Jamie21

It’s safe over the channel. The Royal Navy kept them out of the way.

Americans, you’ve got a short period to reverse the declaration of independence and revert to having the King as your head of state. Just a thought…

I know how many I’ve given (to the nearest 50).

It creates such extreme reactions, both for Brexit and against it. What’s clear though is that the British don’t see the EU in the same way that much of the rest of Europe sees it. It has long been the case that Britain doesn’t see itself as European. In the past Europe was the source of trouble. We played off the big European powers against each other to prevent any of them from getting too powerful and competing with us globally, especially the French.

Oh God don’t mention Brexit…😱

I accept cash or card. Some clients prefer to pay in cash because of the anonymity. That’s fine with me, I’ve accepted any currency: €, £, $. I used to accept PayPal but that organisation became difficult so I avoid it now. It’s about what’s convenient for my client. If the meet involves significant up front costs from me and the client is new then I’ll seek some pre payment or assurance or I’ll decline the business.

But the UK isn’t!!!

And is doing well as a force for good. And it’s not imperialistic 😉 Any country can apply to join. All countries in it are equal. The head of the Commonwealth is His Majesty King Charles III.

Interesting topic. I’m not sure I’d share as much detail as @Simon Suracion what my clients who come for massage and company (that’s what I’d call BFE) want because some of it’s very personal and I’d feel awkward sharing it here (even though no names are mentioned of course). Generally what they want, alongside massage, is intimacy, some connection and space to be themselves without feeling judged. It can be having lunch, chat over a coffee, cuddling, going to a sauna together. Rarely is it full sex…maybe that’s a genuine BF experience! I think look first for someone you can connect with rather than being specific for a masseur vs an escort. Either could be ok but the most important thing is for him to be able to connect with you and part of that test would be whether he’s open to the proposition and how he reacts to your request.

Depends how complicated and demanding the role play is. If I’m given a script with detailed instructions and it feels like I have to be aiming for an Oscar nomination then….sorry but I’m not able to do that. If it’s more of a general ‘could you play along with this kind of vibe’ then that’s fine and it is often quite fun. I agree with you that massage is a great way in. I think it need not be considered as just the starting point though; it can be the whole theme of the session, whatever sexual activity is involved.

Remember too that when you hire, regardless of all the debate about whether your hire enjoys it or not, he’s there at your request. You decide the duration, the date and time (within his availability of course) and if you choose to you can simply lay back and leave it all to him. You’re paying for convenience, for access and for his expertise as well as his services.

Yeah I figured that if I charge for the pull out, and he’s run out of money at that point then we have an impasse 😳. Happy Friday friends 😘

I use the low cost airline pricing strategy for up selling: I’ve got a rate marker tottood on my cock. First inch inside is £50. Want the next inch? That’s another £40. Next is a further £40…Balls deep the total comes to £330 (those who paid attention in maths class will be working out my size)…. Once it’s in then I ask how many thrusts the client wants. They can buy the Platinum service (£100 for unlimited thrusts) or package of 20 thrusts for £5. The final pull out is free. If they want to change position then that’s like buying a new ticket: they need to pay by the inch again. If I’m bottoming I don’t charge by the inch (it wouldn’t maximise income from less well endowed clients…and if I find someone with 12 inches then he’s welcome to use them all for a flat rate tbh).

Yes. This is why some people can do sex work and others can’t.

The thing is, generally, if you do sex work you enjoy giving pleasure. If you’re doing it primarily for your own sexual gratification then you won’t be very good at it and you won’t last in the business. It’s not my sex life or sexual urges I am satisfying (although that may happen indirectly…as the OP has experienced) it’s my basic need to give pleasure that I’m satisfying. I think that’s what enables me and others who do this (like @Simon Suraciexplained) to do the job and do it well.

Because it’s my job.

He’s done his job. Of course he’ll want paying. Just because he enjoyed it doesn’t mean you don’t have to pay him! I enjoy all my client sessions (and if I don’t they wouldn’t be able to tell…) but I still expect to be paid!

I never upsell. I think it’s bad practice to do so, especially during the massage. I think you agree the content and the rate beforehand and stick to it. Offering an upsell mid massage is taking advantage of someone when they probably aren’t able or willing to decline it. If someone asks for more services mid massage (and it’s something I’d usually charge extra for, such as to bottom) then I usually suggest they book that for next visit.

RentMasseur gives you the opportunity to upload a certificate and then they mark you as certified. They say they check the certificate but I wonder how diligent that is. It’s because in certain locations you can’t advertise offering massage without being certified. However, I’ve never seen a licensed massage therapist who offers therapeutic massage only (who stays clothed and doesn’t touch genitals) and who drapes etc offer their services on RentMasseur. If they do then they’re advertising in the wrong place: look at the semi clothed public pictures (and the explicit private ones!), the descriptions and the inclusion of sensual/tantric massages…If you want a massage therapist who won’t do anything sexual don’t look on RentMasseur!

Although escorts may not give a good massage (very unlikely to have a table for example). If you want a good massage (done properly on a table with decent oil etc) and sexual activity then hire a masseur who does sensual / erotic and tell him what you want, either specifically if it’s a must have; “I definitely want to be kissed” or what kind of activity you’d like; “I’d like it very erotic to climax but I’ll leave it to you to decide how”. If there’s something you definitely don’t want, then tell him; “nothing inside”. Personally I prefer clients to tell me what they don’t want but then to leave it to me to read the cues from their reactions. If they enjoy it they come back and I remember what they liked and the ‘getting to know you’ progresses. I like to keep it interesting by varying things up and exploring with them a little more. Always with clear understanding of their boundaries and their clear understanding of mine. Within that, anything goes.

Yes there is that. They often forget they contacted me previously and message again sometimes years later. Then it’s my turn to ignore them.

It works both ways. I get ghosted by clients regularly! Client “Hi I’m interested in a massage are you available tomorrow?” Me “yes I am available anytime between 10am and 9pm” Client 👻👻👻👻 or this one: I struggle to understand why some clients simply ignore a reply. Just say ‘thanks but I changed my mind or am no longer interested’. Otherwise I’m waiting thinking ‘He asked so I won’t make firm plans until I hear his reply’. Maybe sometimes the message doesn’t get through but often I know it has because WhatsApp tells me so, yet still it gets ghosted. Very strange.

This is great advice. I totally agree.

Yes I had a set up like this for a couple of years. Start on the table, move to the bed was a common situation. People like to think they’re coming for a proper massage (which they get on a table) that develops into something more. I think you can do everything you need in terms of how things could develop on the table but the option of the bed is nice to have.

I get a few clients who found me from my justforfans and Onlyfans sites. They contact me via DM on X (twitter). Don’t ask them on their fans platform because they don’t allow you to discuss hiring on there.