Do you like to chat with a provider?

[Gilfson]

Hey so I tend to be a chatty Cathy especially if I feel a genuine connection with some of my clients. My question is do you prefer for a provider to just clean up and leave as soon as the deed is done/time is up. Or do you mind them staying a lil longer and talking. I wouldn’t charge for that time obviously. But for me sex tends to be better the better I know the person.

[jmichaeliii]

Definitely the sociable type especially if it is someone you think you want to see again.

[+ nycman]

Wow. That’s the ten million dollar question.

"Should I stay or should I go"….que The Clash.

https://youtu.be/BN1WwnEDWAM?feature=shared

99 times out of 100, for me the answer is "that was fun, now please go".

But every now and then the magic is there and I want you to stay.
We could cuddle, laugh, talk, get dinner, and fuck all night.
And I’d still desperately want to have breakfast with you in the morning.

Thats when I know I’m in trouble. And when I’ve found a keeper.

The rest?

"Put the coin on the dresser and hit the door"…que Willam

https://youtu.be/LLY8kQAyeUI?feature=shared

 

[Gilfson]

2 minutes ago, nycman said:

Wow. That’s the ten million dollar question.

"Should I stay or should I go"….que The Clash.

https://youtu.be/BN1WwnEDWAM?feature=shared

99 times out of 100, for me the answer is "that was fun, now please go".

But every now and then the magic is there and I want you to stay.
We could cuddle, laugh, talk, get dinner, and fuck all night.
And I’d still desperately want to have breakfast with you in the morning.

Thats when I know I’m in trouble. And when I’ve found a keeper.

The rest?

"Put the coin on the dresser and hit the door"…que Willam

https://youtu.be/LLY8kQAyeUI?feature=shared

 

I typically try and read the room i can normally tell when someone wants me to leave. And to be honest some times i want to get out of there as well haha!

[big-n-tall]

Depends on how we connected. I’m a bit of an introvert when I don’t know someone but can be very outgoing once I’m comfortable.

Some guys seem to have a natural ability/sense to get me to talk more and some just don’t.

Ultimately if we’re vibing and the provider wants to stay to talk… I won’t rush him out unless I need to do something after. 😊

Edited June 20 by big-n-tall

[BuffaloKyle]

1 hour ago, Gilfson said:

Hey so I tend to be a chatty Cathy especially if I feel a genuine connection with some of my clients. My question is do you prefer for a provider to just clean up and leave as soon as the deed is done/time is up. Or do you mind them staying a lil longer and talking. I wouldn’t charge for that time obviously. But for me sex tends to be better the better I know the person.

I don't mind chatting with providers. One of my more recent hires had done recent porn for SeanCody and he filled me in on lots of behind the scenes stories which was fun to hear. Why not have a chat first then if you like to get to know the client first a bit. You'll just have to make it clear that the clock doesn't start then until it's lights camera action time if you catch my drift.

Edited June 20 by BuffaloKyle

[BrickBuilder]

It is important to clarify on/off the clock - some providers are always on the clock and make limited exceptions.

Sometimes it is just difficult to ice break and find the topic to chat about because most providers and clients are behind an identity facade and don't like to reveal much about their real life. 

For example if I am in NYC, I may bring up Broadway theatre and shows I may be seeing to see if there is interest in chatting (A number of the providers I see I have learned are involved directly or tangentially in that industry so I tend to get good opinions and recommendations).   But other times, its hard to get that ice break for the conversation without sounding like a game of Jeopardy.  Food for $100...Books for $200....Movies for $300...Gyms where you can get a Blowjob for $400.

The conversations I have had have been fun and tend to let me look at the experience with a better light.  But it needs to be mutual to want to chat.   

Don't get me wrong...sometimes I just want to rail the guy and pay him to leave and crash.  As he said earlier...its important for everyone to read the room.

 

 

[+ JamesB]

I personally enjoy a bit of conversation after the session, it feels natural and part of being human. However, I’ve been seeing one particular provider regularly for the past two years who isn’t chatty at all. I suspect it’s due to his limited English skills, but who really knows.

Edited June 21 by JamesB

[Nightowl]

I’ve felt the best connections with providers with whom I’ve shared a bit of myself and vice versa.  Sometimes it has been casual chat during an erotic massage before things get heated, and sometimes afterward when we’re both relaxed and spent.  It enhances the experience.

[soloyo215]

4 hours ago, Gilfson said:

Hey so I tend to be a chatty Cathy especially if I feel a genuine connection with some of my clients. My question is do you prefer for a provider to just clean up and leave as soon as the deed is done/time is up. Or do you mind them staying a lil longer and talking. I wouldn’t charge for that time obviously. But for me sex tends to be better the better I know the person.

It's not the same with each provider. Some are quite personable and some are more "all business". I don't think I have a preference.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

If there's chemistry or a connection or common interests, I love to chat a bit with a provider. But it has to be a conversation. I don't want to be talked at. I saw ChrisManWest earlier this week and since he's from Barcelona and I love Spain. So the conversation was very natural and I enjoyed hearing more about his life and vice versa. 

