Say something? If the btm isn't completely squeaky clean?

[nomad]

Maybe the douche was done early in the day or didn't clean everything out.  Do you interrupt the action and ask them to clean again (and yourself) before resuming?  Does this kill the mood?  Or you power through and don't pull out until completion?  

[56harrisond]

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[+ KensingtonHomo]

As a bottom, if there’s even a bit of a mess, I’d have to stop and clean up again 

[mtaabq]

No matter how hard you try, sometimes shit happens. Once with a provider there was a little mess when he pulled out (but before he came). My recollection is that he was wearing a condom. He very gently suggested that I go “refresh” and then come back. I was mortified but he says to me, “If we’re gonna play in the ditch we’re gonna get dirty sometimes.” (Understand this dude had a LONG dick.) He “refreshed” as well and 10 minutes later we were banging again with no further issues. There was another occasion with a little mess and dude totally freaked out. My feeling is if it happens, don’t be a dick about it - get cleaned up and get back to it. Others have said - if you can’t handle a some occasional mess you shouldn’t be engaging in anal sex. 

[+ PhileasFogg]

It’s only happened once.  It was predictably at the end of a weekend filled with epicurean delights.    He’d cleaned diligently but alas.   I mentioned it, suggested I’d wash off, then he refreshed, and things resumed.   Rinse. Lather. Repeat.

 

[hungry4darkmeat]

I’m the bottom but I’ve had a few messy situations and the best I have heard is “bitch go get cleaned up and don’t make me wait for long”. I now take extra care to ensure my spotless ness so it’s not an issue for me anymore 

[+ PhileasFogg]

3 hours ago, hungry4darkmeat said:

I’m the bottom but I’ve had a few messy situations and the best I have heard is “bitch go get cleaned up and don’t make me wait for long”. I now take extra care to ensure my spotless ness so it’s not an issue for me anymore 

Wow!   I could never see myself saying it that way unless with a sub bottom.   But since you’ve said it’s happened multiple times, I’m curious - how would you have preferred it be said?

[Rudynate]

On 6/19/2026 at 6:42 PM, mtaabq said:

No matter how hard you try, sometimes shit happens. Once with a provider there was a little mess when he pulled out (but before he came). My recollection is that he was wearing a condom. He very gently suggested that I go “refresh” and then come back. I was mortified but he says to me, “If we’re gonna play in the ditch we’re gonna get dirty sometimes.” (Understand this dude had a LONG dick.) He “refreshed” as well and 10 minutes later we were banging again with no further issues. There was another occasion with a little mess and dude totally freaked out. My feeling is if it happens, don’t be a dick about it - get cleaned up and get back to it. Others have said - if you can’t handle a some occasional mess you shouldn’t be engaging in anal sex. 

Attitudes have changed a lot on this since my younger days.  Everybody now is fanatic about being squeaky clean - there are all kinds of videos on youtube about cleaning out,  the right diet for a bottom, products for cleaning out, etc.  It used to be seen as  part of the territory - that it was unavoidable to an extent - you just freshen up and everybody gets over it.

[hungry4darkmeat]

19 hours ago, PhileasFogg said:

Wow!   I could never see myself saying it that way unless with a sub bottom.   But since you’ve said it’s happened multiple times, I’m curious - how would you have preferred it be said?

Don’t misunderstand me it was actually hot. I’ve certainly heard of much more polite ways… like “um… I think you need to go check and make sure you’re good”

[nomad]

On 6/22/2026 at 12:35 AM, hungry4darkmeat said:

the best I have heard is “bitch go 

Maybe it's just me. Never cared for the term used even in a friendly or playful way.  To each their own. 

[hungry4darkmeat]

15 hours ago, nomad said:

Maybe it's just me. Never cared for the term used even in a friendly or playful way.  To each their own. 

That’s my preferred pronoun when I’m taking dick so please don’t take offense