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Moderator's Note:

Folks, it is time to take a deep breath and tone down the rhetoric.

Name-calling and attacks need to stop and so does the bickering. 

Thank you in advance for your cooperation.

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I met a guy who worked in a popular club/bar who was a gogo/stripper. The guy was absolutely stunning. Beautiful, a body to do die for, abs of steel who just oozed sex appeal. To me he was irresistibl

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It’s mostly a matter of definition. I had a provider tell me he was straight while two inches of his tongue were up my rectum. I didn’t care what the hell he was as long as he kept licking. 

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Totally. When I was very young, I was attracted to some of the boys, but I didn't see myself fitting in with the gays...so it was traumatizing for a bit when I was 12 to 13 years old, when I had

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3 hours ago, muslnicknj said:

I’ve hired straight guys in the past as long as they’re comfortable with the gay 4 pay scene and do what I request. But if a guy has an ad that specifically says “women only,” it’s likely he won’t be interested and could even be hostile. 

Where would you find these guys? The "women only" seems even hotter to me. Is it weird? 

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1 minute ago, wayout said:

In the past I've hired two straight guys.  One was an outstanding experience while the other was a total waste of time.  My success rate with bi and gay guys is much better.    

Aww. What made it outstanding and waste of time? Where did you find them? 

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2 hours ago, Playful boy said:

Where would you find these guys? The "women only" seems even hotter to me. Is it weird? 

Not weird at all. Different strokes for different folks. If you go to Rent.men, guys typically indicate if they’re straight, bi or gay. Personally I’ve had very good experiences with guys who identify as straight. 

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If the fact the man is straight is the primary reason for attraction for a gay man, this might be a fetish. But absent that factor, if the attraction involves the man's looks (handsome, well-built, and so on), mannerisms (so-called "straight acting" as opposed to -no offense intended here, please- "swishy"), personality (intellectual, funny, blunt or -no pun intended- straight-forward), or other common factors for attractions between people, it seems natural to me.

Since a gay man, by definition, means a man sexually attracted to another man, what would be more natural to that condition but to find the very epitome of masculinity attractive and desirable?

Getting one of them to agree, however, is more problematic. As a boss I had years ago told me regarding finding and hiring desirable candidates, "Selection is a management function; availability is in the hands of God."

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5 hours ago, Playful boy said:

Aww. What made it outstanding and waste of time? Where did you find them? 

The outstanding guy was very interactive, take charge and met my criteria for being satisfied (except no kissing).  The waste of time was passive and just wanted to be serviced.  Of course some guys like that but it wasn't what I wanted.

I found both on Rentmen.  If you do a search and list "straight" in the filter for orientation then you can see the options there.

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6 hours ago, wayout said:

I don't think those two things are necessarily mutually exclusive to one another.

Desiring a man who is confirmed to never fully be attracted to you is nonsensical.

But I think the bigger issue is WHY so many gay men chase self-proclaimed straight guys. 
 

I’ll dive a bit deeper by making this observation:

 The straight men they desire are never effeminate straight men, soft straight men or cuckolds.

This observation leads me to believe that the desire to have a straight man, is connected with an idea of “authentic masculinity”, which many gay men believe cannot be achieved by another gay man. 
 

What’s unfortunate about this is that a paradigm is created where straight men can play with the minds of desperate gay men, seeking the “real man”, of their fantasies, by giving them glimmers of hope of making them his “ultimate bitch.” 
 

I see the lust on many sites, especially onlyfans, where straight guys are playing fools out of their pockets for the sheer idea of a fantasy. 
 

To each his own, but why waste money on hope? 
I would never:

Subscribe to any of their OnlyFans

or hire for the services of any straight man, ever…

I don’t want to play myself, nor do I want to give any straight man the satisfaction of believing that every gay man wants him. 
 

NO WAY…. 

 

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Eh, i get where you're coming from, but once you've crossed the line to hiring I'm not sure there's a principled stand to take on whether they're straight or not. By definition you're paying someone to do something they wouldn't do absent the money. To me the question is are they respectful. There are gay escorts who are assholes and are abusive towards their clients as well. There are some straight guys who are just in it for the money but still manage to be nice to the clients and as long as they cam perform the tasks asked of them I don't think it matters. This isn't courtship, it's a service. Some of them do this specifically to keep their sex work and their romantic relationships separate. I know of some lesbians who strip for men for.similar reasons. As long as nobody's walking away from the encounter feeling shitty about themselves then it's fine IMO.

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after agonizing over escort rates, this may be the most-popular forum topic since Hooboy days........

we ain't gonna solve this......the more militant among us will be dutifully shocked that some here will hire a straight guy.....others want only that......

as said above, respect, communication, and trust are most important.....it's just some fun and fantasy.......find a guy who appeals to you and stick with him.......don't take it so seriously (fun and fantasy, you know)

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3 hours ago, sniper said:

Eh, i get where you're coming from, but once you've crossed the line to hiring I'm not sure there's a principled stand to take on whether they're straight or not. By definition you're paying someone to do something they wouldn't do absent the money. To me the question is are they respectful. There are gay escorts who are assholes and are abusive towards their clients as well. There are some straight guys who are just in it for the money but still manage to be nice to the clients and as long as they cam perform the tasks asked of them I don't think it matters. This isn't courtship, it's a service. Some of them do this specifically to keep their sex work and their romantic relationships separate. I know of some lesbians who strip for men for.similar reasons. As long as nobody's walking away from the encounter feeling shitty about themselves then it's fine IMO.

this is well said. in some way a demand and supply kind of thing. I would say that somehow a guy who does it just for compensation could be more attractive. There is some physical component there. 

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