Jamie21

People get embarrassed to ask, especially in writing. It can make it very difficult. I encourage guys to be clear because it’s not going to offend me but still they are reluctant. Perhaps they don’t want a record anywhere out of fear of lack of discretion or even getting into legal trouble in those backward countries where it’s unlawful to hire for sex (yes I’m talking about you 🇺🇸). I find clients can be very coy about asking. It’s difficult to guess from subtle hints and innuendo. There’s phrases that come up often such as; ‘what’s included?’ which is so open as to be pointless, ‘how erotic does it get?’ …answer: ‘It’s 4.3 on the erotic scale of course (like the Richter scale - it’s exponential 😉)’… and ‘will you be naked?’ which I translate to ‘I want to suck you’. Then there’s the text that arrives asking ‘full service?’ (and not always with a question mark)…It is at least direct I guess. And the ‘what is the most you offer?’ or words to that effect….which gets the reply ‘what is your budget?’ (actually it doesn’t because we all know that those requests never result in a booking - they’re 99% sure to be a time waster). Often guys are hyper respectful of massage therapy and will ask lots of questions about technique and areas of their neck / shoulders etc which are tight. We discuss what they’d like me to work on…then right at the end of all those questions they raise the elephant in the room and ask furtively ‘and how does it end?’ …I’m often tempted to say ‘I like to spoon for a short while after I’ve bred a guy’ but that’s probably over promising so I just send a ‘💦😉’ which seems to be sufficiently subtle for these ‘I’m booking a legit massage’ buyers. If there’s a specific activity you definitely want then you just have to ask directly. If that’s difficult, find a porn film that shows the action and send him a link - even better if your guy is in it!. I get a few clients sending me links to films I’ve done saying ‘I want this please’. It’s nice to know they’ve watched you, and as someone once said ‘a picture is worth a thousand words’.

Could be the inclusion of kissing. That does change the dynamic of a session. Like you say, his rates your choice.

Yes! I find lots of clients aren’t sure what they want. They might tell me or think that they want to be pounded for hours but they don’t really want that when you get under the surface. Clients ask for physical activities because that’s easy to ask for. But what you have to think about is how the client wants to feel. I translate the physical requests “pound me for hours”, “lots of body contact”, “wear short shorts when you open the door”, “work hard on my glutes” into how they want to feel: ‘like a slut’, ‘desired’, ‘seduced’, ‘carefree’, ‘not judged’….that kind of thing. What people ask for is not necessarily what they want.

Works both ways. Last week I had an enquiry about availability via RentMasseur. He asked if I was available in the next couple of days. I replied within 10 minutes to advise my availability….no reply back from the client. Ok so I’m the service provider, he isn’t obliged to reply if he’s no longer interested or he can’t do the times I offered. If he asks again though, I’ll take into consideration that he’s probably flaky…

But if he shares his Grindr cruising with you that’s a different thing. I had a client who liked me to go on Grindr while I was with him. I’d show him the messages, ask him to help me reply, and scroll through guys with him discussing who we liked and why. If there was someone we both liked he’d ask me to message them to see if they wanted to join us. Of course because it was Grindr the guys we messaged were never available now (always some excuse….) and tbh I think if we did get someone to agree to visit my client would have panicked!! However it was a fun diversion between our play and he enjoyed the vicarious experience of being me on Grindr and directing my replies and who I should message.

I’m interested to hear what they say. They’ll want to know how the licking felt (was it ‘ohh that felt nice’ or was it ‘go deeper…ugh…yeah…ugh I’m gonna blow!)? They’ll also need to know if he’s naked, how hard he is and is there a bottle of lube easily to hand? None of these in isolation means it’s no longer therapeutic but a combination of 2 out of 3 means it’s now a non therapeutic massage. You’ll probably get notified by the licensing board. They send a man round and he puts a sticker on your hole saying ‘no entry’ if it was a therapy massage.

I did, and because Elon fired everyone there there’s no reply from them apart from an automated response. They’re hopeless.

Yes! All my pictures are me. It’s pointless using someone else’s pictures. Although there’s someone on X who is using my pics and videos and pretending to be me. That’s annoying.

I’ve considered advertising on MFinder but the cost seemed prohibitive. I only advertise on RentMasseur and seem to get sufficient business from them. I also advertise on a couple of other UK focused sites (that are free). I guess my pictures and style fit the RentMasseur vibe!

Depends how long your legs are 😉

When guys post unsolicited pics of various body parts - holes or whatever - they’re doing it for themselves not for the viewer. Whether some will like to see it or be repulsed is not of much concern to the pic poster. The important thing is to be seen. Pics and videos of my hole are available. You know where 👀

I thought you were going to follow that up with ‘….so long as it reaches the ground when he stands naked’

It’s a very different dynamic indeed massaging a female client to massaging a male client. The female arousal cycle is slower, goes in plateaus and is more intense when it finally reaches a climax. There needs to be more than just physical stimulation. Very different indeed to a guy. More complicated.

