Question For My Fellow Tops

[BuffaloKyle]

Often when I'm talking to a bottom guy about hooking up they'll think they are turning me on with one of the following lines:

- I'm super tight.

- I haven't been fucked in forever.

- I'm looking for my first time.

But that's an instant killer for me. I'm thicker than average so I really don't enjoy tight guys. I find it so much hotter when I find a bottom that I can slide into balls deep nice and easy. I know we're in for a good long fuck then without the bottom saying I need to stop or being so tight around my cock that it makes me blow fast. I basically love guys who state they are slutty or power bottoms.

Wondering do you guys, my fellow tops, prefer a tight hole or a looser, used hole like I do?

[MikeBiDude]

I’m with you @BuffaloKyle. I’m sure you’ll hear other opinions.

[BuffaloKyle]

1 minute ago, MikeBiDude said:

I’m with you @BuffaloKyle. I’m sure you’ll hear other opinions.

I know I will. 

[Simon Suraci]

Edited March 3 by Simon Suraci

[wsc]

As a life-long submissive bottom, I want what you want.😉

[+ Jamie21]

I’m of a Goldilocks view where there’s a sweet spot when it slips in nicely but you can still feel the sides 😉

[soloyo215]

8 hours ago, BuffaloKyle said:

Often when I'm talking to a bottom guy about hooking up they'll think they are turning me on with one of the following lines:

- I'm super tight.

- I haven't been fucked in forever.

- I'm looking for my first time.

But that's an instant killer for me. I'm thicker than average so I really don't enjoy tight guys. I find it so much hotter when I find a bottom that I can slide into balls deep nice and easy. I know we're in for a good long fuck then without the bottom saying I need to stop or being so tight around my cock that it makes me blow fast. I basically love guys who state they are slutty or power bottoms.

Wondering do you guys, my fellow tops, prefer a tight hole or a looser, used hole like I do?

In my experience that's just BS, and exactly what you imply it's for; it's supposed to be enticing, and supposed to excite you ant to please you. I don't care either way. Sometimes I've responded with some kind of smart remark, and sometimes I just let them know what does excite me.

I don't talk about my genitals. I care more about cleanness, the attitude attached to the hole, and if the person is attractive to me. So far I've been perfectly fine with what has been presented to me.

[pubic_assistance]

1 hour ago, BuffaloKyle said:

they'll think they are turning me on with one of the following lines:

I get those ALL the time on Grindr.

Total turn off.

What makes these guys think that listening to them struggle to take a dick is gonna be sexy 🤔?

[TrickRocket]

12 hours ago, BuffaloKyle said:

Often when I'm talking to a bottom guy about hooking up they'll think they are turning me on with one of the following lines:

- I'm super tight.

- I haven't been fucked in forever.

- I'm looking for my first time.

But that's an instant killer for me. I'm thicker than average so I really don't enjoy tight guys. I find it so much hotter when I find a bottom that I can slide into balls deep nice and easy. I know we're in for a good long fuck then without the bottom saying I need to stop or being so tight around my cock that it makes me blow fast. I basically love guys who state they are slutty or power bottoms.

Wondering do you guys, my fellow tops, prefer a tight hole or a looser, used hole like I do?

In the same vein, I am not into "sub" bottoms and it seems like that's the preferred language these days. "Submissive" has become synonymous with "bottom" so that sub/dom seems to have replaced top/bottom. (Just that the way talk about 'kinks' has become ritual - almost replacing "what are you into..." but that's  WHOLE other thread.)

Not sure how to explain it, but I don't want my bottom to sub out. I want them on my level.

[wsc]

45 minutes ago, TrickRocket said:

In the same vein, I am not into "sub" bottoms and it seems like that's the preferred language these days. "Submissive" has become synonymous with "bottom" so that sub/dom seems to have replaced top/bottom. (Just that the way talk about 'kinks' has become ritual - almost replacing "what are you into..." but that's  WHOLE other thread.)

Not sure how to explain it, but I don't want my bottom to sub out. I want them on my level.

In my experience, there can be a significant difference between "submissive" and "bottom," and I am indeed both, or at least as I understand and apply the terms.

I have been the insertive partner on only a few occasions and only with a handfull of men. And I never really enjoyed it, as either the receiver of oral sex nor as the top in anal sex; just never did much for me. Seems odd to say it, but I just don't get much pleasure from my genitals. (Nipples, however, are different. They're like launch buttons ,,, 3-2-1- GO!)

I think it's about the psychology. In the affairs of intimacy, I just don't have the "top" mentality. But I do have the ardent desire - and get my greatest satisfaction from - giving pleasure to the other man; I find that immensely satisfying! And in my pursuit of that goal, submissive by no means equates to passive. I consider that as a submissive mindset in that I am not really interested in my own pleasure but am committed to giving my partner the best orgasm he's ever had - until the next time. And on a few occasions, with two or three of my favorite paramours, have reached orgasm when my partner did and without touching myself "down under."

Oh Damn! Now I need a cigarette. Is it hot in here or what?!?

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Agreed.  A super tight hole ain't all it's cracked up to be. 

It can be actual work to get a bottom like that to relax and take something.  And then, if it remains tight, it's like fucking a brick wall.

Sub bottoms I enjoy, especially when they pre-lube and are experienced enough to really take a hard pounding.  These are the kinds of guys who could go the entire session without touching themselves once.  There's something super hot about that.

Loose holes can be fun too.  Some of my favorite sex has been the 'second or third top' on a group bottom.  At that point, you're using someone else's load as lube and the bottom is really opened up for more.

 

[+ Jamie21]

5 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

Some of my favorite sex has been the 'second or third top' on a group bottom. 

