Supplemental Charges Mid Session

[Bubble Buck]

Hey Guys -

Am new to all this and had something awkward happen during a recent session.

Was in the middle of some fun and provider ask for an additional $100 for something we discussed before he showed up.  

I was a bit taken back and decided to focus on “wrapping things up” best I could on my own.  I cut the session short and sent him off.

Have you guys run into this?  Am curious how others would handle this type of situation.

 

[+ nycman]

Yeah, we’ve all been there. It’s a scam. 

In that situation I abruptly cut the appointment short and pay a prorated fee for the time used.

The provider is shown the door and then blacklisted in my book. 

Edited February 18, 2024 by nycman
Grammar

[+ DynamicUno]

I have never encountered this, but it's extremely unprofessional behavior.  I think you handled it correctly, i.e. finish up and send the guy packing as soon as you can without getting into a worse situation.

If you can, please post a link to the guys profile so the community knows to avoid this guy. Also, assuming you found the guy on RM, you should put a review on his profile and detail the attempt to shake you for more money.

Edited February 18, 2024 by DynamicUno

[guru68]

12 minutes ago, Bubble Buck said:

Hey Guys -

Am new to all this and had something awkward happen during a recent session.

Was in the middle of some fun and provider ask for an additional $100 for something we discussed before he showed up.  

I was a bit taken back and decided to focus on “wrapping things up” best I could on my own.  I cut the session short and sent him off.

Have you guys run into this?  Am curious how others would handle this type of situation.

 

Yeah that sucks. Bad enough when they try to "upsell" you, but something already agreed upon is bad.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

I've run into this more with massage than escorts. Some guys want to charge you to suck their dicks. LOL 

[big-n-tall]

57 minutes ago, KensingtonHomo said:

I've run into this more with massage than escorts. Some guys want to charge you to suck their dicks. LOL 

I have only been upsold once and it was with a masseur. It kind of caught me off guard. He offered to bottom for an additional cost.

[+ Jamie21]

That’s wrong of him, if it was discussed beforehand as being included. I think you were right to wrap it up. 

[+ JamesB]

Sorry this happened to you but most of us have been there. You did the right thing. Some providers are just unprofessional. Please consider sharing a link to his profile or doing a review on RM. 

[Bubble Buck]

3 hours ago, KensingtonHomo said:

I've run into this more with massage than escorts. Some guys want to charge you to suck their dicks. LOL 

🤔 seems they should be offering you a discount for you to blow them.  Especially if you are good at it!!   

[Bubble Buck]

4 hours ago, nycman said:

Yeah, we’ve all been there. It’s a scam. 

In that situation I abruptly cut the appointment short and pay a prorated fee for the time used.

The provider is shown the door and then blacklisted in my book. 

Except he insisted I pay the fees up front which struck me as a red flag.  

[Bubble Buck]

41 minutes ago, JamesB said:

Sorry this happened to you but most of us have been there. You did the right thing. Some providers are just unprofessional. Please consider sharing a link to his profile or doing a review on RM. 

Gave him a negative review on RM and now the ad is hidden or deleted.  

[+ JamesB]

16 minutes ago, Bubble Buck said:

Gave him a negative review on RM and now the ad is hidden or deleted.  

He probably blocked you.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

34 minutes ago, Bubble Buck said:

🤔 seems they should be offering you a discount for you to blow them.  Especially if you are good at it!!   

I'm incredibly good at it. A guy I see regularly says I'm his favorite customer 😁

[ICTJOCK]

Provider and client should always have an agreement prior to the service.    I would never spring something on a client as far as renumeration in the middle of a session.

Agreement as to service and renumeration should be agreed prior to meeting.   I don't even like clarifications when meeting a client.    No surprises for either party.

[+ glutes]

31 minutes ago, Bubble Buck said:

Gave him a negative review on RM and now the ad is hidden or deleted.  

Name the culprit here please.

[+ KensingtonHomo]

8 minutes ago, Simon Suraci said:

The following is in response to @KensingtonHomo’s comment regarding masseurs.

