Jamie21

In the UK there is no legal gray area of escorting. It’s lawful here. Masseurs offering sensual / erotic are not doing anything unlawful. You might want to allow different details to be included depending on what’s lawful in each jurisdiction. I work as a sensual masseur in London and include sexual services in my massage. Clients need to know what’s included in what they’re purchasing.

I went on holiday with a client but it wasn’t working as such. He paid for the flight, food, drinks etc and entertainment and I paid my share of the hotel, which I was happy to do. There was no payment for my time, and as such no expectation of anything, even though plenty of action happened both with him and when we hooked up with other guys during the holiday. He’d asked me to join him because otherwise he’d have travelled alone and he wanted someone to share the holiday with. I was reticent at first because it’s one thing to get on during his sessions, and on the occasions he’d asked me to dinner or theatre etc (these occasions as friends) but it’s a more challenging situation to spend a week on holiday with someone. You really have to have shared interests outside of sex. I decided to agree to his request though because we get on really well and he had become a friend..,which is of course fraught with difficulty and I’d never recommend but there you are…it happened and it had worked out very well. I was glad he let me pay for some of it because otherwise I’d have felt awkward. So what am I saying? Only go if you are ok with the client / provider relationship changing. Treat it like friends and it’s more likely to be successful, especially if you have interests outside of sex in common. If you go as a provider then basically you’re working the whole time (even when you’re not having sex) and that I think would be very challenging.

Yes, it was. Very unsubtle. Glad it’s gone.

Hmmmmm

Talking of taking on “staff”…I do employ (or ‘contract out’ to be more exact) my movie editing work (for my justforfans) and some of my admin type social media work to a guy who does all that for me! I can’t be bothered with those things …I just focus on the performance 🙂.

The interesting part of being a sex worker for me is that I don’t know who is coming to see me, obviously if they’re a regular I do, but many clients are new so I’ve no idea what they look like until the moment we meet. If I was to ‘select’ my clients that air of mystery is lost. Some clients send pictures and some send a description, even asking me if they’re ok to book a session, as in fit enough or sufficiently hung. I really don’t need to know, or mind how big you are or whether you’re overweight or skinny. All I need to know is that you’re healthy (and no Covid!) and will be fresh and clean. I also certainly haven’t got time to be scrolling through client profiles to select those I deem good enough to visit. So it’s a nice idea but I think most providers wouldn’t be interested.

I don’t reach out to them. I respond to all enquiries and messages but if someone is just looking at my profile regularly but not contacting me then I just leave them to it. If they’re interested they’ll ask eventually.

The lack of communication is difficult I totally agree about that. So many times a client will contact me to check availability or ask questions. I reply….then tumbleweed. Nothing….not even I changed my mind. I’m left thinking “he wanted next Wednesday or whatever” so I’m left doubtful about whether to make plans. All I’d like is the client to reply and either book or say “no thanks “. Please don’t just leave it hanging!

The more sex establishments are open the better. It’s good for business. In my experience the more sex guys get the more they want, so I’m happy. I notice an increase in clients once lockdowns ended and now that most are vaccinated. I think people are more confident to go out and start living again.

What a lovely reply. And a good conclusion I think. It’s much better to raise your ideas with him in person because you can give context and gauge his reaction.

Yes me too. I’ve no problem giving those details. Places that are loose on protocol are more likely to have loose practice on cleaning, drug use prevention and safety standards. Give me a professionally run establishment every time. Just because it’s a sex establishment shouldn’t be a reason to be rubbish.

That’s a brilliant idea….I’ll steal it and use it. I often ask clients to describe what they’d like, some struggle to do that because they’re a bit shy to ask or because their English isn’t so good. A picture is worth a thousand words so a porn movie scene is worth even more.

Often they hold a Portuguese passport and (pre Brexit) have the right to live and work in UK. London is a wealthy and big market for guys who want to live in UK (or Europe) and learn English. Escorting is easy to get into, pays well and can fit around other jobs. I think that’s at least part of the reason.

