Jamie21

Before considering the payment methods I think you may have overlooked that your provider will almost certainly only want to deal directly with the client. I occasionally get guys asking me to service their wives or boyfriends etc and this is fine but the booking and contact has to come from the said wife or boyfriend. There’s no way I’m doing a surprise visit or one where the client is not fully aware and in agreement to the arrangements. I suspect other providers have a similar approach.

I’m going to Mykonos in September. It’s less windy. Still expensive, still very warm and still very gay. Great place but there are better Greek islands I think. It depends what you want. I’m just looking for nudity, sun and yes possibly some cock. But it’s definitely a holiday so I’ll mainly be relaxing with a good book!

One of the personal trainers at my gym knows what I do (I’ve also been to a couple of sex parties with him…off the clock) but he’s never discussed anything with me while I’m there working out and I’ve never interrupted him whilst he’s with his clients there. We’ve had a coffee in the bar area a few times though. I appreciate his discretion and he appreciates mine. That’s what makes me comfortable with him knowing my work. I’m fairly sure some of the gym goers are aware of what I do, there’s links to my website from my hookup apps etc but no one has ever approached me there in person about a booking thankfully. I’d feel uncomfortable discussing it at the gym.

I go to the gym to workout and relax. I really don’t want to be discussing business there. If my Scruff app is active I guess a potential client could see me and contact me via that but I don’t check it very often so it could be weeks later I see his message: “I’m on the bench, come and spot for me!” and it’s rather too late then isn’t it? When I’m working out I’m not giving off vibes that say come and have a chat about a session. I just go there, do my workout and then leave. All that standing around chatting I see some guys doing is a waste of time. I have seen a lot of flirting going on though. And then a few times I see them in the steam room getting to know each other better lol. I guess those chat up lines about supplements, routines and “can I feel your biceps” are effective. Doesn’t work with me though! I’m oblivious to people coming on to me unless they’re blatantly waving their cock in my face. So I guess if you see me in the gym and do want to approach me you’ll have to get your cock out and that might offend some of the clientele.

Yes agree. I’ve a client who books me and always changes the time slightly. It goes like this: Him: “Hi J are you available tomorrow afternoon?” Me: yes I am, say 3pm?” Him “3:30 please”. It happens every time. If I respond with a vague suggestion like “yes anytime between 2 and 6” he’ll ask for 6:30. If I reply with “yes I’m free all afternoon” he’ll say “ok anytime is fine” and then when I suggest a time he’ll move it by half hour. I think it’s his way of saying that he’s in charge and can decide when I’m servicing him. In all other respects the session is fine but his booking time game is amusing. I’m fine with the power play thing; it’s my cock that’s big not my ego 😂

Daytime works best for me. There’s something about fucking at say 2pm in the afternoon when everyone else is working at a desk in an office and I’m working naked in a bed (or bent over the kitchen table) that gets me going. Otherwise anytime is fine, if I’ve enough notice an early morning appointment is ok. The main issue with timing is my schedule fitting in with the client’s requirements. I find people tend to book last minute assuming I’m available and often I have to disappoint because I’m otherwise busy.

So easy to be judgemental, I think we can all slip into those thoughts and make them public in fora like this. As long as he’s not doing anything unlawful it’s his body and life and up to him what he does with it. I wouldn’t take steroids because I’m too worried about side effects but I’d be glad of the body image benefits! Oh well…I just spend more time at the gym. I’m selling an experience and my body is part of that. Another part is my massage skills. I spend time practicing massage and learning what works etc and spending time on my body (at the gym or waxing etc) is just the same thing. It’s all part of the product on sale.

Yes, this is relatable. I’ve had clients tell me they were inspired to explore their sex life more after hiring me which is really great to hear. One guy said he felt much more confident to try different things and enjoy himself without feeling anxious. I think we are all influenced in subtle ways by the people we meet whether we realise it or not. So be careful about the company you keep!

I don’t travel. No need, London is busy enough.

