Jamie21

Although having said I start with the scalp I realise that actually I don’t start there. When my client is laid on the table, for sensual massage I start in their head.. mean in their brain. That’s where a lot is going on especially if they’re anxious or they just arrived after a day at work or after a long journey. So I start by leaning in, whispering in their ear some words (come for a massage and find out what I say 😉) …and then I ask them to breathe deeply for a few long slow breaths where we coordinate our breathing. Only then, once my client is calm does any pressure touch begin. If they’re not relaxed the muscles are too tense so I find the best place to work on first is their mind. Get in there and you’re going to give a great massage 🙂

I once booked a massage with a masseur at his home, without checking much into his set up or professionalism. I was young and naive, and this was before I actually joined the profession myself (call it my research years). I turned up at the address given. It seemed ok. The masseur answered the door (I’d seen no pics of him, only a description and an outline of his services). He didn’t match the description but I was too scared to walk away…so I went in. He was very friendly, indeed he was delighted to see me. I’ve written in more detail about it before so I won’t relay the whole story but the following behaviour occurred: - Using his loft (attic), a windowless cramped space accessed from the bathroom by a pull down loft ladder as his massage space. It didn’t quite have the right ambiance. - Letting me know, mid massage, that his wife would be home soon and I wasn’t to worry because she couldn’t get up the ladder… - Talking almost all the way through about how he wasn’t really gay but he liked massaging guys whilst he was naked. The massage was mediocre, the ending wasn’t very happy and his wife called up from the bottom of the loft ladder if I’d like a cup of tea. I didn’t return to him. The tea was too weak.

I start at the head, then do the feet. Head first because it relaxes the client, likewise with foot massage. I never start with the back.

If you ever visit London…

Yes it is, although at my massage studio there’s no bed! So it has to be the table.

I did a collab with him about 18m ago for our respective fans sites. Nice guy.

Agree! And it’s about the position, generally I prefer to ride it if it’s a big one because I can be in control of the pace and depth, at least initially. In some cases small dicks can be difficult. I had a client who was quite overweight and his dick was small, I guess around 2 inches? He’d booked a massage and wanted to top me during the massage. This is fairly unusual because if clients do want an escort type session they’re usually bottom….(or they turn into a bottom on the day 😂) My client hadn’t mentioned anything about his size (dick or body) when booking so I was surprised when he turned up as he was really large and I wondered how he’d fit on the table. He seemed quite anxious and shy so I tried to make him relaxed and we started with a cuddle before he got on the table. Fortunately my table is quite wide and electrically adjustable (I can raise and lower it using a foot pad) so I lowered it a bit for him to get on see that he fits ok. I then raise it up to the correct height (where my crotch is beside his hand at his side 😉) and we begin the massage with him face down on the table. With larger guys it can be quite challenging to get to certain areas and I find that this guy’s no different. Even with his legs spread to the width of the table I couldn’t easily massage his bum hole or dick and balls. After a while I ask him to turn over to his back. As he turns I see he’s hard but it’s not very big. I’d planned to mount the table and ride him but I realise that might not be possible. I tried to get on the table from the side but it was difficult because there wasn’t much space either side of his waist to kneel, so I went to the legs end and knelt between his knees to suck him for a bit while I worked out how I was going to get him inside me. I did try cowboy but kneeling on the table meant I had to squeeze his waist in either side and that caused his cock to disappear into the flesh so I couldn’t get it in me. We tried a couple of times and just managed to get it in but as soon as I started to ride it fell out. So I lowered the table right down and stood on the floor either side of the table. This was ok as he did get in but with my legs so far apart and his belly in the way it wasn’t comfortable. I then turned around to face away from him which was better but still challenging to keep it in. I thought it best to ask him if there was a position he preferred but he said he didn’t know. I’m guessing he’d not had sex before… so I suggested that I lay across the table on my back, he stand at the side and I lift my legs. I’d thought I could put my legs on his shoulders but that didn’t give him enough depth…so for those familiar with yoga I assumed the ‘happy baby’ pose and that seemed to give him enough space to get it in (he held up his belly with his hands) and it didn’t take long for him to cum which was fortunate because my happy baby isn’t a position I like to keep for too long 🙂. I was glad we managed to get there because he seemed delighted by the session. Nothing was said about his size by him or me. I think he was self conscious about it so I tried to make sure he knew it didn’t matter. Must be difficult for him wanting to top but facing those physical challenges.

When clients book with me, sometimes months in advance, then it’s booked: I’ll be available and expecting them. At the time of booking the client gets my address, directions (or if it’s an outcall I just ask for their location), and all the info they need, and I tell them I’ll confirm all still ok with them the day before. This ‘day before’ confirmation is important because it serves as a reminder and ensures that I screen out anyone flaky before the actual day. If they don’t respond to the day before confirmation then I cancel it. If you’re having booking confusion with your masseur or escort then that’s a sign that they’re just playing at the job, they’ll be indifferent to you and it will probably be a bad experience. Don’t hire guys who are messing you around.

