Jamie21

I did an overnight one time with a client that involved me going to his work Christmas party. He didn’t want to go alone, the party was at a smart hotel and most of the guests had rooms for the night. So he booked me to accompany him. I had met him for regular sessions (short 90mins) previously so it wasn’t like we’d just met. I turned up late afternoon, we played a bit, showered etc then went downstairs for the works meal and party. The organisers had decided (I hate this) to mix up the couples so I was sat between some bore who seemed to run the place and a quiet woman partner of another employee who I chatted to mostly about her love of Greek islands. My client was on a different table…to his annoyance. He hadn’t anticipated the seating plan nor had we worked out a story about who I was (do I say to his boss “yeah I’m an escort he’s put on expenses for the evening”?) so I just said I was a friend. Turns out he told people I was a relative. I’m sure no one believed him. Then after the meal there was dancing and karaoke (it’s all the worst elements of a work Christmas party). My client didn’t want to dance (slow dance? Kissing?) so we sat and chatted about work with a couple who both seemed to work at my clients firm. I can be surprisingly informed about UK GAAP 🙂 and managed to avoid them asking what I did for work. Eventually we sneaked off back to the bedroom and I did more of what I normally do for work shall we say. However the funniest part of the overnight was coming down for breakfast in the morning having just had morning sex (which is absolutely the best time for it in my opinion) and having to field leading questions about whether we had a good sleep. I’m unembarrassable (is that a word?) so I didn’t care but my client felt awkward which was a pity. When we went back to the room after breakfast to check out he apologised for combining the booking with his Christmas party but I told him not to worry…it was a blast and we should definitely have sung “I am what I am” at the karaoke…

Don’t be embarrassed, just ask! “Hi I see your massage style is described as sensual, does that include any element of genital touch or release because in my experience some masseurs use that term loosely?” If he says “noooo! I’m a therapist how could you expect such a thing from me!!!” you reply “oh good thanks for clarifying, I wasn’t sure but now I’m glad you’ve confirmed, I’m not looking for anything as sordid as that from my masseur, please let me know your availability” (and then you find a proper sensual masseur…) And if he grins and says “of course it includes a happy ending, I’m a sensual masseur…it’s my raison d’etre. No massage ends without cum flying” you reply “oh good that’s exactly what I want, I’ve a 4 day load waiting to be released by your expertise, are you available on etc…”. No one should be embarrassed when it comes to asking about sex. Treat it like ordering a meal in a restaurant. If you want your steak well done then order it well done.

In my experience the company is really the reason for an overnight, not 12 or so hours of action. It’s about being with someone you feel comfortable with to chat, eat, relax, bathe, walk, and of course get intimate with each other over the course of the session. Clients book it as an escape from normal life.

Big assumption that 30’s brings a decline. I didn’t start working in the sex industry until my 40’s. I was far too immature and naive when younger to do this type of work properly. It would have eaten me up. Now I eat it up 🙂 I’ve always been physically active and am fortunate enough to have good genes I guess so I keep looking fit but more importantly feeling fit and healthy. I don’t drink or do any substances either so I’m sure that helps. One thing I learned working as a sex worker is to discard all the lazy stereotype assumptions about sex workers I had previously. All kinds of people do this work and if my experience of them is anything to go by they’re a lot more genuine, decent and open minded group of people than I encountered working in the world of big corporations and board rooms. And a lot more intelligent too.

You’re clearly a professional @jetlow🙂. I agree with you, the Japanese have these etiquette things managed expertly. Appearances matter there.

Rentmasseur

It’s a very personal thing, extremely intimate. I always include it in my massages (and in escort sessions) unless my client specifically declines it. I love giving it so it’s no problem for me to include it (without charging extra). Mutual rimming is fine too although I think most people prefer to receive it than give. I think it fits very nicely into a sensual massage and can be a pleasant surprise if done with some teasing moves…as in “will he / won’t he go down there?” I can also check my client’s responsiveness to it by briefly testing with a lick before going in deep so to speak. Not everyone likes it or wants it (usually because of concerns about being clean etc or with guys who are anxious about anything anal) but I’ve found that most people do like it, especially before penetration. If it’s something that’s important to you and you definitely want it included in the session then ask your provider when booking, don’t leave it until the start of the session to ask. It can make the session awkward if at that point he has to say no. If he rules it out before you book the session then you can decide not to make a booking. If you make sure he knows it’s something you definitely want included then a good provider will ensure you get a rimming to die for 🙂

Twice a week using lateral flow.

If it’s an in call the clock starts when he gets in shower and finishes when he gets dressed so yes if you want a long post climax chill down chat that’s on the clock, book enough time and make it clear you want that. If it’s an out call then the clock is less of an issue, I’ve stayed up to an hour over the time my client booked because the chat was interesting and he was engaging. There’s nothing better than laying together naked talking about stuff after the main session. I don’t book anything immediately after out call sessions anyway because invariably the client will ask to extend the time or we’ll have that chat afterwards. Sometimes I like to get a drink in the hotel bar and watch the goings on too.

No I don’t. I test myself regularly and I trust that my clients do same and wouldn’t attend if they felt they might be infected.

