Toupée, or not toupée?

[nate_sf]

Wow. That took some chutzpah. I take it that there must have been some "safe word" that the client chose not to utter?

 

Yes, I'm guessing shaving his head had probably been something the client had already been contemplating so did not complain. I know when I shaved mine, I had been thinking to myself about it for a long time, but it wasn't until a friend suggested it and offered to do it with his clippers that I took the plunge.

[GeoMitch]

All men who take care of themselves (physically and mentally) are attractive to me.

What isn't attractive to me is that "unnatural" look that comes when they get plastic surgery, use make-up, color their hair, or get toupees.

Natural is a-OK for me!

[samhexum]

Toupée, or not toupée?

 

I'm starting to wonder about getting one. I've lost a lot of hair, I've got a big head and I'm tired of looking like Homer Simpson.

 

In most things, I know the less money I spend, the cheaper I will look. It probably holds true here, right?

 

And where the hell do you get started looking? Toupées 'R' Us? DoesYourHeadLookLikeaBowlingBall.com?

Shave it all off and if necessary start selling billboard ads for the forehead, because even those would look better than any toupee.

A nce clean shaven head is sooooooooooooo much better than any toupee....

Like my father, I started losing my hair in my early 20s, and being gay, I was very sensitive about it. I was persuaded to get a hairpiece, before the change in my appearance became dramatically obvious, but I found it a real nuisance to maintain it, and awkward when I was having sex ("Don't run your fingers through my hair!!"). After less than a year I decided I would be better off just going natural, so I put the hairpiece in a box in the back of my closet, where I discovered it years later and threw it out.

What about all of the surgeries they do these days? Are they too expensive? I must confess that baldness is a major turn-off for me. I'm not proud of this, but I can't help the way I feel.

I used to think of a shaved head as sort of an "anti-toupee," an equally desperate move that also draws the wrong kind of attention, screaming to the world at large "I"m going bald and I can't handle it." But after many years, I've grown to think that they look really good.

 

I don't shave but I keep my hair closely buzzed. I love the way I look when I'm freshly buzzed.

[+ Oliver]

... I know when I shaved mine, I had been thinking to myself about it for a long time, but it wasn't until a friend suggested it and offered to do it with his clippers that I took the plunge.

Love to feel that sexy head! ?

[+ Topseed]

I interviewed for a job in another city. While there, I met the man who was to be my boss. He had a comb-over that was beyond ridiculous. (Aren’t they all?)

 

When I returned home, I told the headhunter there was no way I would work for someone who came off to me as insecure in his own skin.

 

The headhunter knew exactly what I was referencing; she agreed with me.

 

Same concept as with a toupee.

 

A “good” one doesn’t exist.

[SirBillybob]

I’m using [X] and was very surprised.

I have crown hair loss but only moderate hairline recession. I had been fine getting a buzz cut monthly for years but stopped going to the barber when the pandemic commenced and just let my hair grow out. Then out of boredom and curiosity bought a bottle of black, one of grey, and mix them. I am 70 with salt&pepper.

The [Y] particles adhere statically and buff out the hair combed back over the crown as well as somewhat to the skin. Completely obscures the beige tone of crown skin. Out of curiosity, discovered it sustainably does the trick even after 2 nights of sleep, no touch-up needed, and withstands a comb-out a few times over that period, but I draw the line at not shampooing following 72 hours and do sweaty aerobics every third day.

A sprinkling of the particles on the pillow in the morning suggests very modest scaling off. I am attached to the idea of a new different look and anticipate a reversal back to close cut style at some point, so it was mainly for a lark and I have an optional hippie or samurai ponytail for the first time in my existence, not at all predisposed to being Danny De Vetoed, though a snitty friend opined it looked more George Carlin than Brad Pitt. A late life crisis could be much worse … hope it isn’t dermatologically carcinogenic. Don’t know if JPS has tried it. 

Funny story, I did go for a back blunt trim as I am trying to get the front part to eventually catch up to the border hem at the back of the neck and the differentials are a bit off. It needs another year or so. I rather sheepishly explained to the stylist, much younger than me, that I use [X]. Well he has more pronounced male pattern baldness than me but a full head of hair look. He pulled his [X] bottle out of his scissors drawer to show me without uttering a word. 
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I was wondering if I am breaking a posting guideline. I have no connection to the product. If a few more seasoned readers here wish to advise me that it’s fine, I am happy to fill in the X and Y blanks. 

Edited April 24, 2022 by SirBillybob

[jjkrkwood]

I have been bald for decades, and was extremely sad and depressed when I finally had to shave my head because of my extreme hair loss.   I did consider hair replacement plugs years ago, but the cost and procedure was ridiculous.   Since then, I have grown into my baldness and have made it work for me...  Never considered a "rug"....    John Travlota is a helluva  lot sexier WITHOUT his.....

[Guest]

On 11/13/2020 at 1:50 PM, Topseed said:

I interviewed for a job in another city. While there, I met the man who was to be my boss. He had a comb-over that was beyond ridiculous. (Aren’t they all?)

When I returned home, I told the headhunter there was no way I would work for someone who came off to me as insecure in his own skin...

Maybe your prospective boss might not want an employee who comes off as so judgmental... 😉 Get to know a person before you judge them. My partner "Chris" does spend what I'd consider a rather excessive amount of time on grooming. Yesterday, at a party, a new acquaintance told me "You're lucky to have 'Chris.' If you just look at him, you'd think he's really full of himself, but when I got to know him, I found out he's a really nice guy." 

