Caveats in hiring. Please contribute!

[aiseeya]

Just now, Alex93108 said:

Siad provider worked in London for 6 months. I have a rule now : No Brazilian escort hires in Brazil that used to work in London. They are all wasted and used, the life sucked out of them by the time they return back.

Only 2 out of 10 Brazilians i had met that actually perform well. 

[marylander1940]

1 hour ago, KeepItReal said:

I guess that is possible. Have been a condom user for many (many!) years and as long as you stick to newer, thinner condoms in the right size, the sensation is almost exactly the same.  Went bare for about a year while in a mutually committed monogamous relationship and did not find the experience enhancing or better in any way. 

Of course CutlerX can charge what he wants - but will be a hard sell on me. Just like a recent companion who wanted to charge extra for kissing. Sorry, not this customer. 

I can't stand À la carte escorts either. 

 

[+ DrownedBoy]

18 hours ago, coriolis888 said:

You must look strong.  Most escorts would start a fight if many of us tried something like that.

An escort would have to be high to try to start a fight with a client,  because they'll lose either way.

 

EDIT Those who read my past posts know that the only escort who ever assaulted me was on roids.

Edited May 8, 2024 by DrownedBoy

[Becket]

We all run across that gorgeous escort who just popped up on RM one day. A New guy, we think. Hits all your buttons. In my experience, without exception, every one of these has been a disappointment, if not a disaster. Through painful and hard won experience I have learned to avoid these guys like the plague. Stick with the well known, well reviewed fellows. And just try to be a decent person at all times. If I could get back all the money I've wasted on unknown guys I'd have enough to take "insert your favorite guy here" to Aruba for a week. Live and learn.

[jmichaeliii]

21 minutes ago, Becket said:

We all run across that gorgeous escort who just popped up on RM one day. A New guy, we think. Hits all your buttons. In my experience, without exception, every one of these has been a disappointment, if not a disaster. Through painful and hard won experience I have learned to avoid these guys like the plague. Stick with the well known, well reviewed fellows. And just try to be a decent person at all times. If I could get back all the money I've wasted on unknown guys I'd have enough to take "insert your favorite guy here" to Aruba for a week. Live and learn.

 Been there, experienced the same.  I have 3 go to guys who all provide different type sessions, but are all great.  After some recent subpar experiences, I'm sticking with them.

[DWnyc]

On 5/8/2024 at 3:33 AM, FrankR said:

That is right up there with blaming mercury being in retrograde.  
 

In my early hiring (pre prep and ART) I once spent half a session debating this issue (condoms can make you unable to perform) with a provider. He told me that discussion was worse than a condom to kill his hard-on.

I’ve never understood it but it’s a commonly held view and teenage girls frequently hear it too. 

And once culture started changing post prep / ART it became part of the fun to see what excuse a provider (chosen as he agreed to protection)  would try to get out of it (lost them, they’ve expired, used hem for cock rings …) 

 

[+ Twinkluvr]

On 3/29/2024 at 10:04 PM, kaboom35 said:

Maybe I've been extremely lucky but I've been hiring for about 10 years and none of his has ever happened to me.  

God, I’ve had all this. I wish I would’ve done more research like this first instead of making all the classic newbie errors that a couple of guys took full advantage of.

 

Trust your instincts, follow the rules, be respectful and specific, stand up for yourself when it’s necessary. I also learned to use a burner number for escorts.  If you do fall for it…better to let it go and move on.

Edited December 17, 2024 by Twinkluvr

[coriolis888]

On 1/23/2024 at 6:25 PM, bcbg1205 said:

When I read all the posts in this thread I am astonished and I feel like I am in the Twilight Zone. In the last 6 years I have hired a grand total of 30 different men. (I keep a list.) Some better than others for sure. All of them have come to my place. My vetting is limited to looking at their pics, reading the reviews, and asking them if they are ok with most things in my profile. Never have I been asked to pay upfront. Never have I felt at all threatened. Never have I asked them to meet in public first. I must be doing something right and maybe I have a sixth sense for choosing correctly. But there must be other Twilight Zone dwellers besides me.

No doubt about it, you have been lucky in your hiring. 

Considering all your good luck, I think you might want to consider how many of us have had bad experiences with hiring, and be a bit more cautious in future hiring. 

Although most hires are good people, there are some bad ones out there just waiting for an opportunity to take advantage of someone who shows such good hospitality to them.     

[coriolis888]

On 1/23/2024 at 5:05 PM, rojjodc said:

Can we trust RMen/Masseur reviews?  If a provider has 100 reviews with average of 5 is he likely to me more reliable than one with no review or 1 review?  It seems strange to me that some providers have been on the site for months but don't have any reviews.  I guess I am hesitant even if I find them attractive.

