What have you done in instances when the provider who showed up...

[newdad]

What have you done in instances when the provider who showed up looked different than in photos or videos? Let's say he was an 8/10 in the photos, but was just a 6/10 in person (which is still doable but definitely a couple of points lower than you expected).

EDIT: I'm asking to those who actually experienced this scenario or similar. (Not asking those who have yet to be in this situation.)

Edited February 29 by newdad

[Thique]

I just continued with the session trying to make the most of it; but feeling disappointed and cheated during and after.

I took it as a lesson learnt for myself for next time! Do better research, trust your gut and don’t think twice to shut it down if there are red flags that come up during the discussion / set up stage.

[+ nycman]

My response depends on multiple factors….

1) How far off the photos are:
In general, I’ll forgive 5-10 lbs and 3-5 years.
Beyond that you risk having the door shut in your face.

2) How horny I am:
Obviously, the hornier I am the more forgiving I am.

3) What town I’m in:
 NYC or London? Too many fish. Bye!
Boise? What choice do I have? You could look like my Uncle Phil and I’d probably still fuck you.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

I'd treat them like I treat Grindr hookups.

You don't accurately depict yourself or what you'll do, I leave.

Sex is supposed to be fun.  It's not fun when I'm quietly pissed that I feel like I'm having to settle.

[+ DrownedBoy]

Kicked him out.

[Jarrod_Uncut]

6 hours ago, nycman said:

Boise? What choice do I have? You could look like my Uncle Phil and I’d probably still fuck you.

You’d be surprised by 2 things:

#1, Boise actually has a developing gay scene, I would almost consider moving there myself because it’s one city that’s not become over saturated live Denver and Phoenix western cities have become. And it’s a scenic trip to Seattle and the PNW. It’s still a bit “frontier-ish” but, I actually went on a nice date with a black brotha last time I was out there. Who woulda thought, in Boise of all places lol.

#2, from my experience, I would almost assume Uncle Phil has a big dick. I know a guy who looks like the younger version of him…and even my biggest bottom friend, can’t handle his 🍆 😆 

[NJF]

5 minutes ago, Jarrod_Uncut said:

You’d be surprised by 2 things:

#1, Boise actually has a developing gay scene, I would almost consider moving there myself because it’s one city that’s not become over saturated live Denver and Phoenix western cities have become. And it’s a scenic trip to Seattle and the PNW. It’s still a bit “frontier-ish” but, I actually went on a nice date with a black brotha last time I was out there. Who woulda thought, in Boise of all places lol.

#2, from my experience, I would almost assume Uncle Phil has a big dick. I know a guy who looks like the younger version of him…and even my biggest bottom friend, can’t handle his 🍆 😆 

It took me a while to figure out what No.2 is all about 😂 

[Jarrod_Uncut]

19 minutes ago, NJF said:

It took me a while to figure out what No.2 is all about 😂 

A gif from an episode of Fresh Prince lol

unless the person meant “Doctor Phil”…

 

Edited March 1 by Jarrod_Uncut

[soloyo215]

Happened to me. A provider was much older than in the pics. The thing is that he still looked great, so I didn't mind. If his current appearance was not that great, then I might have made a different decision. I didn't hire him again, though.

[JamesB]

You can always ask the provider, in a polite manner, how old his picks are. The usual response is sending an updated pic.

[muscmtl]

On 2/29/2024 at 1:50 PM, newdad said:

What have you done in instances when the provider who showed up looked different than in photos or videos? Let's say he was an 8/10 in the photos, but was just a 6/10 in person (which is still doable but definitely a couple of points lower than you expected).

EDIT: I'm asking to those who actually experienced this scenario or similar. (Not asking those who have yet to be in this situation.)

Same problem but worse. Guy is 100 % as hot as his photos, but will do nothing that he said he would do. Happened so often that I gave up hiring. Why bother. 

So to answer your question: paid the first 2 times, 3rd times i left (learned that turning away an escort that comes to your house is way harder then leave his place/hotel room/ bathhouse)

[muscmtl]

On 2/29/2024 at 9:51 PM, DrownedBoy said:

Kicked him out.

Suuuure.. kick a guy that comes to your house, who's bigger stronger than you, without paying him... Get real.

And if he says he ain't leaving without his money, then what? In 99% of places on earth you committing a crime, so calling 911 is out of the question, and the guy IN your house knows it.

Reality is, if he s IN your home, u paying him, no matter what

[muscmtl]

On 2/29/2024 at 6:33 PM, BenjaminNicholas said:

I'd treat them like I treat Grindr hookups.

You don't accurately depict yourself or what you'll do, I leave.

Sex is supposed to be fun.  It's not fun when I'm quietly pissed that I feel like I'm having to settle.

U got proof of this? Where u actually kicked an escort out without paying!!!

This NOTHING like grndr hookup. Your chances of getting beat up when saying no is a 1000 to 1: escort vs grndr.

You d be floored to learn the number of men who show up annuallt to the ED with fx ribs or skull because they said "I ain't paying" to an escort

 

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

1 hour ago, muscmtl said:

U got proof of this? Where u actually kicked an escort out without paying!!!

This NOTHING like grndr hookup. Your chances of getting beat up when saying no is a 1000 to 1: escort vs grndr.

You d be floored to learn the number of men who show up annuallt to the ED with fx ribs or skull because they said "I ain't paying" to an escort

Re-read, slowly, what I wrote.  I said what I WOULD do based on what I currently do with Grindr trade.

