Jamie21

I do that now!! Plus I decant the lube I buy into smaller secure bottles and then keep all the stuff that might leak (masssge oil, toy cleaner) in ziplock bags. If I’m bottoming then I don’t mind what lube he uses. If I’m top then I prefer silicon based lube (or cum of course …that’s best!). I’m cut so I also prefer to use a little lubricant when wanking.

It’s true. Makes it taste sweet. Don’t let him eat Asparagus though, that makes it taste really yuck.

Always takes two to make a market: demand and supply.

Wow and I believed them all when they said they were virgins.

You’re very strict! I understand why given the model you operate. My model is different so I can go along with it a few times because it doesn’t cause me any hassle (they cancel before the day so I’m not incurring costs etc. By the third time they cancel with some lame excuse I usually say to them that if they’re anxious then to talk to me. These clients tend to be inhibited, usually not out, often exploring their sexuality. Their chat reveals they have a lot of misconceptions about gay or bi sex. I don’t want to be difficult to them; one day they might actually pluck up the courage to come for a session and that would be fantastic for them. I like helping clients with their sexuality and helping them to be comfortable with their sexuality. Those kind of clients are lovely because they’re so appreciative of what you do for them.

It would be fine, he can do that. Usually people that book that far in advance are serious and they plan very well so it’s unlikely they’ll cancel unless their travel plans change. Obviously the he earlier I know the better. If he cancelled an hour before I’d be pissed of course but to counter that happening I always message clients the day before the session to make sure they are still all ok and if it’s a new client I’ll also message on the day with “see you later” as a further reminder. If I don’t get a response to that (or at least see that it’s been read) then I’ll follow up with a message to check he’s still ok. If those pre meeting messages are ignored and it’s a new client then I’ll cancel it and assume he won’t show. My time waster radar is highly tuned now so I can usually sift out these types before it even gets to a booking being made. Most of these are the ones who like the idea of a session (usually when they’re horny) and so they book it ….but then when it comes to the day of the session they get anxious and either don’t show or they come up with some excuse to cancel. The pre meeting reminder messages I send tends to be effective with these guys. Plus they tend to try again a year or so later (they forget they were in contact!) but I keep the records so I know they got cold feet previously. There’s a few like that who clearly build up the horn to book a session every year or so and then who cancel it with some excuse when the reality hits home! I find it amusing because when they book they’re clearly running some fantasy in their head “I want you to do x and x to me, I want to have y and z etc….I’m definitely going to be a regular…I love big cocks, I’m very tight etc etc”. Then the day before they message with “sorry Jamie my mother’s cat died…my car has a flat tyre…I’ve got Covid…I’ll rebook soon etc”. Then I hear nothing from him for a year or so until it happens again 😂.

Sorry but it’s gone. You fell for his talk. There’s lots of debate on here about deposits, so I won’t add to it but I will say that if you’re given a ‘family crisis’ type story to justify sending money then the best and only sensible thing to do is say “I hope things work out for you” and then end the conversation and find a more professional provider.

At the moment I have clients booked in for July. One of those booked it 2 months ago. Those guys plan ahead! 🙂

Casual sex is very different to paid sex for me. If I’m being paid, I’m not thinking of my enjoyment (except that I enjoy his enjoyment of it). I’m working so I’m thinking of time, what he likes, what might I do next, and if it’s for porn I’m thinking of camera angles etc. It’s definitely not recreational. With casual sex I think I take a more selfish approach and I don’t think afterwards ‘I could have charged x for that’ because it’s a very different experience. I have less recreational sex though now than before I was doing sex work. I tend to want to save the energy for the work, which I think is not necessarily a healthy approach!

All I’d say is get one where the top doesn’t open unexpectedly in your bag 😱

Ask as early as possible and be straight up about it. It’s quite annoying to have clients act in a coy way by opening with “hi how are you” etc and then slowly circling around what they want. Much better to say “hi I’m looking for x and x etc are you ok with that? If so I’d like to book a session for duration on time, day etc”. Don’t be shy about stating anything you want, I’ve heard everything.

I ran into a client at a naked beach in Mykonos one time. He was with his partner. It didn’t seem to be a problem.

There’s really no excuse for it. Have a shower beforehand. In my experience though it’s rare. I can think of a few times clients haven’t been clean and I’ve simply not gone anywhere near their bum (even after discreetly wiping them).

I’ll consider it because I get payment via the subscribers to the film we shoot, so I’m not doing it for free. This is my work. Suppose your boss said to you one day “business is quiet so can you work for 20% less today?”. Would you feel like your boss valued your work? Clients can ask for discounts of course. They’ll rationalise it: ‘he won’t mind’, ‘he’s only a sex worker so he doesn’t really matter’, ‘he’s probably desperate for any money so I can get away with asking for a discount’, ‘I’ll feel like I got one up on him’, ‘I deserve it’….all sorts of reasons to justify it to themselves. The response is always ‘no sorry no discount’.