Regarding the BJ, it’s perfectly reasonable for anyone to charge you for sex work (and that is what it is). It doesn’t matter who is giving or receiving. It’s all the same.

I agree with you. I would never pressure someone to do something they aren't comfortable with. This happened when I was new to this, and now I am very explicit about what I expect and what I'll pay for it. This provider was charging the upper end of what is customary in NYC (which usually includes oral), so getting close to the end and throwing the upcharge in feels unfair. 

[+ nycman]

5 hours ago, Bubble Buck said:

Except he insisted I pay the fees up front which struck me as a red flag.  

What did we learn?

[DWnyc]

6 hours ago, KensingtonHomo said:

I'm incredibly good at it. A guy I see regularly says I'm his favorite customer 😁

I hope he is rewarded for paying you this compliment 😉

[DWnyc]

I’ve experienced all this often though not with regulars 

i used to think overchargong providers were sending a message “I don’t want to see you again” … but I now realize the profession is full of those who don’t see the big / longterm picture and an extra $50-$100 is worth more to them than potentially thousands lost in future donations

And rookie mistake: never forget that a gift horse is usually more expansive than if you actually wanted and ordered it before the session. so a free inclusion of a Buddy or extra time etc can be a costly gift to accept. 

[soloyo215]

It's unprofessional in an escort setting. In a massage setting, I think that some providers use the massage thing as cover for escorting, hence the upselling for additional services. I have been offered additional services for additional charges, and I have said no since I am satisfied with what was agreed, and he did delivered what we agreed. I have also said yes, and got a little more escorting type of service in addition to the massage, and I have been ok. Otherwise, like Simon mentioned, not upselling some extras might be underpriced escorting. There's no absolute rule for any of this, so it's not easy to standarize the practice.

However, an escort interrupting a session of what it is already expected and negotiated, to just ask for more money is not only unprofessional, but it gives the provider a bad reputation, In these times where communication is easier, reviews are available and places like this forum exist, it's just bad enterpreneurship for providers to incur in that practice.

[DWnyc]

19 hours ago, ICTJOCK said:

Provider and client should always have an agreement prior to the service.    I would never spring something on a client as far as renumeration in the middle of a session.

Agreement as to service and renumeration should be agreed prior to meeting.   I don't even like clarifications when meeting a client.    No surprises for either party.

Noble but it doesn’t track reality

I’ve lost track of how many times providers have attempted to start a conversation during our meeting with   “I know we talked about x,y,z …but …”

Maybe clients do this as well. 

[ICTJOCK]

32 minutes ago, DWnyc said:

Noble but it doesn’t track reality

It tracks my "reality".    I also confirm all before we meet.

 

[Thelatin]

Perhaps the provider could offer a “spin the wheel” type of scenario.  Each spin is $50.00 for extras.  Land on HJ or BJ or JS (jack squat) etc. 

[marylander1940]

On 2/18/2024 at 1:46 PM, Bubble Buck said:

Hey Guys -

Am new to all this and had something awkward happen during a recent session.

Was in the middle of some fun and provider ask for an additional $100 for something we discussed before he showed up.  

I was a bit taken back and decided to focus on “wrapping things up” best I could on my own.  I cut the session short and sent him off.

Have you guys run into this?  Am curious how others would handle this type of situation.

 

 

I know escorts who just can't commit to specific acts like rimming by text because they don't know how the client looks, his hygiene, chemistry, etc..

Also some may not answer direct questions because they don't want to be too explicit by text. Could it be possible that you simply assumed he consented to a list of to do things?

I do agree with you and everyone else in this thread that the escort is getting paid for his time. I never liked "a la carte" escorts, dealing with them feels like a bazaar. 

 

Edited February 20, 2024 by marylander1940

[marylander1940]

On 2/18/2024 at 2:29 PM, KensingtonHomo said:

I've run into this more with massage than escorts. Some guys want to charge you to suck their dicks. LOL 

massage is always different.... the expectations for the HE are a whole different game. 

It's a massage, it's not sex in theory.