Jamie21

Switch it and look at things you’re glad that exist now which didn’t previously. That’s a more appealing lens to look through. There’s lots: More sexual freedom and acceptance of difference - which has been hard won and is fragile but it’s definitely there. The ability to connect with people globally via platforms such as this. It helps to educate and bring people together. Greater access to sexual health services and better treatments. Gay venues becoming normalised and simply existing openly alongside so called straight venues; in fact there being a merging so the there isn’t so much of a gay ghetto. The circles should overlap a bit. And shirtless guys still exist. In summer anyway. I’m one of them 😂

I enjoy all my meetings but some less so and it’s usually when they won’t look me in the eye (often Arabic clients with issues around gay sex), or when they have too many instructions such as “fuck me in this position, now this position, now do this etc”. I prefer the session to proceed organically with of course me including the things they like but at the appropriate time, letting it evolve naturally. The other characteristics that are essential for the best experience are cleanliness down there (I.e. douche well) and good hygiene.

I would have too but the regular was an outcall and the new guy in call….I’d have had to be in two places at once. I’m good, but not that good!!

Update: sure enough the new guy cancelled…(as I expected). I go back to the regular to say I’m now available but he now has other plans. So that’s how I thought it would pan out, all because someone thinks it’s ok to book whilst being unsure that they’ll actually go ahead. Annoying. But it’s normal and I can usually see it coming. I’m not going to let it wind me up too much. You have to be like water in this business. Adapt, adjust, and overcome it.

He verbalises it more. These problems happen to everyone I think. It’s worse though if your client base is spread about and travel time is a big factor. Clients messing around with soft arrangements is extremely annoying if you’re trying to make plans. I don’t travel longer than an hour maximum to see a client because I don’t need to, London has enough business, so the logistics are simpler. Example, last week I booked a client for an evening this week. A new client so I put it down as 50% likely to cancel as we approach the day. Then I had a regular client as me for an appointment around the same time. So a dilemma….see the new client who booked first and disappoint the regular or book the regular and go back to the new client to let him know I can’t now make it. My decision was to give the new client the benefit and keep the booking. After all he did book first. So I go to the regular and tell him I’m unfortunately not available but if things change I’ll come back to him. Sure enough….now I get a message from the new guy saying that “I might have to reschedule because of work…”. That’s all… so now it’s a ‘maybe’ and I’m supposed to hang around waiting to find out. Well sorry, I know with 95% certainty that you’ll cancel on the day. It’s a common pattern. So I’ve told my regular I’m now available if he wants to book. Likelihood is he’s made other arrangements, which is fine, but because of new clients’ messing around I’m now trying to re plan things. If you think you might need to cancel then go ahead and cancel….don’t leave it open “I might turn up or I might not”…that’s not acceptable.

Everything is connected. Your body can affect your mind and vice versa. Work on the things you can control, like rest, no alcohol, eat well, exercise, meditate. After a while things begin to align. I believe medication should be temporary and only to give you the window to regain control. Best wishes to you.

I reckon it’s about $75 of your time spent writing these posts on here. I do sympathise, it’s infuriating dealing with time wasters. I respond to two questions, then if they’ve still not booked I just say “let me know if you want to book” and end the conversation. All the info is on my website. Loads of it, including FAQ’s. Some people just like the chase and get off on the talk. They should call a sex chat line. Maybe you should send those guys to one of those? “Here, you obviously like to talk about sex but not do it…call this number and have fun: xxxxx”

Yes it’s a red flag for sure. Most of the time when clients request a pic the meeting won’t happen. Similarly if they send pics, it’s unlikely they’ll book. The longer the conversation goes on the less likely they’ll book. 🙄

You know a car is a cock substitute? The bigger the car, the smaller the cock. I’ve done studies and there’s a correlation 😂

I direct pic requests from clients to my website where there’s pics and a video. I think it should be enough but I’m happy to send pics if they want them. The last thing I want is a client coming to see me with the wrong expectations, so it’s best they see me and are attracted by what I can offer. I don’t need to see client’s pics and I don’t request them, but it’s fine if they want to send them to me. Total discretion is given, and expected. That’s the best way to do business.

Be really clear what you’re looking for. I’m surprised they ride your cock without asking or agreeing to that beforehand. It’s unacceptable. If a client says to me “no anal” then that’s great, I know not to go there. I think the challenge is sometimes clients will say things before the session that they then change their mind on during the session. It’s because of anxiety or embarrassment asking for something at the start or just out of getting so horny during the session that they get more adventurous. So I always check as we go by whispering in his ear “are you ok”, or before we start I’ll say that periodically I’ll squeeze his hand and he should squeeze back if all ok. I can then keep it at the level he likes. If it looks like he wants to fuck or get fucked then I’ll test by putting my cock near his hole, it’s up to him then to push himself on. He’s in control about whether it goes in. I think you should ask your providers to communicate during the session so that you can keep things from escalating to places you don’t want to go. It doesn’t have to be spoken; just make the physical signs clear to him. Oh and choose providers who are professional, they’re focused on your pleasure above all. I hope you find the intimacy you seek.

That’s it. But money isn’t the only reason, it’s part of the story yes but there’s also the fun of meeting people and the thrill of the work. You can’t do it for long if money is the only reason.

