Jamie21

I absolutely love rimming (clean holes only). I notice though that after rimming some clients they’re not keen to kiss. They like being rimmed but kissing after my tongue has been in their hole is a step too far for them. Everyone has their limits and it’s important to understand and respect them.

I use that and get it free at my sexual health clinic. I use it if I’ve been at a sex party or club and had multiple partners there.

I think around 500 would be statistically significant. Report back when you have reached that number. I look forward to hearing the results. Next Thursday.

Those 4 letter Anglo Saxon words are so descriptive and pithy aren’t they!!

One guys pleasure points won’t be the same as another. Cocks can come in all shapes and sizes - cut, uncut, tight foreskins, big, small, micro….The same thing that gets you off doesn’t work on everyone. It’s very nuanced. Ok some provider tricks here 😉: if you’re working his cock and it doesn’t seem to be getting him close - what you do is stop, whisper in his ear ‘I love to see guys wank themselves’ < an aside….apologies to non Brits for using ‘wank’…do I need to translate? > and then watch him wank himself. Watch both hands (guys will have points of their body they touch that get them there). What he will show you, without realising it, is his technique to get himself off. You can then take over and copy him or even let him carry on whilst helping. Works every time 🙂. Same applies to yourself, some clients love to watch me get myself off especially if the load is on their face. Of course I know the best way to do it so I let them get me close (if they’re able to) and then finish the job myself while they expectantly wait for the cum on their face. I usually do that before finishing the client off. I was interested that @Simon Suraciprefers to cum after the client. Of course I prefer most not to cum atall because it’s the client’s session but if the client wants it then I do cum and it really doesn’t matter to me if that is before the client. I’ve a few that like the ‘cum on my face thing’ and then kiss. If I tried that after they’ve cum they’d no way want to kiss 😂. If you prefer to finish the guy yourself and you’re not sure the technique on his cock is right watch his breathing and his toes. Breathing gives lots of clues as it gets faster and deeper as he gets close, and as his climax builds his toes will stretch out. When you see them starting to stretch out he’s close…keep going. Free advice from someone who has given thousands of hand jobs 😂

Exactly that. It’s like they think of it as a game and it’s all about who can get one over the other. It’s very transactional. That’s the antithesis of a sensual massage which is all about building intimacy and trust.

I’d never be critical of how a provider chooses to price his service. I have a very strict no discount policy even if clients ask, it’s a ‘no’ and if clients say ‘that’s more than I was expecting or more than I’m used to paying’ I just say ‘good luck’. But I’m fortunate to be in a position to turn down business. Many guys aren’t, or will accept something over nothing because they need to earn. So if those guys choose that policy that’s good for them. It might give some clients the impression that all guys are open to negotiating but that’s not a problem. I don’t mind clients asking just as long as they don’t mind getting a negative response. I think asking for a discount does however make me think of the client differently: those who have booked at full price after having asked for a discount are often the clients who are most difficult.

Hmmm now there’s a question. It might slip in a bit further and tbh sometimes the bottom pushes back so yeah I might end up balls deep.

Average size dick in sex work (for tops or vers top) is 8 inches 😂. I’m average. If you don’t like 8 inches in you I’m fine to just use the first 5 (but there’s no discount sorry).

I’ve been in the same place for 7 years and have seen an increase in business every year (even during Covid). I wouldn't say that I’m especially mainstream in look (I’m over 45 for example). I’ve regulars who come every few months. Some are regular for a while and then disappear, some are once a year kind of regular. I have 3 blocked numbers. This all works fine for me most of the time. I get very few time wasters or no shows.

Humpty Dumpty tells Alice, "When I use a word... it means just what I choose it to mean—neither more nor less". That’s what tantric massage means. So I suggest you ask the masseur to explain what’s included, in simple words. If there’s a lot of references to Lingam, energy, chakras and sacred stuff you might want to ask him to translate it to more plain language. It will include breathing work, massage on and around your genitals and other intimate areas and will most likely be done naked. It doesn’t necessarily include a happy ending…

Ah yes ok, it’s high for therapeutic although I’d say if he’s advertising on Masseurfinder he won’t make any reference to anything sensual anyway. If you pay under £100 for an hour then don’t expect or request anything other than a therapeutic massage.

My advice is find a guy you like, and then ask him to arrange the other provider. It’s a big risk putting two together yourself because then you risk that there’s no chemistry between the two guys you hired and that’s kind of missing the whole point of the exercise. If you find a guy who fits your preference and then you tell him you’d like another guy with whatever attributes/skills/role that you want you can ask him to find a match that he’s also comfortable with. That way you maximise chances the two guys you hire will be aligned and can focus on you. You’ll enjoy their chemistry. I’ve got a selection of guys who I know I work well with and if a client asks me for a group session then I can arrange it all for him. I’ll never accept a booking where the client has chosen the other guy. His style or values might not align with mine and then the whole session will be awkward.

That’s about right for an hour, I wouldn’t say it’s wildly expensive. I charge £140 for an hour. London is an expensive city to live in. If you go for a cheaper masseur then you’re more likely to get someone who isn’t very professional about it.