No but I tell someone where I’m going and what time it’s expected to finish and if I don’t check in with them within an hour of the scheduled finish they’re to call me and check all ok. I’ve never been in a situation where I was concerned for my safety because I’m careful about what outcall bookings I take.

My first observation is you didn’t book me 😂😂😂. But seriously if you’ve made your choice and your dates aren’t flexible then I think you should book him now. Tell him you’re visiting and want to be sure he’s available for your visit. He’ll understand that. I bet also that if you haven’t changed your number he will know that you booked previously. I keep notes of guys who’ve booked me before so that I know that they’re genuine and I know what they like etc. I bet he does same if he’s any good. I get clients booking up to two months ahead and they’re almost always people visiting London from abroad or far away and they’re planning their trip. It’s better than them turning up in London and contacting me on the day they want only to find I’m away on holiday myself or already booked up. It makes sense in your situation to book ahead and let your escort know why. If he’s a problem with that then he will tell you. I hope you picked a good guy and that you have a great birthday celebration.

Yes I get the horny now thing…it’s like booking a few weeks ahead who knows if you’ll feel like a session then? I totally understand the horny now situations but to be honest those guys are not my type of client. I do massage, ok so it’s sensual massage…you’ll end up hard and cumming, you might get fucked, you might fuck me, but if you’re just looking for sex then that’s not my market. I’ve done a few sessions like that and I discovered I’m not very good at it. What I am good at is sensual massage, giving someone a sensory experience that at once relaxes and arouses them. So my client might not feel especially horny when they turn up…maybe they feel say 3 out of 10 horny, but they want a relaxing massage that goes to places normal massage doesn’t reach. They lay on the table, the massage starts and over the time they go from 3 out of 10 to 5, then 6…then 7… then by the end it’s 10 and they’re shooting cum everywhere :-). That’s my kind of service, and it can be booked in advance. I guess I like the challenge of turning someone on. It’s too easy if they walk through the door with a hard on! (Although that can be dealt with……and then we start the massage).

Book in advance!! Please!! First of all I hate to disappoint and someone asking for a booking on the day or even in the next couple of hours is likely to be disappointed because I’m busy. Secondly I like to prepare properly. I prefer to spread out clients rather than see them close together so that I can make sure I’m able to give them my best. Last minute appointments don’t allow for that. Contrary to what I’m sure some people think about guys who do sex work I’m not sitting around all day naked and semi hard waiting for a client to call. I’ve got other work, personal things to do and of course clients who booked ahead to see. So if you ask “are you free this evening” the answer is usually “no, sorry I’m not”. And those 10pm requests “free now?” will always get a “no”. They’re usually from guys who aren’t my kind of client if you know what I mean. That said, if you’re a regular client and you ask for a same day booking I’ll do my best to accommodate you. Of course I will, you’re a regular and as I said, I like to please.

Depends how many times they want to cum (or me to cum).

Yes take it slow. All the goods are available but just not all at once. My favourite clients are those who kiss. And bottoms of course, especially those who respond well to rimming. Hey, I like all my clients…I always think I’ve an awesome job. Meeting people, having fun with them, leaving them happy and satisfied.

I make massage porn which I post on my justforfans profile. I keep it separate from my sensual massage work though. I only film with guys who volunteer to be in a movie or with other Justforfans or Onlyfans porn models. However I keep my face covered and I require that the volunteer models also cover their face (or I blur out their face). There’s a lot of guys who want to be in a massage porno so I’m not short of volunteer models. They have to sign a release form which puts some off. If my massage clients ask me to film their session I decline because filming is quite disruptive to the flow of a good sensual massage but I do suggest to them that they volunteer for a filming session for the Justforfans site. That way it’s all done properly with good angles, lighting and professional editing (plus masks and release forms!). Then they’re confident it’s not going to cause a problem later on.