Because it’s generally variable. In theory I’m available 24/7. In practice it tends to be 10am to about 9 on weekdays, daytime at weekends, very limited on Sundays (obviously I’m at Church). It’s better if clients ask for whatever time they want, and the further in advance they ask the more likely it is I can do it. Those that ask ‘are you free now or in the next couple of hours’ invariably get told ‘no’.

No, and when I top, nor do I want to go at it for hours. It’s actually quite unimaginative to do so. I prefer to mix it up; inside for a bit, then suck, swap roles, then go back in, then cuddle a while, rim each other, kiss. It’s much better than pounding away for hours.

Reading this makes me extremely sad. Some fantasies should stay just as fantasies, because often the reality is never as good as the imagination. But when a fantasy is simply to be free, well that’s one that everyone deserves to feel. I hope you find it. Never give up on it.

The only 100% safe way is complete abstinence. But that’s no fun and a fairly grim way to live. You could explain your concerns to your masseur before booking and ask him his status. Also ask to book him just after he next gets tested and is all negative. Obviously that’s still no guarantee, he could have caught something recently etc. but it might help you to overcome your anxiety enough to try sucking!

Pussy isn’t usually available with male massage…

Definitely don’t try to hire via OnlyFans, it really doesn’t like it! I get a few messages on my OF from guys looking to hire and I can’t risk responding. The platform bans you if you discuss such arrangements with potential clients. I direct them to my X (Twitter) where they can send a direct message. JustforFans is fine about it though 🙂

The best bottoms will position themselves so that I can get in easily, they’ll squeeze, they’ll be vocal (encouragement is good) and they reach round and stroke my balls (intermittently). If they want a guaranteed quick load then it’s best to get me close by a hand job then I’ll put it in for the last few thrusts. I’ve got used to cumming outside of the bottom though, through filming porn, so it gets more difficult to shoot inside. I instinctively go to shoot on his hole and then push it back in 😂.

A little stiffness after a good workout is a sign that the workout was good. Rest up and do it again soon. You’ll get used to it.

That’s it. It’s not really about massage, sex, cocks, cum or all those physical urge things people tend to think of when they think ‘sex work’. Those things happen of course but within a context that’s all about the client (a bad word but the only one that’s coming to me now) feeling approved of, desirable and safe. So many people can’t be themselves in their daily lives. The hour or so they spend with someone who approaches the work like @Simon Suracidescribes is their opportunity to be completely themselves, and to feel that that is ok and they are ok. I saw a client recently who told me that for years he’d been hiding his true self by playing a role that his circumstances (family, religion etc) and society had expected of him. He said he’d been working up the courage to come to me for two years since he first saw my website. Finally he’d overcome his anxiety and booked. He had scheduled a 2 hour session. I usually start those with an undressing before the client gets on the table. He wanted that so I put a blindfold on him, set the scene, snd started the undressing. Let’s not go into the details of how an undressing unfolds. All I’ll say is that it can be intense. My client was so overwhelmed with emotion, of the unburdening of his feelings, the release of years of repression that he suddenly collapsed in my arms. Given that he was a tall well built man all I could do was ease him to the floor with me. As we lay there, rather incongruously beneath the massage table, he took a few minutes to regain his composure and explained to me how he’d become overwhelmed by the situation and the reality of meeting himself. After a drink and a sit down more comfortably, a chat and a long cuddle he lay on the table and I proceeded with the massage. That client may be an extreme example, but I think he’s not so unusual. He needed to feel approved of as himself, which had never happened before because he was never really himself. For the 2 hours (at least after he’d got over the release of emotion) he was with me he could just be him, without judgement, without anxiety, without shame. He could feel accepted and approved of. If he had to go back to playing a role (and don’t we all?) then he now had the knowledge that somewhere at some time there’s the real him accessible, and that there’s nothing atall wrong with him. Not every session is like that (I couldn’t handle the intensity!). Many are simply ‘feel good’ massage sessions, a sexual release and a bit of ‘me time’ but a lot are the kind of session where you really help someone work something through. I like the ability to enable that for those clients. It’s beautiful.

The ideal client books 2 hours, gets excited, cums after 15 minutes, decides he’s satisfied, pays full price and leaves happy….. I joke 😂 ( but there is an element of truth in it!!). Truly, the ideal client books easily (no endless questions, pics requests, back and forth etc), turns up on time, is clean (showered etc), is respectful (as in treats you like a human being…) pays the agreed price…and books again. That’s basically it. I don’t mind if they just lay there and enjoy it without responding or if they want to touch me back and interact. What I’m interested in is that they enjoy themselves, however they want to. That’s most important to me. That’s why I love doing it, because of the satisfaction of knowing someone had a great time. Nothing beats it!

That’s interesting. I’m fine with my own cum. I think the thing with eating or having your own cum in your mouth is that guys are usually grossed out by cum only after they’ve cum, so trying their own is kind of difficult. Beforehand the thought of it is hot: after it’s gross. I’m past that! It’s hot always 😂

Possibly, he seemed quite anxious about it though.