Do you become less selective over time?

[Mark_fl]

Question for those of you hiring, or even just having encounters. Do you find that your tastes have expanded, or you've become less selective over time? 

With women I've been able to be attracted to women my age. But it seems with men I've only been attracted to a much younger specific type.

I feel this would preclude me from ever having an appropriate same sex relationship outside a financial one unless miraculously someone that much younger would find me attractive.

Has anyone else ever been in the same boat and have your tastes evolved over time?

[jmichaeliii]

30 minutes ago, Mark_fl said:

Question for those of you hiring, or even just having encounters. Do you find that your tastes have expanded, or you've become less selective over time? 

With women I've been able to be attracted to women my age. But it seems with men I've only been attracted to a much younger specific type.

I feel this would preclude me from ever having an appropriate same sex relationship outside a financial one unless miraculously someone that much younger would find me attractive.

Has anyone else ever been in the same boat and have your tastes evolved over time?

Young and hot, but with a mature personality.  They are out there.

[Danny-Darko]

I have found I've become far more selective over time as I've gotten older. I hire far less and figure if I can't have want I want at the moment, why bother. I was always a bit selective (picky my friends would say) with my tastes, but not as much as I've become. At my age I know what I like and want in life and what I don't want or like, so why experiment. But that's just me, I understand others have different tastes and views. Many senior men I know have become less selective willing to take or settle for whatever they can get. I understand that, but I don't feel that way.

Edited 7 hours ago by Danny-Darko

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

1 hour ago, Mark_fl said:

But it seems with men I've only been attracted to a much younger specific type.

The nice thing about getting older is there are more and more men younger than I.  Therefore, the field of men I find attractive increases every year.

[BeHappy]

23 minutes ago, Danny-Darko said:

I have found I've become far more selective over time as I've gotten older. I hire far less and figure if I can't have want I want at the moment, why bother. I was always a bit selective (picky my friends would say) with my tastes, but no as much as I've become. At my age I know what I like and want in life and what I don't want or like, so why experiment. But that's just me, I understand others have different tastes and views. Many seniors men I know have become less selective willing to take or settle for whatever they can get. I understand that, but I don't feel that way.

I agree totally!  I have always been selective!  Less selective opens the door to issues and less than desirable results!  

[+ JamesB]

I’ve become much more selective over time. I used to jump into bed with anything that had a pulse, but these days, especially when hiring, I’m far more discerning. I know what I want, how I want it, and when and I’m no longer willing to tolerate nonsense. The moment things don’t align with my expectations, I move on. Also at this point, my tolerance for drama is zero.

[+ José Soplanucas]

I have become more selective over time. When I was younger I was experimenting and trying many things that I came to learn I do not really like. Plus, I used to have a limitless stamina, so every sex was good sex because I was always able to have more. 

Nowadays, my stamina is limited and I treasure the fun time, I would not invest my money and/or time on an experience I am not reasonably confident I would enjoy. 

Edited 3 hours ago by José Soplanucas

[+ KensingtonHomo]

It seems I'm the opposite of you. I find that I'm more selective with the type of person a provider is, rather than their looks. That said, I've always been attracted to men in their 30s, 40s, and 50s. I typically don't find men in their 20s attractive and really never have. Now that I'm the age I used to desire, I haven't really found a significant change - except perhaps I now find men in their 60s and 70s attractive as well. 

I generally think that the focus on youth = beauty is very much a creation of advertising and marketing. And particularly in our digital age, we're hyper-focused on appearance when that's really only one component of attraction. I've been with my husband for 24 years, and I find him just as attractive now as I did when we met. I feel like aging also lets people become more themselves. I imagine that's part of what you find attractive in women your own age. Assuming you're at least my age, I find that at this point, most women have stopped trying to impress other people; they have gravitas and know what they want. Perhaps you can see that in other men. 

[jeffla]

I've always been selective, but probably more today than before. 

[Mark_fl]

I never said I was being less selective. Actually my concern is that I won't be. So far I'm the same as ever.

[+ PhileasFogg]

I’m considerably more selective and more focused on making reliable, drama free, sober regulars 

[Danny-Darko]

1 hour ago, Mark_fl said:

I never said I was being less selective. Actually my concern is that I won't be. So far I'm the same as ever.

I don't think anybody has made any assumptions. You asked, and people have answered. And surprisingly there seems to be a common consensus. But neither being less, same or more selective is neither good nor bad. These are all personal choices. It was a very good question to ask. It's given me and probably others food for thought. I've had to reflect back on a lifetime of gay sex and hiring since my first hire was just days after turning 19! Nobody is judging here I don't think. I'm appreciating everybody's feedback. 

[+ SidewaysDM]

My experience is very limited. I’ve only been hiring for a short time! But I am selective when it comes to the age of my provider. Being 64, my provider needs to over 30. Love the guys over 40, 50 and 60, as well! Because of my age, I feel like I am robbing the cradle, if I hire a twenty something! 🤣 

[Mark_fl]

1 hour ago, SidewaysDM said:

My experience is very limited. I’ve only been hiring for a short time! But I am selective when it comes to the age of my provider. Being 64, my provider needs to over 30. Love the guys over 40, 50 and 60, as well! Because of my age, I feel like I am robbing the cradle, if I hire a twenty something! 🤣 

Interesting.  I wish there was a poll option, where you could state your age range and preferred provider ranges.