Do you like to chat with a provider?

[BigK]

On 6/20/2025 at 3:49 PM, Gilfson said:

Hey so I tend to be a chatty Cathy especially if I feel a genuine connection with some of my clients. My question is do you prefer for a provider to just clean up and leave as soon as the deed is done/time is up. Or do you mind them staying a lil longer and talking. I wouldn’t charge for that time obviously. But for me sex tends to be better the better I know the person.

I like a little conversation when we first meet and definitely enjoy a little conversation afterwards.  I too enjoy getting to know the person I’m meeting better to improve future meetings.

[rvwnsd]

On 6/20/2025 at 1:49 PM, Gilfson said:

Hey so I tend to be a chatty Cathy especially if I feel a genuine connection with some of my clients. My question is do you prefer for a provider to just clean up and leave as soon as the deed is done/time is up. Or do you mind them staying a lil longer and talking. I wouldn’t charge for that time obviously. But for me sex tends to be better the better I know the person.

I like some chat before, during, and after. It makes the playdate seem more natural and less transactional. However, a few escorts have endlessly prattled on, seemingly to minimize the time we would spend playing. That is a bug "not OK."

 

[+ KensingtonHomo]

22 hours ago, DznNYC said:

one of the best rewards to being an escort is the variety of fascinating compelling men you meet.  I've built genuine ongoing friendships with a lot of guys, and I'm grateful for the time after a session to get to know them.  

 

This can also be a reward for being a client. We've met guys from Australia (which we'd like to visit) and many other countries. We've also enjoyed meeting local men while traveling. We don't hang out in clubs and bars very much, so if we have a chance to chat with a local provider, it's great. 

[harlow]

On 6/20/2025 at 3:49 PM, Gilfson said:

Hey so I tend to be a chatty Cathy especially if I feel a genuine connection with some of my clients. My question is do you prefer for a provider to just clean up and leave as soon as the deed is done/time is up. Or do you mind them staying a lil longer and talking. I wouldn’t charge for that time obviously. But for me sex tends to be better the better I know the person.

I love the chats I've had with providers after the deed is done.  It makes it things feel more organic and it honestly makes me want to hire again.  

[harlow]

On 6/20/2025 at 5:33 PM, AtlTopGuy said:

It is important to clarify on/off the clock - some providers are always on the clock and make limited exceptions.

Sometimes it is just difficult to ice break and find the topic to chat about because most providers and clients are behind an identity facade and don't like to reveal much about their real life. 

For example if I am in NYC, I may bring up Broadway theatre and shows I may be seeing to see if there is interest in chatting (A number of the providers I see I have learned are involved directly or tangentially in that industry so I tend to get good opinions and recommendations).   But other times, its hard to get that ice break for the conversation without sounding like a game of Jeopardy.  Food for $100...Books for $200....Movies for $300...Gyms where you can get a Blowjob for $400.

The conversations I have had have been fun and tend to let me look at the experience with a better light.  But it needs to be mutual to want to chat.   

Don't get me wrong...sometimes I just want to rail the guy and pay him to leave and crash.  As he said earlier...its important for everyone to read the room.

 

 

I completely agree with you and I'm the same way whenever I visit a city.  Especially in NYC...the theater, a museum, or the restaurants are always the go to ice breakers.  But you're right about reading the room and what is on the clock or not needs to be clearly discussed.

[Colton]

On 6/20/2025 at 11:05 PM, BuffaloKyle said:

You'll just have to make it clear that the clock doesn't start then until it's lights camera action time if you catch my drift.

I’m glad I’m not the only one who does this.  When traveling I sometimes like to grab a drink first but don’t want to pay full freight + the bar tab, so I make that clear ahead of time.  

[Jay17403]

Nope, the less talk the better. Before, during and after. I am not Richard Gere and they are not Julia Roberts.

[HockeyMan]

I start by putting my hands on a provider and I'm not chatty at the beginning. Near the end I like to talk with providers about their interests and industry related topics.

[Johnrom]

Love ❤️ to chat with providers. I cannot deal with aloof guys or ‘one word’ answers.  Building a connection makes the session so much better.  Talking usually diminishes organically once the guy really gets further into the massage.  And yes. Some nice chat after is always great too.  Not just shoving you out the door like an unwanted guest. I will often repeat with guys with good personalities.  Otherwise it’s always one and done if the masseur will not put in a much effort to make a good connection. 

[Luv2play]

There are two categories of providers being discussed here, escorts and masseurs. I mostly engage escorts so will keep my remarks centred on the escort experience. 
Conversation is important to me as I hire top tier escorts and like to have a boyfriend session rather than a wham bang and thank you ma’am. When I hire someone of different cultural background, I usually try to talk about their origins and what it is like in their country of origin. 
 

These convos make the experience much richer for me and broaden my understanding of the world generally. 

[jeezifonly]

Conversation is like kissing and ass-eating.
Impossible on your own, never a given in hiring, and totally dependent on chemistry. 

[Decatur Guy]

Yes, I like to chat afterward. If nothing else, I like to tell them what I liked about the encounter. 

[Simon Suraci]

My clients are all so different from one another. Each experience varies widely. It’s all about reading the room.

Massages I go with the flow and let the client take the lead. I engage when the client seems genuinely interested in a back and forth conversation. At some point, most clients settle in to the massage and relax, so I let them quiet their mind so they can get into their body and the metaphysical energy exchange, sensuality, eroticism, and therapeutic releases all over their body as I work.

Some of the best chats I’ve had with clients are after we finish their massage. When there is time to linger for a while (nobody booked right after), and they are chatty, I indulge them.

Escort clients run the full gamut. I have a guy that barely says one word throughout the whole session. Another likes to chat about everything in our lives, sometimes over many hours, with lots of sex interspersed in between conversations. He hires me for multiple hours or overnights, so it’s more conducive to chit chat. I like chatting with my clients when they like it, and I am an open book.

I stay quiet when they seem less interested in chatter.

Some people just really need to be heard, understood, and validated. I’m good with this too.

[ketut]

If it's a massage less talk is better for me, especially during the session.  Happy to chat afterwards.  For other sessions before, during and after is all good by me.  I tend to be a repeat hire if the chemistry is there and have had some pretty lengthy conversations afterward about anything and nothing.  I do take this time into account when settling up.  

[Mark_in_SF]

I'm totally open to chatting. I love to meet new people and learn about their lives, including their jobs. My regular escort is a good conversationalist, smart, well-traveled, and very open about his career and sexual tastes. I doubt he's quite that chatty with most clients, but we're very friendly and talk for any remaining time (and then some, at times). So yeah, chatty is great when the man has something interesting to say. Just be honest and have a sense of humor.