longer appointments for first time meetings

[starman05]

I think it's smarter, generally, to have first-time meetings with providers be an hour; if it doesn't go well, then you're out as little as possible

However, I've been communicating with this one guy and all the texts have been great and feedback and reviews are all aces. 

When you're having fun, seconds fly by like minutes... 

Thoughts on initial meetings being 2 hours, anyone? 

 

[TorontoDrew]

I usually do two hours as one is too rushed.  For really bad experiences i have ended it early and only paid for one.

[dbar123]

It depends on what the nature of the interaction is.

If it’s primarily massage then an hour is plenty, especially if it’s a local provider who you can see again easily.

If it’s a BFE thing with someone under 30 I would be inclined to try just an hour first unless it’s a traveling provider who I’ve been eager to try.

An older seasoned provider…definitely 2 hrs. 
 

Call me ageist if you wish…just my honest opinion based on experience 

[nate_sf]

2 hours ago, dbar123 said:

An older seasoned provider…definitely 2 hrs. 
 

Call me ageist if you wish…just my honest opinion based on experience 

This is my experience. Pretty much all of my first-time clients book for two hours. My rates also have discounts for longer appointments, including two-hour appointments, so that might also serve to encourage longer meet-ups.

If you're on the fence, my suggestion would be to converse a bit with the provider beforehand (either by text or phone call), get a sense of what they're like, and if there's good rapport that could help you feel more confident in trying a longer appointment.

[+ DrownedBoy]

I almost always hire for 2 hours, but that's with established regulars, or with providers whose photos turn me on enough.

However, there are several new local guys I've had my eyes on, but I'm not sure if I'll find them attractive enough. I was planning on booking just one hour to check compatibility. If there's chemistry, they can count on being hired again.

[starman05]

This is all very helpful and greatly appreciated. 

I agree with most of what's been said. An hour for a massage is enough. However, I am looking to have a BFE -- after covid (which isn't even over), the deaths of family and friends (due to covid and other horrible ends), and the full realization that life is short and you just never know when it's going to end. 

I'm going to ask the provider about two hours; that way I won't feel rushed when I arrive; we can hopefully establish a connection. I've heard nothing but great things about him; our interactions by text are polite and professional; he's over 30. (That is so important.) 

If it turns out to be a bust, it's nothing that I can't get back someday. 

Thank you all, good people. 

 

 

[BonVivant]

I recommend 1 hour for all first meetings. Then, if you click and your sympatico on multiple levels, you can go for longer, overnights, weekends and multi-day trips.

If you are horney and that’s it, 1 hr. is typically all it takes to drain the tank. 

[Rudynate]

I always book for two hours - I've tried longer and shorter and found that 2 hours is just right - even for a first meeting.  If I'm not comfortable with his response on first contact, I don't follow through.  I have only had a couple experiences that I could have done without.  One was a chemistry thing and the other, the provider seemed badly broken and I was very uncomfortable around him.

[BuffaloKyle]

I'd suggest one hour to start with especially if it's a local provider. If you book one hour and you're having a good time during the session ask if it's possible to extend it another hour. They should have enough buffer time where if they do have another appt they can let you have if not an hour another half hour. Or you might get lucky like me. I was recently with a provider and I actually was the one to mention our hour was almost up and he said he was having a good time so he didn't care and we played for another 30 min with no extra charge.

Edited June 5, 2023 by BuffaloKyle

[starman05]

All great continued input; thanks to everyone. 

The provider told me we can play by ear. He has time budgeted to extend if I'm into him.

Frankly, this instills me with some confidence.

He doesn't seem strict or demanding. I'd be far more concerned if he insisted on scheduling a certain amount of time in advance. It tells me he's not trying to just take advantage of me. 

Fingers crossed! 

 

 

 

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Two hours is still not a ton of time. 

I'm sure you'll be fine. 

[jeezifonly]

Chemistry. 
If you have it with a first time provider, two will fly by.

 If you don’t, an hour can be a slog. 

Good luck! 

[+ azdr0710]

On 6/3/2023 at 9:49 PM, starman05 said:

When you're having fun, seconds fly by like minutes...

[BananaBagel]

23 hours ago, dbar123 said:

It depends on what the nature of the interaction is.

If it’s primarily massage then an hour is plenty, especially if it’s a local provider who you can see again easily.

If it’s a BFE thing with someone under 30 I would be inclined to try just an hour first unless it’s a traveling provider who I’ve been eager to try.

An older seasoned provider…definitely 2 hrs. 
 

Call me ageist if you wish…just my honest opinion based on experience 

I agree with your take on seeking a BFE style experience with younger men. I don’t book two hours since many of them aren’t up for the scene I’m looking for. I’d be interested in more in-depth suggestions on this. 

[italianboyph]

I think it would just depend on what you're looking for and the initial interaction with the provider. Start with an hour and then go from there if you're enjoying yourself. I've had clients book an hour and then ask to extend to 2 hours. 

