Jamie21

Yes, that’s me.

I’ve been filmed by him performing in his movies many times! And I do 4 hands for clients with him. Fabulous masseur.

I think that’s great. I go further with regular clients than I would if he’s a new client. Firstly with a new client you don’t really know yet what he’s comfortable with, and secondly I think for it to feel right one needs to know that the client is the respectful type. It’s also rewarding for regular clients. If he’s been a few times I know he likes my massage and my company and so that naturally leads to a better connection and then to a better intimacy during the ‘extra’ elements of the massage.

For me it’s also about pleasing the client. He really got off on me riding him and so that got me going too. He liked the visuals of it and of course that he could just lay back and enjoy himself 😂.

He’s being respectful of you. Thats to be valued. As a masseur I really appreciate the clients who aren’t demanding I fuck them or whatever. I suggest you take it slowly with him and if you’d like him fully naked for example then perhaps run your hand up his torso under his top when his shorts come down. He’ll get the hint and either remove his top, or your hand….

Hey thanks! Glad you liked it. 🙂

Fabulous! I played the active bottom role with a client today. I like that role.

Thank you! There’s a full version and many more on my justforfans 😉

I’ve performed in loads of massage movies but this one is one of my favourites. https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph62e0eaecf3ba8#1

It’s definitely part of my massage repertoire should the client want it. Of course I check the area (discreetly) beforehand and ask the client to shower first. I do think that the giver should really enjoy doing it for it to feel good. It’s fortunate that I love rimming, I love the reaction it gets and the eroticism of it. I’ll leave it to clients to decide whether or not my rimming is any good! They’re best placed to provide a critique.

Well why wouldn’t you..

Correct. I should have been clearer. It’s the unaccompanied “hi” or “hey”, then nothing. What’s even more strange is that if I do reply with “hello” often nothing then comes back. It’s as if they’re testing to see if your number is genuine.

I find to focus on your breathing as he enters you is advisable. He should enter slowly to allow your muscles to relax while you breathe deeply. Usually when I top anxious clients I say to them to breathe deep and long as I go in. Once it’s in, and they relax then it’s possible to begin a rhythm. If I’m bottoming I prefer to start in cowboy, because I can control the pace and angle it goes in, especially if he’s big. I think if you’re practicing to bottom with a dildo it’s like practicing to ride a bike by using a gym cycle. You need to get on a cock and practice. Use a top who will let you go at your pace and try different things. After you have practiced you’ll probably be fine. Then you can enjoy the pleasure of bottoming in all sorts of ways.

A regular is a client who has come more than 3 times, especially if that’s in a single session.

Here’s my take as a masseur. I get a lot of enquiries that go nowhere (although I do respond to all enquiries!). Many potential clients appear to be just browsing and from experience I get to know the likelihood of a booking from the tone and content of their first message. If they open with “hi” or “hey” it’s 99% certain they’ll never book. 100% certain if they open the conversation with a dick pic (in fact I lied, I don’t reply to dick pics, or ass pics etc). So if you’re getting lots of messages from clients, and perhaps you’re treating this work in a slightly casual way (as many do) and you have an Onlyfans that makes plenty in a passive income way (as many do) then how motivated are you to reply to someone who’s unlikely to turn into a client? Especially if he’s asking very open ended questions. I find it difficult to answer a question like “can you tell me about your service?” without writing a long response including the style, content, rates, availability, experience level, location etc. Often all of that is on my profile somewhere or on my website, which the enquirer may or may not have seen. In those open ended questions I usually just refer the client to my website if they have questions, which might come across as dismissive but all the info is there! The best way to maximise chances of a reply is to approach professional looking guys (don’t be taken in by thirst trap pics), look at the spelling and grammar on his profile, look at how long he’s been around, consider the reviews, look at the quality of the pics more than the content. Then ask direct questions: Hello, I saw you in RentMasseur (or wherever ) I’d like to book for x time on y day, please let me know your availability. If he responds then you can ask other questions.

Then there’s the power top, power bottom, and all sorts of other things!

I notice that because I’m large a lot of clients want me to top. The same applies when making films, I usually top. So generally in my professional sex (that’s what I call work sex) I’m a top. But for recreational sex I usually like to bottom. Perhaps it’s because it’s different. Overall to me though it doesn’t matter, I like both roles (even at the same time 😈). It’s just that sometimes it’s simply more practical to top, or even to do everything else but penetrate. One of the roles not listed in the OP’s survey was ‘side’ but I find quite a lot of clients would describe themselves as just that. Nothing internal but lots of cuddling, body contact, frontage, hand jobs and kissing etc. That can be a fantastic session without the ‘pressure’ to penetrate anything.

