

I guess it depends on how well your tailor measures your inside leg? When I increase my prices I update them on my website and inform regulars when they book. No one has complained. People expect things to go up: prices, cocks and things going up their hole. It’s normal.

It’s the low cost airline pricing strategy. Cheap Rubs! Your massage is $40!!! Great value!…… Ok now for the optional extras: You want a table? That’s $30 extra. Oil? Another $20. Masseur naked? $30, want to suck his cock? $20 (per inch). What destination was it you wanted? Was it ‘CHM, Cum in His Mouth’? Sorry we don’t go there… but we do go to the nearby QDH: Quick Disinterested Handjob’. That’s $280….

I’ve attended sex parties in a kind of semi professional way; either paid sometimes or I was there for the networking opportunity - but in either of those situations the host has invited me (and occasionally others if it’s a big party) to act as a facilitator, catalyst and overseer. The role is to get things going if people are reticent or sometimes to put on a show as people are arriving so that the vibe is defined early. I’m also given a list of the attendees and warned about potential trouble makers (those who push themselves on others and who don’t read body language), and asked to make sure people are following the rules (no drugs, no going into off limits areas etc). The final part is to make sure everyone feels included so it will be finding people on the margins and having sex with them or encouraging them to join in. I’m vers so it can also help to balance out any role disparity if the guys/girls doing this are versatile (I’m also bi and have done the role at mixed sex parties where it’s an even more important necessity). In any well run party you need at least one person, ideally more, doing this kind of thing. The attendees don’t need to know that’s what you’re there for but they’ll definitely notice the difference in the overall vibe if this role is present.