How much do you spend in a month? A year?

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

I spend about 12x more a year than I do in a month.

[j r]

On 2/23/2026 at 1:21 PM, Postiche said:

Since the beginning of 2026, I have spent 21k on escorts. I gotta slow down cause I am exhausted. There are just too many delights to sample.

we are obviously in different tax brackets. but more power to you if you can afford it! 

[j r]

21 hours ago, Pd1_jap said:

I spend too much lol. 

feel the same, but if i had it, i'd spend more. part of me thinks it would be fun to pay for a boyfriend on the side, but i'm pretty sure i'd get too attached emotionally and it would not end well.

[Pd1_jap]

Yeah if I had more cash I would just spend it on hiring more guys. 

[+ WstVlgChris]

I'm semi-retired, and my regular monthly expenses are mostly covered by Social Security and drawing down my retirement nestegg. So the money I am earning from work mostly goes to vacations and hiring. In 2025, I had 3 vacations (2 European, 1 domestic) and spent about $14,000 on guys. I consider myself lucky to have found a great regular masseur, with plenty of mutually enjoyed benefits, so I spend about half of that on him, and the rest on other masseurs and a few full-service escorts.  

[ShortCutie7]

I spent $660 in 2024 (my first year ever hiring) and about $1200 in 2025.  I haven’t spent anything yet in 2026 but intend on spending around $2400… it would be more, but I don’t have the time or funds (recently lost my part-time job).

[+ tassojunior]

I spend in EU where it's $150. For porn stars. Our older out-of-shape Americans just aren't worth $300 or more in comparison. 

Edited Wednesday at 04:50 AM by tassojunior

[+ purplekow]

13 hours ago, SidewaysDM said:

I have only been hiring for 6 months. In half a year, I have spent over $5,000. Some providers were enjoyable and others disappointing. My budget is tight due to health issues and retiring earlier than anticipated. So, I have decided to take a long pause from hiring. 

Take a permanent pause from hiring men who you are not sure will fill your needs.  Perhaps cut back on the ones that you know will satisfy you rather than stop.  Abstinence does not make the hard grow fonder, it makes it indiscriminate. 

[BaronArtz]

I live in NYC and hire mostly guys offering sensual/erotic massages.  There is a core group of 3 guys whom I hire repeatedly.  I am very happy with them.  It is rare for me to hire someone who is escort only.  I pay on average $300 per incall session and hire 3-4 times per month.  Per year that amounts to $12-15k.

Edited Thursday at 04:01 PM by BaronArtz

[marylander1940]

On 2/24/2026 at 11:49 PM, tassojunior said:

I spend in EU where it's $150. For porn stars. Our older out-of-shape Americans just aren't worth $300 or more in comparison. 

Yes, it's cheaper in Europe (including the UK) but it's even cheaper in Brazil and you also have more variety of guys. Is also cheaper in Canada, right? 

I would say at least 30% of the guys who escort in USA are foreigners. Funny that you called American escorts pricey, out of shape and older.... We all have a type we prefer that's not an excuse to shame those who buy local. Travelling to Europe just because it's cheaper.... well, at least you have a place to stay at the end of the day it might be more expensive than going to an out of shape, older American provider.

[cany10011]

On 2/24/2026 at 7:31 AM, Pensant said:

I used to spend a ton ten to twenty years ago, but now I’m down to ~2 2-hour sessions per month. Maybe it’s me, but the quality on offer has declined over the years. The real hotties are in distant cities and I hesitate to fly someone in with whom I have no experience. 

Agree. I'm finding the selection not that great these days... at least the ones on RM and even seeking in NYC are not as good as prior years. 

[Wings246]

I’m a middle-class commoner and I started this pastime last year.  My 2025 total was just around $4000 because it was my trial-and-error phase.

That said, for some strange reasons, 2026 feels very different to me.  In roughly a month (end of January to now), I’ve already contributed more than my 2025 total to this activity. 

My spending largely depends on my vacation schedule and how much extra income I earn from my side jobs.  It’s a balancing act between rewards (vacation & this hobby) and punishments (work).

[Whoisyourdaddy]

My monthly discretionary income is divided between this hobby, savings, investments, and overpaying on my bills. Some months, I'll sacrifice one of these to indulge in one of the others (or clothes, gambling, etc.). However, most months, I try to keep these four equally balanced.

[Rayphactor]

Yikes. I think I need to up my game.  In the last 10 years, I've hired five providers and spent around $3,000. When I feel I've earned a reward for my good deeds, and have the funds, I hire. I've had a mixed bag of good and poor providers.

[carnalvore]

Wow, I am minor league.