Escorting in 2026: Is it too much trouble?

[JB_Studio38]

Reminiscent of price is right, I wanted to make a similar question posed by @Rudynate

 

 

But I feel this way about the industry at times. Namely the few things that really get to me are:

1) Same day appointments: I understand being horny and sometimes it can be helpful. But majority of the time, same day appointments do not work. How can 2 men who don’t know nothing about each others schedule, location or availability get in the same room? I understand if it’s a regular who is accustomed to each other’s time schedule, but so many new clients try to book a same day visits. I usually have to wrap up plans to attend.

Ironically, those same clients are rarely ever available same day themselves…when I initiate it. So it’s usually better to not do them at all.
 

2) Hotels: I just spent over $200 in the last couple days on a hotel…and although the money was set aside for it already, I haven’t quite earned it back. People often ask me to host, but the days I set aside to host, people don’t always show up. 
 

3) Dismissive/annoying men: similar to the same day request brigade, it almost seems every other day/week…there’s some prick waiting to push a button. If you’re strong willed and use templates/auto reply on rentmen messenger etc, it’s a bit easier. But overall, I hate how some random can find their way onto my phone and act like a total ass: and kill my vibe. And it’s not always Timewasters either. Sometimes it’s clients too. Check yourself and make sure your tone isn’t cock, condescending or belittling towards escorts. 
 

4) Dead Cities/States: I’ve seen many cities that used to be good 10-15 years ago, now aren’t hitting much. Having RentMen as a main male escort site is not conducive. And it’s so many guys per city advertising. Some cities, I’m hardly even getting hits from RentMen at all. Even the cities with less ads aren’t always guaranteed to be busy, and like I said in #2: a DECENT non-motel 6 hotel in many areas are $100 a night minimum. I can’t wait around for 3-4 days paying that amount with nothing confirmed. And that’s why I ask for…

5) Deposits: I rarely book without them. Some clients expect us to magically pull money out of thin air (aka our own accounts/pockets) for lodging, hotels, commute, and all that’s involved: with no money upfront. That’s unfair and just not sensible in my view. It’s one thing if a guy is just like “come over to my studio/home”, but even when I used to offer that 24/7, a good portion still wouldn’t show up as anticipated. 
 

6) Hookup apps: I feel they continue to ruin the industry. I don’t feel they compete with clients, but it’s created a culture where people are expecting bare minimum. People are willing to hook up for free and with no phone number, it’s become super trashy 🚮, and it’s unsafe. If someone harms you on a hookup app and you have no phone number, good luck being found. The fact people are doing this, is reckless at best. 
 

All that said, is it worth it? I’d say it can be…but some days it doesn’t always feel like it. 

 

[+ sync]

I can understand your feelings.  I've lived enough decades to have noticed/experienced the steady decline of mutual respect and/or neutral civility across-the-board in society.  I'm not sure where to place the blame...social media/politics/stress factors, other things, but I sense that it is escalating and pollinating into the younger generations.  Maybe, hopefully it's a cycle.

                                                                                                                                                                     

[+ Alabastrine]

I was curious if any providers have experienced an uptick in scammers posing as clients on RM in 2025/2026? I know this adds to the difficulty of wading through RM communications trying to weed out the crap from actual clients. Have any of you seen new types of scams or scam patterns emerge in 2026?

Edited Monday at 08:02 AM by Alabastrine

[JB_Studio38]

30 minutes ago, sync said:

I can understand your feelings.  I've lived enough decades to have noticed/experienced the steady decline of mutual respect and/or neutral civility across-the-board in society.  I'm not sure where to place the blame...social media/politics/stress factors, other things, but I sense that it is escalating and pollinating into the younger generations.  Maybe, hopefully it's a cycle.

                                                                                                                                                                    

 I definitely think social media and politics are main ones. Lots of articles on how narcissism and social media go hand in hand. And so many in the “community” gravitate towards the social media platforms. 
 

However most of the industry’s audience are older, so I would think it wouldn’t be as much a factor. But idk if I can say that either. 

[Mark_fl]

4 hours ago, sync said:

I'm not sure where to place the blame...social media/politics/stress factors, other things...                                                                                                               

I think one doesn't need to look much further than social media. The epidemic of 'influincers' who are completely phony and people who don't live life, but document their fake life to get views and followers is frightening. 

Maybe it's generational, but I don't have Instagram, tic toc,  or whatever else they are using, so obviously I don't follow anyone on anything except YouTube which I'm sure the new generation is long over.

But when so many think the easy path to not really working is doing these things with enough followers, instant gratification and anonymity are causing a downward spiral.

[+ sniper]

A lot of people on social media lean into their social shortcomings/anxieties and have normalized not showing up to things.

[+ Alabastrine]

I saw it more as a cultural shift in how boomers raised kids post 80's- things shifted from self reliance and responsibility to being spoiled and coddled; social media was just a soapbox broadcasting the results.The internet is somewhat a "second world" where anonymity protected people from the consequences of their shitty behavior and building fake, hollow lives.It was so widespread that I think it lead to a tolerance of this when it spilled over into real life behavior with everyone being non confrontational these days (or get socially punished for doing the right thing). It's all fucked up.

Edited yesterday at 11:09 AM by Alabastrine

[Wings246]

16 hours ago, Alabastrine said:

It was so widespread that I think it lead to a tolerance of this when it spilled over into real life behavior with everyone being non confrontational these days (or get socially punished for doing the right thing). It's all fucked up.

I can't agree more.  Everybody (especially the young ones) is offended by just about everything every 15 minutes nowadays.  And when you attempt to rationalize normal human behaviors, you become the toxic villain, then you get labeled & cancelled & sent to HR for interrogations.  It is essentially psychological/social/cultural terrorism.  At the end, everyone is forced to blend in and play the fake-ass, politically correct game together just so that the fragile egos of the younglings (snowflakes???) can be preserved.

Edited 19 hours ago by Wings246

[aiseeya]

A provider calling sex-for-free as 'trashy' is just beyond.....

[+ Alabastrine]

39 minutes ago, aiseeya said:

A provider calling sex-for-free as 'trashy' is just beyond.....

I read it a bit differently: more like the apps enabling people with situational horniness and no other mutual requirement- just dime-a-dozen (I think that is what the "trashy" comment may have been aimed at) to meet up relieve each other. Most people can get laid anytime they want without paying for it, it just depends on what standards they have to filter consenting partners. I would understand a provider's frustration when that makes it more difficult to find clients. 

Edited 1 hour ago by Alabastrine