*Hiring your neighbor ? *sigh*

[Ali Gator]

QUESTION: Is it OK to hire your younger neighbor who is advertising on RM ?

BACKGROUND : About 12 years ago, a family moved into the house diagonally across the street from me. Very nice family, very friendly, originally from PR. They have two sons - the oldest (mid-20s) was getting married (so he wasn't in the new house long), and the youngest 'Nick' was attending a local College. Nick was a young, thin man when I first met him, but you could tell he was going to be a heartbreaker as he got older...and he did. Within a few years, he muscled up and cleaned up as he headed off to find a job in marketing. I always enjoyed catching up with him outside, as he had the most penetrating eyes and beautiful smile. And in the summer, with his shirt off standing three feet away - let's just say my dick noticed him, too. 

He moved to Florida to run a car dealership for his cousin, and I always asked his parents how he was doing (as well as the married son, who became a pharma rep).  He was doing great, though neither son came home much as they both lived in Florida so it was easier for the parents to visit them during the year.

Fast Forward to this morning, I'm outside with my dog and I hear someone call out to me. Who is it but Nick, crossing over from his parent's house in nothing but white shorts. 6 feet, beautifully built chest, gorgeous tanned body, muscular arms and legs. The beautiful smile and dark wavy hair. He gives me a 'bro hug' and I almost faint right there. He tells me he's staying here for a few weeks while he considers buying a used car business up for sale, and intends to relocate here if everything goes well (he would find his own place). He's now 32 and wants to start his own business. I'm not really paying attention as he's talking because I'm studying the light trail of hair on his chest, his nipples, his small tattoo above one nipple, the tattoo on his left calf, his facial scruff, etc. WOW! He then says he's taking 'odd jobs' while he's here to make money, including car washing and car detailing if I'm interested. YES! So he gives me his phone number and I tell him I'll call him this week. WOW! WOW! 

A FEW HOURS LATER: This afternoon I'm perusing RM (I was away from it for about 10 days) and there he is - a visiting escort from Florida, in town for a couple of weeks. (Actually, his ad is listed for Boston, but 'near travel' to my city, which is where he actually is!). It is him : same tattoos, same trail of hair, same chest, etc. NO INCALLS - outcalls only (OK by me!). Different phone # than what he gave me. 

Now I plan on calling him this week to detail my car (I think he said $100, plus I'll tip him). Is it appropriate to talk to him about his RM ad, and say I'm interested ? Do I leave it alone and not risk the chance of making it awkward with a friendly neighbor (of course, he can always refuse the job offer, if he's uncomfortable) ? Oh, what to do ? (I appreciate all answers).

[+ ApexNomad]

7 minutes ago, Ali Gator said:

QUESTION: Is it OK to hire your younger neighbor who is advertising on RM ?

BACKGROUND : About 12 years ago, a family moved into the house diagonally across the street from me. Very nice family, very friendly, originally from PR. They have two sons - the oldest (mid-20s) was getting married (so he wasn't in the new house long), and the youngest 'Nick' was attending a local College. Nick was a young, thin man when I first met him, but you could tell he was going to be a heartbreaker as he got older...and he did. Within a few years, he muscled up and cleaned up as he headed off to find a job in marketing. I always enjoyed catching up with him outside, as he had the most penetrating eyes and beautiful smile. And in the summer, with his shirt off standing three feet away - let's just say my dick noticed him, too. 

He moved to Florida to run a car dealership for his cousin, and I always asked his parents how he was doing (as well as the married son, who became a pharma rep).  He was doing great, though neither son came home much as they both lived in Florida so it was easier for the parents to visit them during the year.