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It’s usually if the client is a regular that the timing becomes fluid. If they booked an in call then I stick to the time agreed. I never go under but don’t go more than 5 minutes over either. They might have commitments afterwards and usually so do I therefore we finish on time for in calls. For out calls I’m more relaxed on time if I don’t have commitments afterwards (and I always leave time after an out call to my next thing because of the risk that an out call over runs or starts late) and nor do they. Recently I saw a regular client at his hotel. We hadn’t agreed a duration but his usual sessions are about 90 mins to 2 hours. This time he had a couple of travelling companions with him (he told me beforehand) so I expected the session might last longer. Therefore I made sure I had no commitments for a few hours. As it turned out I started the session with the client and then part way through his travelling companions joined us. After about 90m my client went off into the lounge area with one of his companions (it was a hotel suite with 2 separate rooms) and I was chatting on the bed with the other one. She told me they were going for dinner later so I knew they had plans. My client came back in with his travelling companion and there was a bit more play but I sensed things were coming to a natural end. I asked my client what their plans were and he said they had a dinner reservation. At this point one of his companions said she needed to wash her hair for the dinner because there was cum in it (that was me 😂). My client said she’d take ages in the shower so why didn’t I go first?…so I knew that was my cue that the session was over. As almost an afterthought he then invited me to join them at dinner but that would have been too late so I politely declined. As it happened after I was dressed we all got chatting for half an hour about their theatre and concert trips.

This is great advice. I prefer text initially. Can’t always take calls and I don’t answer withheld numbers. If my client really wants to talk details then I prefer it if we arrange a time for the call. Whatever you do don’t be coy (unless you have to be for legal reasons). I prefer it if clients ask directly.

It’s mixed. I’d say most of my clients don’t want kissing (but they want to be rimmed lol…). Kissing is very intimate and for guys who aren’t ready or able to describe themselves as gay, or for those who are in relationships etc then kissing is a step too far. Others most definitely want to kiss. You can rarely tell and it’s not something that I’d ask before the session. However during the session I’ll perhaps kiss his neck, near his ear or somewhere and see what he does. If he turns his head away then I know kissing is probably not his thing but if he turns towards me then it’s a sign he might want to kiss. Occasionally I’ll ask by whispering in his ear “would you like to kiss” and that’s enough for him to take the opportunity or not depending on his preference.

This is an interesting perspective and I agree with it to an extent. Doing sex work it’s easy to transactionalise (is that a word??? well you know what mean) client sessions and overlook the intimacy and companionship angle. I was talking about this with another provider I know after we’d done a duo session (4 hands massage plus extras) for a client. The client was ecstatic about the session in his feedback afterwards. It had had a profound impact on him. After the client had left I was talking with the guy I’d worked with and reflecting that it was just a routine part of our day, as in get up, eat, do some chores, see the client, have lunch etc….What was to us an every day occurrence we’d almost forgotten about as soon as he left, was to him something extra special that would stay with him for ages. It’s so easy to fall into that way of thinking that you risk forgetting that to many of your clients it’s something quite different and that’s why they hired you. Obviously because we’re professional and take the work seriously I guess we make it look like it’s not ‘routine’ but the risk of letting it appear to be transactional is always there (especially if you see a few clients in a day for example). Where I think the challenge comes though, which is why I caveat my agreement to your point @DaltonJ, is that for regular clients where the relationship and intimacy does deepen (which is great!) the risk is the client believes it has or can go beyond a provider/client situation whereas you as the provider don’t want that, and of course you don’t see it coming until he tells you! I’ve had that once or twice and it’s horrible to have to bring things back from that. It’s a really difficult tightrope to walk and is why most providers will want to keep their work and their non work sex quite separate. If indeed there is much non work sex!! (and that’s a different topic 🙂).

I find most of the clients I see who want me to top them (and the majority of my clients aren’t looking for that) are fine with bb. My preference is to not use condoms. Those who want to top me are more likely to want to use a condom, which is fine with me, I don’t mind either way, but they bring their own condoms (mine are usually too large 😉). I’m on prep and I think many of my clients are, especially those who want a more escort type session. Clearly there’s risks even with being on prep but I’ve never caught anything from clients, as far as I’m aware. Definitely right that each person makes an informed choice and should not feel shamed or pressured for whatever their choice is.

I’ve had this happen. I think I’ve written about it previously but I’ll mention it again here because it’s relevant. I did an outcall one time to a client and his young daughter was with him when he answered the door. In fact we used the room she had been playing in for the massage. The client had intended we use a garage (integral to the house, a townhouse over 3 stories) but it wasn’t suitable so he moved the session to the ground floor play / tv room. As I was setting up the table he asked her to “go upstairs to mummy while daddy has his massage”…. Once she was gone I checked with him that he understood the nature of the service, as in we’d both be naked and it would include sexual activity and he confirmed all ok. He’d clearly seen my advertising etc so couldn’t have been in doubt but given his wife and daughter were upstairs and knew he was having a massage I did wonder… What’s worse is he didn’t even lock the door and during the session I could hear them upstairs. I asked him if this was ok and he was adamant we’d not be disturbed. I didn’t meet the wife, or daughter again fortunately as I think it would be even worse to see them afterwards. The client behaved like it was all routine…maybe it was a turn on for him because it certainly didn’t seem to inhibit him…he was hard as soon as he got naked. I really don’t mind if there’s others in an adjacent room. I’m also fine if they know what’s going on. I’ve done live shows and workshops including having full sex and things like being a demo model for the use of sex toys so it’s not a problem to me. I also have clients who are married and they both have massages from me while the other one watches. However in every situation it’s been agreed beforehand. It’s just polite and respectful to ask, and of course some situations such as the one above where I knew his daughter was upstairs are very disconcerting. He should have told me that might be the case when booking. I think that for most people they want discretion and privacy in such situations. If you as a client have any circumstances where your place isn’t going to be private then it’s best to let your provider know then he can decide. The default expectation both ways is of privacy.

I’d say it’s more likely that his clients are fellow members of the clergy…