Jamie21

I did a weekend break by the sea with a provider a couple of years ago. It wasn’t a business arrangement, I’m a provider too. We are friends and we both just wanted to get away for a bit, have some fun, do a bit of filming for our fans sites etc. It was fun but at the time he was on meth (inhaled) and it made him anxious and wasted time while he was taking it…ugh. He wasn’t happy and although we had a great time it would have been so much better had he been clean. Fortunately he’s since come off it and is doing well. He’s much happier with life now.

I’m too old to be kept as a boy. My perception is they need to be in their 20’s but I could be wrong. Since working as a provider I’ve learned to assume nothing about the intricacies of human sexuality. If I was kept, it would need to be on the basis that I’m not exclusive. It’s impossible for me to be monogamous. I need variety and lots of it. It would also have to be where I can be kept in luxury (I like nice things), intellectually stimulated and where I have the opportunity to indulge my exhibitionist side (filming porn / group sex parties that sort of thing). Oh and continuing to do sensual massage /sex work. So actually it’s my current life (although I’d hope bit more luxurious….swim pool, home gym, cinema room- that sort of thing) but with a keeper to look after me. I’m not bothered what he’s like, any age or look but he must be kind and not do any drugs or drink. If there’s a rich guy out there offering that proposition I’m listening…

Oh you gave him a ride and he gave you a ride. How apt 😂

It’s legal here in UK. Unfortunately some people have an objection to it. I judge no-one. If you drink, party or whatever it’s your life and your choice. Just make sure it’s legal. I choose to do sex work because I enjoy it, no one is forcing me. I choose not to drink of take drugs because I don’t enjoy those things. I just don’t enjoy being in the company of people who are drunk or high so I choose not to do it but I don’t mind that it goes on. Live and let live eh?

TLDR?? 😉

That’s the truest thing I’ve seen. Totally agree. Before I worked in the industry I had all sorts of beliefs about how things worked and based on my experience they were all wrong!

Strict rule of mine: no drugs no alcohol (for both me and the client). I never do drugs and am teetotal anyway so it’s no problem to me. Clients sometimes ask if they can use something and the answer is “yes, but I won’t be there”. So I never had the situation Jarrod describes. I’ve had worries about some clients physical health though, especially in older guys or with disabled clients. I remember I was with one client who’s in his mid seventies. I’d given him a relaxing massage and things had progressed to sex which he wanted in bed so we’d moved there. He’d taken some viagra (he’d told me about this because he wanted to top). Anyway as he’s fucking me doggie and he’s becoming more out of breath so I suggested he lay down and I ride him which he agreed would be better. So I climb on him and start but after a while I can feel his cock soften although I’m sure he hasn’t cum and he seems to be losing consciousness. He’s gone very quiet. So I get off and check he’s ok and he says he’s feeling unwell and can I get him a drink and his wash bag from the bathroom. I felt his pulse and it’s lowish and his breathing shallow. I’m thinking “oh fuck he’s going to die I’m going to call an ambulance “. Anyway I scramble around in his bathroom for the washbag and imagine that when I go back into his room I’ll find him dead. You start to think weird things and I was thinking how do I get a dead body dressed and what should he wear so that he’s decent when the ambulance arrives… Fortunately he’s still breathing and conscious when I go back in. So I give him the bag and ask him what to get from it. He says there’s pills in a white container so I open it up and get one out. “This one?” I say showing it to him. He nods, takes it and has a sip of water. I say to him I’m calling an ambulance but he says no, call his doctor who is apparently a friend of his. He dials the doctor’s number and hands me the phone… So here I am talking to this client’s doctor telling him the client had taken viagra and had become ill during sex. The doctor tells me not to worry, put his feet up (I’d already done it) and that he’s on his way (apparently he lives in same building!). 2 minutes later, before I’m even dressed (tbh I’d forgotten I was naked) the doctor turns up and checks him over. After about half hour the client is well enough to sit up and chat with us. He apologises to me saying the doctor had told him never to use viagra because of his heart condition. The doctor says to me as he’s leaving the apartment that this is the third time he’s visited my client in similar circumstances and he never learns. I thanked him and went back to the client in bed who now seems much better. So much so that he asks if we can continue the session with a cuddle etc and he’ll wank me off. I say to him that the whole episode has made me lose my appetite so we just cuddle for a while (which doesn’t stop him trying to get me hard but it’s just not going to happen!!). I tell him that I have to go (which is true, I’ve booked a facial) and that he should rest. The doctor was going to come back in a couple of hours. As I left I called the doctor and told him I was leaving and could he text me later to confirm my client was ok. He said sure, it would be fine and he suggested I top next time (I’m still not sure if he was joking or not). Honestly I wish I’m still that horny when I’m 75. I’ve never been back to the client though! Im not going through that again.

