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I am biased, the dog comes before the hooker.

I'm watching the fireworks over Sydney Harbour Bridge (and the rest of the harbour), glass of a nice red in hand. A happy and prosperous new year to all, may it bring everything you wished for yourselves and those dear to you.

If you were paying him what he asked for, why would he be disappointed? If you were to pay a lower fee to another provider, will he then lower his fee? Tell him to grow up or find another client.

As someone who just recently had their first experience with a man, I will tell you what helped me tremendously. Once I narrowed down my search, with a handful of local providers, who were my type and had a fair amount of good reviews on RM. I checked them with Company of Men, to get some trusted reviews. After they passed that test, I paid for an hour of their regular rate to meet them in person. I only did this with 2 local providers. We had coffee or quick meal, and I was able to ask every imaginable question, and share my concerns about my first experience with a man. It also allowed me to see if we had a connection and real chemistry. I was able to find an awesome provider who has been kind, patient and loving, as I explore my sexuality with a man.This is not a conventional way go, and some of you will disagree with my method, but it sure worked well for me. I wish you the best with your journey.

Jeezus.

Per annual tradition: Revenue increased 6% in 2025. 57% of 2025 revenue came from the year’s top three clients, down from 62% in 2024. Last year’s top two clients retained their spots. As I’m only seeing a small number of repeat clients, revenue per client has more than tripled in the last three years. Kevin Slater

I find all of the stories in this thread to be incredibly helpful and inspirational. Being a 64 year old, closeted gay man, to all family and friends, and married to my wife for 25 years, we have no children. All of my family and friends are conservative evangelical Christians. I truly have felt alone in this struggle with my sexuality. It is my two providers, who have been supportive and kind, to an older man, exploring his true sexuality. I am beyond grateful for this awesome online community of men who are braver, more gifted and better men, than I will ever be. Thank you for all the helpful information and stories, this community shares on a daily basis. It gives me the courage to go on, and find hope and support, as I figure out how I may someday come out to everyone.

To be honest, I want a low-pressure, relaxed experience. If a provider is getting that worked up over a window shopper, they're likely doing me a big favor should they block me.

When I was 22, I couldn't imagine a day when I wouldn't get a hard-on at the sight of an attractive male. At 52, I worried about whether an attractive male could get a hard-on at the sight of me, At 82, I had trouble remembering how to get a hard-on.

I'll ask the obvious (at least to me) question: How does one get to the point of being engaged without knowing something as basic as what each other does for a living, or even as a side-hustle?

I have my first experience with an escort from RM today. I've given men some cash from sketchy sites before at a discounted rate, but this is my first time with a legit guy from the site. Hope it goes well!

Click on some ads and find someone new to be infatuated with 🥰

Merry Christmas to all. I was a naughty boy this year and Santa is delivering me what naughty boys get…so that plan worked out well.

I’ve a few clients who are hard before they get on the table. It’s the anticipation. One guy lets me deal with it by sucking him off…so it’s a happy start. He’s then able to relax and enjoy the massage and get hard again for a happy ending too. I call it a happy sandwich style massage.

You spelled cock wrong.

It's already Christmas for our members who live in Australia. Happy Christmas 🎄 everyone! Wishing everyone Peace on Earth and Good Sex with Men!

