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    Njguy2 reacted to Hot4latin in Rate question (no its not what you think)   
    Even if the provider accepts your reduced option, I have to think the massage experience may be cheapened. I would look at the cost as all-in. If you’re not willing to pay the rate plus parking, pass this time until the provider stays at a location that doesn’t have additional expenses. 
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    Njguy2 reacted to dutchal in Fellow Travelers - Paramount+   
    I beg to differ.  I think the emotional repression you see in "Fellow Travelers" exactly fits with his character.  He was so deep in the closet, so practiced at it, and so wary of the consequences of even peeking out of the closet that he couldn't get far enough out of it to have a fully emotional relationship with another man.  I think what you saw was Matt Bomer playing exactly the character he was supposed to be. 
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    Njguy2 reacted to Monarchy79 in Tipping Culture in Europe...   
    Tipping isn’t exactly “mandatory” in the US. 
    It’s a “pressured norm” in the US. 
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    Njguy2 reacted to CuriousGuy714 in Shorted time from masseurs you like...   
    For this very reason, I never schedule 90-minute sessions. You pay massage therapists for their time, so if they short you, you should compensate accordingly. By using the word “relationship” a couple of times in your post, it also sounds like you’ve grown attached to your favorites. At the end of the day though, you’re just a client to them. 90 percent of the masseurs in LA overcharge anyway, so take your hard-earned cash elsewhere if they begin to cut your appointment times short. If you absolutely can’t live without their massage, then bring it up and they should understand. If not, move on!
    Again, so many take advantage of the service they’re providing and are getting paid $150+ an hour for just a mediocre massage. I know everyone in LA seems to be millionaires but these guys are making the same per hour as someone on a $300K+ annual salary. For that kind of money, their hands shouldn’t be coming off your body until the 90-min mark.
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    Njguy2 reacted to + BenjaminNicholas in P. Diddy Giving Us a Warning   
    The one thing I'll say (and then leave it to wild speculation) is that for those of us who have been around or close to intelligence agency employees, this board is not their target market.  This clientele is not their target.
    I'd never say 'don't worry at all' and be sloppy, but that's more for those here who have a lot to lose with a family, a wife or conservative career.  Being brought up on charges of human trafficking is highly, highly unlikely at this level.
    Sure, it's possible.  But then so is winning Powerball.
     
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    Njguy2 reacted to Simon Suraci in Most Annoying Masseur Behavior You've Experienced   
    I validate your points here. Some clients have particular preferences, but most of them don’t. My suggestion: take the initiative to tell your masseur about your preferences upfront. If not in your booking process then shortly after you arrive. The pros will adjust on a dime, at least for any item over which they have control. We can’t read your mind though. Communicate. Don’t like my music? Just say so and I’ll change it!
    Aside on lighting. I have two skylights in my studio. I have no option to dim the light from those during the day. I otherwise have only dim mood lighting and I turn on my dimmable recessed ceiling lights to a medium to low level before the massage to make it easy to see and move around, dress/undress and again after the client has had a chance to slowly adjust after their massage. I keep the dimmable lights off during the massage, leaving only a couple table lamps with dark color shades and mood lights. It’s particularly nice at night.
    In my experience, the vast majority of clients don’t like making a lot of decisions upon arrival. When I ask too many questions, they tend to get annoyed, antsy, or indecisive. A lot of them have NO preference for any of the items I might mention. They enjoy some brief small talk to connect as they undress and then quickly want to get on the table and feel totally relaxed and ready to enjoy some good therapy. Sometimes I slow them down with a big hug first. I could ask a dozen questions like:
    Which room scent do you prefer?
    How much pressure?
    How much light?
    What music do you enjoy?
    How is the volume level?
    Can I adjust the headrest for you?
    Would you like a bolster?
    How about a pillow?
    Would you like me to be more conversational, or quiet?
    Do you have any injuries, sensitivities, or areas you want me to avoid?
    Are you ok with your feet being massaged? What about your head? (These are the most common requests to avoid on the body)
    Blah, blah, blah…but I don’t. The inquisition could go on and on. And you know what? The default preselected options I already provide for all these items works really well for 95% of everyone seeing me. They either like it as-is, or have no preference anyway. So I just saved some time and client frustration for the 95% by preselecting everything. I don’t even have to ask. The other 5% who have very particular preferences tell me at the beginning, or somewhere along the way, and I adjust. Sometimes it’s after the fact and I just shake my head and say they should have said something. Then I add it to my notes so I will have everything adjusted ahead of time for their next visit.