I’ve a client who was so excited when he first visited he had an ejaculation when his pants came down, before we’d started anything. Now when he comes to see me he’s still very quick to climax so to make things more relaxed for him we agree that I’d bring him off orally before massage and then he can relax and enjoy the massage with another climax near the end. Occasionally if it’s a longer session there’s one in the middle too. He lets me know whether to release him or not. Gradually he’s becoming more able to delay things and learn when he’s too close. I have a scale I tell him where 0 is totally soft and 10 is cum shooting out. At 8 it’s the point where you know you’re going to cum and it can’t be stopped. So I tell him 7 is the last point where he can go back to a 5 or 6 state of arousal. If he reaches 7 we stop and I massage his head. Now he’s able to recognise 7 and tell me to stop, by saying 7. It’s like a safe word lol.

I totally agree. I recommend him…and I’m a masseur myself. He’s a fantastic masseur (and a lovely guy). If you’re in London book to see him (and me of course 😉).

If you book any you should get an hour. I don’t curtail the session unless the client is satisfied and happy to end it. Sounds like you’re seeing the type of provider who just wants a quick buck. Tell him what you want, release after 10 minutes then a longer slower session or a long build up, or cuddling afterwards. It’s up to you to ask and make sure they’re delivering but a good provider will be able to understand this after a brief chat with you.

Start with “Hello I’m interested in booking and have some questions I’d like to ask” and take it from there. If they’re not willing to answer questions or point you to where they have pics / more info then are they the type of provider you’d be happy to hire anyway? Any decent guy will be happy to answer these type of questions. It’s when the discussion becomes salacious that I become reluctant to engage further because those types of client rarely follow through and book.

Yes! I wonder if the unluckily double booked client got paid denied boarding compensation?

It seems that Asian guys (especially East Asian guys) are particularly attracted to white guys in my experience. At least they seem to have a thing for me, but I’ve heard it from other white escorts/masseurs so I’m sure it’s not just me. Fortunately it’s reciprocated lol. Although as I’ve said previously I find I’m attracted to someone’s attitude, manners and intelligence more than their physical characteristics. Those things aren’t always apparent from a picture or on initial meeting though so there’s always going to be some kind of evaluation based on looks. I’m not surprised when @Jarrod_Uncuttalks about clients asking him to play roles living up to their expectations of the stereotype of a black escort. It’s a shame they don’t look beyond that and see an individual. I’ve had clients book me because they liked my…their description: posh English accent! They wanted me to play a role like someone out of Downton Abbey 😂. I could keep it up for 10 minutes but found the whole scenario too funny to carry on. In fact it was so strange I couldn’t keep up the act and keep up my hard on so we agreed I’d just be myself and just focus on the normal hot and steamy s*x as @Jarrod_Uncutneatly describes it.

I double booked my self one time by mistake…(had made a booking in my calendar whilst abroad and didn’t take into consideration the time difference). In that situation…. none of the clients turned up 🙄

Agree with this. I don’t see the issue as being so bad in UK as it would appear to be in the US. But that’s said from the POV of a white guy. Racial prejudice is common in other areas of life so I’m sure it exists in this industry too. Before I started doing sex work I had perceptions about the type of guy (or female…I’m bi) that attracted me, and that directed who I went with, and it could be described as ‘people like me’. Since doing sex work, and being intimate with all sorts of different people, all sorts of ethnicity, age, physical characteristics I’ve realised that physical attraction is only a small part of what makes someone sexy. The biggest turn on is personality, attitude and outlook, not the colour of someone’s skin, not their age, not their physique.

I think it’s not necessarily the length of time ahead that someone books is an indication that they’ll flake but more the type (and frequency) of interaction ahead of the meeting. Clients that ask a couple of pertinent questions and then quickly commit to the booking usually are reliable. If there’s a long exchange of discussion about things they want, pics etc then its highly likely they’ll flake on the day or the day before. At present I have a booking for March, 2 months away. I’m sure that will take place (Covid permitting) as he’s a regular. Also one in mid February with another escort (it’s the other escort’s client) and the client is visiting London from abroad. He wants a session with both of us together so I guess it makes sense to book that now just in case either of us is busy if he leaves it until nearer the time to book. So I understand the reasons why some clients book months in advance and it generally means they’re serious. It’s the clients who treat me as if I’m just doing this as a hobby and am hanging around and available like some Grindr hookup that are the irritating ones. Fortunately they are easy to spot and to manage.

It’s the price point at which performance is still possible (blue pills) but it’s a take it or leave it mindset. ‘I’ve done my work for today but well…if you’ll pay a premium I’ll fit you in’ type of thing. It’s not what I do (my rates are on my advert) but I know some guys do it. No problem with it: they must get enough clients so it’s just a way of managing demand.

If it says “ask for rates” they’re probably operating a dynamic pricing model …a bit like Uber do with surge pricing or like low cost airlines do with managing load factors (there’s a joke there somewhere…). If it’s a quiet day and he’s not otherwise busy you might get a good price, but if he’s already had 3 clients that day and can’t be bothered you’ll get quoted a high rate. Guys operating in this business are very adept at managing demand through prices, marketing and such. I’ve learned more about this stuff by doing sex work than I did doing a business degree…

Yep exactly that. You summed it up. If the price isn’t to your liking it’s not so much the providers problem…it’s yours! Solve it by finding someone cheaper or finding the money…Providers who price themselves out of the market soon disappear. On the choice between AirPods and a Massage….I thought people were into buying experiences now over possessions? 😂

Definitely book in advance. It’s what I prefer my clients to do. Yesterday at 10pm I got a request for an out call that evening. It would have been fine if he’d booked it the day before but by the time he asked…I was busy. Book it in advance and look forward to the session. I hope you have a great birthday 🙂

Yep …well it was ‘never cross the streams’ but I kind of linked it.

Never cross the threads 😱