The pictures are a menu offering, like in a cheap restaurant. You point to the picture of the masseur mounting the table or whatever one takes your fancy and say ‘I’ll have that please’. Note there may be small print somewhere in his T’s& C’s that says ‘pictures are a serving suggestion…’

I agree with @NYXboy, I don’t know any sexually active gay guy who isn’t on Prep (unless they can’t take it for medical reasons). In my country (UK) Prep is free and I get a test every 3m to make sure it’s not causing me any side effects. If you’re serious about protection then it makes sense to be on Prep, and to understand its effectiveness. I assume clients want bareback sex if penetration is on the agenda, whether they’re being top or bottom. Bareback is therefore the default. Occasionally guys have wanted me to use a condom but usually those guys are married and seeing me discreetly do they don’t want to take any risks. If the session is just oral or anything like that I’ve never been asked to use a condom.

I’ve been doing sex work for about 8 years. Not full time. It’s too difficult to do full time in terms of energy, security and health. I think it’s a great job.

I prefer it if clients don’t give me an ending… it’s really not necessary. Some guys can’t suck very well, some are unskilled at hand jobs and some are just a bit too ‘grabby’ but the main reason is I’m not doing it for my own sexual gratification. I’m interested in getting you off. I’ll often get hard but it’s not necessary for me to cum especially if I’ve got more clients because I want to keep the energy.

Yes of course it is. It would be a grim job if there wasn’t any pleasure in seeing clients. I sometimes think ‘wow, I’m being paid for this’. I do think that to do the work one has to be predisposed towards being comfortable seeing and being intimate with all sorts of clients. If you don’t do this kind of work you likely never discover that attraction can be found in a much wider variety of people than you think. I have learned that if I am prepared to look for it I can really find things that are attractive in people who I wouldn’t have thought I’d be attracted to. I think that doing the work broadens your understanding of human attraction so if a sex worker pays you a compliment and acts on it then you should take it as genuine.

The key is that full sex should not be expected by the hirer when hiring a sensual or erotic masseur. As for what’s included in the massage as ‘standard’ you should ask the masseur. I include things like oral and kissing as standard but many don’t so it’s incumbent on the hirer to ask. For many clients though the interest in hiring a sensual or erotic masseur (apart from receiving a great massage) is the possibility and unknown about what might happen. That’s exciting and adds a frisson to the session. I do have sex with some clients because that’s just how the session developed. But as soon as a client wants the guarantee of full sex when they book the session then I am going to tell them that the rate is different (if I’m willing to do it atall). Clients expecting/demanding full sex for the price of a massage are unrealistic and will be disappointed.

The best rule is no compulsion for anyone on anything. All you need to know, or ask your partners is what they definitely don’t want. If anything else is optional for anyone then no participant feels an obligation to do anything. That’s the best way for everyone to have a good time.

First time a client called me ‘daddy’ it was a shock. It happened at a delicate moment during the session and he said ‘breed me daddy’. I was so surprised by it that his request almost immediately became impossible for me 😂. It’s a big shock. Now of course I embrace it but the first time it’s like having a bucket of cold water poured over your head. The main off putting thing now is when guys say ‘babe’ or ‘girl’ such as ‘you go girl’ or refer to my bum as my ‘pussy or they use other feminine words’. I’m not female!

Good ones don’t care. Tell them in advance. The ones that are good will reply with something like ‘it doesn’t matter what you look like, it matters how you behave’. The bad ones will either ignore you or be evasive. Then you’ll know which to book won’t you. I see all sorts of clients for massage and more escort style work. Some are old, some disabled, some have scars, some are big, some are skinny. It really doesn’t matter except for practical purposes (like will you fit on my massage table, have you got any conditions or injuries I need to know about). As for what you look like, it’s immaterial. I care most about will you turn up, will you be respectful, will you participate and enjoy yourself. Go for it. Anyone who declines your business because of what you look like isn’t a real provider. If you find someone you’re comfortable with you’ll find your confidence grows each time you see him.

I’m willing to give it a go for the right fee. Just saying…..

Hire a masseur that does that kind of massage. I guess if you’re in the US or some other country where sex work isn’t legal you’ll need to be a little more intuitive when looking for the signs: is he topless in his advertising?, does he describe the massage using words like ‘erotic’, ‘sensual’, ‘arousing’ and does he refer to leaving you feeling ‘satisfied’? In my adverts it’s explicitly clear that my massage includes sexual activity and that they can interact with me because where I work it’s legal, yet clients still ask me when booking about how far that goes in terms of mutual touch and what they can do to me. It’s best to check that when booking if possible although as I said he might not want to be explicit in writing for legal reasons. If you book a licensed massage therapist working at a spa or hotel it’s very unlikely any kind of happy ending will happen because it’s in breach of their license. Don’t do anything that initiates sexual activity and don’t ask. I think it’s actually quite disrespectful towards the therapist to ask or initiate that kind of thing in a therapeutic massage situation. So if you want a massage that includes full body and intimacy then book a guy who specialises in it.