How much do you spend in a month? A year?

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

I spend about 12x more a year than I do in a month.

[j r]

On 2/23/2026 at 1:21 PM, Postiche said:

Since the beginning of 2026, I have spent 21k on escorts. I gotta slow down cause I am exhausted. There are just too many delights to sample.

we are obviously in different tax brackets. but more power to you if you can afford it! 

[j r]

21 hours ago, Pd1_jap said:

I spend too much lol. 

feel the same, but if i had it, i'd spend more. part of me thinks it would be fun to pay for a boyfriend on the side, but i'm pretty sure i'd get too attached emotionally and it would not end well.

[Pd1_jap]

Yeah if I had more cash I would just spend it on hiring more guys. 

[+ WstVlgChris]

I'm semi-retired, and my regular monthly expenses are mostly covered by Social Security and drawing down my retirement nestegg. So the money I am earning from work mostly goes to vacations and hiring. In 2025, I had 3 vacations (2 European, 1 domestic) and spent about $14,000 on guys. I consider myself lucky to have found a great regular masseur, with plenty of mutually enjoyed benefits, so I spend about half of that on him, and the rest on other masseurs and a few full-service escorts.  

[ShortCutie7]

I spent $660 in 2024 (my first year ever hiring) and about $1200 in 2025.  I haven’t spent anything yet in 2026 but intend on spending around $2400… it would be more, but I don’t have the time or funds (recently lost my part-time job).

[+ tassojunior]

I spend in EU where it's $150. For porn stars. Our older out-of-shape Americans just aren't worth $300 or more in comparison. 

Edited Wednesday at 04:50 AM by tassojunior

[+ purplekow]

13 hours ago, SidewaysDM said:

I have only been hiring for 6 months. In half a year, I have spent over $5,000. Some providers were enjoyable and others disappointing. My budget is tight due to health issues and retiring earlier than anticipated. So, I have decided to take a long pause from hiring. 

Take a permanent pause from hiring men who you are not sure will fill your needs.  Perhaps cut back on the ones that you know will satisfy you rather than stop.  Abstinence does not make the hard grow fonder, it makes it indiscriminate. 

[BaronArtz]

I live in NYC and hire mostly guys offering sensual/erotic massages.  There is a core group of 3 guys whom I hire repeatedly.  I am very happy with them.  It is rare for me to hire someone who is escort only.  I pay on average $300 per incall session and hire 3-4 times per month.  Per year that amounts to $12-15k.

Edited Thursday at 04:01 PM by BaronArtz

[marylander1940]

On 2/24/2026 at 11:49 PM, tassojunior said:

I spend in EU where it's $150. For porn stars. Our older out-of-shape Americans just aren't worth $300 or more in comparison. 

Yes, it's cheaper in Europe (including the UK) but it's even cheaper in Brazil and you also have more variety of guys. Is also cheaper in Canada, right? 

I would say at least 30% of the guys who escort in USA are foreigners. Funny that you called American escorts pricey, out of shape and older.... We all have a type we prefer that's not an excuse to shame those who buy local. Travelling to Europe just because it's cheaper.... well, at least you have a place to stay at the end of the day it might be more expensive than going to an out of shape, older American provider.

[cany10011]

On 2/24/2026 at 7:31 AM, Pensant said:

I used to spend a ton ten to twenty years ago, but now I’m down to ~2 2-hour sessions per month. Maybe it’s me, but the quality on offer has declined over the years. The real hotties are in distant cities and I hesitate to fly someone in with whom I have no experience. 

Agree. I'm finding the selection not that great these days... at least the ones on RM and even seeking in NYC are not as good as prior years. 

[Wings246]

I’m a middle-class commoner and I started this pastime last year.  My 2025 total was just around $4000 because it was my trial-and-error phase.

That said, for some strange reasons, 2026 feels very different to me.  In roughly a month (end of January to now), I’ve already contributed more than my 2025 total to this activity. 

My spending largely depends on my vacation schedule and how much extra income I earn from my side jobs.  It’s a balancing act between rewards (vacation & this hobby) and punishments (work).

[Whoisyourdaddy]

My monthly discretionary income is divided between this hobby, savings, investments, and overpaying on my bills. Some months, I'll sacrifice one of these to indulge in one of the others (or clothes, gambling, etc.). However, most months, I try to keep these four equally balanced.

[Rayphactor]

Yikes. I think I need to up my game.  In the last 10 years, I've hired five providers and spent around $3,000. When I feel I've earned a reward for my good deeds, and have the funds, I hire. I've had a mixed bag of good and poor providers.

[carnalvore]

Wow, I am minor league.

