iMessages-Read Receipts not turned on

[JockdudeP]

What do you think about escorts that use iMessage but don't allow potential clients to know whether they've received/read a message using It, even after communications are established.   

[ShortCutie7]

I’m not an escort, but I don’t have read receipts turned on for my personal iMessages- I think it’s an invasion of privacy to have them turned on, plus (for example) if I accidentally click on a message without reading it, it would look like I’m intentionally ignoring it.

[danteig]

I have them off because there’s people I don’t want to reply to…

[MikeBiDude]

Mine are always off…

[DMonDude]

Anyone who has Read Receipts off are people who like having peace and not having people who are socially needy pestering them about "omg why haven't you responded yet? I see you read my message!"

Read Receipts is one of the worst things that's ever happened to texting/messaging lol.

Edited January 29 by DMonDude

[MikeBiDude]

9 hours ago, DMonDude said:

Anyone who has Read Receipts off are people who like having peace

Not to mention frequent use of “do not disturb” feature.

[+ Act25]

The only person I've ever allowed to receive a read receipt from me was my boss (the owner of the company).  And I'm retired now so no one gets them.  None of their business. 

[TorontoTwunk]

I've never had mine on, as one user mentioned it's an invasion of privacy. 

[+ PhileasFogg]

Mine are only turned on for select people.  My view for the escorts is that they get a lot of texts.   What if they open one, don’t have time to reply…then you’re wondering why they’re not replying when in may simply be they have other pressing matters.

if we are in the middle of a trip where logistics matter, I may simply ask that they turn it on, or even in some cases, that they share location while we are traveling. 

[Mark_fl]

My feeling is that if you don't want escorts responding to other people when they're with you, give them time.

Assume they're on a weekend call and will get back to you when they can.

Truth of course, is that they're probably not, and could respond when they have a minute, but this isn't life or death.

If you need an answer timely, I'd suggest letting them know, and maybe they could find a way to respond.

[+ PhileasFogg]

18 hours ago, Mark_fl said:

My feeling is that if you don't want escorts responding to other people when they're with you, give them time.

Assume they're on a weekend call and will get back to you when they can.

Truth of course, is that they're probably not, and could respond when they have a minute, but this isn't life or death.

If you need an answer timely, I'd suggest letting them know, and maybe they could find a way to respond.

Even if they're not doing a weekend, I've seen with guys who get 50-75 messages/day - triage rules their responses.

The last guy I saw in New Orleans was visiting and - because quality providers in NOLA are scarce - he averaged two clients/day for a month.   

Between prep time, appointment time, and recovery time, that's a long day by itself...and then there's little things like eating and sleeping...triage.

[JTtorretto]

Read Receipt feature is one of the best things about iPhones. 
 

I prefer my clients, friends, family etc to have iPhones for the transparency of knowing they’ve read my message.   When I meet anyone new, including a client, and they have read receipts turned off, I immediately ask for them to turn them on. 
 

Having read receipts on teaches & trains accountability (to oneself) to be respectful and answer in a timely manner.   
 

Personally, I always have my read receipts kept on as standard for everyone.   

[DMonDude]

So @JockdudeP, you didn't want an answer to your question. You just wanted someone to agree with you about wanting Read Receipts on. Got it.

Edited Monday at 02:31 AM by DMonDude

[JockdudeP]

2 hours ago, DMonDude said:

So @JockdudeP, you didn't want an answer to your question. You just wanted someone to agree with you about wanting Read Receipts on. Got it.

Just looking for different opinions. 

[italianboyph]

Mine are always off, but I also don't use my personal phone # as well. Even in my day to day life I don't have it on, because I will respond when I can.  I always respond to every messages right when I can no matter what. So being left on read is never an issue when it comes to me. The only thing I've ever had as issue with when it comes to some clients is on Rentmen. As I've had people who don't speak, but request pictures, and then leave me on read.  A lot of people may know not that Rentmen messages all have read receipts, so it tells me if every- time with those to check marks if someone has left me on read. Those little (✔️✔️) 

[JockdudeP]

Thanks for everybody's input!  My philosophy is that if you're doing some type of business, transaction or other important communication you should have it turned on.

If you don't recognize the number you could turn it off and then on,  It does give a certain level or peace of mind and still retains privacy against those "parking violations, job opportunity" scammers. 

I thought there was a time in the past when individual contacts could be toggled whether you wanted that contact's number to receive a Read Receipt or not. But perhaps at some point Mr.  Cook and Co. decided to nix it.  Which IMHO was a mistake.