Fast Forward to this morning, I'm outside with my dog and I hear someone call out to me. Who is it but Nick, crossing over from his parent's house in nothing but white shorts. 6 feet, beautifully built chest, gorgeous tanned body, muscular arms and legs. The beautiful smile and dark wavy hair. He gives me a 'bro hug' and I almost faint right there. He tells me he's staying here for a few weeks while he considers buying a used car business up for sale, and intends to relocate here if everything goes well (he would find his own place). He's now 32 and wants to start his own business. I'm not really paying attention as he's talking because I'm studying the light trail of hair on his chest, his nipples, his small tattoo above one nipple, the tattoo on his left calf, his facial scruff, etc. WOW! He then says he's taking 'odd jobs' while he's here to make money, including car washing and car detailing if I'm interested. YES! So he gives me his phone number and I tell him I'll call him this week. WOW! WOW! 

A FEW HOURS LATER: This afternoon I'm perusing RM (I was away from it for about 10 days) and there he is - a visiting escort from Florida, in town for a couple of weeks. (Actually, his ad is listed for Boston, but 'near travel' to my city, which is where he actually is!). It is him : same tattoos, same trail of hair, same chest, etc. NO INCALLS - outcalls only (OK by me!). Different phone # than what he gave me. 

Now I plan on calling him this week to detail my car (I think he said $100, plus I'll tip him). Is it appropriate to talk to him about his RM ad, and say I'm interested ? Do I leave it alone and not risk the chance of making it awkward with a friendly neighbor (of course, he can always refuse the job offer, if he's uncomfortable) ? Oh, what to do ? (I appreciate all answers).

If it were me, I’d keep the two separate. Hire him for the car job, keep it neighborly, and if he wants you to connect the dots about his other work, he’ll make that clear. You don’t have to be the one to bring it up.

If you value the friendship and neighborly bond, keep things professional. If you’re willing to risk that dynamic for something more, then be upfront, but accept that it could get complicated.

[Whippoorwill]

He’s advertising his RM services; you buy RM services. Why would he find it awkward or uncomfortable? If he does, he’s in the wrong business. I say go for it. 

[savantsav]

He literally told you he's open to it. He went to your place and told you he was taking 'odd jobs'. He knows you're gay/bi? He was definitely doing some in-person advertising. Car wash? What, shirtless? The fact you saw him on RM means he was definitely dropping you hints about it and if he actually takes care of his business there shouldn't be any awkwardness. He wouldn't tell his family either so it shouldn't be awkward between you too.

[Nightowl]

If you’re out and have nothing to hide, go for it.  

[+ purplekow]

I hired an escort from an agency back in the day.  You know the one David something or other.  Anyway, escort shows up at my door and it someone I have known in social situations.  He was a friend of one of my employees and when he came to the office to go to lunch with his friend, I always noted what a fine body and tight ass he had.  Anyway, we did not recognize each other initially but it then occurred to us.  So I asked him if this would be awkward for him as it sure as hell felt awkward for me.  He said it was up to me.  I thought, well the cat is out of bag might as well get the cock out of the bag too. So we had a session and then regularlly for many years after that.  

So, go for it.  Say you would like to hire him if it is not awkward for him.  I would go so far as to tell him you have always found him attractive and that he is now looking better than ever.  

He may say no but if you do not ask you do not get.  That is the second time I am using that expression today.  If you do not ask, two weeks from now you will be stroking yourself and thinking that you should have asked.  

I would definitely have him detail your car shirtless in either case.   

[pubic_assistance]

Don't shit where you eat.

Hire him for a car wash, load him up on some cold beers and see where things go. If he makes a move, you could more politely fuck him, then thank him with some start-up money. 

[+ purplekow]

17 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

Don't shit where you eat.

Hire him for a car wash, load him up on some cold beers and see where things go. If he makes a move, you could more politely fuck him, then thank him with some start-up money. 

So the lesson here is do not hire him, unless you can get him drunk and hope he makes a move?   

For me, there is nothing shameful in an straightforward, (perhaps better a gayforward) albeit illegal in most of the US, transactional sexual encounter,. That is the case, even if he lives across the street from you for a few weeks and then goes back to Florida.  He is 32 years old after all, not 17 and he is advertising.  From the description, he is advertising premium goods.  

