Jamie21

It’s indicative of an unprofessional approach to your session. Avoid those guys and book someone who takes the work seriously.

I never talk about other clients with clients! Strict rule - absolute discretion. I’m fine to discuss other providers who I know, to give my perspective on whether the client would like the guy. I think the general rule I use is that if you can’t say anything nice or positive then don’t say anything atall.

That’s wrong of him, if it was discussed beforehand as being included. I think you were right to wrap it up.

That’s interesting that they finish when they finish so to speak!! If I cum early in the session that’s not the end of it. I think if the client booked an hour or whatever time and my view is that’s what they expect. In general I won’t cum and that’s usually fine with most clients. However some clients specifically want me to cum and I prefer to know that in advance. I had a client last week who wanted me to cum on his chest. He’d booked 90 minutes and got his load after 30 (his choice). Trouble is he wanted another one later on…. I didn’t have any more clients so he got the second load (then he came himself) but I found it very challenging.

If you’re in the UK Sleepyboy.com is the main source for escorts.

Many factors come into play with these role situations: sometimes being top is a convenience because I’m not prepared to bottom. There’s also expectations. I’m hung so people assume I’m top, but that can also mean that despite wanting it, they’re too anxious to take it. Also perceptions of dominance for the top and submissiveness for the bottom. I like to play around with that and be a dominant bottom or submissive top, or switch from being a dominant top to then passively taking him as the bottom. I like to explore these things. I find lots of guys pick a label and then live up to it, but that wouldn’t work for me.

I’ve learned that you need to set boundaries doing this work. It’s easy, and tempting to take clients at any time, even changing your plans to accommodate a client. Unfortunately that’s a recipe for dissatisfaction because you fail to make time for important things. Keeping fit is an important part of the job, just as making time for yourself. It’s not a 9 to 5 job (thankfully) but that doesn’t mean you work anytime 7 days a week. I carve out time to go to gym, see friends etc and I generally won’t cancel those things to see a client, especially if it’s a short notice booking, which a lot are.

That’s a very thoughtful and helpful response. Epitomises the value of this forum! I can give some perspective from the provider side….or at least my perspective as a sex worker although I wouldn’t assume that I’m representative of all. Firstly I’d say that it’s understandable that one might have reservations about paying for sex. Society (and religion) has done a great job of conditioning us in that respect. But I don’t accept it. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with buying or selling sex. What’s wrong is where the parties to this transaction are disrespectful towards each other or there’s coercion on either side. If it’s done with good intentions on both sides then my view is there’s absolutely nothing wrong with it. I won’t let society decide this for me. I think many good sex workers would welcome you to book with them. I work with all genders, it doesn’t matter. What’s important is their intentions and whether they’re respectful. Good luck with your search and in your relationship.

Consider that a masseur’s pricing is his way of screening out clients who are not the kind he wants, and to limit the number of bookings he has to fit his capacity. You might look at his ad, pics etc and say he’s pushing it. That’s his intention - he’s screened you out without even having to handle your enquiry. There’s loads of potential clients who want to pay a lot less than £130 or so a hour for a sensual massage. Or even pay nothing…just look at the numbers looking for ‘massage exchange’ where they expect a massage for free in exchange for giving one back. That end of the market is big. One could fish there for business by setting a lower rate but you’d get all sorts of time wasters, cheap clients and those who know the price of everything but the value of nothing. I certainly don’t want those kind of clients. If they do somehow contact me their first question is often “do you do discounts?” or “what’s your best rate?”. Those clients don’t get to book. When I first started I had an enquiry from a client who asked about my rate. He said he really wanted to book but my hour rate was too much for him and would I discount? He said he’d “definitely become a regular” (a common phrase used by such clients by the way). I declined to discount it so he went away….for a week..and then asked again. Same response “no discount, sorry”. Eventually he agreed to the rate and booked an hour. I was surprised that he actually turned up on the day, but he did…and had the massage, which he said he enjoyed. I always ask for payment afterwards and at this point he says “oh I’ve only got £x on me, is that ok?”. I said “no, we agreed £y but I’ve a card reader so you can pay the balance (about 40% short of the agreed rate) by card”. He said “he didn’t want the transaction appearing on his account”. He then promised to pay the balance next time or to do a bank transfer when he got home. I declined that and told him I’d walk him to the cashpoint where he’d draw the balance and pay me. That’s what we eventually did. Total waste of time. Lesson learned: never book ‘low rent’ clients.

Rule 1. Never discount. Rule 2. Refer to Rule 1. I’ve occasionally broken some of my rules (such as giving time wasters a second chance) but never broken rules 1 & 2 and I have absolutely no regrets about that.

I can sometimes (not often) see 3 clients in a day. These are massage sessions where my focus is on the client and their climax but clients often want to reciprocate and I’m fine with that. Some of my sessions are escort type sessions where the massage goes onto ‘full service’ as they say! If it’s important to the client that I cum then I do but many clients aren’t expecting me to and that’s fine with me. I prefer that they tell me if they want me to cum. Where it’s difficult sometimes is if the client wants me to cum in his mouth as he sucks. Unless he’s an expert at it (I’ve only met one guy who set the bar on that.. he was unbelievable ..but that’s a different story!) I struggle to cum by being sucked. I need some hand work to get me there! It’s the specific requests that can be challenging, like “I want you to cum same time as me and shoot it on my face”. So I’m trying to get him off with one hand, work out when he’s close, get me close but not too close with the other hand, aim at his face. It’s not easy!

