Jamie21

I did do a tandem sensual massage for two lesbians one time (tandem massage is two tables, two masseurs, two clients, massaging next to each other, the masseurs switch tables part way through). I’m bi, so was the other masseur. Before the session we wondered whether the two lesbians would interact with us in any way. Despite us being naked and available to touch the lesbians were only interested in receiving touch and got turned on by the proximity and sound of their partner enjoying their massage. They both climaxed at the same time. So unfortunately we didn’t turn them straight 😕. Probably made them even more lesbian. I find ‘straight’ women are much more relaxed about same sex activities than ‘straight’ guys. I’ve been at parties with straight couples and the women play with each other easily whereas the guys are really anxious about doing anything ‘gay’. It’s like they think if they let me touch their cock within 5 minutes I’ll be balls deep in their hole…and they worry they might enjoy it 😂.

Here’s a challenge / question for you. In my other line of work I make massage porn films (quick promotion- available on my OnlyFans and Justforfans 🤪). One of the ‘guys’ I’ve filmed with is a lovely trans guy who has a vagina. The rest of him is very much male (hairy, muscles etc). He’s great and I enjoyed the filming with him, so much so that we’ve done two films now. I’m bi so the presence of a vagina wasn’t an issue for me (I understand how they work 🙂). But how would you handle a guy with a pussy? I’m genuinely interested, would it be a turn on when you look at his body and then 😱when he takes off his underwear? All my films are with guys and I expected some criticism for filming with a trans guy and showing me fucking him (in the vagina) but apart from one negative comment the films were received positively. I think that’s because apart from the vagina he’s very male. It looks like two guys having sex.

Many of my clients are straight when they walk through the door, but gay when they leave. Isn’t that fabulous 😉

I see guys regularly checking out my profile, not daily but very often, and they never make contact to book or ask questions. It is strange but I don’t mind. There’s pictures of me all over the web so I guess some people look at those too so why should I be bothered by regular visits to my advertising? I think it’s probably guys who are building up to booking. If hiring a guy is new to you, and if you’re also new to being with a guy, maybe you’re exploring your sexuality then it can take a lot of courage to build up to making contact. I like helping those kind of clients so I’ll not do anything to discourage them.

I agree with @AJDalton, it’s a read the room situation. A few clients are so horrified that they’re with a sex worker after they’ve cum that they want to be up and out of here immediately. It’s like the guilt and shame immediately kicks in as soon as the first splash of cum hits their belly😂. I like to give them plenty of time to come down from the moment. I usually do head massage (or surprisingly foot massage is fantastic after a climax) so they can get into a totally relaxed state. If the climax has been early in the session and if he’s able to have a second coming then it’s been known for me to start playing ‘down there’ again and get him going for a speedy second load. It’s interesting to take someone from zero to 100 in a short time. Most however just like the slow return to normal and some cuddles. Lovely.

Agree. I’ve declined other clients in the past because I’ve got a booking and I’ve made a commitment. I’ve travelled to the clients hotel, or place, spent time preparing, making myself mentally and physically ready to see him….and then I either get ‘oh I changed my mind’ or some what sounds like a lame excuse or worse just complete ghosting. I feel like a fool for having taken someone seriously. I’ve lost business and wasted my time. But I’ve learned and now I can tell with 95% confidence who is a flake. What I do agree with some clients comments is when unscrupulous and unprofessional providers accept bookings, even deposits and then flake on the client. That’s totally unacceptable. But my advice to clients is to book with your head, not your dick. If he responds lackadaisically, wants a deposit without good justification, seems too good to be true, is evasive with details, has few reviews or they are too unrealistic, or he’s suddenly appeared on platforms, then use your common sense. Good providers will be professional in all their dealings with you. You won’t see any of these red flags if you book a good guy.

It’s not quite as simple as that though. I’m up for clients filming their session with me, but only if they sign a consent and release form (online) for me to publish it on OnlyFans. You can’t simply publish a film on Onlyfans without all the participants agreement provided on the Onlyfans platform. Most clients, when confronted with putting their real name and ID into OnlyFans decide they’d rather not do it! So no filming happens. I’m ok if they want a few pics or a short clip but that’s just for them to keep, it doesn’t get published. Filming the whole session for them to keep is not happening, it’s too intrusive and distracting. Yesterday I had a client want a couple of pics of me and him during the session so he could show his wife. Happy to oblige with that.

It’s the worst part. But you can learn to spot the signs of a flake. They all have them. Long chats for over an hour on the plans is a definite red flag for flakiness. If the chat goes on for ages about what they want to happen then basically I discount the booking as being unlike happen and I won’t do anything to prepare or commit to it. When the time comes to commit (last minute to douche or travel or whatever) I send a message asking him to confirm and if I get no response then I take it as a cancellation. Nothing lost on my side except the time chatting. What happens is like @PhileasFoggsays. They book when horny. When the time comes they’re no longer horny and the prospect of a real situation freaks them out. It’s usually guys on the down low. They watch porn, think it will be fun, build up a fantasy while booking and then come the day it’s all too much so they go quiet and ignore you like you’re just some loser who doesn’t deserve the respect of a message saying ‘sorry I changed my mind’. I keep their number, because sure enough in a years time they’ve forgotten, it all happens again and this time when they message me I can say ‘last time you no showed so I’m not dealing with you, goodbye’.

I never do sessions where I don’t know the other guy. I need to be comfortable with who I’m working with. If I was a client booking multiple providers my advice would be to book your favourite guy and then ask him for suggestions of additional guys. He’ll go to those guys he knows are good. You can then choose which of these you like and the chances of getting someone who will derail the session will be zero. Get your main guy to do all the arrangements over fees etc and you just settle up with him.