Can we trust rentmen reviews?

Tough question - I personally know that rentmen will remove a bad review merely because a provider gives a good excuse for contradicting the bad review.

There have been several ads that I felt were interesting and worthy of my hiring.  Most of those ads had many five star reviews and several one star reviews, which caused me to ignore the ad and not contact the provider.  Over time (a few months), while going through the ads on rentmen, I noticed that the same guys that I once would have liked to hire but did not because of the bad, one star reviews, had numerous five star reviews and the one star reviews had disappeared.  

Needless to say, I now give almost no credibility to rentmen reviews.  

[Seymour Butts]

Maybe I've been extraordinarily unlucky? 

I only have the resources to hire twice a year, so I've seen maybe a dozen providers total. So I do a lot of research beforehand, or at least I try: most of the men who float my boat seem unknown to the kind gentlemen of this site, which is neither a recommendation nor a disrecommendation. Of the twelve or so providers I've seen:

 

One offered me something to drink at his place, then in twenty minutes or so it became apparent that drink was drugged

One guy's bed gave me scabies 

Two couldn't get an erection 

One was a repeat hire after an incredible first encounter. I flew out to see him a second time, but then an hour before the appointment time he said he had the flu (could have let me know before I flew out there thank you)

One completely ghosted me, like he wasn't home at his apartment and wouldn't respond to my messages asking where he was 

One was a big-time a la carte provider

 

Come to think of it, I have more bad encounters than good ones...why do I do this again?

[coriolis888]

On 3/29/2024 at 9:04 PM, kaboom35 said:

Maybe I've been extremely lucky but I've been hiring for about 10 years and none of his has ever happened to me.  

There is no "maybe" about it.  You were lucky if you "have been hiring for about 10 years" without being scammed by a provider.   

[+ ApexNomad]

3 hours ago, Seymour Butts said:

Maybe I've been extraordinarily unlucky? 

I only have the resources to hire twice a year, so I've seen maybe a dozen providers total. So I do a lot of research beforehand, or at least I try: most of the men who float my boat seem unknown to the kind gentlemen of this site, which is neither a recommendation nor a disrecommendation. Of the twelve or so providers I've seen:

 

One offered me something to drink at his place, then in twenty minutes or so it became apparent that drink was drugged

One guy's bed gave me scabies 

Two couldn't get an erection 

One was a repeat hire after an incredible first encounter. I flew out to see him a second time, but then an hour before the appointment time he said he had the flu (could have let me know before I flew out there thank you)

One completely ghosted me, like he wasn't home at his apartment and wouldn't respond to my messages asking where he was 

One was a big-time a la carte provider

 

Come to think of it, I have more bad encounters than good ones...why do I do this again?

I give you an enormous amount of credit for getting back on the horse after repeated negative experiences, especially the one where you were drugged. Honestly, that would have ended this as my hobby entirely. I’m really sorry that happened to you, and I sincerely hope the end result wasn’t what we often fear in situations like that. I don’t know the details of what happened, and I’d be remiss to speculate. However, if any physical harm was done, I would consider seeking legal action. In situations like this, it’s often referred to as drink spiking or, in more severe cases, drug-facilitated assault. As for the statute of limitations, it varies by jurisdiction, but many places have a period ranging from a few years to several decades, especially for serious crimes like assault. It might be worth consulting with a legal professional to understand your options going forward.

Your resilience is impressive, and I truly hope any future encounters are much more positive and fulfilling. 

[MK0329]

On 11/4/2021 at 2:39 PM, glutes said:

Never ever pay someone in advance of even meeting them.

Oh gee thanks for this tip!

[Nodakman]

On 2/6/2022 at 6:23 PM, azdr0710 said:

on very rare occasions, I'll leave a note in the middle of my living room floor with all the pertinent information....

that way, when my friends come and break in after I don't answer calls or texts, they'll know what happened to me and who did it....

I have done the same thing! 

[Oakman]

If an escort can just take a few minutes to establish compatibility, it’ll seal the deal for me. A polite amount of chatter/flirtation in the initial coordination conversation is essential. If the guy is only interested in his rate and what hour, I’ve learned to bow out.

My provider should be willing to briefly explore what I’m turned on by. Be a gentleman. 

[MuscleDaddyRWC]

On 2/6/2022 at 7:23 PM, azdr0710 said:

on very rare occasions, I'll leave a note in the middle of my living room floor with all the pertinent information....