But I draw the line at "Gramps."😒

Good question! I can only speak for myself of course, but there are a few answers here. The first thing is I genuinely love meeting new people as well as sex and physical connection; that’s what drew me to the work in the first place. It’s a great learning experience to be meeting guys of many different backgrounds and lifestyles rather than just living in the bubble in which I might otherwise find myself. In terms of initiating contact, it helps that I’m an empath and within a few minutes can generally discern the type of person he is inside. Everyone in this world has beautiful and interesting parts to his character, so I look for that and connect with it. Most people despite their flaws are good people who mean well and are trying their best. We’re never the villains in our own stories. Once I figure out the lense through which someone views the world, I can understand his behavior, even when we’re very different people. I also think about the fact he likely works really hard for the money he’s spending and how everyone deserves to feel seen, understood, and appreciated—especially those of who reach out to me. They deserve connection and compassion much more than the rest of you who have not, obviously. In terms of physical performance, just the act of being tuned in to someone mentally usually gets me aroused, but of course there are a variety of pharmacologic tools from pills to injectables as fall backs. During the encounter, I can say that it’s very easy to enjoy myself with clients. Hooking up from some dating app can have me deep in my head and focused on my insecurities and what the other guy is thinking, etc, which can make it hard to relax and be present; however, when I’m with a client, there’s something very validating and liberating in the knowledge that he finds value in my company and selected me from a catalog of gorgeous men, and that sense of being chosen usually makes me feel even more connected and appreciative of what we’re able to provide each other. I don’t mean financial or physical but the mutual feeling of acceptance and validation. I can’t think of times I’ve actually been appalled by a client except for when related to certain behaviors. For example very early on when I started, I had a client ask for a lower rate to simply use some toys on me with no sex, which seemed reasonable at the time; however, without kissing or foreplay he began penetrating me with a dildo in such a rough and dispassionate way, I eventually told him I was uncomfortable, and he didn’t have to pay me anything if we could please stop. He replied “you know we have the ability to rate you on RentMen, right?” I let the session continue to preserve my five-star rating, but that was the moment I stopped considering discounts or other variables and basing the rate strictly on my time. Aside from threatening comments like that or refusal to pay agreed rates after a long session, it would be hard for me to find a client appalling, especially based solely on appearance. We’re all much more similar than we are different. Anyway, this is only my experience, but hopefully it gives some insight into how we try to quickly connect with a new client and still create a meaningful encounter.

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A happy and joyful Christmas and holiday season to all! It's lunch time on Christmas Day here, I'm doing nothing special but have a nice Pinot to open later with my dinner. In the mean time it's 23 degrees in Canberra under a clear blue sky, cooler than the 28 that was predicted but there's still time for that to change. When I worked in Hawai'i, a work colleague commented to me how weird it was to have hot weather at Christmas. I tilted my head with a confused look on my face and said, 'Not really'. Hauʻoli Kalikimaka!

If I'm wanting to do a daddy/boy scene, then no issue for me. But if a random guy at a bar calls me daddy, I will usually correct him that it is grandpa

In my experience, it can go either way. With some providers, each session improves as you learn each other’s likes and dislikes and become more comfortable together. With others, familiarity can lead to complacency, and they stop putting in the effort to make each encounter better.

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Not sure if this allowed or best here, but what the heck. Was thinking about my 2025 hiring and jotted some facts down - would love to see others. Hires - 5 total 4 new 1 repeat Where I met them 3 outcalls (their place/hotel/Airbnb) 2 incalls (my hotel) Cities where I met them (I'm based closest to Philly) 4 in Philly 1 in NYC Where they're based 3 in NYC 1 in Philly 1 in San Fran Where they're originally from 2 from US 1 from Brazil 1 from Mexico 1 from Czech Republic Their advertised positions 2 verse 2 verse-bottoms 1 bottom Base hourly rate 1 at $250 2 at $300 2 at $350 Kind of fun re-living the meetings! Happy New Year all!

Change your privacy settings so you are not seen if you are window shopping.

Go ahead with it and tell him your preparation hasn’t been fully successful. Most guys won’t mind and will have all sorts of other things you can do together that are fun if you really don’t feel comfortable to bottom. Decent providers will understand and may be ok to proceed with caution so that you can bottom anyway. Or at least you could ask him to go in and stay in until he (or you) finishes. That’s usually ok. I find it’s more difficult to keep changing positions and stop and start when the issues with mess can be a problem. If you stay in to the end it’s fine. I’ve seen clients who tell me they might not be ready and I say to them ‘I’m ok to try if you want to’. Let’s be clear; anyone who’s experienced at gay sex will have come across accidents sometimes. It’s an occupational hazard. I just clean up and carry on usually if he wants to, otherwise we do other stuff. No big deal. No one should make you feel bad if you’re not totally clean.