Whatever age you are….old is always 20 years older.

I never attend Pride. But if I did, and recognised clients.. nothing would be said unless they opened up conversation. Discretion is paramount!!! But Pride isn’t for me. I really don’t like big crowded events. I’d be fine for half hour but then all the noise, crowds and hustle would start to make me anxious and I’d need a couple of hours on my own.

The nature of the work is that there’s good days and bad days. Everyone is entitled to be irritated and fed up with a bad day. When you’ve prepared, travelled, turned down other potential bookings etc to see a client and they fail to show up then I think we need to vent that frustration somewhere. On the other hand when you have a good day, like I had today, with 3 great clients who all showed up, all were happy and it went well then it feels great doing this job. But to appreciate the good stuff sometimes you have to experience the bad. It provides perspective 🙂

It’s got some wrong assumptions but he did say he was guessing. I’m a provider, there’s all ages in my clients but I’d say the majority are 30’s and 40’s. Almost all the other providers I know are over 30.

If I knew how I would!! But if you’re on Twitter you can see loads of excerpts on there…follow me @massageforhim

As an older provider I can say that the age of my clients doesn’t matter, it’s their attitude that’s important. My aim is to help them feel attractive, desirable, interesting and for them to have fun. If they start off by firmly believing they’re too old (or young) for that then it’s challenging so I suggest they pretend at first. We all like pretending. After a while they forget they’re pretending and relax, and then it comes naturally. Once you stop worrying what other people are thinking you can really enjoy yourself.

I’m usually top. If you’re hung most guys assume you’re a top and bottoms seem to get attracted like bees to a honey pot. I’m not complaining, it gives me good business but I’m equally happy to bottom as I am to top. Although it’s much more work to bottom so I only tend to do it when making movies.

Describes himself as “athletic perfect body and face”. I think it’s up to the beholder to decide whether his body is perfect….and the pics do confirm he has a face. Perhaps change that bio?

There’s over 50 full length massage movies on my justforfans site here: https://justfor.fans/MassageForHim All include myself with either amateur volunteer models or porn guys. Lots of hot massages where anything goes, and everyone cums 🙂

Agree, I don’t do it full time. I wouldn’t have the energy let alone the inability to plan. I do like some degree of certainty about how my week will go, although I appreciate the flexibility I get. I think a lot of the guys who do work full time tend to be comfortable with not planning in advance. I’ve tried to set up filming sessions with them for my porn fans site and very few want to commit in advance to a day for filming. It’s almost always a provisional date to be confirmed on the day, presumably because nothing more interesting or lucrative hasn’t come up! That doesn’t work for me because I’ll have booked the location and arranged cameraman etc.

Exactly. When I’m away on holiday there’s texts and e mails asking to book. When I get back from holiday….tumbleweed.

During July I worked 14 days. Most days just one client, some days up to 3. That includes my other work (filming for my fans site). I can plan to have a day off but then someone asks to book and I’ll usually take the booking. That’s the issue: last minute bookings and the inability to plan ahead definitively. So I keep my time very flexible and can pick up or drop other things I’m doing as required.

If I’m bottoming it definitely needs more than 1 hour notice!

I’ve always been surprised by the use of ‘passionate’ in a profile. To me passionate is a minimum requirement for a provider whether they’re an escort or masseur. Most of my work is as a masseur and I would like to think that I’m passionate with all of my clients (of course it’s for them to decide that), but passionate is what I aim for. A sensual massage delivered without passion is not a sensual massage, it’s just a perfunctory massage and hand job. Likewise an escort session delivered without passion is reduced to a bodily function. If you’re unsure what the provider means by ‘passionate’ in their profile and want to check I think it’s worth asking them about kissing. I think sometimes passionate is used as a synonym for kissing.

No. I couldn’t be exclusive. It’s impossible for me.

I take credit cards, or cash (£ or US$ or €). Mostly my clients pay by card. I don’t mind how they pay as long as they do actually pay.