Jamie21

Yep, that’s how I think of it. You dodged a bullet. I love it when they ask again a few months (or even years) later having forgotten that they messed me around and I just ignore them, or if they’re insistent I just say that they’ll not be seen because they’re a time waster.

I don’t know what exchange you had with him yesterday but the reply ‘1 works or we can reschedule if you’re booked up’ is a big red flag and I’d cancel him at that point unless he replies definitively ‘yes’ to me asking ‘ok so are you definitely coming for 1pm?’. The client is far too casual.

You should get a firmer decision when they book. I make sure that I get a definite agreement. I ask ‘ok do you want me to book that?’ and unless they confirm with ‘yes’ it’s not booked. Also I don’t take those last minute bookings for example within the next few hours (unless they’re a regular). Those kind of spur of the moment casual clients aren’t worth the hassle, they usually don’t turn up. So I only take bookings if the client is committed to it. Casual responses like ‘yeah’ and ‘sure’ are definite signs of a flake. Finally, I tell them I’ll send a text to remind them on the day (or night before if it’s a morning booking) and that if they don’t confirm to that reminder then I’ll cancel it. It’s a shame we have to do all this and I’m sorry you’re getting this hassle but it seems there’s a lot of flakes and you just need to identify them early and cut them off from booking.

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Sensual or Erotic, what does it mean? It reminds me of what Humpty Dumpty said: “When I use a word… it means just what I choose it to mean – neither more nor less.” I recommend clients assume that masseurs use the Humpty approach when describing their massage. So they should check what is included for the price before booking. I describe my massage as ‘sensual’ which I say includes the client getting a happy ending. Sometimes more.

I have to plead ignorance on this one unfortunately!

Very little indeed. Most winters just one day of snow and it doesn’t get very deep, just an inch at most (unlike me).

Total con. Even if he was real, and for hire, he wouldn’t last very long soliciting for business on Onlyfans. They ban that sort of thing. I bet this guy doesn’t exist, the pics are not him and once you subscribe you get nothing but requests for more payment to see pics / films that are pay per view. Avoid.

I see a lot of straight guys, or guys who are exploring their way into male intimate relationships. Many of my clients are married. They are shy to ask so I prompt them. The nature of my massage is very clear from my advertising so they know it will end happily of course but how it gets there is the question that needs some degree of clarity. If you see a masseur who advertises therapeutic massage, where his advertising doesn’t imply any kind of intimacy or erotic element then you’re definitely relying on him making any first move and of course it could all end in a very awkward situation! If you want a great massage that includes some elements of intimacy and a climax you’re best hiring someone who advertises as such.

I ask clients beforehand what they’re comfortable with in terms of touch in intimate areas…such as is he on with internal prostate massage? Then I say they’re welcome to interact with me. I find that’s sufficient to set the scene because if everything is defined beforehand the essential element of a sensual massage is lost: there’s no adventure. What might happen is the excitement. You can’t define that at the start. Once we get going it’s up to each to explore, respectfully, slowly and within the boundaries set at the start.

Especially if he’s in uniform 😍

No you’re not. Don’t pay up front. Decent guys won’t expect payment up front. It starts the session off on an awkward footing. I much prefer to have the client pay afterwards. Occasionally a client will give me an envelope beforehand or put the cash ‘on the side’ visibly before we start. I try and disregard it because I want to make it seem as less like a transaction as possible. Only twice have I had a problem where they ‘didn’t have the money’🙄. First one was because his card didn’t work (I have a card reader) and I guess that could be understandable. There was no other alternative so I rather foolishly left without payment but with a promise he’d send via PayPal when he was back home (the guy was from China). To my surprise, and let’s be honest to my shame because I’d 90% written it off, he sent the money a couple of weeks later! Absolutely restored my faith in human nature that did. The other time I walked the client to the cash point….very closely. No one has ever wanted a post session discount. I am careful about the kind of clients I’ll accept so maybe that reduces the chance of someone refusing to pay. If he insists on payment up front it’s more likely he’s seeing the kind of client who tries things on with him. Do you want to risk hiring that kind of guy?

Regardless of how I prefer to be contacted clients use all sorts of different ways. It can be challenging remembering how they contacted me. I had a few situations where on the day of the meeting I have in my calendar a name, time etc but no idea how to contact him if he doesn’t show or if I need to inform him of something. Especially if it was booked weeks or months ago (which happens). All I’ve got to go on is ‘John’ at 3pm …and no idea how he contracted me, or when! So now I record what channel he used to book 🙂. ‘John, 3pm, booked via phone call, wants to xxx’. Here’s the variety of methods I’ve had clients use: WhatsApp Rentmasseur message Text Phone call Email Twitter DM Telegram messenger Instagram message OnlyFans message (though these get a very obtuse response) JustforFans message (no issues talking about sex work there) Bluesky message Asked in person whilst out (that’s only friends or friends of friends…I don’t walk around with a sign 😂). It can be quite difficult to keep across all that so I encourage booking via WhatsApp. If guys are anxious or find it difficult to write down what they want then a phone call is fine but it can’t be random. Has to be pre arranged so I can be somewhere discreet.

I agree! I test every 2 months, more frequently if concerned and take prep daily. I encounter some clients who are happy to bareback (fine by me) but who seem unaware of the risks, unaware of Prep, and who don’t routinely test. That’s crazy on their part. A recent client wanted to top me bare, all was agreed and fine. I asked him if he was on prep. He said ‘no’. I had to explain it to him. He was fine to go ahead because I told him I was negative on prep but I had to encourage him to go and get informed for his sake.

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Maybe a debate on rates in general would be more insightful than you sharing what your idea of value is? Is the market perfect (in that buyers and sellers are able to accurately value their services?). Has one party got more power? That kind of discourse is interesting. ‘I can’t afford x’ is less so.

Even if you consider it a ‘side hustle’ you’ll need to be utterly professional in your approach: get decent pics done (not phone selfies), advertise your service (and like @ApexNomadsaid, know what your USP is), be available when clients want you which might be difficult if you’re doing full time work. You’ll need to be flexible with your time otherwise you’ll be turning a lot of clients down. Price your services correctly to fit your chosen market. Have a professional set up with a good table, proper oils etc. Be on time, reliable, consistent and customer oriented. In other words don’t treat it like a side hustle. How do I know? I’ve been doing it for 7 years, have lots of regular clients, and great reviews on RentMasseur. Good luck, it’s a fantastic job if you put the effort in.

I’ve filmed with him. He’s a sexy friendly and interesting guy.

Yep, loads of them. They’re not really escorts though if they can’t see anyone and make that person feel good. The ability to find something attractive in anyone is an essential requirement for the job. Those guys who select clients based on looks are just guys who are trying to monetise their sex life. Clients might as well go on Grindr and save their money.

That’s a shame. I was kind of hoping…

I think this was covered before. Look here.

It can be awful, but don’t be too harsh on these guys. It’s not easy to be 100% clean every time. I remember a time when I bottomed for a client and despite thorough preparation there was a ‘disaster’. In mitigation he was hung, we’d been at it a while in various different positions and for most of the session it was fine. Fortunately my client was totally fine about it. We cleaned up, took a break and then continued with other activities.

Thank you! It was a pleasure to see you X

The bottom decides whether the top is great or not. Simple as that.

Probably charge per squirt.