In some aspects yes, in some aspects no. For example in my personal life I tend to wear clothes more often and when I’ve finished fucking them I don’t ask how they’d like to pay 😂. Seriously though…we all play roles in our work. Whatever work that is.

I don’t agree it’s moving far to the extreme. It seems to be quite reasonable. Providers have the right to decline clients, that’s not been refuted. But the more selective they are the more they move away from the concept of the work I think. Now that’s extreme! Everyone? Every detail?

Yes of course providers can have lines. It’s their business, they can define their market. But I think it’s the nature of the job to accept clients as they are. I can influence my market by how I present my service and in my pricing and pitch. My clients are more discerning and up market I think because of my pitch. If I was cheaper then I’d get a different type of client. However I’m not discriminating clients on looks, size, age or ethnicity. I am discriminating on cleanliness (that’s difficult to assess though - but everyone showers before seeing me!) politeness, respect and discretion. Hence someone texting “fuck now” gets no response. Someone wanting a discount gets refused. Someone booking and then not showing is blocked for ever. Someone who is unclean and disrespectful during the session gets what they deserve and doesn’t come back. That’s how I ‘select’ clients.

Thank you! I have had one problem with my partnership with Amazon though. They want me to adopt their Prime model where everything comes quickly. I’ve said my clients prefer things to be delayed a little. We’re in discussions…..

Thousands. All kept on a database that is Data Protection compliant. When a client contacts me my system informs me of his or her preferences, frequency of booking, date of last session and an algorithm calculates the likelihood of booking again. The system AI engages with the client to make the booking and then updates my calendar. Ahead of the date the chat bot engages with the client to confirm the booking and provide details about how to get to me and what to prepare. Any questions my client has are answered by the bot or if the client presses “1” are referred to a call centre in Chennai where trained operators answer questions such as “how big is it?” using a script (95% of calls are answered within 5 minutes). While on hold callers are played a sound recording of a recent porn shoot I did and offered discounts to join my Justfor.fans. After the session my client receives a satisfaction questionnaire and invitation to join my membership scheme. This all happened since I was bought out by Amazon.

Oh, I’m also a member and had forgotten about it. Not much seems to be happening there. My kind of club; everyone just silently contemplating.

Ha ha, it’s true though. Often hung guys are assumed to be top only. I’m not complaining because I do usually like to top. I’m very big which most bottoms seem to see as a challenge lol. But come on guys, even if you’re average size or small I’m really glad if you want to fuck me back.

There speaks a professional. Well said. I totally agree. I always think “this client has chosen me for his massage / fun…out of all the other options available to him he has chosen me. What a fantastic compliment that is! I shall make sure that he feels fantastic about that choice and really make his day”.

It costs your sanity. No amount of money would persuade me to accept such an arrangement. Unfortunately I’ve never had such an offer to test my resolve!!

Me too. Clients sometimes use them when I’m fucking them and whilst I don’t mind others using poppers I don’t like catching a whiff of them. I never understood the attraction or what they do for you. Probably because like someone else said in the thread, I had a guy accidentally spill some in my eye while he was fucking me. The funny thing was he didn’t notice and took my signs of discomfort as encouragement to fuck harder.

I think it’s very possible to perform a sexual act if you’re not attracted to the other party. I’m able to find attraction in the client I’m with even if they’re not the kind of client I’d normally be instantly attracted to. That’s the essence of doing sex work; the ability to make a connection with all sorts of different people and find what’s attractive about them. My point is that if you’re a sex worker who likes to choose only clients you find attractive then you’re not really a sex worker, you’re just getting paid in your sex life. A true sex worker will accept all clients and make them all feel attractive and valued. I see clients who are disabled for example. I know some providers who refused to see them because they’re not attractive enough. That’s their choice of course but I’d say they’re not doing a great job.

If you’re being picky about your clients on the basis of their age (18+), body type, ethnicity or any other similar reason then you’re not a proper escort. I’m not picky about my clients, I don’t want a picture or description to book. I mainly do massage (sexual style) and all I ask is to be healthy for massage and sober / not on drugs.

All I need is “hello are you available on day / time for x hours please?”. Then I can say yes / no or offer an alternative time and usually within an exchange or two the session is booked. I don’t need any personal details such as body type, age or definitely no pics. None of those things are relevant (as long as the client is over 18). If clients want to send any specific requirements that’s fine and when confirming their session and sending the address I always invite them to make any special requests. The issue is that I much prefer to engage with clients by text of WhatsApp once they’ve already decided to hire me. All my details (and an FAQ, even a demo video) are on my website (sensualtouchco.com 🙂) so I think there’s sufficient information there to make a decision. I’ve not got the time or inclination to engage in long message chats and sending pics and describing my cock and what I do etc to persuade someone to book. Some clients think they need to be young and fit etc or they won’t get a reply. That’s wrong, honestly I’m not concerned what you’re like physically whatsoever (except that you’re fit for the session as in no injuries or medical conditions that preclude massage /sex) so I don’t need pics or descriptions. As @TylerGrovesNYC said the messages that start with “sup”, “pic” or “hey, you available now?” are either time wasters or not my type of client. I can spot them immediately, they never book.