[BuffaloKyle]

If you're interested go for it. I wouldn't bring it up face to face as I'm the shy type but I'd text him hey btw this might be a little weird but I saw your rm ad and am interested if you'd be up for it. He's just visiting so if he would for some reason feel weird about it he'll be out of there after a few weeks.

[PoundMeOnaPlane]

@Ali Gator, I might not be privy to all the juicy details of your situation, but I’ve been there too! Picture this: neighbors with perks! Here’s what I took away from my own rollercoaster ride: (1) He might be a looker, but we weren’t meant to be a provider/client duo, (2) echoing @ApexNomad and @pubic_assistance—don’t mess with your own backyard, and (3) no matter how hard I tried, I just couldn’t undo the “deeds”. My experience was a bit of a whirlwind, but when it hit the fan, it was a full-blown neighborhood drama. I ended up transferring for work, leaving everything behind. But hey, do you have that emergency escape plan of moving? Anyway, this is one spicy dilemma and am looking forward to learning about whatever happens! 

[jeezifonly]

Surely there must be others on RM you can hire instead. 

Be his parents' nice gay neighbor, who can be counted on to look out for them while he's in Boston. Neither of you can possibly regret that. 

Edited Monday at 02:11 AM by jeezifonly

[pubic_assistance]

41 minutes ago, PoundMeOnaPlane said:

don’t mess with your own backyard, and (3) no matter how hard I tried, I just couldn’t undo the “deeds”. My experience was a bit of a whirlwind, but when it hit the fan, it was a full-blown neighborhood drama. I ended up transferring for work, leaving everything behind. But hey, do you have that emergency escape plan of moving ?

 

25 minutes ago, jeezifonly said:

Be his parents' nice gay neighbor, who can be counted on to look out for them while he's in Boston

Thank you 

@PoundMeOnaPlane @jeezifonly

[JTtorretto]

Even tho the kid is thinking “oh that ol perv across the street (whos been leering at me since I was a teenager) will pay for my dick” one would think you have the maturity to know what an awkward & humiliating disaster that hour of pleasure could turn into … at the place where you LIVE

 

However, you could safely (& erotically) have him wash / detail your car, mow ur lawn, paint your garage etc while its hot out and hes around to be your slutty little shirtless handyman stud 

[NYXboy]

only do it if you can be discreet and not speak about it with your neighbors. 

[BlackSheep]

Lucky you.
I have a french neighbor who is renting a 3 bedroom house alone for the past 4 years. Sexy as hell, ass considerably huge and pecs always tightly showing from his tight t-shirts. He hardly ever talks to me besides very occasional Hi .... I hate him for been this rude ... but secretly hope he comes on RM, so I can spank him ... my neighbor is too sexy ...
Do share your neighbor RM link (asking for a friend 😎) if you end up hiring pls do report back.

Edited Monday at 05:39 AM by BlackSheep

[+ SirBillybob]

Diagonally, so it’s all good.

[Ali Gator]

8 hours ago, JTtorretto said:

Even tho the kid is thinking “oh that ol perv across the street (whos been leering at me since I was a teenager) will pay for my dick” one would think you have the maturity to know what an awkward & humiliating disaster that hour of pleasure could turn into … at the place where you LIVE

Not a teen, he was already attending college when he moved in, so in his 20s. 

[Ali Gator]

Thanks everyone. You've confused me more than ever (which I kind of expected) but appreciate all the answers. So much to think about, and I will keep you posted.

As for today, I will contact him about my car for this week (it really does need detailing). Then we shall see...and I will keep you updated. 

Stay tuned...

[Ali Gator]

6 hours ago, BlackSheep said:

Lucky you.
I have a french neighbor who is renting a 3 bedroom house alone for the past 4 years. Sexy as hell, ass considerably huge and pecs always tightly showing from his tight t-shirts. He hardly ever talks to me besides very occasional Hi .... I hate him for been this rude ... but secretly hope he comes on RM, so I can spank him ... my neighbor is too sexy ...
Do share your neighbor RM link (asking for a friend 😎) if you end up hiring pls do report back.

