What are your red flags?

[Archangel]

6 hours ago, Wolfer said:

The creator flipped and went on a tirade on how the man should be grateful someone like him would even ask him and that the man should be paying him to have sex with him. 

Roget called…

Entitled, owed, due, deserving, merited

[Emir]

Cosplay ads

[Guest]

2 hours ago, Emir said:

Cosplay ads

Yikes!!

[+ Jamie21]

On 7/12/2023 at 4:14 PM, Wolfer said:

There was an interesting exchange I saw on Instagram recently. So I know from Onlyfans creators that models that collab together don't pay each other, because every model gets a new video (new content) for their page that they can sell, making them money that way. 

An Onlyfans creator had messaged a (very sexy) man on social media, asking him to make a video with him. The man, not being an Onlyfans model himself, asked how much the creator would pay him to be part of the video (since the man didn't have an Onlyfans himself where he could sell that video to his own subs, effectively unable to monetize his performance). The creator flipped and went on a tirade on how the man should be grateful someone like him would even ask him and that the man should be paying him to have sex with him. 

I have an Onlyfans (and a Justforfans) and you’re correct that when you do a collab with a model you don’t pay them: it’s a mutual deal whereby you both get content you can monetise on your Onlyfans page.

There’s an interesting dynamic though in that the ‘big names’ on the fans sites tend to collaborate with other models in their league in terms of followers and profile. You contact guys to collab with and if they think you don’t have enough followers they won’t collab with you because they won’t get enough exposure.

You have to slowly work your way up the hierarchy by performing with models who are in your league or just above to build your presence. Luckily when I started I already had a couple of friends in who had a decent profile in the porn industry so I collaborated with them. 

Basically on the fans sites you fuck your way to the top (or bottom depending on your perspective). It’s very like real life 😂.

 

 

[+ DrownedBoy]

21 hours ago, Emir said:

Cosplay ads

 

They're okay, as long as the provider actually shows what they look like without the costume on. Who knows what this Black Joker looks like?

[Archangel]

51 minutes ago, DrownedBoy said:

 

They're okay, as long as the provider actually shows what they look like without the costume on. Who knows what this Black Joker looks like?

Sometimes it gives insight into his personality. Depending on the cosplay or whatever getup he’s wearing, it can give an indication of compatibility for something more than “fuck and run.”

[Archangel]

Another example of AI retouching that says to me “pass.” The picture is too perfect. A normal photograph that shows what I’ll actually encounter should be what shows up in the ad. Not something so retouched it looks fake or something like this in a gym. We won’t be meeting in the gym so this so over the top…

 

[+ DrownedBoy]

8 hours ago, Archangel said:

Another example of AI retouching that says to me “pass.” The picture is too perfect. A normal photograph that shows what I’ll actually encounter should be what shows up in the ad. Not something so retouched it looks fake or something like this in a gym. We won’t be meeting in the gym so this so over the top…

 

Dude, that looks like a staged photo. It's not a real gym; the area caught by the camera just makes it look like that. He was clearly posing for that effect (hence the YMCA t-shirt).

Photoshopping was taking place decades before the (IMNSHO overblown) "AI" wave. Look at the face and body for alterations, not the pose.

Edited July 19, 2023 by DrownedBoy

[Archangel]

5 hours ago, DrownedBoy said:

Dude, that looks like a staged photo. It's not a real gym; the area caught by the camera just makes it look like that. He was clearly posing for that effect (hence the YMCA t-shirt).

Photoshopping was taking place decades before the (IMNSHO overblown) "AI" wave. Look at the face and body for alterations, not the pose.

Okay. I don’t like altered photos. It ain’t what we’re getting upon arrival. 🚩 

[edinbrooklyn]

Tantric anything!

 

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[edinbrooklyn]

And aligning chakras . . . 
 

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[Archangel]

6 hours ago, Marctraveler said:

No reviews or 1 or more negative reviews (also depends on content of the negative review)

There’s an escort (or was – I haven’t looked in a while) who charges crazy rates but has no reviews…but has been on RM for quite a while. And he uses OF to vet potential clients. You have to subscribe to his OF for him to even consider booking you, so his automated response tells you. Well, yours truly was dumb enough to pay that, and said escort didn’t communicate with me over OF either. As promised. I’m convinced guys have left negative reviews of him on RM but they’ve been removed. I’m not paying RM for their material if they removed negative reviews. The reviews are useless if they’re curated. 