And yes, I would if I hired.  I'm 6'4", 220 and built like a fucking brick wall.  No one is going to beat me up...  Not easily, at least.

I'm sure guys who are smaller need to make concessions when this happens.  I'm just stating what I would personally do.

Everything is life is AYOR.

[+ nycman]

1 hour ago, muscmtl said:

U got proof of this?

How exactly do you expect him to "prove" this?

1 hour ago, muscmtl said:

You d be floored to learn the number of men who show up annuallt to the ED with fx ribs or skull because they said "I ain't paying" to an escort

Yes. Yes, I would. Because the answer is damn near zero.

Your fear is what they’re banking on. I’m not saying anyone should do anything they’re not comfortable with, but it’s really not that hard. I understand that physically, I and @BenjaminNicholas are not exactly wilting violets. And the truth is no one is stronger than a Colt 45. But standing up for yourself is pretty basic.

Trust me, by the time you reach for the phone to call security, he’s already 3 streets away. I’ve picked up the phone a few times, but I’ve never even had to dial the first digit. Hotel security doesn’t care about legal/illegal. They care about keeping the peace in their hotel and protecting their paying guests. He won’t be the first or last whore they’ve had to escort off the premises.

That said, I’d never meet an escort at my home. It just seems like you’re asking for trouble. 

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

4 minutes ago, nycman said:

That said, I’d never meet an escort at my home. It just seems like you’re asking for trouble. 

Never invite me to your home.  I'm not to be trusted.

I'll go through your master bath drawers and dissect your skincare routine, offering unsolicited advice over breakfast.

[newdad]

1 hour ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

Re-read, slowly, what I wrote.  I said what I WOULD do based on what I currently do with Grindr trade.

And yes, I would if I hired.  I'm 6'4", 220 and built like a fucking brick wall.  No one is going to beat me up...  Not easily, at least.

I'm sure guys who are smaller need to make concessions when this happens.  I'm just stating what I would personally do.

Everything is life is AYOR.

Just to be fair, the actual posted question was about "What have you done in instances...", which I even clarified by saying "I'm asking to those who actually experienced this scenario or similar. (Not asking those who have yet to be in this situation.) ". This is probably why @muscmtl was asking for proof.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

55 minutes ago, newdad said:

Just to be fair, the actual posted question was about "What have you done in instances...", which I even clarified by saying "I'm asking to those who actually experienced this scenario or similar. (Not asking those who have yet to be in this situation.) ". This is probably why @muscmtl was asking for proof.

I can read.  I understand.

I just provided my opinion.

And btw, asking for proof on something like this is absurd.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

6 hours ago, muscmtl said:

U got proof of this? Where u actually kicked an escort out without paying!!!

This NOTHING like grndr hookup. Your chances of getting beat up when saying no is a 1000 to 1: escort vs grndr.

You d be floored to learn the number of men who show up annuallt to the ED with fx ribs or skull because they said "I ain't paying" to an escort

 

I also find this hard to believe. I'm not as big as @BenjaminNicholas but I'm solid, have a black belt and box regularly. I'm not remotely afraid of any escort we've ever had over. 

Also, it's MY house, so I know where the weapons are. 

Who are you hiring? Guys from 1950s mob movies? Most of the guys we hire are highly unlikely to want a physical confrontation. 

And if I were traveling, I would absolutely call hotel security or bounce him myself. 

[musclestuduws]

On 2/29/2024 at 5:55 PM, nycman said:

My response depends on multiple factors….

1) How far off the photos are:
In general, I’ll forgive 5-10 lbs and 3-5 years.
Beyond that you risk having the door shut in your face.

2) How horny I am:
Obviously, the hornier I am the more forgiving I am.

3) What town I’m in:
 NYC or London? Too many fish. Bye!
Boise? What choice do I have? You could look like my Uncle Phil and I’d probably still fuck you.

One wonders if anything ever happened between you and your uncle Phil. 🤣

Edited March 2 by musclestuduws

[marylander1940]

On 3/1/2024 at 12:19 AM, Jarrod_Uncut said:

 

#1, Boise actually has a developing gay scene, I would almost consider moving there myself because it’s one city that’s not become over saturated live Denver and Phoenix western cities have become.

 

I'll spread the word!

 

[+ nycman]

8 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

Never invite me to your home.  I'm not to be trusted.

I'll go through your master bath drawers and dissect your skincare routine, offering unsolicited advice over breakfast.

My house? Oh, Hell no!

My fantasy about fucking you for the first time (which goes back farther than either of us is willing to admit), involves you face down, clawing luxury pillow linens, on a hot summer night, in Key West, as the the cock crows (so to speak). 

Oddly specific, but true.

You are free to rummage through my vintage dopp kit to your heart’s content and advise/steal as you wish.

Moderator’s "Off Topic" Warning….in….3….2….1….

Edited March 3 by nycman
Crawling…clawing. A subtle but important distinction.

[mike carey]

@BenjaminNicholas shows up at @nycman's house and it's not the guy @nycman saw in the ad, but he proceeds to allow him to rummage through his drawers and offer gratuitous advice on whatever he wants to. But you're right, it is off topic because it's a hypothetical not something that's actually happened.

[Guest]

You’re all invited to rummage through my drawers!

[+ bcbg1205]

This has happened to me twice in about 25 times. I told both of them that I just wasn't in the mood. I did not attempt to throw them out because they were much bigger and stronger than me and they were inside my apt. We just chatted for an hour, I paid them, and they left. Not ideal, I know, but I wanted to avoid possible confrontation.