I offer it, if the client wants me to use the bed. It’s their massage so their choice. Only on out calls though, if you come to me then I’ll use a table or there’s the Futon option (firmer than a bed). Sometimes it’s impractical to use a table on an out call (space restrictions, or the client doesn’t want me turning up with a table!). I agree though that it’s not really a massage and it does bring some postural issues for the masseur. You aswell? The image is vivid.

That’s one way of looking at it! I’d say if you’re that enamoured then pony up the money 😂. For me it sometimes happens that he sends a pic and expects I’ll be so attracted to it that I’ll offer services for free. But in those instances it’s a ‘no sorry, this isn’t Grindr’. However I do sometimes suggest to those guys that if they’re happy to be filmed as a volunteer in my massage porn movies on justforfans then that’s possible (subject to release forms etc).

Happened to me recently. I don’t think he intentionally did it. Was an out call to his hotel, a visitor to London from China. He offered payment by card at the start but I never accept payment until afterwards (it kills the vibe I think). So we finish the session and he’s very happy, he inserts his card but it’s declined. So I suggest another card (after trying twice) but he doesn’t have one, nor any cash. There’s a language issue too. In the end I sent a PayPal request but he couldn’t settle that immediately either. After that I gave up. It’s never happened to me before and I put it down to experience, because there were a couple of red flags. Strange thing is he’s not blocked me and replies to my chaser for setting the PayPal request by promising he’ll do it shortly. I think there is an issue for him regarding using his Chinese card. Anyway, I’ve written off the money (don’t tell him!).

I get asked for discounts…the answer is always ‘no’. Usually the client goes away without booking which is good because I don’t want to see them. In the instances when they do book (paying the normal rate) there’s usually hassle: they either cancel last minute, turn up late or when it comes to paying their credit card doesn’t work etc. There’s always some drama to their session. Asking for a discount is a red flag to me. If my rate is too much for you by asking for a discount what you’re effectively saying to me is “I don’t think you’re worth what you think you’re worth”. That’s not a good start and in my experience it doesn’t improve so that’s why discount requests result in no booking. There’s enough clients out there who will pay the rate so why reduce it?

I did hear of a fellow provider losing a ring whilst fisting a client (you can insert your own jokes here about the client’s ring). I was told that he was sure he had the ring on his pinkie finger when the fist went in…but it wasn’t there when his hand came out. I think it’s apocryphal….

That’s it, from someone @Jarrod_Uncutwho knows. Ask most guys who do sex work and they’ll say similar. It’s got nothing to do with looks or whether the client is ‘hot’ (however that’s defined, here I’m using it conventionally as in someone most people would say is attractive) or not. I get hired by all sorts of guys, old, young, large, small, able bodied, disabled, hot and not hot. In most instances I don’t know until they walk the door. If they’re attracted by me (and they’ve seen my advert, my pics, read about me etc so I’m assuming there’s at least a superficial attraction otherwise they wouldn’t be here) then that’s a turn on for me. If they become more turned on during the session, by what I’m doing then that’s even more of a turn on. And so the more fun they have with me the better it is. Absolutely nothing to do with looks. I’ve filmed porn with some of the most attractive guys in terms of looks and there’s been hardly any sexual energy…that’s hard work! It’s not what you look like it’s what you do that’s sexy. I’ll be confident that any provider who’s done this work for any decent length of time will say the same. Client looks is irrelevant. Client behaviour is what matters.

Absolutely he does, he advertises a second cumming.

You can slip it in anywhere, I’m not fussy……….Same applies to the tip 😂

No you didn’t. You met someone pretending to be an escort. A proper escort would not have behaved like that. If you did anything wrong it was probably when you decided to hire him because it seems you didn’t hire a professional. Sorry it happened to you.

Yes this is highly regulated. The Association for Sexwork Knowledge (ASK) has a pamphlet that stipulates the exact content of an erotic massage. The pamphlet describes that all erotic massages must include at least 3 touches of the client’s genitals (and the final or 3rd touch has to keep hold until the client climaxes or the time runs out). A minimum of one nipple must be tweaked and at least one ball gently cupped or caressed. If the client has a non standard number of nipples or balls the masseur has to ensure that 50% of the total ball / nipples available have to be touched. Clients with a preference for bum work should indicate this either verbally or by parting their legs wider than table width. If the client does this then the pamphlet requires that the masseur insert a lubed finger (spit acceptable if no lube is available) past the first knuckle. The pamphlet is called Hire for Intimate Massage. In short it’s the ASK HIM document 😉

Tipping is definitely welcome in London. Particularly in the area of my studio. Inside it in fact. In my hand. 😉