It’s tempting sometimes to send a dismisssal message to a flake or no show. I’ve almost done it in the past when someone hasn’t showed up. But I didn’t press ‘send’ and then thought again and amended the message to say “hi xxx I was expecting you for your xx appointment today but you didn’t show up. I hope everything is ok. Cheers Jamie”. It happened again this week, a client booked a 2 hour session. I prepared and was ready for him but he didn’t show up. I always send a reminder message the day before their booking (if they booked days in advance) and he hadn’t responded to that so I suspected he wouldn’t show. it’s his loss. There’s all sorts of reasons someone might not show, some excusable some not. For all I know he could have had an accident and be unable to reply. So I just send the “I hope you’re ok” message. If he’s had an accident or disaster then he’ll appreciate the message when he sees it and I hope he comes back another time. If he’s just not bothered to turn up or cancel then my message will I hope prick his conscience. Next time he tries to book I’ll require full payment up front. It may temporarily feel good to send the dismissal message but I think it’s not worth the bother and is better to keep the moral high ground.

I get clients wanting to recreate massage scenes they’ve seen. The type of thing when someone goes for a “normal” massage and ends up getting fucked by the masseur. Sometimes they like me to pretend I’m a salon masseur and to keep my shorts on then they touch me and remove them and we progress to fucking. I think it’s quite a common fantasy for clients to hope that their ‘straight, professional’ masseur will get so turned on by them that the session develops into sex. I play along with it, no problem.

The more specific or detailed your requirements the better it is to speak to the provider. I’m fine if clients call me to talk through what they want if they have specific circumstances. Plus some clients don’t like to type everything out…..it’s too clinical. It’s easier for them to talk it through. I do ask that they arrange a time to call though because I can then make sure I’m somewhere quiet to talk. I have one client who called me because he’s disabled and wanted to check I was ok with his disability before he booked. When I met him for the session he said he likes to hear the providers reaction because they’ll sometimes say “yes ok” if he tells them his disabled when booking by text only to find they cancel on him subsequently. If he talks to them he has a better idea of their attitude to him. There’s all sorts of reasons why clients might want to call me so I’m very happy to chat. It starts things off nicely.

Grindr banned me too. I never used it for hookups (ok maybe once I did when visiting Paris) but was just on there because it was a thing to do. The approaches were tiresome “hi”, “how’s you?” or just a dick pic of an ugly cock surrounded by untrimmed hair or worse, just a hole (frequently used by the looks of things). Who will respond to that kind of approach? Have some originality and intrigue when contacting me and you’ll get a reply. Anyway my profile on Grindr was obviously a masseur for hire. The more intelligent user of the site recognised this - fine, that’s my kind of client - and then would ask about details so I could direct them to my website. Discussion would continue elsewhere via the contact details on website if they were genuinely interested. Someone must have complained though, probably couldn’t afford my rates, and so Grindr banned me. I’m not sorry because the time waster to genuine client ratio on there was enormous. They should have a section for classified ads though. They’re missing an opportunity.

I include sex with the massage if my client wants it; it’s a natural progression from a sensual massage (although it doesn’t have to progress to sex, but it can happen). For me the massage is like foreplay (I hate that word but there’s no better description). The massage is to build up the sexual tension so that if it comes to it the sex is a great way to bring the session to a climax. Alternatively the climax is by hand job or blowjob. It just depends what my client wants. However I feel that to miss out the massage and go straight to sex is like missing out the starter in a 3 course meal, or it’s even like going straight to dessert. You’re missing out on an important element. You’re the client though, so if you want good hot sex then that’s what you should ask for, and get. I’ve a regular client who started out with massage but after a few sessions he said he wanted just the sex, no massage. So now he books just a sex session. For me it’s less interesting because I see myself as a masseur and I prefer the build up but he likes to go straight to penetration so that’s what happens. It’s his session.