[+ DrownedBoy]

If a provider has 30 reviews and 1 is negative, I'm not too concerned.

If a provider has 30 reviews and 5 are negative, you need to back off.

I mentioned earlier about an escort who refused to see me after I asked why he had that proportion (about 15% negative ads). A few weeks ago, he just reappeared in a new ad, a new name, and no reviews. That's the biggest red flag of all; he did me a favor earlier.

[Emir]

extra chiseled jaws

[+ DrownedBoy]

3 hours ago, Emir said:

extra chiseled jaws

Maybe some Habsburg blood made it to Columbia.

[Emir]

[Archangel]

3 hours ago, Emir said:

I know a lot of folks who behave like they’re inbred, but don’t have the blessing of chiseled, angular features! 😂 

[Archangel]

I don't know if it's a red flag per se, but it's definitely an annoyance.

As some of you may know from another thread I posted, I'm looking for a guy for some time in a cabin in a few months (thankfully I found someone and it's lined up, by the way! – aside). So I was searching through RM and checking out some of my options from browsing before. This guy came up. As you can see from my opening text, which may or may not have been how some of you think it should be done, but whatever, I was surprised that he was in my list given he's a bottom. So I messaged. 

Automated messages sort of rub me wrong, but okay. 

But then he doesn't answer my questions anyhow…

That's not a red flag per se, but it's like – okay, honey. I'm moving on. You can't be bothered to take this seriously.
 

[ICTJOCK]

Well I think when one talks  "red flags"  it is important to know that those flags can change over time.   I still remember when I first started escorting,   I didn't want a client that didn't come with a referral.  It was important for me to know who they were and it was legit.   It was all about my own comfort level as a newbie to the business.   Times change,  but some things don't.   I like client's who give a clear and concise message about what they want and what they are looking for.   If I'm booked at a hotel,  a location that is clear.   A ref flag for me is some indecision or a lack of clarity.    If I were a client,  I would think talking to an escort who is impersonal,  insensitive or unprofessional would be a red flag.

[+ poolboy48220]

Something I'm seeing more often lately, providers who mention they're into findom (financial domination) in their ad.  I do have a mild kink where I enjoy being dominated, but it doesn't extend to my wallet.  I guess I just get a sense that they'd be bringing it up all through the session. 

[+ DrownedBoy]

5 hours ago, poolboy48220 said:

Something I'm seeing more often lately, providers who mention they're into findom (financial domination) in their ad.  I do have a mild kink where I enjoy being dominated, but it doesn't extend to my wallet.  I guess I just get a sense that they'd be bringing it up all through the session. 

Yup. If I see "findom," I close the ad immediately.

It takes a new level of lazy to think you can make a living telling others to give you money.

And it takes someone born into money who could enjoy throwing it away.

[ICTJOCK]

Well I have a number of "red flags"  with clients,   one is just looking at my ad dozens of times and not asking any questions about services.   I like clarity and clients who are serious and direct to the point.   That doesn't mean that someone who isn't  and drags the process out isn't "client worthy",  it takes a little more time to understand where he is coming from and if he is a good prospect as a client.    One of the oddest conversations I ever had with a perspective client was one that asked me if I'd ever consider escorting overseas as the money was good .   He said he could help facilitate that process.    I never asked any more questions,  I just considered that a huge red flag.

[MikePDNA51]

On 4/30/2023 at 2:34 PM, Coolwave35 said:

When allllll the photos are model shots. 
 

when the most recently uploaded pic is 3 years old. 
 

when a provider gives enough details for me to ID one of their clients. 

Seriously true!!  When Massuer has all professional photos they do not look like that in real life. Anyone could look sexy with correct light and camera angle. 

[Archangel]

Maybe I’ll start a faceless, one-pic ad with a single word in the description on RM “findom” so all the guys who want a rush to pay someone for nothing can pay me! 😂 

[Guest]

On 4/29/2023 at 3:06 PM, DWnyc said:

Bad teeth … 😊

"Forget nudes, show me your teeth" 🦷  😂