Yes I definitely agree with that. I’ve joined the end of a few long queues at sex parties to fuck a hole that’s been loaded up. It’s very satisfying. 

My issue with some bottom guys is that it’s like fucking a sack of potatoes (which I have never done…I’m talking figuratively before anyone asks 🤪). Guys, maybe you’re inexperienced, that’s fine, but arch your back a little and offer it up, don’t be passive. I’m very flexible and hung so I can get in great positions but you do need to do your bit. If I’m bottoming I always try to make it easier for the top to work in a good position, especially if he’s not so hung. 
 

[+ Summerson]

On 3/2/2025 at 6:05 PM, BuffaloKyle said:

I basically love guys who state they are slutty...

I know the original question was specifically about "hole," but I can't resist the chance to say that "slutty" has become my favorite adjective to describe the guys with whom I've had the most fun. For me, slutty isn't so much about any one physical feature, but about personality and overall physicality. Does he dress a little slutty (whatever that means to him)? Does he move a little slutty, dance kind of slutty? Does he have a slutty gaze, a slutty smile? Does he think of himself as slutty, knowing there's fun to be had in so many different ways and figuring out how he can help you both find it? Does he relax and enjoy himself like the very best slutty men do? Those guys are always my absolute top-tier connections and I realize I so often choose guys who use that word to describe themselves.  (So, back to the original question. Yes, I guess that preference of mine does translate to more relaxed and looser most of the time, but I'm also happy to take time and help with that as much as I can.)

[alrajee]

On 3/2/2025 at 9:05 PM, BuffaloKyle said:

Wondering do you guys, my fellow tops, prefer a tight hole or a looser, used hole like I do?

I prefer a more experienced bottom.

A tight hole isn't as appealing to me as they make it out to be, because getting him ready—either by rimming or anal fingering or both—tends to take a while and disrupt our flow.

[TorontoDrew]

On 3/2/2025 at 9:05 PM, BuffaloKyle said:

I'm thicker than average so I really don't enjoy tight guys.

You had me at thicker 😉

[shinj518]

On 3/2/2025 at 6:05 PM, BuffaloKyle said:

Often when I'm talking to a bottom guy about hooking up they'll think they are turning me on with one of the following lines:

- I'm super tight.

- I haven't been fucked in forever.

- I'm looking for my first time.

But that's an instant killer for me. I'm thicker than average so I really don't enjoy tight guys. I find it so much hotter when I find a bottom that I can slide into balls deep nice and easy. I know we're in for a good long fuck then without the bottom saying I need to stop or being so tight around my cock that it makes me blow fast. I basically love guys who state they are slutty or power bottoms.

Wondering do you guys, my fellow tops, prefer a tight hole or a looser, used hole like I do?

I think some of this comes down to penis size as well. Coming from the perspective of an average sized dick (as opposed to a hung or super hung dick), I prefer the tighter holes because I feel the insides more and psychologically it makes me feel relatively bigger. 

I love looser (wet used) holes as well cause they're fun for other reasons but sometimes I dont feel much sensation since i cant fill it as well as a really hung guy and would need another guy or toy to DP with me to feel as intense. 

Also love when I can turn a tight hole into a very loose open one throughout the course of a session. That turns me on a lot to remember how tight it was when I started and how it gapes when I'm done with it.

[ShortCutie7]

Being very inexperienced in either anal position, one of my favorite sexual memories was when a guy was topping me and he said “that feels amazing, you’re actually getting pretty loose”… I was confused for a half a second and then incredibly turned on!

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

2 hours ago, shinj518 said:

Also love when I can turn a tight hole into a very loose open one throughout the course of a session. That turns me on a lot to remember how tight it was when I started and how it gapes when I'm done with it.

Love it!  😍Please include this in your wedding vows... Everyone will appreciate your expression of love ❤️ for your tight bottom partner that opened up just for you

[CuriousByNature]

2 hours ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

Love it!  😍Please include this in your wedding vows... Everyone will appreciate your expression of love ❤️ for your tight bottom partner that opened up just for you

It can be tastefully added to the engraved invitations, just below the RSVP information.

[shinj518]

Oftentimes there is a picture of two rings with one being bigger and one being smaller. We can say that's the look of the bottoms hole before and after getting fucked... perhaps by me and the entire wedding party.

[CuriousByNature]

On 3/6/2025 at 11:02 PM, shinj518 said:

Oftentimes there is a picture of two rings with one being bigger and one being smaller. We can say that's the look of the bottoms hole before and after getting fucked... perhaps by me and the entire wedding party.

Uhm, maybe don't send that invite to Grandma.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

8 hours ago, CuriousByNature said:

Uhm, maybe don't send that invite to Grandma.

That might depend on who's grandma and how flexible she is.

[MikeThomas]

8 hours ago, CuriousByNature said:

Uhm, maybe don't send that invite to Grandma.

A lot of gay men who had kids in the 80s and 90s are now becoming grandmas!

[mike carey]

9 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

That might depend on who's grandma and how flexible she is.

Quite a few grandmas have run out of fucks to give and now say and laugh at things they might once have thought inappropriate. 'Growing old disgracefully' is not said without reason.

[+ Gar1eth]

On 3/3/2025 at 12:40 PM, BenjaminNicholas said:

 

Loose holes can be fun too.  Some of my favorite sex has been the 'second or third top' on a group bottom.  At that point, you're using someone else's load as lube and the bottom is really opened up for more.

 

I'm going to date myself here.  But when people talk about this, it always makes me think of that scene in the movie "Porky's" where the guys have hired a stripper and think they are going to get  laid.  Pee Wee starts enumerating what order the guys are going to go in

 

"Hey, wait. I got sloppy seconds, you got ticklish thirds, you got filthy fourths, you got fall-in fifths, you're slippery sixth..."