Jamie21

I think that’s a common view of those who might not have done it. But as well as laying back and letting some guy suck you off (easy) you also need to deal with the opinion of society about what you do, the attitude of some clients towards you, and things like how it affects your own sex life. Factor those in and you might reconsider that ‘selling sex can be one of the easiest’…

This is it. Be confident, be nice, respectful, clean and turn up on time. Those clients are the best. Doesn’t matter what you look like it’s how you behave that’s important.

That’s interesting. I agree it is something that, until you do it, you don’t know whether you’ll be suited to it. It’s not about being good at sex or anything like that (although it appears so). It’s about having a pleaser streak as you say. If you get turned on (sexually and otherwise) by giving pleasure it’s a definite strength to bring to escorting. I started by accident. I knew I liked being watched having sex, and I found an outlet for that by appearing in amateur erotic massage films (initially as the recipient of massage). I then discovered I was good at giving massage, also on film. That developed into learning how to do sensual massage, which developed into doing massage and sex work professionally. I had advice and help along the way from guys (and females actually) who already did the work. I don’t think anyone sets out initially with a career plan of doing sex work, it kind of happens step by step. Each step is like a test of whether you’re cut out for it. Most people aren’t and they fall by the wayside, if they ever even started.

It’s simple, if you’re doing it for any reason other than you are good at it and you enjoy it (those things are always connected)…then you’ll fail. If your motive is money, more sex, notoriety, to avoid boredom or just because you think you’re attractive to certain clients then you’ll fail at being an escort. It’s simply not the kind of job you can do and ‘put up with’. It’s much more difficult than you think it is. Aside from all the warnings about visas etc there’s real risks to doing it. Things like health risks, reputation risks, personal safety, mental health….you need to be really motivated to overcome those if you want to be a successful escort.

Yes I agree. I can’t do outcalls to Essex or Sussex. Visits to clients in Scunthorpe (think about it) and Cockfosters are challenging, and I definitely can’t see anyone in Penistone (South Yorkshire).

I get a few proselytising clients, although it’s more often about politics. I find if I put my cock in their mouth they shut up.

Definitely a great song and a great British band from Bath.

That sums it up when the vibe is right. I know a few of my regular clients so well I just need to look in their eye, touch a certain part or whisper something in their ear and everything follows from there…No need to have any awkward conversations if they don’t want to.

Clients who phrase their requests in vivid language make me wary. Those guys tend to be the ones who never actually turn up or commit to it. They’re just sexting (same as those who send explicit pics of themselves when booking). 95% likely they’ll cancel on the day, or no show. On the other hand those who are so coy about expressing what they want are difficult to help. They’ll say they want ‘Tantra massage’ or ask for ‘body to body’ or ‘full service’. That latter phrase amuses me. It’s like they’re a car: “ah so you want full service?… an oil change, new spark plugs, top up the brake fluid and a test drive?”. I take a look at him (because they always send a pic) and it’s clear he’s done a couple of hundred thousand miles… ”needs a lot of work, you’re leaking oil and the suspension has dropped, it’ll be £600 at least”. Sometimes they’re worried about law enforcement (which isn’t an issue here) or they simply don’t want to cause offence which is kind of endearing. I have to ask them a few questions to understand them better and then I say “so you want to fuck?”. Even over a text conversation I can sense their relief that we’ve got to the point. It’s best to ask in simple direct language (of course as long as you’re not worried about law enforcement) because it saves misunderstanding and time. No provider wants to deal with the clients who start with “hi” and over a whole series of messages, sometimes over days or weeks work their way via “how are you”….”do you do massage”…”my glutes are tight”…..”will I be naked?”…”will you be naked?”…”can I touch it?” (Me: touch what?). …through to the eventual admission of what they want, if indeed we ever get there. Then the killer when I state the price… “oh that’s out of my budget”. Ugh…subscribe to my OnlyFans and have a wank then, it’s cheaper.

Get your passport out!!

Hi @PhileasFogg I’ve no plans to visit unfortunately….but I’d have thought you’d be more the travelling type?? Or is the 80 days up? 😉

All this praise will make my head bigger than my cock 😬

oh wow I’m taking a screenshot of this, framing it and putting it on the wall of my office to read whenever the ‘you’re a failure at everything’ voice in my head starts up ugh! Thank you 😘

He seemed very comforted to know I was on prep. I don’t normally offer unsolicited advice (it’s never usually apposite) but in this instance I felt compelled to raise it with him. If he chooses to bb without being on prep and just relying on the honesty of his partner with full knowledge of the risks that’s his call. But he seemed to misunderstand the issue so I felt I had to clarify for him. He did seem grateful.