[+ Tygerscent]

It’s an interesting question. When I’m reading it I’m also interpreting different ways to read it. I’m thinking about what the expenditure is for a Client strictly for the meeting, but then there’s also preparation, time and money before the meeting actually takes place, including advertising or looking on advertisements… And then there’s the same questions from the point of view of the provider: what is their investment being hired and for each particular appointment. It’s fair to assess that there is financial, time and other investment as a provider for any given meeting.

 Since I’m a provider, it’s important for me to look at both questions from the various perspectives, especially since I travel with Clients and sometimes I’m with them anywhere from a few days to a couple of months at a time… But even for the shorter appointments, the various types of cost are present. 
 so, it’s important for me to know what my client is investing when hiring me, but also it’s a consideration on what they are budgeting for with regards to their month or their year because it may include hiring other lads for various periods of time… And I need to be sensitive about their needs there~ it’s something that I openly discussed with a number of my Clients whether it’s their needs or mine~ When a client understands their own budget and hiring needs, my experience shows me that it often benefits their overall experience. When they understand my needs, it also helps them understand why things cost what they do or whether they don’t cost what they don’t. It’s not all about justifying financial needs and ability but also it addresses some very important things about time and availability.

[BSR]

10 hours ago, carnalvore said:

Wow, I am minor league.

Me too, Single A

*sadtrombone*

[Mark_fl]

10 hours ago, Tygerscent said:

 When they understand my needs, it also helps them understand why things cost what they do 

Curious if you don't mind. What would you say your needs would be when hired long term?

[BuckCanucked]

The figures listed in this thread should be exhibit A in why we need to tax this type of work by legalizing and legitimizing it.

 

[+ DrownedBoy]

I have a line item for 1500 a month, which translates into three 2-hour sessions within my pool of regulars.

I work in tech, make six figures, have no debt whatsoever (even mortgage paid off), and live simply. The largest cash flow I pay into is savings and retirement.

Either I settle down into a marriage with a well funded retirement, or I hire a live in personal trainer when I'm older. You always have to plan for the worst case scenario.

Edited 5 hours ago by DrownedBoy

[+ Tygerscent]

2 hours ago, BuckCanucked said:

The figures listed in this thread should be exhibit A in why we need to tax this type of work by legalizing and legitimizing it.

 

Actually: I’m an advocate of that… Having their actually be a specific code for tax returns and having this designated as legitimate profession where we are taxed because it is both legal and legitimized. Also, included into the healthcare system to allow for STI screening and other necessary care that reduces the incidence rates of voidable health issues then can address drug usage etc~ legitimizing, and legalizing. This profession could especially help women courtesans in terms of physical and health safety, especially if there are the return of agencies that can pre-screen clients for them.~ 

[+ Tygerscent]

3 hours ago, Mark_fl said:

Curious if you don't mind. What would you say your needs would be when hired long term?

Well… the longer I stay with a Client the more important it is to have a sense of my overhead. For example, if I’m with a client for two months, I charge differently and I use a formulary because there are every day expenses like car insurance and health insurance, phone, and Internet, basic life expenses that I need to pay for even if I’m with a client and they’re paying for my food and traveling while I am with them. 
 Depreciation on things like phones and computers, and there’s advertising, Dental and optical all of that. So, I need to be able to cover my monthly expenses if I’m traveling with somebody for a very long period of time. Especially considering that I’m not charging them my 24 hour rate because that would just be incredibly expensive and a greater expense than even the trip we’re going on. So, what I charge has to be fair to them so that they can actually hire me but also for to me so that I actually covering my daily living expenses outside of the higher and also making sort of a profit~ 

 handles longer trips, the price really fluctuates, depending on if I am paying upfront for certain expenses and being reimbursed, and what they are covering during the trip. Longer trips like that it’s really unique to that particular trip.

 Shorter yet still extended periods of time like a few days or a week or two weeks are much less intricate and fall into a price point that is closer lead to an hourly or per diem rate

 

2 hours ago, BuckCanucked said:

The figures listed in this thread should be exhibit A in why we need to tax this type of work by legalizing and legitimizing it.

 

 

3 hours ago, Mark_fl said:

Curious if you don't mind. What would you say your needs would be when hired long term?

 

[Peter Eater]

On 2/23/2026 at 10:21 AM, Postiche said:

Since the beginning of 2026, I have spent 21k on escorts. I gotta slow down cause I am exhausted. There are just too many delights to sample.

Hm. That works out to $355 per day. Keep it up (pun intended), and that will be about $130,000 for 2026. 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

9 hours ago, BSR said:

Me too, Single A

*sadtrombone*

[Postiche]

3 hours ago, Peter Eater said:

Hm. That works out to $355 per day. Keep it up (pun intended), and that will be about $130,000 for 2026. 

You are absolutely right. In the past week, I added another 5k to my spending total. I don’t think I have ever spent more than 75k a year.  Looks like I could exceed that, if I don’t curb my desires for immediate gratification.

Edited 20 minutes ago by Postiche