 

[DMonDude]

1 hour ago, JockdudeP said:

Thanks for everybody's input!  My philosophy is that if you're doing some type of business, transaction or other important communication you should have it turned on.

If you don't recognize the number you could turn it off and then on,  It does give a certain level or peace of mind and still retains privacy against those "parking violations, job opportunity" scammers. 

I thought there was a time in the past when individual contacts could be toggled whether you wanted that contact's number to receive a Read Receipt or not. But perhaps at some point Mr.  Cook and Co. decided to nix it.  Which IMHO was a mistake.

 

I'm curious. What do you feel like you gain from being able to see if they've read your message or not and how do you act/respond after you see they've read it and how long after they've read the message do you then act that way?

Anyone who's ever asked me to have my read receipts on whether for social reasons or business/transaction reasons has only ever wanted it on so they can freak out on me if i don't immediately drop everything I'm doing and respond to them within some arbitrary amount of time they've deemed reasonable, but i didn't agree to or confirm with them. Without any thought to what else i may have going on. It's always been a "i am owed your attention" and trying to police my time thing to them. I personally don't see many if any other logical reason anyone would want/need read receipts on other than that, largely because anything you need that urgent a response for you should just call them and if they don't answer that just confirms they are not available. But if one exists i'd be fascinated to hear it.

Edited Monday at 07:34 PM by DMonDude

[Heart It Deep]

On 1/29/2026 at 11:07 AM, MikeBiDude said:

Not to mention frequent use of “do not disturb” feature.

I have mixed feelings about this.  I would be interested to know the reason behind having it on all the time. I think I'm burned by an acquaintance who is difficult to make plans with but always notifications off/do not disturb mode..

I also don't have Read Receipts on...  I want privacy and peace of mind. 

Edited Monday at 09:59 PM by Heart It Deep
correction

[MikeBiDude]

1 hour ago, Heart It Deep said:

I have mixed feelings about this.  I would be interested to know the reason behind having it on all the time. I think I'm burned by an acquaintance who is difficult to make plans with but always had read receipts on.

I also don't have Read Receipts on...  I want privacy and peace of mind. 

I didn’t mean to suggest I have it on all the time. I turn it on/off hour at a time or so…and overnight I have it on all night. I have a list of a about 8-10 friends/family whose phone calls/text break through the do not disturb…for emergencies.

[Nightowl]

My view is that it’s none of anyone’s business whether I’ve read their message.  

[Heart It Deep]

39 minutes ago, MikeBiDude said:

I didn’t mean to suggest I have it on all the time. I turn it on/off hour at a time or so…and overnight I have it on all night. I have a list of a about 8-10 friends/family whose phone calls/text break through the do not disturb…for emergencies.

The  problem is, if one of those 8 contacts calls you during sex, and you had do not disturb on.... more so if you have an apple watch and you pick up by accident.

[+ purplekow]

Why do you care if they know that you have read their message.  The non response is a response.  If I text someone and it said they have read it, I am adult enough to know that they may have other more pressing issues.  If they have not read it, especially in the middle of a conversation, I think that perhaps the message did not get through and will repeat it in a reasonable amount of time. That amount of time is determined by the nature of the conversation.  

If I am asleep or otherwise occupied, I prefer that the person texting me know that rather than pursuing other communication. So if I have not read the message, they have an idea that I may have something other than my phone in my life. 

 If it is urgent, I assume they would go old school and actually call.  

 

[+ jeezopete]

28 minutes ago, Nightowl said:

My view is that it’s none of anyone’s business whether I’ve read their message.  

Yep, I paid for the phone & I pay for the monthly service. Therefore, I decide what settings to use as well as when (or whether) to respond to a text, voicemail or call.

[+ DrownedBoy]

On 1/29/2026 at 12:57 PM, Act25 said:

The only person I've ever allowed to receive a read receipt from me was my boss (the owner of the company).  And I'm retired now so no one gets them.  None of their business. 

I had a job interview, and I got the vibe the boss was a complete b!tch.

She sent me an email with a return receipt on it and I purposely refused to send a response. It's an immediate flag for a controlling micromanager.

The next phone call, sure enough, she called that out and said she expected to know exactly when her employees read her email.

I told her good luck, and mentioned that as a financial expert, she should know that when hiring skilled software engineer help, she was on the wrong side of the supply and demand curve.

[HockeyMan]

Clients expect providers to be on call throughout the day. Expecting read receipts is too much.