[+ WilliamM]

My mom lived to almost 92 without  any grey hair

[Guest]

5 hours ago, WilliamM said:

My mom lived to almost 92 without  any grey hair

[+ Charlie]

My mother's hair became very thin in her old age, and her younger sisters persuaded her to get a wig, which she wore when she accompanied me on a vacation trip to California. While there, I took her to visit old friends near San Francisco whom she hadn't seen in decades. Her friend said, "Oh, I wish I still had hair like yours!" My mother replied, "But you can, my dear. It didn't cost that much."

[Guest]

41 minutes ago, Charlie said:

My mother's hair became very thin in her old age, and her younger sisters persuaded her to get a wig, which she wore when she accompanied me on a vacation trip to California. While there, I took her to visit old friends near San Francisco whom she hadn't seen in decades. Her friend said, "Oh, I wish I still had hair like yours!" My mother replied, "But you can, my dear. It didn't cost that much."

That reminds me of the man with the toupee, when asked if that was really his hair, said yes, because he'd rightfully purchased said hair. Or that scene from The Pirates of Penzance, in which the Major General goes to the tombs of "his ancestors." The people in those tombs were not related to him, but since he'd purchased the property, he could truthfully describe them as "his ancestors":

Gen. Why do I sit here ? To escape from the pirates' clutches, I described 
myself as an orphan, and, heaven help me, 1 am no orphan ! I come here to 
humble myself before the tombs of my ancestors, and to implore their pardon 
for having brought dishonour on the family escutcheon. 

Fred. But you forget, sir, you only bought the property a year ago, and the 
stucco in your baronial hall is scarcely dry. 

Gen. Frederic, in this chapel are ancestors : you cannot deny that. With 
the estate, I bought the chapel and its contents. I don't know whose ancestors 
they were, but I know whose ancestors they are, and I shudder to think that 
their descendant by purchase (if I may so describe myself) should have brought 
disgrace upon what, I have no doubt, was an unstained escutcheon. 

Edited April 25, 2022 by Unicorn

[+ WilliamM]

I didn't need a wig when I was interviewed on the radio in Philadelphia about free  housing counseling available for first-time hommebyers 

Funded by Community Development Block Grants from Washington

[I still have some of my hair at age seventy eight]

[+ sync]

I'm not bald, my hair has a wide part.

[BonVivant]

You will never realize someone has a toupee if it is good and installed properly. They are not cheap. People can only see the cheap ones with plastic bases. The good ones - you can’t tell. Feel free to DM me. 

[+ friendofsheila]

Jerry Seinfeld looks better now without all that extra hair.

[Rudynate]

For years I've been having problems with my scalp. It is pretty oily and it was breaking out - sores and zits all over it.  I was using a dandruff shampoo, which sort of controlled it. Recently, I started using the shampoo from  a line of skincare products that are being advertised all over the internet and my scalp problems have completely gone away.   I know I sound like a commercial, but I'm really happy about it.

[+ Charlie]

4 hours ago, Rudynate said:

For years I've been having problems with my scalp. It is pretty oily and it was breaking out - sores and zits all over it.  I was using a dandruff shampoo, which sort of controlled it. Recently, I started using the shampoo from  a line of skincare products that are being advertised all over the internet and my scalp problems have completely gone away.   I know I sound like a commercial, but I'm really happy about it.

And the name of this product is....?

[Rudynate]

1 hour ago, Charlie said:

And the name of this product is....?

Particle for Men

[wab678]

On 8/2/2020 at 5:15 PM, Luv2play said:

I started going bald on the top back of my head around 25, much like my father, and like him it ended there. The front and sides remained thick and to this day almost 50 years later remain so, maybe a bit thinner on top but not noticeable. When I look in the mirror, I see a full head of hair. From the back, when I look in two mirrors, I see baldness. But I rarely look and couldn’t give a fig. I enjoy escorts who are either hirsute or bald or partially bald. It’s what is below the belt that counts for me. I had a few encounters with an escort a couple of years ago who was around 27. His hair was starting to thin and he was very self conscious about it. The first time he came to my house he kept his woolen tuque on until we got into bed. I thought he was very sexy. But he later went to Turkey with some of my money lol to get a hair transplant (this was in 2018). Haven’t seen him since as his ad was removed from RM although I have his e-mail. We’ve corresponded since but it seems his girlfriend didn’t approve of his sideline business and I think it was just to get the money for the transplant.

I'm thinning, can't grow facial hair, AND I'm just average below the belt. Definitely a winning combo. 

[wab678]

On 7/14/2020 at 12:59 PM, Gar1eth said:

 

You might have felt differently if you had been bald at 28 as I was.

 

Gman

I can completely relate. 

On 7/13/2020 at 2:41 PM, dbar123 said:

If you're going bald or grey or whatever, own it and enjoy it.

 

At 66 I am finally losing my hair and don't mind shaving it off.

You're 66, which is why you don't mind. Imagine going bald in your teens, 20s, or even your 30s.

[Luv2play]

17 hours ago, wab678 said:

I can completely relate. 

You're 66, which is why you don't mind. Imagine going bald in your teens, 20s, or even your 30s.

I had a friend in school and university, which we both attended together. He was also a neighbor. Starting around the end of high school he started going bald at an almost daily pace. He told me it was coming off in the shower in huge batches. It was hereditary as he looked just like his father who was bald as a bowling ball.

It really affected him badly and he wore a toupee for a few years after leaving university and started working in the financial industry. He became a multimillionaire in a few years, before I had even finished graduate school. But he became a terrible alcoholic, even though he married a nice looking wife and had two kids. 

 His wife eventually divorced him and he became a ski bum out west. He died of a massive heart attack 4 years ago. I think his baldness was something he couldn't get over. I used to tell him Yul Brenar looked great.  To no avail. Sad really.