I’m astonished by the ignorance sometimes. I saw a client today who wanted to bottom as part of the massage. Almost immediately after he’d shot his load as I was inside… (by the way…he’d booked a 90m session and it was as much as I could do to slow him down to result in his climax at about 55 minutes into the session 😂)… he asked me if ‘I was clean?’. I said to him it’s a bit late for that now!!! but he shouldn’t worry, I’m tested regularly and ‘clean’ (a term I hate but that’s a different discussion). Then he asked if I was on prep and I said I was, but that if he was making a habit of engaging in bb sex then he ought to be on prep himself. He said he wasn’t 😳. This kind of lack of awareness is quite common I think with guys who are ‘dipping their toes’ into gay sex. I advised him that prep protected me but not him, and he should look into going on it if he’s going to bb. Lovely guy, but very naive about things. I didn’t want to labour the point because it would detract from the fun he had but I did feel the need to make sure he looked after his health, which he appreciated.

There’s a mood killer! I understand the advice and it’s very good advice …but it might be a little fast for @Nameless. He’s exploring. If he picks the right provider (I agree with @pubic_assistance that a masseur would be a good place to start). If you find a masseur you’re comfortable with you can get to know him and explore with him. At the least you get a great massage. Massage is a fabulous way into intimacy that can lead more naturally to more things.

You can train to take it. I find if I’m struggling then I prefer to be the ‘power bottom’ (I think that’s the correct description) and I’ll ride him cowboy style because then I can have more control over the pace, angle and depth. Tbh if I’m bottoming it’s my favourite position. If you’re learning to bottom you should find a good patient top and start like that. And as for it being ‘harder’ to bottom, as a vers guy I’m not saying one position is harder than the other. They’re different. I mean it is more faff (lovely word) to bottom because of the prep but of course it’s not absolutely necessary to prep. I’ve bottomed without prep (impromptu fucks, not with clients) and he just went in and stayed in until completion…easy, job done 😂. But generally it’s a faff to bottom. In the event it can be just as much ‘work’ to bottom. What sometimes is difficult with so called ‘lazy bottoms’ is they don’t position themselves for access. I’m sometimes thinking, arch your back…let me in!!

I’m usually top, because most of my clients are bottom. However I do both roles, sometimes at the same time in the middle if I’m in a group. You do need to be in the right mindset to bottom though, I find if I’m in that mindset it doesn’t matter how big he is, he can go for it. But so many things have to align: I’ve to be confident about being clean (not perfectly so, but at least thoroughly douched), the position has to be right, empty bladder, lube, the moon has to be waxing (ok maybe I made that bit up). It’s such a faff to bottom tbh. I feel sorry for total bottom guys. It’s much easier to top.

I’d go back to Ancient Greece and hire Patroclus and Achilles….I’m assuming they’d be open to such arrangements.

Totally varies. I get guys some booking ahead but most leave it to a couple of days before or even on the day. At the moment I’ve 6 bookings for the remainder of this month and 1 in September. Often I get asked if I’m free same day and usually I can’t do it because I’m busy. Best to give a couple of options…could you do X or Y? Example: yesterday a client messaged asking about a morning session next Sunday or Monday. I could do one of those so it was booked.

Hire in the UK. We’re a sensible country: you can safely discuss buying sex here. It’s legal, within certain parameters.

See my website for my sensual massage training option. Assuming you ever visit London of course.

Law enforcement is happy.

I’ve written previously on here about a client telling me he loved me. It was the most awkward I’ve ever felt in all my years doing escorting/massage. He professed love and asked me to go on holiday (vacation) with him and I’m sure he fully expected me to say yes. So extremely difficult because I could see he was surprised by my response. Our sessions were passionate and intimate of course. If someone is passionate towards me then I certainly find it no problem atall to return the energy plus some. I think some clients misread that for something more than what it is. Ultimately it’s a transaction.

Thanks! He arrived with poppers…I guess he knew what would work. I agree, they do help. They do nothing for me though, I find if I take them my cock goes soft.