“Bless your heart” ain’t no term of endearment darlin’ 😅😉🤣

gee, I didn't know if I'd posted in this thread, so had to scroll through it.....nope......a little bit 'TMI' coming up, I guess....sorry!! many here know me from various in-person social meets and others here know me well from only messaging....... still very much in the closet now (age early 60s)......never had a relationship and never really wanted one (parents not always getting along might have contributed to that??).....have told only some very 'safe' (discreet) friends: mostly bisexual females, a therapist, my doctor.....no straight male or female friends have been told outright at all......I'm sure many I know suspect by now, but I'm known to be a low-key, decent, honest guy and, though they might wonder and may talk amongst themselves, they probably assume I'm just happy living alone and doing things on my own......when we all hang out, nobody asks me about a current girlfriend or my dating habits..... lived in a conservative, though definitely not holy roller religious, background through end of childhood.....parents were smart/savvy and both quietly atheist, but we all dutifully went to Methodist ("Baptists who can read") church occasionally for the social aspect and to keep my parents' parents happy, I suppose.....no hellfire "gay is a sin" that I remember at all.....church never really was important to us and I abandoned it by high school or so.....I think my Mom clung to claiming to be agnostic "just in case"...... even by 7th grade (12 y.o.), I hadn't yet realized social norms and 'how to act'.....I was not at all a wild kid, pretty much behaved myself, and did very well in school, probably so I wouldn't disappoint my parents.....had not yet learned about gay/straight/what-have-you.....I evidently was still behaving without concern for appearances because it was in 7th grade (upscale private school) that one (just one) classmate started the teasing/bullying thing (nothing physical).......it was new to me, but not at all mentally scaring and I didn't quite understand what it meant.... probably realized there was something going on with me that wasn't 'the norm', though, because it was in 7th grade when I was able to acquire a Playgirl magazine and noticed how good-looking an 8th-grader (already thru puberty) was when he emerged from the shower after gym.... fearful of busing (remember that?!) and always chasing good schools, my parents moved us to another state with a supposed excellent public school system before my 8th grade year (the private school didn't impress them, I guess??)......8th grade in a new state wasn't good at all for me.....still not realizing how a 13-year-old boy should act in front of peers, I went thru some fairly rough bullying/teasing (verbal, nothing physical) at school and you can imagine how my parents felt about this supposed nationally-recognized wealthy school district we had just moved into......my parents had a meeting with the principal and things improved just a bit, but I started to retreat/shut down a bit.... high school (9th-12th grades) was a good bit improved......we were all 'grown-ups' now and started to act it a bit.....I still was a bit socially awkward and now careful about 'mannerisms' and all that......a bit reserved and quiet, I bumped along with a few decent friends until graduation....no dating at all......no wild parties attended or arrests (still didn't want to disappoint my parents!)......where was my Dad to teach me how to act like a man??!!......other than gone half the time day and night (airline captain), I think, with my smarts and not making trouble, he was happy to just let me grow up and evolve...... attended and graduated college and, of course, all were in full adult mode and well past the immature bullying era.......had cool (straight) room-/house-mates who had fun until 'closing time' and fucked in the next room all the time while I still didn't date and dutifully went to class and went to bed fairly early......joined a social fraternity and that was pretty fun, but I wasn't one of the wild and crazy guys......a couple of the bros were evidently gay and I gravitated to hanging out with them, but was still reserved and non-committal.....by the end of college, I was in full 'denial' mode, still not dating, and resigned to the fact that I'd probably just go thru life working, hanging out with platonic friends (male and female, all straight, of course!), pursuing my own interests on the weekends.....and never dating......the earlier bullying (though by now a bit of an old memory), general societal pressure and norms, and (yup!) still not wanting to disappoint my parents (and, now, my friends) turned me off from any grand "coming out" plans...... some here may be upset that I never went thru the tough process of a formal coming out and reconciling all that that entails.....many people have told me we each handle our own story in our own way and some may think I'm just chickening out ......the therapist (tried some gay counseling at one point) I mentioned earlier told me I'm 100% suffering from internalized homophobia (very much NOT the same as homophobia!!) and that seems true....probably explains the fear of coming out, of course, and my general resistance to the 'scene' .....that therapist also encouraged me to participate in gay/bi social settings and the like (among other efforts, this forum has been part of that for many years)......yes, I realize this seems to many of you like silly baby steps at this point, but we each have a story.......

