The one thing I dislike the most (in re: to travel)

[JB_Studio38]

I made arrangements to travel to a city 3-4 hours away for the dual purpose of a friend’s event and to incorporate some clients into my schedule. So as usual, I reach out ahead of time to previous clients  to let them know I’m coming and to see if we can arrange a visit. The 4-5 people I anticipated mostly said yes BUT, there was some maybes. Which I guess meant no, because of all, only 1 person showed up. And thankfully he did because it was a longer $,$$$ visit. 

But what I dislike the most is someone ghosting off and not responding at all, once I arrive to town. Especially if it’s someone I met before. And about 3 of them did that. Some may say I should “bet on” only 1 or 2 to show up, which can often be the case. 1 was able to let me know he couldn’t show. The others, I texted/emailed twice and no reply.

Its a big part of why there has to be an understanding, taking trips to meet clients without a deposit comes with risk. I did it, but I was able to curb some of the risk by having enough free hotel nights in case everybody fell thru, along with a secondary purpose. But it would have been a complete bust if I hadn’t had the 1 come thru. 

And even though the trip was only 4 hours away, it still ended up being 3 nights of hotels: the first night being the initial commute (which I sometimes have to do in order to get to town early enough to see people and not worry about delays but, that’s also extra money). 2nd night was event and booking, 3rd night was more rest and recovery. But 3 nights and only 1 client showing up, is part of the reason $250/300 isn’t as appealing as it used to. Even with free nights and friends discounts, I still spent $200 on lodging. If I had only one $250/$300 session: I would have essentially broke even with no profit. 
 

I know it’s just “how it is”, but that’s why I spend more time advertising in cities than actually staying there. Unless I have a place to stay, sponsored by a friend or client, I don’t like taking the risk. And staying with people is getting old too. That’s why I strategize with hotels, so I don’t have to rely on people for a place to stay when I visit a city. Gay folks can be the worse when it comes to needing to post “remotely” from their place. Most won’t allow to host, and small things can be a bother: I might as well just get a hotel room and at least have the potential to earn something. But that comes with the caveat of making sure there’s enough people following thru and showing up.
 

 

Edited yesterday at 03:38 AM by JB_Studio38

[viewing ownly]

In this instance, I can only sympathize with you if you had these 5 guys politely ask you when you'll be back in town so they can see you again, only to then go radio silent once you're actually there. 

You've been doing this for years, and dissect every minutia of how others act when it comes to your time. A great many guys are seeing you in confidence, and getting a text could create for them an unexpected uncomfortable moment depending on what they're doing. Seeing you should be at their convenience, and not hearing back if you initiated it doesn't make them bad people or flakes. 

Since you're on here, take note of the very few men who do what you do who share what wisdom they have. They very well may have the same exact frustrations that you have at times, BUT DO NOT DWELL ON THE NEGATIVE SO MUCH. They love what they do, travel from time to time, and really just enjoy the moments with men who leave with a smile, hoping a return visit happens, but not panicking if they don't repeat.

I would like to think since you've done this for so long, teaming up with another provider and sharing travel costs would be a big help to resolve so much of your never-ending travel frustrations. I've seen several men who were sharing a room with another masseur when on the road. 

[jeezifonly]

The ONE THING..?

 

Jarrod, the list of things you dislike about the line of work you have chosen grows longer every month.

It's really not up to clients in your region to fix that, now, is it?

Edited yesterday at 06:18 AM by jeezifonly

[mike carey]

14 minutes ago, jeezifonly said:

The ONE THING..?

 

Jarrod, the list of things you dislike about the line of work you have chosen grows longer every month.

It's really not up to clients in your region to fix that, now, is it?

How could you say that? I'm shocked, shocked I tell you!