 

I have a good friend and we both hire escorts and masseurs.  We always text appointment details to each other "just in case" for first time encounters.  Plus reviews after & recommendations.

[Guest]

On 1/24/2024 at 5:08 AM, sjmuktop said:

Most of the time I go to the escort's place. I really like it and prefer it that way. 

As a career-bottom, I would never. I need the safety of my toiletries and first-aid kit nearby.

On-topic, this is one is weird but if they share many pics and they never smile, suspect that there is something wrong with their teeth. One time, I asked a guy about this and he said he's just not photogenic. When I finally met him in person, he was missing 2 middle incisors (He went from a 9 to 6).

[+ FrankR]

1 hour ago, Felange said:

 I need the safety of my toiletries and first-aid kit nearby.

I assume you mean bourbon and duct tape? 

[+ Just Chuck]

I haven't seen these in this thread yet:

• If you leave the room (say to go to the bathroom) expect them to go through your stuff. 
• If you're hosting, put away anything easily stolen or any sensitive information before they arrive.  Preferably someplace locked, but definitely someplace they are unlikely to get a chance to go through if unsupervised.
• If you go visit him, leave anything unnecessary for the session behind.
• If you leave stuff in your car, place it in a locked container that's locked to the vehicle with a steel cable and padlock.  (I use a pelican brand case and padlock it to the tie-down spots for a child safety seat in my SUV hatchback and keep the hatchback cover closed.  It's possible to break into that with even simple tools, but a smash-and-grab automobile burglary won't get it.)
• If you're hosting and they leave the room (say to go to your bathroom) expect them to go through the stuff wherever they go.
• If you unlock your phone, tablet, or computer screen around them, then expect them to look at your screen.

 

[+ Just Chuck]

Before I contact someone:

• I google their phone number and run it through USPhonebook.com
• I google their screen name.
• I search their screen names in Blsky, Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and FetLife.
• I search here.
• If they give me an address, I both google it and look at the building in Google Earth to decide how I'm going there and where I might park.

Sometimes, I find their whole real-life identity.  When I do, if I like them, I'll warn them about how I was able to put their real identity together with their ad.  I met with one young man who was just about to graduate from college and career hunting and I warned him that I was able to connect his ad, his name, and his LinkedIn account.

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

On 6/19/2025 at 6:12 AM, Just Chuck said:

I haven't seen these in this thread yet:

• If you leave the room (say to go to the bathroom) expect them to go through your stuff. 
• If you're hosting, put away anything easily stolen or any sensitive information before they arrive.  Preferably someplace locked, but definitely someplace they are unlikely to get a chance to go through if unsupervised.
• If you go visit him, leave anything unnecessary for the session behind.
• If you leave stuff in your car, place it in a locked container that's locked to the vehicle with a steel cable and padlock.  (I use a pelican brand case and padlock it to the tie-down spots for a child safety seat in my SUV hatchback and keep the hatchback cover closed.  It's possible to break into that with even simple tools, but a smash-and-grab automobile burglary won't get it.)
• If you're hosting and they leave the room (say to go to your bathroom) expect them to go through the stuff wherever they go.
• If you unlock your phone, tablet, or computer screen around them, then expect them to look at your screen.

 

To phrase this in another way:  To help keep honest people honest, lock and put away everything in your room/bathroom/car/wallet.

[panpanda]

I never hire if the provider has a suspicious amount of reviews that are dated back to back. I mostly hire on Rentmasseur, and if the provider has multiple reviews that sound rotic or generic, then that usually indicates that they hired a bot to write the review for them.

[Nightowl]

On 6/19/2025 at 9:19 AM, Just Chuck said:

Before I contact someone:

• I google their phone number and run it through USPhonebook.com
• I google their screen name.
• I search their screen names in Blsky, Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and FetLife.
• I search here.
• If they give me an address, I both google it and look at the building in Google Earth to decide how I'm going there and where I might park.

Sometimes, I find their whole real-life identity.  When I do, if I like them, I'll warn them about how I was able to put their real identity together with their ad.  I met with one young man who was just about to graduate from college and career hunting and I warned him that I was able to connect his ad, his name, and his LinkedIn account.

BeenVerified is also a good place to check.

[jcmiami1]

Google street view is handy to check out their neighborhood - hey don’t care if you’re gorgeous but walking/parking in the high crime area is a hands down no. Speaking of parking I always ask-how is the parking situation. A few times had to cancel seeing a provider for there was no street parking available anywhere near them.

[KrisParr]

I once did all the above, and something told me to run his “real name” (which was simple to find) through the state’s “MyCase” court system. The guy had several convictions and the most recent was a DV and assault charge. Uh oh …