Getting tired of Flakes

[+ BOZO T CLOWN]

10 hours ago, KensingtonHomo said:

Baby, you wish you were as hot, fun, and sexy as I am, given our similar ages. Never mind that my husband is model gorgeous. You often confuse me for those people you look down your nose at on here because "they have to PAY for sex." Because they're too old or too large or not conventionally attractive enough. We pay primarily for convenience and to find skilled partners. We could easily have a line of 20-somethings by just going on Grindr. 

And you're also wrong about women; probably because you don't have any women friends (except your wife). But vast, clear majorities of women in study after study prefer men with "dad bods" over ripped and chiseled bodies. 

The Unexpected Appeal of Men With Dad Bods | Psychology Today

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The non-physical traits attributed to those bodies are the key.

In praise of Olly Murs' before bod: why we don't actually fancy the ripped bods

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What is a “dad bod” and what does the phenomenon reveal about our psyches and social worlds?

 

Among Pubic's many virtues is his consistent misogyny, despite being married to a woman. 

It is, Blanche. It is. 

I have a challenge for you. Show how you write on here to any provider and let us know if he doesn't run for the door. 

Bozo had to read thru your long, nasty, off-topic rant, before he saw that you threw down the gauntlet and issued yours truly a challenge.
To respond, Bozo simply avoids the unattractive, bald, bearded, over-the-hill, inked providers. No need to be mean and confrontational with someone that Bozo finds anywhere from sexually unattractive to downright repulsive. 
As for the times that Bozo is at a strip club, and is propositioned for a lap dance (or even more) from someone with any of the above qualities, Bozo responds with a simple "No thanks" accompanied by his 10 million dollar smile.

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[+ KensingtonHomo]

4 minutes ago, BOZO T CLOWN said:

Bozo had to read thru your long, nasty, off-topic rant, before he saw that you threw down the gauntlet and issued yours truly a challenge.

Does this gaslighting work in your real life? Do people fall for it? I'm curious how you find such easy marks. 

[+ BOZO T CLOWN]

1 minute ago, KensingtonHomo said:

Does this gaslighting work in your real life? Do people fall for it? I'm curious how you find such easy marks. 

No gaslighting here. It's all true. Every word.
Just a reminder, the topic is, "Getting Tired of Flakes". What are your thoughts? Inquiring minds would like to know.

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[mike carey]

Okay Gentlemen, this topic is about people flaking on appointments that they've agreed to. It started about clients flaking on providers, but it's reasonable for it to cover instances where it's the provider who flakes. This is not about preferences or about passing judgment on each other. That stops now. Of course, if anyone is suggesting that another forum member has flaked on them, that would pass muster, but I'm not sure anyone is doing that.

[+ BOZO T CLOWN]

Bozo's usual reaction when he reads about providers complaining about no-show clients is to chuckle. It's akin to a jockey whining about having a sore ass. It comes with the territory.
In a service-related industry, there will always be no-show clients. It's just human nature. Restaurants and airlines realize it, and account for it by overbooking.
A provider should always assume there will be a certain percentage of no-shows when calculating his future profit. There's really not a lot he can do about it. Ask for a deposit? In a small market that might work. But try that in a large market like NYC, and the client will just scroll down to one of the other 300 providers out there who are not demanding cash up front. And as has been noted numerous times on this thread, it works both ways.

As the old saying goes, if you can't take the heat........

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Edited October 12 by BOZO T CLOWN

[marylander1940]

On 10/3/2025 at 2:12 AM, Sam Lankton said:

I'm a provider and I have to be honest one of the worst parts of doing this is the consistent leading on and fake-outs. How are you going to talk to me for over an hour about making plans, then talk to me the entire way through the douching process, and then go MIA the second you're supposed to come over. I'm confused, is it to embarrass us or waste our time? Is it malicious? I don't get it. I'm exhausted. I'm douching my ass out, like that isn't a natural bodily process I really try not to do it unless I have to. 

Either follow through or don't waste provider's time. It's cruel. If you aren't ready to actually meet up with a provider please stop putting us through this.

Unfortunately, it comes with the business, but you can always ask for deposits or booking fees and lose some business but have no stress dealing with time wasters. 

Always ask for an uber to be send to you in order to do an outcall. 

[GentJ]

8 minutes ago, marylander1940 said:

Always ask for an uber to be send to you in order to do an outcall. 

Really?

[+ BOZO T CLOWN]

1 hour ago, GentJ said:

Really?

Absolutely!
And while you're at it, make sure to request a large order of Beluga Caviar and 3-lb. Blue Lobster to go. That will certainly endear you to your new client 😀.

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[SecretProvider]

2 hours ago, GentJ said:

Really?

I ask for an Uber if they are more than 20 minutes away, and we have not met before, unless they have sent a deposit. 

[JB_Studio38]

This is why for the past few years, I require a deposit good towards the session and have an option and nominal “consultation” if they want to talk to me beyond the essential details. I’ve tried to go back to the “old days”, but kept reverting back and now it’s a natural part of my meetup process. My patience dealing with flakes is best managed by limiting the amount of guys who can book without any upfront confirmation.

Plus, the gay escort “scene” has been in decline: despite there being more guys, there seems to be less guys serious about booking anymore like they were 10-15 years ago. Thank hookup apps and fewer access to sites. But even then flakes have always been an issue. Just back then, PayPal, Apple Pay and cash app have made it easier than ever to incorporate.

Regardless of what anyone says about deposits: there’s too many crazies and flakes out there, cat fish, guys who want to wind up the competition, etc etc. And for every 1 bad story a client has about getting scammed, we could probably name 50. 
 

Also, in-calls can typically be the ones that don’t follow thru the most. I don’t host from home anymore, I haven’t for over a year now. So there’s no way I’m going to front hotel costs without a deposit. The clients who are uncertain about a deposit, will usually book a room for our session instead, in which case I may see them at my discretion…which includes verifying room number and attendance.

However when it comes to regular hookups outside of biz: it’s a different playing field. They’re more likely to be or show up to the meet. I think when money is involved, it comes with a different attitude.

Edited Wednesday at 10:59 PM by JB_Studio38

[jeezifonly]

I assume that a provider's hourly rate factors in the basic costs of operating a solo business, same as any independent contractor. That would include their advertising, and the man hours devoted to handling client inquiry.

If you're a provider with lots of paying subscribers for online content you've created, the resulting in-person rate you command is likely high enough to absorb time lost to fruitless inquiries. And, as a result of action depicted online, certain questions (about what a provider likes) are pre-answered. For the rest who don't want/can't afford to be on camera, there is likely a resulting imbalance in time answering questions about meetings.

Personally, I've never had to waste time of a provider in this way, because I know what I want from hiring, and I don't contact to plan for services until I've already done proper research READING their ad(s) and seeking further details available here to confirm alignment with my expectations. Picture-heavy ads with few details about the service itself will attract more potential clients than actual ones. 

Bottom line, it's a cost of doing business of a highly subjective nature for a very niche market. Taking out frustration with this fact on potential clients seems counterproductive to me.