    Much of my approach is about reading the client along the way. For example, if the client seems uncomfortable with the headrest, I will ask about it and offer to adjust. The client sniffles repeatedly, so I offer tissues which I keep close right under the table plus a small trash can. The client responds physically to my pressure in a way that prompts me to ask if the pressure is ok. The client is sensitive when I touch around his underarms or feet or whatever so I ask if he wants me to avoid it. I ask if it’s ok to touch them in an erotic way. I notice a limited range of motion when I bend the knee and ask if it’s ok to continue. I notice the client goes quiet so I stop asking him questions and chatting. The client expresses pleasure when I touch him in a certain way, or a certain area; verbally, with their breath intensity and pace, moans, and the like. Conversely the client winces or tenses up and I ask them about it to make sure they are comfortable and see what I need to change, if anything. I could go on…
    Basically I read my clients to prompt my questions and maybe that leads to one or two questions rather than a dozen for every client every time before we start. It saves us both time and energy up top. I like to ask just two general questions of every client:
    1) Is there anything about your body I should know before we start?
    2) (about 10 mins into the session) How is everything feeling?
    The rest comes up by reading the client. 
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    Njguy2 got a reaction from Jay_lucas in Thoughts on deposits   
    @Jay_lucas  The business model that a practitioner utilizes doesn't have to be static approach of request deposit/don't request deposit, it can adapt to the market they use as a home base versus when traveling (this shouldn't be rocket science).  In looking at the two major platforms (RentMasseur and RentMen), and conducting a simple profile search of the word "Deposit" only 32 of 4,306 (0.74314909%) of Rentmasseur practitioners and 68 of 10,688 (0.636622%) of Rentmen practitioners outrightly state that a Deposit would be required at some stage of engagement.
    Practitioners choose what business model works for them best.   Scanning only a couple of profiles on each, it was clear that for some of the practitioners it wasn't required in all instances and for others it was a hard and fast rule.   Note there maybe other practitioners that utilize phrasing in place of "Deposit" but I don't think that would move the numbers much.   Good luck with the search of practitioners that meet your needs.   As for myself, a practitioner who would require a deposit isn't the business model I prefer.
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    Njguy2 reacted to Simon Suraci in Longer session clients are golden…wish there was more   
    ^Agree. This is work for us, NOT a vacation. Part of that work is making it seem as though it is. A true vacation to me is going where I want, with who I want, when I want, and I am paying for it with my own money because I value and choose everything about the experience and do not have to perform anything for anyone, or be beholden to anyone for my time or attention or sex.
    Good for you @Thelatin for finding an arrangement with two guys you like for such a relatively low cost. I understand it may be a big total dollar amount out of your pocket for the three days, but it’s actually a low fee per day per person when you break it down. If it works for them and for you, great. For me, I stand to make the same or more over three days taking several clients without having to entertain nearly 24/7, so the economics of it make less sense for me.
    I couldn’t do a “vacation”, however glamorous it may be, for $500/day… I currently charge $500 for two hours which my good clients regularly pay without hesitation. I charge $1k for five hours. Some of my select long term loyal clients I will do more like 7-8 hours +/- for $1k. That’s in line with what you’re paying for TWO guys, and you’re getting the extra benefit of nearly 24/7 company from each. Wowza.
    The meals and drinks, etc are not part of our compensation, by the way. Sure it costs you and it feels like you’re treating us, but that’s just a necessary and customary cost of longer term hiring. Feeling like you’re treating us is part of the emotional benefit to you. Not that we don’t enjoy food, beverages, sometimes gifts and so on, but we can’t pay our bills with meals and drinks we consume with our client or an article of clothing he buys for us during an afternoon out. All of these things are for the benefit of the client, to enrich his overall experience, to make him feel great, as much as some of it is a practical matter for us. We all have to eat.
    All that said, I really enjoy longer term hires. The best ones are clients with whom I’ve built up a good working relationship over many shorter hires. They say it’s worth every penny and more. It’s like giving someone the best day (weekend, week, whatever) of their life. Or at least the best day they have had in a long time. For some, it’s once. For others, it’s once a month. For all, it’s special.
