Jamie21

I’m more concerned about the poor people in Ukraine. There’s war again in Europe and people will be killed, made refugees and their country ruined and it’s all happening close to home. I hope the people of Russia rise up and rid themselves of Putin who has reduced the country to a pariah to feed his ego.

Seems fine to me. How would I know if the client has asked other providers unless he tells me, and why should he tell me? If he’s got a specific time he wants and I’m not available or I don’t respond in time that’s no problem to me. I get plenty of enquiries that I can’t do for one reason or another, usually because the client asks last minute. I don’t expect a client to come to me exclusively before checking other guys availability. This is a competitive business; here’s my rate, my availability, my service…if you like it great! If not good luck to you in finding someone else. Just be polite and respectful.

I’ve been hired to be watched with another guy. It’s great if my client likes to watch before becoming involved himself. It works best though if I’m performing with another sex worker that I know. We can put on a good show because we know what each other likes, it’s more realistic. But if the client engages us separately that’s fine too as long as I know what the arrangements are beforehand. I wouldn’t want such a thing to be a surprise. Other times I’m hired by a couple to massage and have sex with one of the couple while the other watches. The voyeur / exhibitionist (and indeed the cuckold) aspect for many couples is a big turn on. I enjoy those sessions because the group dynamic adds extra interest.

I get hired because of my size, some clients just like taking big cocks.

And don’t hire off Scruff. A proper provider wouldn’t advertise for business on there.

I advertised on masseurfinder…well I tried to advertise but they declined me because my advert was too explicit. I think they don’t want sensual/ erotic masseurs advertising on there. Rentmasseur is a better platform and I’m able to describe my service properly on there.

Agree it’s too risky / complicated to schedule when other escorts or masseurs are included. I only work with guys I’m familiar with. If a client asks me to join a session with an unknown escort or masseur then I say no.

I went to one of Brandon Anthony’s yoga sessions a few years ago when he visited London. A friend wanted to go so I agreed to go with him (against my better judgment). It wasn’t good. The location changed a day or so before the session. The new location wasn’t large enough for all the participants so we were squeezed in. There was a bit of yoga but then it was basically a toss off your neighbours session. It was funny watching the scrum to get close to the hot guys in the room…a strict ‘pecking order’ arose so that all the non hot guys were at the edges and the hot ones around the middle. It was curiously neither a proper yoga session nor a sex party, leaving you dissatisfied if you wanted to find an orgy and dissatisfied if you wanted to find a naked yoga workout. I like both but not something that is neither.

It could be the mindset behind viewing the enquiries as RFP’s or seeking “bids”. Usually if I get a request that looks like a fishing expedition…as in the client is asking around for the best “deal” then I know he’s not especially vested in meeting me. So I’m not going to be especially vested in the enquiry. All my info is on my website or profile. If the client likes it then they’ll maybe ask me a few questions which is fine, but I’m not entering into an RFP process. “Johnny is £20 cheaper so will you match his price?” will result in a response of “if you like Johnny book him”. Or Danny can see me tonight what about you?” will get “book Danny then”. You’ll find the best providers will never contact you for bookings and will never enter into a ‘bidding war’. If they quote you a high price then you can’t afford them, move on to someone who’s in your price range. As with everything the price doesn’t necessarily equate to the quality.

I guess you’re a lawyer. In that respect we both charge by the hour and in both instances the client gets screwed. 🙂 Please don’t sue me. I have no money (it’s all off shore…you won’t find any of it).

Yes there’s still a race element to how people are treated. Aside from peoples sexual preferences for a certain type of body which includes skin colour, complexion, hairy or smooth etc there’s the layer of prejudice that comes into play against some races unfortunately. It’s evident outside of the sex industry so there’s no reason to assume it doesn’t come into play inside it too. It’s a shame because even if one isn’t making choices on prejudice, but you just like say… Asian guys for sexual partners it’s actually enlightening to go beyond the initial physical attraction and choose guys you’d not necessarily be immediately physically attracted to. So try out non Asian guys. What you find is that great sex (and more) can happen with someone who isn’t your normally preferred type. Go beyond the physical and get to know the person under the skin colour, and the attraction can be found. Attraction beyond the superficiality of physical attributes can be stronger and more interesting. I always think the brain is the biggest sex organ. It’s a pity that prejudice on racial grounds prevents many people from getting to know people who they’d really have a great time with if only they’d open their mind (and of course ‘pity’ is an understatement in my very English way 🙂).

What’s the ‘All American’ look? Is it another way of saying ‘young fit white guy’? If so I’d say the look probably would get a lot of inquiries. Most of the adverts on places like Rentmen and similar sites are by that type of guy if you go by the pictures so I assume that’s what the market wants. There’s also markets for other looks but maybe they’re not so big. Example you don’t see many adverts with ginger haired pale guys who are extremely overweight? Some people love that look but the adverts aren’t full of those guys looking for clients so I guess it’s niche. It’s pointless bemoaning the fact that the market likes something you’re not, and can never be. I’ll never be 23 again so I’m not going to complain the 23 year olds are doing great business. I’ve got my market and I make the best of it. The classic song from Gloria Gaynor comes to mind: I am what I amI don't want praise I don't want pityI bang my own drumSome think it's noise I think it's prettyAnd so what if I love each sparkle and each bangleWhy not try to see things from a different angleYour life is a shame til you can shout out I am what I am I think that says it all…

I’m probably too laid back sometimes ha ha. I like to please, it can get me into trouble.

