Boyfriend Experience

[Boaxxx]

What actually is a "Boyfriend Experience"? Is it dinner and a movie? A couple hours at the bowling alley? Sitting in the couch while each of us play in our phones? I'd be interested in hearing from other providers as well to understand what you offer as a "Boyfriend Experience".

[56harrisond]

 

 

 

 

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Different for everyone.

56 has been kind enough to do the work for you.  Search through and read up.

[OceanTraveller]

When an ad says Boyfriend Experience what do you guys think that this service is ? I guess we all have different thoughts . Is it kissing , cuddling , topping , bottoming , hanging out together ? Your thoughts ? 

[dutchal]

IMHO, all of the above except topping and bottoming.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

He'll join you for Christmas dinner with the family, but in return you'll have to deal with his family as well.  And when the paid session is over, he'll also want custody of the dog. 🐶

[hopeman]

In my experience, it really depends on the escort. I've had guys who advertised they did the B/E, but when it came down to it, all they really wanted to do was get hard, make me nut and then leave. Then there were others who really got into the whole slow seduction thing: kissing, undressing one another, more kissing, rolling around the bed, mutual j/o. If I were you, I'd be clear up front what their definition of the B/E is. Then negotiate so you get what you want. Or move on. 

 

P: Not sure where you are but 2 excellent escorts who do provide a memorable B/E: Dominus (out of Washington DC) and RussellFunBoy (out of SF.) Not so memorable: Latinotopvers (currently out of Monterey Bay CA.

[56harrisond]

Some previous discussions:

 

[+ azdr0710]

 

[Thelatin]

I look at it as a downgrade anymore.  Apparently boyfriends spend more time watching Netflix and ordering DoorDash.  No thanks.

[MscleLovr]

For me, ‘Boyfriend Experience’ suggests a more romantic, loving encounter. It is the very opposite of a ‘Wham, Bam, Thank You Sir’ date.

Obviously it depends on your companion but I would expect the date to comprise lots of foreplay with hugging, kissing with tongue, displays of affection and cuddling after sex. It would usually include oral sex and/or topping/bottoming. 

You would need to discuss the particulars beforehand. Depending on your wishes, the date might be just a physical session. If it is to be followed by dinner (or going out to a bar or club) together, you may want to discuss public displays of affection beforehand.
 

My reason for stating this is that I once hired an LA jock-boy for a weekend in San Francisco. We had an intense and very sexual time the night he arrived. The next morning when we went to brunch, I was startled that he took my hand as we walked together. I enjoyed it even more when he kissed me in the cafe. I’ve always been out but I had no idea that he’d be so demonstrative in public

[+ DrownedBoy]

Although a decent BFE is described above, it's so overused by escorts that there's no guarantee what will happen. Especially with the younger escorts who think they're too sexy for most people. 

[hopeman]

Thanks 56. HOwever most of the links are not working now.

[+ keroscenefire]

"Boyfriend experience" is a very subjective term. Almost best to look inward and think about what it means to you and what your expecations are for a "boyfriend experience." I think most halfway decent escorts can meet them if they understand what you are looking for.

[+ JamesB]

If you're seeking a boyfriend experience or any other experience for that matter, it's advisable to inquire directly with the provider regarding their offerings. Confirm if their services align with your preferences, and don't hesitate to ask questions if unsure. Should you find that something important to you isn't mentioned,  request it to gauge the provider's willingness to accommodate your needs. While some advocate for directness in asking for exactly what you want upfront, in my experience, there are two reasons why this approach may not always be ideal. Firstly, certain providers might agree just to secure the booking, but fail to deliver as promised. Secondly, there's a possibility that the provider may suggest something you hadn't considered, which you might find appealing to explore.

Edited May 8, 2024 by JamesB

[BonVivant]

A true BFE means you are lovers or acting like lovers, and the experience should be close to what you’d imagine with a true BF or lover. For this to happen requires either chemistry between the provider and yourself, or a great provider who can make it happen. 
 

Some providers are simply not good at it, and it feels like they are going thru the motions.
 

You will not know the outcome unless you try it out with someone. When you find that perfect BFE, then that’s your LT arrangement. Enjoy while it lasts. 

Edited May 8, 2024 by BonVivant

[Trick]

I’ve never had a boyfriend so everything is imaginary for me.  When I go for a BFE, I imagine that it’s what boyfriends do when they have sex - making love. It’s fantasy and illusion for me and acting for the provider.  I always hope I’d find Oscar worthy performances.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

12 hours ago, keroscenefire said:

"Boyfriend experience" is a very subjective term. Almost best to look inward and think about what it means to you and what your expecations are for a "boyfriend experience." I think most halfway decent escorts can meet them if they understand what you are looking for.

 

BFE is different for everyone, so it's key to talk about what expectations are (if there are any).

I'm currently in a two-week BFE on a small ship through Canada.  The key is to make sure things feel natural, in-the-moment and easy.  It's not just about sex.  It's about an entire experience starting from the time you wake up to the time you go to sleep.

A good escort is going to see verbal and non-verbal cues. 

Edited May 8, 2024 by BenjaminNicholas

[Archangel]

For me, it means spending time together beyond the bedroom. Escorting in the truest sense of the word. I always hire for a BFE and to me that means we go out to eat. Shopping. Maybe a movie out. Whatever to fill the time. I hire someone to act like a boyfriend for a few days…that’s a BFE.

Someone above said everything but topping and bottoming. What does that mean? Is that to say a BFE is time together sans sex? 🤔 

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

2 minutes ago, Archangel said:

Someone above said everything but topping and bottoming. What does that mean? Is that to say a BFE is time together sans sex? 🤔 

It sounds as if someone was making a well-worn joke.

[Trick]

4 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

I'm currently in a two-week BFE on a small ship through Canada. 

One of my fantasies is PDA, in good taste, on a ship.  How far do you go with PDA in this situation?

[Becket]

Some guys just will not do PDA under any circumstances. Once I tried to plant a smooch on my guy in the middle of Key West, surrounded by a happy, celebrating gay crowd. He looked at me as if I tried to grab his nuts. And I even had brushed my teeth beforehand! O well. 

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

4 hours ago, Trick said:

How far do you go with PDA in this situation?

Well...

When the classical trio starts playing in the Living Room, I quietly put my hand under his ass.

By the time they're finishing their set 45 minutes later with Chopin's piano concerto no 1, I have a few fingers in him.

Is that still considered tasteful?

[Trick]

1 minute ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

 I have a few fingers in him.

Is that still considered tasteful?

With a few fingers in him, my understanding of tasteful might differ.  It’ll be more along the lines of “finger lickin’ good.”

[BuffaloKyle]

The big takeaway from reading everything so far is don't just let the provider know you are looking for a BFE and leave it at that. Be specific with what you want. You are paying after all so you wanna make sure you are going to get exactly what you have in mind.