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    Njguy2 reacted to JourneysEnd in September in Europe. Where should I go?   
    I'm in England but love to travel around Europe, particularly Eastern Europe.
    Bucharest is a fantastic city- interesting architecture in a number of styles, the biggest spa in Europe (Therme), great day trips (Carpathian Mountains, Bran Castle, Peles Castle), friendly people, much cheaper than the bigger/Western European cities. I've not been since the war in Ukraine so I don't know how much that has affected things. Timisoara, another city in Romania, is just beautiful.
    Glasgow is a fun city, a bit rough around the edges, and for my money more interesting than Edinburgh. Not that Edinburgh is a bad city, just a bit more sedate. If you're looking at Scotland though, you need to see the scenery- the Isles, Glencoe etc. I love Loch Leven and there's a lovely little hotel by the waterside and an incredible seafood cafe very close.
    Vienna is a fantastic choice. Loads to see and do. It's very close to Bratislava, a city I adore. Easy journey by train and even nicer is the catamaran trip along the Danube.
    There's lots of interesting cities in Eastern Europe to consider,: Ljubljana, Riga, Vilnius, Kaunas, before you get to the heavy hitters of Prague and Budapest.
    Reykjavik is incredible but quite pricey. Blue Lagoon is closed just now but the Sky Lagoon is just as good.
    Athens if you've not been before.
    Istanbul is amazing.
    My favourite is Malta. It has it all- architecture, food, scenery, beaches, friendly people and English is one of their official languages if that's a concern. There's a friendly gay scene in Valetta although it's small as you'd expect.
    Enjoy your trip.
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    Njguy2 got a reaction from Scott Dixon in Most Annoying Masseur Behavior You've Experienced   
    Have experienced the massage with one hand and checking the phone with the other but not recently.
    Actually taking a call during a session was the one that was the worst.  A guy who I had several sessions with before (Battery Park City NYC) back in the mid 2000's.  He was talented and was trained gave a good massage and stretching session and typically provided a nice ending.  On the last visit - the session started as normal, about 10 to 15 minutes into the session his phone started ringing he ignored it and it would ring again (repeat), he apologized and took the call.  Conversation ensued and then some strong language back and forth on the phone and said he had to go give something to a friend in the lobby (from what I overhead sounded sketchy) about 10 minutes wasted here taking the call and his redressing.  He left and about what seemed 20 minutes or so he returns.  During the interim I was ready to just get dressed and leave.  He came back and then continued with the session.  Session finished and paid, even left a tip (albeit half of what I'd normally leave).  Departed and in the cab ride back to my apt my phone starts ringing and he's calling me to say I didn't tip him enough, and that I need to come back and give him more money. Things went back and forth about the payment and I told him he wasn't going to get any more money and I just ended the call.  He started calling again, went to voice mail etc, then the text messages continued his tirade, so to end this circus I just blocked him.   I think he left the massage business not too long thereafter.  
  11. Agree
    Njguy2 reacted to + DynamicUno in What area of the body do you want touched first for a massage?   
    I'd question the guy's training if a masseur started off by pummeling my bum, unless I had specifically requested they focus on it.  Most times they start with my shoulders and neck, or work along my extremities.
    A sensual/erotic massage that begins with the scalp and light feather touches along the body before transitioning to deeper pressure work can be a fantastic experience.
  12. Surprised
    Njguy2 got a reaction from erickgreynolds in Most Annoying Masseur Behavior You've Experienced   
    Have experienced the massage with one hand and checking the phone with the other but not recently.
    Actually taking a call during a session was the one that was the worst.  A guy who I had several sessions with before (Battery Park City NYC) back in the mid 2000's.  He was talented and was trained gave a good massage and stretching session and typically provided a nice ending.  On the last visit - the session started as normal, about 10 to 15 minutes into the session his phone started ringing he ignored it and it would ring again (repeat), he apologized and took the call.  Conversation ensued and then some strong language back and forth on the phone and said he had to go give something to a friend in the lobby (from what I overhead sounded sketchy) about 10 minutes wasted here taking the call and his redressing.  He left and about what seemed 20 minutes or so he returns.  During the interim I was ready to just get dressed and leave.  He came back and then continued with the session.  Session finished and paid, even left a tip (albeit half of what I'd normally leave).  Departed and in the cab ride back to my apt my phone starts ringing and he's calling me to say I didn't tip him enough, and that I need to come back and give him more money. Things went back and forth about the payment and I told him he wasn't going to get any more money and I just ended the call.  He started calling again, went to voice mail etc, then the text messages continued his tirade, so to end this circus I just blocked him.   I think he left the massage business not too long thereafter.  