I didn’t think of that but as prostitution is legal here in UK I’m not accustomed to being discreet about it in exchanges with clients.

Hey just to add…I wouldn’t worry about it. I get all sorts of enquiries, some short and abrupt, some long and detailed. I think clients are all different and part of my role is to understand and accommodate those differences (within reason) and make them feel welcome and comfortable. I think people get anxious approaching a sex worker (after all, it’s not something most people do very often is it?) so I understand if they might come across a bit awkward sometimes. It’s no big deal. Once the initial awkwardness or anxiety is overcome I usually find the person to be polite and respectful. If on a rare occasion they’re not then the meeting doesn’t happen. That’s rare, most clients are delightful. Good luck with your hiring.

By unpredictable I mean that I can’t be sure that I’d have enough business in any month to commit to being full time. Some months I have enough work to amount to almost full time hours (when you include the time I spend marketing, working out in gym - which I’d count as work because it’s effectively working on the ‘product’, replying to enquiries, planning filming sessions, arranging locations etc). It could also add up to a full time job in terms of hours. But the income could vary considerably if clients don’t book or subscribers to my movies don’t subscribe. Ok so I can be sure of at least x amount of interest because from experience I know that that is my base line revenue but it can vary between that base line and a top line month on month. The factors can be seasonal, economic, pandemic, I may be unwell etc so all these things can influence my revenue. So I have other work that I can do which is flexible to work around the sex work which can provide me with more stable income and a separate revenue source. And as @Shawn Monroesaid I don’t like having all my eggs in the sex work basket. I like the variety. I think it helps me keep fresh and engaged in the sex work. In the morning I could be working on a presentation or something on my laptop and in the afternoon having sex with a client at his hotel, in the evening meeting a potential filming partner. Variety is the spice of life.

Yes, things like ‘availability’ is a bit abrupt maybe, but not enough to warrant his response. Your questions etc are all reasonable. It looks like you had a lucky escape from hiring an arsehole.

Could be. I’d live the high life if I made enough from sex work but I don’t make enough money from it to bathe in champagne while naked nymphs drop peeled grapes into my mouth. To make this vision a reality for me would my clients please book more sessions and pay larger tips. Thanks.

I do the sex work / massage part time. It’s too unpredictable to do it full time. I guess it’s 2 or 3 days a week.

I travel with my table, it’s a much better massage on the table than on a bed. The advantage of having the table is my client can get a great massage and then we move to the bed. Best of both worlds, proper massage and then sex on the bed. Occasionally the hotel room is too small to fit the table (I’m talking central London hotels here….some even top end rooms are small or full of furniture..). If that’s the case then the bed is the only choice. It’s a different type of massage but still can be decent.

Yes I’m still posting new movies. Here’s the link again: https://justfor.fans/MassageForHim and the Twitter is @massageforhim Jamie x

😂😂. There is a lot of time wasters who talk about booking but never do. Extremely annoying and disrespectful. I think it’s an anxiety thing with a lot of them. They get horny, contact me to book but ask lots of questions like “will you wear a jock?” and “how big is your cock” etc. I can tell where the conversation is going….”then they say they want to get fucked raw in 25 different positions etc”. Ugh. As soon as the conversation moves from the logistics of booking to the minutiae of the angle at which my cock will go in them then I’m bailing out of that conversation. I suspect it’s a guy who’s probably never had sex with another guy and he’s too anxious or inhibited to actually go through with it but he gets off on thinking and talking about it. Hey, if I was any good at sex chat I’d run a sex chat line but I’m not so I don’t. I’m good at in person sex so you’ll have to book it…not talk about it.

I’m 75% sex work, 25% conventional work (whatever that is!). Fully self employed though. The sex work is sensual massage, escorting and porn on fans site. I like the variety but sometimes do feel pulled in different directions. That said, the sex work is fantastic training for learning how to run a business. People outside of sex work don’t realise how much work goes into marketing, pricing, finance, finding locations and models for filming, editing, getting the branding right. 90% of the time is preparation work, then 10% of the time is having sex. People assume it’s the other way around.

Speaking in general, based on my experience. Everyone finds their own way through a mix of following advice, trial and error and breaking new ground. Mixing sex work with other work (including things like having a fans site) works for me. My only advice to anyone doing this work is to do it from a position where you have agency. That’s all.

Reasons for doing sex work are as varied as reasons for doing any other kind of work. Sometimes it’s a necessity for money sometimes it’s a calling. It will impact how dedicated and committed someone is to it. It’s a lazy assumption to make that people only do sex work out of desperation. The other sex workers I know do it out of choice. So do I. I enjoy it. I like the flexibility, the variety, the excitement, meeting people, helping them to explore their sexual selves and other aspects of their personality that come out in a truly intimate situation. I think though that because the work is precarious, and unpredictable (sometimes busy, sometimes not) then it’s important to have a secure source of alternative income from a part time job or other work that fits around the sex work. Flexibility is key here. That gives you the security to build the sex work client base and keeps things in perspective I think.