That might offer reassurance (someone with recent test results would appear to take their sexual health seriously) but of course even if the results are a week old they’re not any guarantee he’s free from any sexually transmitted disease. I think the best thing to do is protect yourself and not worry about what anyone else is doing or says they’re doing. Stay safe and rest regularly!

Whether or not he’s on Prep shouldn’t affect your approach. Prep protects him, not you. Nor should you take as definitive anything he says because you can’t prove he’s on Prep, you’re just taking him at his word and that’s a lot of trust for something so critical to your health. Because of my work I take Prep daily and I really can’t imagine why anyone doing sex work wouldn’t be on Prep unless they’ve a health issue that prevents them taking it. All of the guys I know who do similar work are on it. They also include it in their advertising. It’s free here in UK and I get tested regularly (also free) to ensure it’s safe for me to use.

Most clients don’t provide any of that information and that’s fine by me because I don’t need it. All I need to know is when they want, how long, and what their name is. I definitely don’t want a picture.

If anyone wants me to read any more posts in this damn sequence of replies about deposits (they have their uses), the colour (correct spelling 😉) of cars and whether providers are competitive (we’re not) then I’m going to require a deposit. A large one.

Oh no! The deposit question 😱… Here’s the answer: the provider decides his business model and the hirer decides whether or not to play it. You do you. The end.

Very few. Because they’re made with intent. If you plan something that far in advance you really mean it. Often they’re clients who are visiting London, they plan their itinerary and they want to know I’ll be available, hence booking the session then. If they left it to short notice then I might be busy. Occasionally someone who booked months in advance might change the day or time but that will also be done with a lot of notice. I find the bookings that happen on the day (as in “hey are you available this afternoon around 3?”) are much more likely to flake or mess around on timing because they’ve booked on a whim.

I’ve currently got a client booked in for end of June…and it was booked a month ago. He plans ahead!

There it is exactly. If I’m asked the question “what one thing do your clients want?” I’d have to say it’s intimacy and feeling safe (I know that’s two!!!) but you really can’t have intimacy if you don’t feel safe. Everything else flows from this. It’s essential that the client feels comfortable with you, they trust you and they feel approved of by you. Create that environment and then you can deliver other things.

They say it because they hope the provider will give them a free session, in the naive expectation that the provider will be keen to see a virgin. When clients send me that kind of message the meeting never happens. The genuinely inexperienced guys book the session then they tell me they’re not so experienced rather than opening the conversation with it.

Edinburgh probably more cultured if you’re going to Scotland. I’d choose Madrid, sexy, lots to see, culture, great cuisine.

I don’t think they’re all that bothered about fake pics, unless the pic owner complains. It’s quite difficult to police if someone is using pics that aren’t theirs. But I think having professionals using the app to sell services goes against their business model, and is unlawful in some countries so I guess there’s a legal aspect to it too.

The clients offering advice are often doing so from a position of ignorance about the business. Yes they might have hired, but that’s not a qualification to understand what it’s like to be hired. I’ve eaten fabulous meals in restaurants but I wouldn’t profess that that qualifies me to tell the chef how to run their kitchen. If offered the advice I receive it with grace, and ignore it. I’ll take advice from those who have walked in my shoes.

You’ll get banned, that’s inevitable! I wasn’t even advertising but my pictures probably implied that I was for hire (if I was posting the correct pictures of course 😏) and I’d get enquiries, and a few clients but someone must have complained because I got warned (which was simply an indication to me to be more careful / subtle) and then banned. If you solicit or buy on there you’ll end up banned. Actually think that’s fair enough, it’s not meant for paid gigs or hiring and there’s plenty of better places to advertise for that. The quality of clients I had from Grindr was low (unreliable/flaky). You’ll probably find the quality of guys you hire is similarly low.

There’s an oxymoron! I’m very exhibitionist. Having an audience is great fun. I’ve a client who is similarly into public displays who hires me to accompany him to a sauna or sex club and play with him exclusively in open areas. He loves it. I’ve also worked at parties to get things going and encourage interaction. I think there’s something quite liberating about having sex in a room full of still clothed people who are engaging in polite small talk over white wine and canapés! It encourages the more adventurous couples and singles to strip off and join in.

Not from me. Rate is same regardless of the client.

Ask the guy you hire for suggestions. Tell him what you like and use his expertise to structure it. For longer sessions I’ve included things like an undressing, shower together, obviously massage, a break for refreshments (snack, drink), gym session or workout, watch some porn (preferably mine 🤪), stretching/yoga. There’s loads of things you can do around having physical fun together too. You can also invite another provider for part of the session to mix things up if you have the budget for that. I’ve done sessions where it’s me with the client for the whole time but another guy joins us for part of it. I’d recommend that if you did that then it’s best for the two providers to know each other so that they’re comfortable together and can focus on you during the session.

Or vaguely notorious. That’s what I am.