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7 hours ago, DWnyc said:

“I don’t really date or hookup myself, as this job as kind of put me off all that stuff, maybe for life”

 

I don't know if it means anything,  but many of providers I've met have given me a variation of this.

Hopefully they're just trying to keep their boyfriends under their hat, but I've met a provider who seemed unable to sustain a relationship.  I know since he treated me like a free therapist. 

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7 hours ago, DrownedBoy said:

I don't know if it means anything,  but many of providers I've met have given me a variation of this.

Hopefully they're just trying to keep their boyfriends under their hat, but I've met a provider who seemed unable to sustain a relationship.  I know since he treated me like a free therapist. 

I get the being treated like a free therapist part. Mind you I have likely done the same to some providers.

On this subject I think there is a lot of academic work (more perhaps on women) on how being a provider can disrupt how one might typically view relationships (intimate or otherwise) given the transactional component.

 

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On 4/19/2023 at 6:15 PM, DWnyc said:

“I don’t really date or hookup myself, as this job as kind of put me off all that stuff, maybe for life”

 

Great point!

Without a doubt escorting will take some time from his private life, some escorts simply have to be available in case their phone rings. At the end of the day it's all about the choices we make!

On 4/18/2023 at 10:18 PM, DWnyc said:

“I saw you on Grindr and would have hooked up with you for free, but just so you know I have a rule I never see a client out of work so that’s never going to happen” 

"I block all my clients on Grindr". "I also block folks who might be clients in the future". 

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4 hours ago, marylander1940 said:

 

Great point!

Without a doubt escorting will take some time from his private life, some escorts simply have to be available in case their phone rings. At the end of the day it's all about the choices we make!

"I block all my clients on Grindr". "I also block folks who might be clients in the future". 

I think it’s also the blurring of paid vs voluntary intimacy. It can totally screw up how one views any kind of relationship (not just sexual). Being on call all the time isn’t that different from if you’re a nurse, doctor, management consultant, investment banker etc 

 

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48 minutes ago, Simon Suraci said:

From my perspective, I completely understand this sentiment. Not surprised in the least.

It saddens me if it means people feel they miss out on something or the possibility of something that could make such a difference in their lives … like one part of the brain goes numb to something 

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1 hour ago, DWnyc said:

like one part of the brain goes numb to something 

This is one of many reasons only a select few are cut out to be successful providers. It’s a sacrifice you have to be wiling to make. That’s one of the reasons you pay so much for provider services. Very few clients seem to understand this.

In the middle of all the various threads about prices and value I consider to myself this high cost of being a provider and wonder if anyone else factors this in. Across the board, you’re paying for someone to live their life in a way that requires placing your needs above their own. At least the good ones. Regardless of how attractive or well suited to your preferences they are. Remember that when you hire.

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1 hour ago, Simon Suraci said:

It’s a sacrifice you have to be wiling to make. That’s one of the reasons you pay so much for provider services. Very few clients seem to understand this

Hmm. I partly agree.  And I hope you’ll see from our exchange I do have some empathy.

I think a similar argument (sacrificing one’s needs in order to serve) could be made about several professions most of which many would argue are undervalued. 

I’m thinking nurses, Nannies, and teachers who can’t afford to live in the neighborhoods where they make impact, not to mention fire fighters, police, army etc

But it’s also not a charity and providers surely do have other options, especially the “good ones” investing time And money in training before taking the plunge or who continue to do so. I don’t mean that to sound entitled or insensitive - but I’m not sure the joy of service that for many Nannies and nurses outweighs the conditions is the same in this industry for providers.  

There’s more to say including do providers understand that clients are creating or accessing wealth that required something to be created in order to pay in the first place and that might have not come without sacrifices at that end  … but I’ll leave that for now so as not to make it sound like a frivolous rebuttal on a serious topic.

And I’ll reiterate my point earlier - it saddens me for those providers who feel unable to enjoy this part of their lives. 

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On 4/19/2023 at 6:15 PM, DWnyc said:

“I don’t really date or hookup myself, as this job as kind of put me off all that stuff, maybe for life”

5 hours ago, Simon Suraci said:

From my perspective, I completely understand this sentiment. Not surprised in the least.

 

While one can understand the sentiment, it is pathological and quite sad in my opinion to never be able to view intimacy in a loving context. At a recent party, a longstanding friend of my partner's (probably fiance's, though we haven't really yet discussed the terms of our pre-nuptial agreement) told him that he's never seen him happier. Surely that wouldn't have happened had he taken that attitude. 

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14 hours ago, Unicorn said:

While one can understand the sentiment, it is pathological and quite sad in my opinion to never be able to view intimacy in a loving context. At a recent party, a longstanding friend of my partner's (probably fiance's, though we haven't really yet discussed the terms of our pre-nuptial agreement) told him that he's never seen him happier. Surely that wouldn't have happened had he taken that attitude. 

I’ve heard providers talk of their partners. Am often curious how does that work in terms of jealousy and other concerns but it’s obviously a sensitive topic and haven’t ever really discussed with anyone. Apart from one provider who I correctly guessed was in an abusive situation and I think there was an element of “who else would have me” that encouraged him to stick around. 

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On 5/4/2023 at 2:18 AM, Unicorn said:

While one can understand the sentiment, it is pathological and quite sad in my opinion to never be able to view intimacy in a loving context. At a recent party, a longstanding friend of my partner's (probably fiance's, though we haven't really yet discussed the terms of our pre-nuptial agreement) told him that he's never seen him happier. Surely that wouldn't have happened had he taken that attitude. 

Congratulations on your partner/fiance’.  I remember you were looking at rings.  Best wishes. 

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1 hour ago, The Big Guy said:

Congratulations on your partner/fiance’.  I remember you were looking at rings.  Best wishes. 

Maybe this one:

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On our anniversary card, he wrote "Thank you for the best 2 years of my life...". 🥰

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