Dude … here’s what I’m thinking. Your feelings are your feelings. I think anyone would be annoyed. If I read correctly you said he was visiting his family which is not too far from your location. Family can add an extra layer of complexity. He’s going to be 30 mins late, which, due to your travel situation, would shave 30 mins off your scheduled session. Unfortunately, you didn’t leave a lot of room for error. In my 61 years it has been my experience that if you don’t leave room for error, that is a set up for disappointment. I’d say enjoy the shortened session, get what’s yours, wish him a happy new year, then head home. Yeah, the room cost extra so chalk it up to an expensive lesson learned. Trite but true - no good deed goes unpunished. I’ve had a similar situation - more than once. (I am a slow learner.) Shake it off and move on. And if I have misunderstood the scenario, please correct me. Good night.

LOL. This sounds like someone who should get as far away from customers as possible, and avoid having anything to do with a service job. Wow. Just when you think you've heard it all.

I don’t understand the issue with this exchange. The client - at your prompting no less - is just asking if you’re available, and you respond by reading him the riot act. How about responding with something like “yes, when would you like to meet?”

RM is most un-interesting these days, which is probably why I only hire every 6 months or so. But that's where I go to find a provider. As for visuals and browsing, the local Bass Pro Shop is far superior. 😜

I saw Classic Colt twice and had a good time. Once I saw his crazy right wing and anti-Semitic content on social media, though, I knew I’d never hire him again. Everybody has a right to their opinion but I just can’t separate the nutcase from the fantasy. Just my opinion, guys, nothing more.

I got my first quote at $299 today in Ft Lauderdale. It's not much of a a discount from the typical $300; but, it's a start!

Excuse me for starting a new Johnsons thread; but, all of the existing threads dedicated solely to the Ft Lauderdale/Wilton Manors location have expired. I spent Christmas evening at Johnsons Ft Lauderdale. It was a fantastic time! I entered just before 8pm, and was a little apprehensive about the new ownership and rumored changes. Except for one minor hiccup (they were low on ice early in the evening; and, it was humorous watching the several older owners quibble about who is going to run to 7/11 to get more ice), everything seemed to operate as normal before Matt's (the former owner) departure. The drinks are still lower priced than any other gay bar on Wilton Drive. That alone is reason to visit if in the area. The sign displaying each woman must be accompanied by a man was still prominently displayed, and it was much appreciated. Being a Thursday and Christmas, the club was very slow. However, the 20/80 rule applies. Just like 20% of the pods produce 80% of the peas, so to does 20% of the customers generate 80% of the income. The club on Christmas was frequented mostly by its regular, established, clientele who tipped prominently and the lap dance area was always full... Despite the tables being mostly empty. Only 1 female was present all night; and, she behaved herself and made no loud squealing noises and tipped the dances and left before too long. There was a mix of white and latin men, and one Asian man. Several of the dancers recognized me from my last visit months ago. I had especially fun time with Jackson from Colorado and Calvin from Bogata, Columbia. I had private dances with about 5 of the dancers, and only 1 (John... Not to be confused with Johnny) tried to claim he danced for 5 songs instead of 2. Thankfully, Johnsons does a great job of announcing when each and every song starts, so I knew it was only 2 songs. It was the 2nd best Christmas Day of my life (the first was sex on the top deck of a cruis ship Christmas night; but, that's another story). We'll see if LeBoy can steel my away tomorrow night 😊

Christmas Eve was cold and very wet in Palm Springs, but this morning we have blue sky and bright sunshine. Happy holidays!