This happens the other way around too. I ran into a client at a naked beach in Mykonos. He was with his husband. He saw me walking along at the edge of the sea. Told me he recognised my cock first 😂.

I agree the rates with the guys I’m working with and simply quote the client the total rate. Almost every time the split is equal between us but occasionally a guy has a higher rate. That’s fine, everyone needs to be comfortable doing the job for a rate they’re happy with.

I’ve filmed a porn film with him. Great guy, big cock. Even bigger than mine 🤪

They might outwardly present or describe themselves as straight, many are married (I see a ring on their finger), some tell me they are exploring, occasionally they say I’m their first experience with a guy but if they’re contacting me they aren’t 100% straight. I don’t think it matters. I just want to know what they are looking for not what label they give themselves.

I’m always surprised when the client wants to top me bare and he asks if I’m on prep. I am of course, and I’m fine to get fucked bare, but me being on prep should be of no interest to the client. I tell him, it’s protecting me, the important question is are you on prep. Amazingly some aren’t on prep yet they’re happy to bareback. What they should ask is how frequently I get tested.

I’ve been hired for this kind of thing. Sex isn’t the point of the hire, nor is massage. It could happen but the purpose of the session is connection, companionship and closeness (physically and emotionally). If those things are achieved then sex sometimes happens just because you’re intimate with someone. There’s no pressure or expectation to have sex. We have done things like have a meal, bathe together, watch TV, go for a walk, visit a sauna, swim, gym session, lay in bed cuddling. The important thing is you do what the client wants, focus on them.

It’s happened with me a couple of times where my client has asked if they can swap roles for a little bit of the session. They were ok at it but it makes me anxious and I can’t relax, maybe because I think they’ll do something wrong and injure me. I much prefer to be giving the massage.

Lube up your hole before you travel.

That’s not a barrier for me to be able to release. I can get there (you just play a scene in your head that gets you there) but what is a barrier is how many times I’ve cum already that day. If you’re a client and you definitely want him to cum then tell him when you book so he can save it for you.

Yes, book in advance. I’ve someone booked for next May! That’s extreme. If you leave it to ‘hey are you available today?’ I probably reply with ‘sorry I’m busy’ because I plan things ahead. I’ll probably have someone booked, or another commitment. Last minute rarely works. Last minute clients are usually flaky anyway; they haven’t mentally committed to it, it’s a whim. ‘Hey, free now / next hour or so’ is a big red flag.

Yes there is a look that content creators will go for. I film with some extremely sexy guys, they look fabulous but let me say that that doesn’t mean they’re easy collabs. What you see in the final edit belies the fact that there may not have been much chemistry. The action is performative. We get a decent looking film but there’s not really any 🔥. Whereas sometimes with ‘average’ looking guys who might think they couldn’t be in porn there’s absolute fireworks and insane chemistry so the film works great and you can see we are really into each other and it’s hot. That’s why I like to mix it up and film with all sorts of guys. If you live somewhere with lots of OF creators try asking a few if you can be in a film. You’ll need to do release forms and provide ID etc for it to be published but that’s reasonably straightforward.

I’m not familiar with Tinder, but I do know Grindr although I’ve not used it in ages because I got banned from it (it’s now on my spare phone lol). Does it now have a matching feature? I thought it was just pages of nearby hookup opportunities? I have found guys to film content with me for my JustforFans from hookup apps or other similar sites. It’s more difficult to find random guys for my Onlyfans though because Onlyfans have more stringent processes to ensure release forms etc have been completed. Many guys make a lot more money from filming Onlyfans films than they do from seeing clients. This is why I think they prefer to just do Onlyfans. The content grows subscriptions, so that it’s possible to earn tens or even hundreds of thousands a month without actually doing anything. If you have a strong catalog of films and have months worth of content yet to be published you can take a few months off work yet still earn from subscriptions. It’s much easier and more flexible than seeing clients in person.

No it means it’s smooth. Sugaring is like waxing - hair removal for a smooth peach!

It’s an interesting corollary to the ‘do you share that you hire’ question. Do providers share that they are hired? I share with most of my friends the fact that I’m a sex worker. Those I don’t tell are some who I think might disapprove. I suspect a few who do know what I do think that it’s not a good thing but mostly my friends are positive and curious about it. A couple of friends do the same or similar thing to me and with those I can be completely open and I know they don’t judge me. It’s sad that so many people have misapprehension about what sex work entails, and why people do it, including why people hire. I was one of them before I started. Now I have a much better understanding of what it involves, what clients are like and honestly… what an interesting job it is. I wish more people could understand it.

Interesting! I feel like some of my clients have trained me. One particular client I can think of: we’ve never discussed it, nor commented afterwards but the arrangement is that at the start of the massage about 10 minutes in (always) when I’m standing the head end, he lifts his head up from the cradle, takes my cock in his mouth and sucks me to completion. He then swallows the load and we carry on with his massage to an ultimate happy ending for him. I make sure that when he books I’ve a nice load ready, and of course that I haven’t eaten asparagus in the preceding day. I can’t remember how we got to this understanding but it must have involved some training of me, especially because I’m never that bothered about client blow jobs (few can do it well), but this guy is an expert. It’s unusual for me to cum from oral alone but he manages it.

Yes tell him you’d like him to decide the pace and positions etc but try to avoid being over prescriptive. A good guy should be able to work out what you like and even show you things you never knew you liked.