[ncc1701d]

i make it clear up front that we are firm for an hour, but if things click extend to 2, and whether that is an ok set up with escort. Have yet to get push back on it as the good ones know that individual chemistry is hard to predict up front no matter how hot the pics are ,how many reviews, and how good the communication has been....we are just all wired differently!

[+ Pensant]

Have always booked two hours and it’s worked well. I like to have a little conversation before moving to the main event. I’m pretty discerning re whom I choose, so I’ve been rarely disappointed. I let the occasional dud leave early, with the two hour payment. I really am not interested in asking for a discount since it was clear that we’d booked two hours.

[+ Tygerscent]

On 6/3/2023 at 11:49 PM, starman05 said:

I think it's smarter, generally, to have first-time meetings with providers be an hour; if it doesn't go well, then you're out as little as possible

However, I've been communicating with this one guy and all the texts have been great and feedback and reviews are all aces. 

When you're having fun, seconds fly by like minutes... 

Thoughts on initial meetings being 2 hours, anyone? 

 

My shortest session is two hours. It’s never been any different. Not in 25 years.
 An additional note is that I typically text a lot with my clients before I meet them. I rarely if ever talk to them on the phone because it’s really hard to schedule phone calls. Lots of times I am with Clients or other people and I’m not able to take phone calls.  
 Especially given I talk to people who are in every time zone globally~  
 I can multitask if I’m texting, but, phone calls take you away from everything but that one call event~ Despite guys saying that they just want to chat for a minute or two, it typically turns into something longer than an hour, and sometimes four or five hours. Multiply that by any number greater than one and you see the dilemma~  So, I just don’t do phone calls.  
 Given that I’ve never done one hour sessions, I can’t imagine how anybody can meet somebody and then wrap everything up in an hour and just head out the door. I don’t know how much you really get to know each other in terms of content~ I understand that you experience something on a context level but, maybe not much on the content level. Prior communication counts for some of that but, isn’t the same as in person one on one interaction~
 So, whether you can actually be in each other’s company longer than the hour after an hour session isn’t really substantiated by such a short period of time within that limited context.
 My experience with my own provision has been that allowing for that personal exchange in those first two or three hours, (along with our general activities), gives us a better chance to know each other in numerous levels and things typically end up where we establish a relationship of sorts and understanding of each other that wouldn’t otherwise be potential in a single hour~  
 There are a number of people who have started out by hiring me for my six hour session and we’ve had no problems utilizing the time~ Usually it runs over but, that is of no concern to me really. I don’t charge anything extra for that and I really just enjoy the time that we have to create a quality experience. It also doesn’t really matter to me regarding some extra time on these longer appointments because I don’t see multiple clients per day. My day is dedicated to my Client that day~   
  I find it unfair to both myself and the Client to have multiple appointments per day. I would hate to be the Client hiring somebody who is holding back because they have another Client right afterwards or who’s too tired to perform because they’ve had one, two or three Clients before me~    
  I also don’t like the idea of holding out on a Client because of the other case  scenarios just mentioned.
 The hire tier after my 6 hr session is for a 14 hour overnight and then after that it’s a 24 hour appointment. 
 So, I’m pretty sloppy about time and it’s not exactly 6 hours… It’s more like 6+ whatever~       
  Generally, if somebody makes an inquiry to me about an overnight or a 24 hour appointment or a weekend appointment and I’ve never seen them before. I will suggest that we start out with a shorter session~ We can always schedule something longer in the future or if they want to stay longer they can~    
 That’s relaxing… no “time” worries~    There’s enough to worry about in daily life outside of a session~ Our appointment is meant to be a comfortable and relaxing safe haven away from the regular turbidity of life~  
  I don’t usually do free time with clients because, at some some point it becomes awkward and unfair to both of us. The lines and expectations start to become blurry. I’ve noticed this in my own experiences, but also watching others.

 

  
  

 
 

Edited June 9, 2023 by Tygerscent

[starman05]

okay. First, I want to thank everybody for their input. 

I communicated with a guy with great reviews and I also got some private feedback. It appears to be aces all around and he's said we can call it at an hour if I'm not feeling it. I thanked him for keeping additional time open after an hour (which is considerate of him.) 

I'm getting a good vibe. Does anyone have additional input on what I can do to prepare and/or what to expect?

I realize every encounter is different.

I'm not into being penetrated anally. Other than that, I'm wide open (no pun intended.) 

TIA. 

 

 

[+ azdr0710]

28 minutes ago, starman05 said:

Does anyone have additional input on what I can do to prepare and/or what to expect?

take a shower, be on time, talk slowly, firm handshake, smile, look him in the eye, brief small talk then offer a massage to start things, YOU (!) watch the clock to make sure you get what you want before time is up, make sure HE has fun, too.....

oh, and the usual no deposit thing!.....confirm the 'terms and conditions' beforehand, then no money talk at the meet......discreet envelope at beginning or end

let us know!

[starman05]

Thank u! I have it in my head that this is going to be great but it’s important to go in prepared and be clear. Thank u!!!