I must say, I've interacted with many native French men in my life, between pleasure and business. I wouldn't say they're rude, but more aloof (women, too). They've always been a tiny bit more 'social able' if they needed something from me, but otherwise - keep to themselves and look the other way. Even escorts from France who I've hired when in NYC- not exactly friendly at all (so I stopped hiring them). You're lucky you get the occasional "Hi". 

[+ KensingtonHomo]

I don't see a problem here unless you're very close to his parents and you would feel awkward having slept with their son. 

He didn't create an RM profile for you. He approached you and told you he's taking "odd jobs." And he's working in your area. 

Even if he does move back, he's not going to live across the street from you. 

The only downside I can imagine is his parents or a nosy neighbor noticing him coming and going from your house. 

 

[Alchemy]

There are so many ways this could go south. Tempted though I'd be, I'd refrain from hiring my neighbor's son for sex. 

[BSR]

43 minutes ago, Alchemy said:

There are so many ways this could go south.

How exactly?  Im a bit baffled that some think this is so problematic.  It’s your neighbors’ son, not your boss’s or best friend’s.

I’d bet my bottom dollar the young man is quite aware of your attraction to him.  His mention of looking for odd jobs was thisclose to telling you he’s advertising in RentMen.  Be very discreet, which I’m sure he understands even better than you, have fun, and in the immortal wisdom of Linda Richmond, “no big whoop.”

He sounds like an enterprising young man.  Whether he buys the car business or pursues something else, it sounds like he’ll simply be too busy to continue escorting much longer.  If you miss this window of opportunity, you’ll be hating yourself for a very long time.

[Whippoorwill]

I too am baffled what the big concern is. It’s like when I first was coming out, and I would see a friend/classmate/neighbor in a gay bar/baths/T-room. It was only awkward until I realized that if they were there, they were there for the same reason I was. Honor among thieves, and all that…

[pubic_assistance]

1 hour ago, KensingtonHomo said:

The only downside I can imagine is his parents or a nosy neighbor noticing him coming and going from your house. 

Go back and read @PoundMeOnaPlane to hear about the "downside".

Maybe I am more sensitive to this than most people ...I used to have a real fetish for choosing inappropriate sexual companions. (Husbands, sons, boyfriends, workmates, and students). It's not like it ALWAYS comes back to haunt you, but i can say from experience, it CAN and DOES occasionally come back to haunt you. 

Tread carefully @Ali Gator

Don't get caught being the creepy neighbor who everyone is afraid of going near. Repeating my advice: do NOT be the one making all the moves. 

IF you cant resist this fantasy, leave the door open but let HIM make the moves. 

Good luck. 

Edited Monday at 02:02 PM by pubic_assistance
grammar

[LookingAround]

14 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

Go back and read @PoundMeOnaPlane to hear about the "downside".

Maybe I am more sensitive to this than most people ...I used to have a real fetish for choosing inappropriate sexual companions. (Husbands, sons, boyfriends, workmates, and students). It's not like it ALWAYS comes back to haunt you, but i can say from experience, it CAN and DOES occasionally come back to haunt you. 

Tread carefully @Ali Gator

Don't get caught being the creepy neighbor who everyone is afraid of going near. Repeating my advice: do NOT be the one making all the moves. 

IF you cant resist this fantasy, leave the door open but let HIM make the moves. 

Good luck. 

He's not a creepy neighbor. And he's not the one making all the moves. 
@pubic_assistance you are mischaracterizing things. In actuality the neighbor made the first move. It was the boy who put up a Rentmen ad. It was the boy who approached him for "odd jobs."  
@Ali Gator is merely responding to what has been placed in front of him. I say go for it.