Don’t worry about it. He’s not able to hack you just by having your number. Clearly he’s unstable if simply being unresponsive to a message causes such a reaction. You’ve done the right thing by blocking him. Just be vigilant about any texts from unsolicited or unknown numbers and don’t open attachments from them (as you would do normally anyway). I think you were correct to report it to RM.

They exist (escort only website) but their utility regarding clients is marginal. Only a small number of sex workers use these sites. Those that do use it aren’t interested in posting reviews of clients unless the client is a physical threat or a con man. Phone numbers of these people are shared as a warning. However the main benefit of the website is the opportunity to share business information such as where to advertise, legal issues, health info etc.

Some clients ask to book the first appointment of the day. I know why! I rarely see more than 2 a day. Most clients don’t expect me to cum, and then once they’ve cum that’s their interest in me cuming done with! I sometimes get clients who ask for me to cum but I don’t make any promises. Usually it’s ok. Today I saw a client with another masseur, we did a 4 hands but it was more of an escort style session and I cum in the clients mouth (we were taking turns to spit roast him). It hadn’t been discussed except of course the client had said he wanted that kind of session, which is usually how 4 hands develop.

Depends how much cum they want and where they want it.

I prefer it if the client texts their questions or if they want to talk then they arrange a time to have the phone call. It’s not always possible for me to answer questions about activities because I might not be somewhere discreet when called. Here’s my tip to clients: text him first, tell him you have questions that are easier to discuss on a call and ask him when is best to call. I’m fine to discuss anything if I’m somewhere where I can’t be overheard.

This I can empathise with. I assume all clients want a great massage and to include a climax (of more) usually near the end of the session. Occasionally I’ll get a client who wants to move things along faster than I anticipated and then once they climax they immediately want to leave. I check if he wants head massage or more massage or cuddles etc but if he’s of a mind to go, he goes. I’m still charging for the time booked. However more common is the guy who struggles to climax. I’m desperately trying all sorts of things to get him off but he’s just not getting there and the clock is ticking up to and past his scheduled finish time. I don’t mind going a bit over if he’s close but if I have a hard stop then sometimes I have to say to him that we’re out of time.

Multiple hands massages aren’t really massages! I occasionally do a 4 hands for clients, who’s is good if the two masseurs are coordinated and good. It wasn’t for a paying client but I once did a 12 hands for a guy. There was hardly space around the table to get to him. It was too much for him and after a short while he wanted to get up from the table and he left. One of the other masseurs took his place on the table. As is often the case with a more than 4 hands massage it just turned into a group sex session. Not a massage.

I don’t take any booking that is at short notice. Too bad if they miss out, it’s their problem not mine. I get clients who ask 4 or 5 times “hey are you available now / in the next hour or whatever” and each time I have to say “no sorry, it’s best to book in advance if possible” because I’m not available. They eventually stop asking for short notice and book ahead or they go away.

My clients get the full time they paid for. You’re probably not hiring masseurs because they’re not interested in giving you a great massage.

People make these things up. It’s mischief making and fantasy. I’m utterly discreet!

I was there, sat on Chris Evans’s lap while Bradley Cooper was going down on me when I noticed Shawn walk into the room, smile at me and then start to strip. I asked Chris to dump his load so that Shawn could eat me out while I topped Bradley. Being a gentleman he obliged and just as Shawn’s tongue touched home I woke up. Damn. Seriously though, one signs an NDA to attend such parties. No one will mention anything and that’s exactly as it should be. People have a right to their privacy. I was at a sex party in London one time and one of the participants was a celebrity. I noticed a guy bent over the bed with a queue of about 7 guys waiting their turn to use his ass. I walked around to see who he was and between a sea of other bodies I glimpse his face and recognise him immediately. It then makes sense why he has a queue. If you’re wondering who it was, I’m not saying but I didn’t join the queue.

I can tell from the first contact from the client if he is not respectful. Example: recently I had a message ‘fvck now’. What kind of opening contact is that? I ignored it. It’s simple really. Turn up on time, be clean, communicate clearly and openly, don’t haggle. It makes for a much better experience for you. I’m professional, I’ll respect you. If you’re not behaving respectfully I’m not interested in your custom.

I usually start in underwear or a jock or sometimes at the client’s request I’ll wear speedos. Part way through the massage I’ll be naked, unless they want me naked from the start. Some clients like to do a lot of touching and as @Shawn Monroe said earlier they like to get me off.

This is it exactly as @Jarrod_Uncutsays. The price is the price, it relates to the value the guy puts on his time and service. If you think that matches your budget and expectations of value then hire him. If you don’t think it’s value then don’t hire him (and don’t try to negotiate down…that’s no way to initiate a great meeting). Of course if the services included are vague then ask directly what’s the deal. Unfortunately I realise in some backward places (yes, you USA) these things can’t be discussed openly but in normal countries grown up people can have conversations about sexual services…. so ask him about it!