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    Njguy2 reacted to + azdr0710 in Ageist gay masseur ad in L.A.   
    @JeffsterLA   I see you joined the forum a week ago last Thursday......you'll find plenty to "trigger" you here in the forum if this guy's ad has already upset you.....though his preference is somewhat selfish, he's running a private operation and can run it the way he wants......he has politely stated his position and those upset by it can do the mature thing and just move on......
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    Njguy2 reacted to Zimby in Ageist gay masseur ad in L.A.   
    so... you would rather book with this guy?  He's being honest and upfront about what he prefers... I think it saves us all a lot of time.  Why spend time and energy on this guy... you think you're going to change his opinion?
    And then you go and insult his physical attributes?  I have more an issue with what and how you have said things than this provider if I am being honest.
    If you can't have a civil discussion about this topic maybe you should wait to post until you have had a massage.
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    Njguy2 got a reaction from bryanlaw in Most Annoying Masseur Behavior You've Experienced   
    Have experienced the massage with one hand and checking the phone with the other but not recently.
    Actually taking a call during a session was the one that was the worst.  A guy who I had several sessions with before (Battery Park City NYC) back in the mid 2000's.  He was talented and was trained gave a good massage and stretching session and typically provided a nice ending.  On the last visit - the session started as normal, about 10 to 15 minutes into the session his phone started ringing he ignored it and it would ring again (repeat), he apologized and took the call.  Conversation ensued and then some strong language back and forth on the phone and said he had to go give something to a friend in the lobby (from what I overhead sounded sketchy) about 10 minutes wasted here taking the call and his redressing.  He left and about what seemed 20 minutes or so he returns.  During the interim I was ready to just get dressed and leave.  He came back and then continued with the session.  Session finished and paid, even left a tip (albeit half of what I'd normally leave).  Departed and in the cab ride back to my apt my phone starts ringing and he's calling me to say I didn't tip him enough, and that I need to come back and give him more money. Things went back and forth about the payment and I told him he wasn't going to get any more money and I just ended the call.  He started calling again, went to voice mail etc, then the text messages continued his tirade, so to end this circus I just blocked him.   I think he left the massage business not too long thereafter.  
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    Njguy2 got a reaction from DWnyc in Thoughts on deposits   
    @Jay_lucas  The business model that a practitioner utilizes doesn't have to be static approach of request deposit/don't request deposit, it can adapt to the market they use as a home base versus when traveling (this shouldn't be rocket science).  In looking at the two major platforms (RentMasseur and RentMen), and conducting a simple profile search of the word "Deposit" only 32 of 4,306 (0.74314909%) of Rentmasseur practitioners and 68 of 10,688 (0.636622%) of Rentmen practitioners outrightly state that a Deposit would be required at some stage of engagement.
    Practitioners choose what business model works for them best.   Scanning only a couple of profiles on each, it was clear that for some of the practitioners it wasn't required in all instances and for others it was a hard and fast rule.   Note there maybe other practitioners that utilize phrasing in place of "Deposit" but I don't think that would move the numbers much.   Good luck with the search of practitioners that meet your needs.   As for myself, a practitioner who would require a deposit isn't the business model I prefer.
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    Njguy2 reacted to Cooper in The Neil Diamond Musical: “A Beautiful Noise”   
    This is definitely a show you’ll want to sing along with and tap your feet. I thoroughly enjoying it. 
    The show begins with 2 actors sitting on stage. One is (old) Neil Diamond, played by Mark Jacoby,  and the other is his therapist. Here begins the story of Neil Diamond as he reflects on his career using the lyrics from a song book. 
    The role of young Neil is played by Nick Fradiani. He’s excellent. Voice and mannerisms are just like Neil’s. 
    There’s lots of singing, dancing, and storytelling. Orchestra will appear on stage during concert like numbers. And, yes, the audience is encouraged to sing along! 
