Do providers generally appreciate advance booking?

[bbbzhong]

Hello,
I travel a fair bit - mostly work trips that I often stretch into a little leisure - in places like LA, NY, and Chicago. When I’m hoping to see a provider, I’d much rather arrange something ahead of time so I can plan around meetings and flights.

The thing is, most of my early, polite inquiries never get a response. It makes me wonder if the norm is more “reach out in the moment” than “book days out.”

Is that just how this world works? Or am I missing a key bit of etiquette here? I’m genuinely curious because I’d rather be respectful than clueless.

Thanks for any perspective.

[NYXboy]

I'm thinking it probably depends on how far in advance you are reaching out to them.

I also travel a bit for work, and often check out what is on offer in the city I am heading to. I think a weeks notice is good - I message by text 'hey saw your profile, I will be in town next week, a bit about me - I am (insert height/weight/age/sexual position). do you have any time between Wednesday-Friday that works for you, and can you let me know your rates?" 

I have a lot of success with this formula. I think if you reach out with 'hello how are you?" then they reply and find out you are not looking until next month, they move on to people who are require more immediate attention.  It's best to put it all out there upfront. If I don't get a reply for a day or two, I can move on to my next preference. 

[williamv]

I always give at least a 24 hour notice and send $100 deposit. Any reputable provider will honor the commitment or reimburse you if he cannot accommodate.

[+ Jamie21]

Yes, book in advance. I’ve someone booked for next May! That’s extreme. If you leave it to ‘hey are you available today?’ I probably reply with ‘sorry I’m busy’ because I plan things ahead. I’ll probably have someone booked, or another commitment. Last minute rarely works. Last minute clients are usually flaky anyway; they haven’t mentally committed to it, it’s a whim. ‘Hey, free now / next hour or so’ is a big red flag. 

[jeezifonly]

The business practices around advance booking are as widely varied as the meaning of 8"

Ask. If they give no option for advance commitment to perform, you can cast them as an understudy. 

[Becket]

One provider told me that advance bookings, for him anyway, have about a 75% cancellation rate. He much preferred same day bookings.

[jmichaeliii]

I find its mixed depending on the provider.  When I travel for work I like to try and book several weeks before so I have something thats close to a sure thing.  

That also gives me a chance to see if I have a good vibe with the provider beforehand or should just move on.  I just booked something in CA for early November and it took several tries to find someone I believe was really interested in my business.

[56harrisond]

 

[Simon Suraci]

YES

[SthJrsy]

Yes! Please book in advance! So many guys request me last minute which is almost impossible for to accommodate.

[GentJ]

Depends on how far out:

Later in the same week? YES! 100% Please do. It really helps us.

 

More than that:

Usually this comes with a reason, like travel, or the hubby is going out of town. It's great when it works out, but I usually assume odds of it actually happening are less than 50%. The reason why the percentage is so low is that there seems to be a significant portion of the population that likes to waste the time of escorts for their own amusement. I've heard so many intricate stories about future plans, and then they ghost when the day approaches. I hear similar stories from other escorts too. I'd love to know how many of these long-cons are straight-up lies vs people who sorta considered maybe hiring, but will never work up the nerve to actually go through with it. But it really does suck for us. It's the worst part of the job for sure.

[cany10011]

For me, i find that "work" often gets in the way and sometimes i become flaky and have to push off a provider to a later time or different date... so I tend not to book too far in advance, at least until I know my meeting schedules etc... Sometimes I run into scheduling issues and one provider even offered to come to my room at 6AM in the morning with coffee. He was so sweet

[GentJ]

24 minutes ago, cany10011 said:

For me, i find that "work" often gets in the way and sometimes i become flaky and have to push off a provider to a later time or different date... so I tend not to book too far in advance, at least until I know my meeting schedules etc... Sometimes I run into scheduling issues and one provider even offered to come to my room at 6AM in the morning with coffee. He was so sweet

Someday, I'm sure I'll start hiring providers. And when I do, it'll be for morning stuff. Why is morning sex so unpopular?

[MikeBiDude]

47 minutes ago, GentJ said:

Why is morning sex so unpopular?

It’s not!

[DMonDude]

I've seen both ends of the spectrum for sure. Some guys want advanced (to varying degrees) booking and others want a same day booking or even treat it like a "right now" Grindr hookup lol. Similar to @cany10011 I've got a crazy work schedule that shifts constantly. So it can sometimes be both hard for me to accept a providers "hey you free right now/tonight?" inquiry or to book in advanced cause sometimes a future night i think i'm free will become a late work night by the time the day actually comes around. And then the majority of the times i randomly find myself free and i hit up my go to providers for "right now" or tonight, that of course is 8 times out of 10 when they're out of town or already booked or not working that night 🤣.

There was one time though when i booked a few days in advanced and the night of i actually was still free to hit that scheduled meet. But the provider canceled on me early the day of. He was honest though and told me one of his longer time/higher paying regulars wanted him for that weekend and so me and another client he was scheduled to see got bumped, i understood that from the financial perspective and i appreciated the honesty so i wasn't too annoyed. And he made it up to me later 😉.

Edited 4 hours ago by DMonDude