[sky]

I like to keep chatting with the escort to a minimum.  I see the chatting for before the appointment or if after the appointment, off the clock.  When the escort arrives I get them undressed as soon as I can.   The escort is there to provide a service in my opininion and I want to make sure I get the service I am paying for.  Any chatting cuts into that time.

[Whippoorwill]

I very much enjoy getting to know young men, and learning about what their lives are today. It helps me try and stay relevant. Some young men also want to get “Dad advice “ from someone who’s been around the block. It can be fun and beneficial for both. 

[Chien Andalou]

I love to chat if they’re up for it. For me, it makes for a real connection. Some of my nicest experiences have been with guys where we just lay there naked talking after we had finished. I’ve had some sweet heart to heart talks. One guy poured his heart out to me about his star crossed relationship. (The boyfriend sounded like a prick.) But as you said, read the room. Sometimes it’s just gargle, shower, and leave. 

[BrickBuilder]

1 hour ago, Whippoorwill said:

I very much enjoy getting to know young men, and learning about what their lives are today. It helps me try and stay relevant. Some young men also want to get “Dad advice “ from someone who’s been around the block. It can be fun and beneficial for both. 

My rate for "Dad Advice" is $225 per session...and a session is 50 minutes max so I have 10 minutes to record my notes.  

[Constantine]

I'm usually too horny to chat and just want to get down to business. 

[+ DrownedBoy]

Chatting is always good. Personally, I'd prefer to hear what providers have to talk about. It seems like usually, they're the ones who have to sit and listen to other people talk about themselves.

[Luv2play]

I had a session today. It was with a provider I had seen once before, a year and a half ago. I saw on RM he was in my area so I contacted him and he was available. 
 

I told him it could only be an hour since I had a birthday party to go to afterwards which was from 1 to 4. It worked out perfectly and we had about 10 minutes to chat after the bedroom session. We both took a shower and then we talked in the kitchen. 
 

He had just come back from a foreign trip to his native country and he told me about the conditions there and in the part of the continent his country is located in. 
 

He also told me about his activities outside escorting. All very interesting and would influence me to hire him again and not wait 1 and half years this time.

[Luv2play]

Of course the main reason I would hire him again was because he took me to the moon and back in 40 minutes. 😈

[Gilfson]

3 minutes ago, Luv2play said:

Of course the main reason I would hire him again was because he took me to the moon and back in 40 minutes. 😈

Love that for you😘

[mike carey]

2 hours ago, Luv2play said:

Of course the main reason I would hire him again was because he took me to the moon and back in 40 minutes. 😈

Was his name Apollo?

[mtaabq]

Absolutely, I like to chat with my providers! When I’m in a new city (well, new for me) my provider chats have resulted in good recommendations for bars, restaurants and other places of interest. Recently I hosted a provider at my men-only clothing-optional hotel. After our session he asked if he could take a quick swim (the pool was right outside my door) so we had a very pleasant conversation in the pool and he hung out with me beyond our scheduled “end time”. Hot night, cool water and good talk. 

[Gilfson]

3 minutes ago, mtaabq said:

Absolutely, I like to chat with my providers! When I’m in a new city (well, new for me) my provider chats have resulted in good recommendations for bars, restaurants and other places of interest. Recently I hosted a provider at my men-only clothing-optional hotel. After our session he asked if he could take a quick swim (the pool was right outside my door) so we had a very pleasant conversation in the pool and he hung out with me beyond our scheduled “end time”. Hot night, cool water and good talk. 

Omg that hotel sounds so nice. Love nudist locations! What city is it in?

[mtaabq]

3 minutes ago, Gilfson said:

Omg that hotel sounds so nice. Love nudist locations! What city is it in?

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[DznNYC]

I feel called out by this topic!   LOL

I am for sure guilty of being the chatty escort after.  

I think part of that is just connection.  I try to bring my real self to bear as much as possible in building actual connectivity with a client.  So that when a client is feeling an actual real connected experience, actually so am I.  So naturally it can be hard to just bring the curtain down on an interaction just because the clock says so.  

We all know the famous Charlie Sheen quote: "I don't pay them for [their time], I pay them to leave."  And there can be truth in that!  So obviously you read the room and make an effort to hustle out if that's the vibe.  And you learn over time to avoid unsexy over-shares about your personal life.  And sometimes you do have to acknowledge you know the session is officially over, and it's not some kind of scheme to prolong the clock.  

But honestly... one of the best rewards to being an escort is the variety of fascinating compelling men you meet.  I've built genuine ongoing friendships with a lot of guys, and I'm grateful for the time after a session to get to know them.  

All that said, we talk a lot in this forum about the provider/client space that we create and how important it is for a client to feel safe and comfortable to speak up honestly about what he wants and needs.   As part of that, it's always 100% cool if the client says: Okay, probably time for you to head out.  

Edited June 22 by DznNYC