    I attended a Wednesday matinee. Purchased my tickets at TKTS. Had 2nd row orchestra. Mostly an older audience. 

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    Njguy2 got a reaction from claym in South Asia Itinerary suggestions?   
    Have been through Cambodia and some of Thailand.  Siem Riep - if you are into food - Cuisine Wat Damnak should be on your list.  https://www.cuisinewatdamnak.com  In Bangkok one of the fine dining options I did was Nahm https://www.comohotels.com/thailand/como-metropolitan-bangkok/dining/nahm   Plenty of options for more street food in both locations.   I would add in Laos to your potential countries to visit while in the region.   Specifically Luang Prabang https://www.travelandleisure.com/how-to-visit-luang-prabang-laos-7555706  a Unesco city, relaxed setting.  Great food and diversions close by.  I flew in from Bangkok, and then flew to Vientiane (capital) and onto Cambodia from there.  Seems there is a train between Luang Prabang and Vientiane; Vientiane was ok for transit, not as overwhelming as a capital city as Bangkok or Hanoi may be.   Have fun planning!  
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    Njguy2 reacted to Jamie21 in Negative vs Negative on Prep   
    That might offer reassurance (someone with recent test results would appear to take their sexual health seriously) but of course even if the results are a week old they’re not any guarantee he’s free from any sexually transmitted disease. I think the best thing to do is protect yourself and not worry about what anyone else is doing or says they’re doing. Stay safe and rest regularly! 
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    Njguy2 reacted to + BenjaminNicholas in Negative vs Negative on Prep   
    The reality is that you need to be on a form of PrEP if you're fucking or being fucked by another man.  It's readily available almost everywhere now.
    Both escorts and clients alike lie to themselves and each other about their sexual responsibility.
    Only you can protect you.
     
  21. Agree
    Njguy2 reacted to + BenjaminNicholas in Fitness Influencer, 23, Dies After Falling into a Ravine   
    Isn't this just Darwinism at play?
    The world can only hold so many stupid people at once. 
    The books must be balanaced. 
  22. Agree
    Njguy2 got a reaction from + JamesB in Thoughts on deposits   
    @Jay_lucas  The business model that a practitioner utilizes doesn't have to be static approach of request deposit/don't request deposit, it can adapt to the market they use as a home base versus when traveling (this shouldn't be rocket science).  In looking at the two major platforms (RentMasseur and RentMen), and conducting a simple profile search of the word "Deposit" only 32 of 4,306 (0.74314909%) of Rentmasseur practitioners and 68 of 10,688 (0.636622%) of Rentmen practitioners outrightly state that a Deposit would be required at some stage of engagement.
    Practitioners choose what business model works for them best.   Scanning only a couple of profiles on each, it was clear that for some of the practitioners it wasn't required in all instances and for others it was a hard and fast rule.   Note there maybe other practitioners that utilize phrasing in place of "Deposit" but I don't think that would move the numbers much.   Good luck with the search of practitioners that meet your needs.   As for myself, a practitioner who would require a deposit isn't the business model I prefer.
  23. Agree
    Njguy2 reacted to Simon Suraci in Pay in advance   
    Welcome to the forum @jackdallas. In this little corner of cyberspace, the deposits topic is akin to religion and politics. We don’t talk about it unless you want an endless, divisive pointless argument. Each side will die on hill. Nobody is changing their mind from what they already think. At best, we agree to disagree and have pizza. At worst, personal attacks prompt moderators to close the topic.
    Others have pointed you in the right direction. Look there. If @56harrisond had a nickel for every time he graciously took time to search for and post relevant links…he could hire to his heart’s content for decades. Thank you!
    Start or participate in deposits debates (battles? martyr spectacles? shit shows?) at your own risk!
  24. Agree
    Njguy2 reacted to + KensingtonHomo in Fingernails polished   
    I realize this is drifting off-topic, but I feel like you'd have to have spent the past 15 years on an isolated Island without electricity not to know who Taylor Swift is.
  25. Haha
    Njguy2 reacted to Jamie21 in Thoughts on deposits   
    If anyone wants me to read any more posts in this damn sequence of replies about deposits (they have their uses), the colour (correct spelling 😉) of cars and whether providers are competitive (we’re not) then I’m going to require a deposit. A large one. 
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