This might sound big headed but I’ve not had negative feedback. One client said he’d have liked a bit more of a particular thing (and he had asked for it at the start) so I guess that was fair enough. He didn’t book again but if he had I’d still have accepted the booking. Feedback is good because I know what to change for next time. I like to hear what my clients think. I always ask as they are getting dressed if they enjoyed it and I say if they want to book again I’m happy to adjust the session based on what they liked etc. I think that immediately after the session and face to face they’re unlikely to say much but it signals that they can send me a message afterwards about what they liked / didn’t like and what they want if they book again. I also keep a note of what they liked during the session, anything that worked really well etc so that if they book again I know what they’re into. Generally people won’t say because they’re embarrassed about talking about these things or they just don’t have the words to express it. So I find keeping a discreet note helps me to make their second visit better. Plus it helps me remember them. I’m bad at recognising faces but I remember their cock 😂.

Yes agree. Like when they just say “fuck?” Or “full service “. Why can’t people express what they want in a proper sentence? I’m more inclined to reply to a properly framed question…..”fuck?” isn’t a question.

They’re just doing what the airlines do…lure you in with a fare and then once you’re committed the extra ‘travel cost’ charges come in and because you’re already imagining him servicing you the extra cost is agreed to. One escort I know is a master at upselling extra services when he arrives at the clients place. He tells me that he doesn’t get many repeat clients…I wonder why! It’s not my modus operandi. I have a premium for outcalls depending on travel time and it’s all agreed beforehand. It covers my expense for travel but also the extra time it takes to get to an outcall. I never ask the client to book my Uber! On the other hand, if my client asks me to travel to his private Caribbean island for a weekend session then I would ask him to book the private jet because I don’t think Uber has moved into air travel yet?

Maybe you caught him on a bad day. I have provider friends who party then go to see a client. It’s not the best state to be working. It seems like he was trying but was really just going through the motions, like on autopilot. Doing sex work is demanding, and you need to be extremely mentally strong to make it successful. I’m lucky, I have support and I don’t get involved in any of those drug party scenes which are alluring but ultimately will destroy you. Maybe he is just now realising that and I hope he has some good people around him to support him. I don’t think you could have done any different during the session but I would say that you might have made a better selection before booking him. Ask a few questions of him before you book, try not to be influenced too much by the body (not easy!) because ultimately it’s his personality and demeanour that will influence how well the meeting goes.

Yes, I have clients who cum easily especially during massage. It means they struggle to relax and enjoy the massage. What I do is help them cum immediately before we start (I suck them or wank then off) then they can relax at the start of the massage and build up again to a happy ending. So it’s a happy start and end. Another client of mine just enjoys the massage and seems to cum randomly throughout and he’s not bothered by it so nor am I. When he turns over there’s a pool of cum where his cock was on the table. I’ve no idea how he manages to achieve it (he’s youngish, I guess that helps!). I do play with his balls and rim him etc during the massage but I don’t touch his cock while he’s laying on his front. He says it’s the pressure of him laying on it and my touch that prompts him to cum. However more usual is for the client to tell me if they are getting close and then I back off. I’m experienced at spotting the signs anyway but if they’re getting close I ask them to say “7”. On a scale of 1 to 10 where 10 is you’re cuming and 1 is you’re soft, 7 is the point just before no return so to speak :-). All guys understand that. So if they say 7 I go somewhere else on their body and bring things back to 6….

I’m English, sarcasm is second nature.

3 situations: Bad spelling. ‘Your’ when they mean you’re, ‘of’ when they mean have…that sort of thing. If your going to do that you should of asked someone else. After the conversation transitions from discussion about the meeting to sexting …then I know 100% he’s a Timewaster. If the opening message is a dick pic or one word such as “massage”, or “pic” or “fuck”.

Yes many of my clients like an afternoon booking. It can go in their work diary as a work meeting (networking / training) and then doesn’t interrupt their evening at home with the wife 🙂. First thing in the morning is also a thing; it sets the day up well. I really don’t mind what time of day they want as long as there’s decent notice and then I can make sure I’m ready to give a great service.

Good tops know how to bottom.

Yes, I’m a provider. I think he misunderstood. But the crucial point is that I don’t guarantee or promise (or charge for) more than a naked happy ending massage in my sensual massage service. If more happens (as in sex) then it’s because it feels right for both my client and me. That way there’s no pressures or expectations. My clients get a great sensual massage, they get release, they can it’s erotic and relaxing.

I agree. I participate but I do wonder how useful it is. I guess it’s an insight into what clients are thinking about but it’s probably not very representative. It can be amusing to engage but I agree there are plenty of people just wanting validation of things they’ve already made their mind up about. There’s also some with misconceptions and prejudices about providers that are revealed in their questions. I participate in a forum on a website that’s created by providers for providers (only providers can join) and I find that much more useful to connect with other providers and find out helpful information.

Oh I’m over delivering then 🙂

Same. Everyone has different interpretations of these massages and what they include but I think a minimum requirement of both sensual and erotic is that the masseur is naked for at least part of the massage. Their client will be so it’s only reasonable for the masseur to at least be naked.

It’s false advertising if you promote yourself as a sensual or erotic masseur and don’t even get naked. What I’m selling is a sensual massage, that means I’m naked and so are you. And you’re welcome to interact with me as much or as little as you like.

I’m seeing anyone from anywhere lol.

Just ask. I charge by the inch. If you pay for 7 inches then you get the 8th inch free.

Well you did ask!

Just give your friend the money to pay the escort? Or have I missed something.