Jamie21

This I agree with. You’ve got to feel comfortable with the person, it’s fundamental to being able to enjoy the session. I have a website where I write about my work (no names!) and quite a few clients have said they booked me because they read the website and got an idea about what I’m like. So I think also look to see if he has a website or other media where you can get an idea about what your potential guy is like. Social media can also give you an idea but it tends to be very curated.

Unfortunately there will always be chancers. When I get someone asking for a discount I just say no and don’t engage in any debate or negotiation because it’s very draining negotiating that on top of the other arrangements that need to be decided (like the day/time/duration/content/location details). You pay my rate or you find someone else. Got to be really strict about that.

Probably a lawyer who provides specialist legal advice alongside a blow job. In a way you still get fucked.

I don’t do therapeutic only. My massage includes therapeutic work but is sensual: my definition of sensual includes oral, rim, kiss, prostate massage etc. The client will usually reach orgasm and the massage is done naked (part way through). What actually gets included depends on what the client is comfortable with. Other masseurs might have a different definition of sensual and have different ideas about what is included, that’s why I say to ask them. Oh and I think it’s really important that it’s a great massage done well.

Can of worms…. There’s no standard definition so you should ask the guy what he includes for the rate quoted.

Thank you. I do have a relationship with a client, although it is more of a friendship and we have a lot less sex now that he’s no longer a client!! But actually I really value the friendship. Yes, I’m mostly a top for clients (if it comes to that) and generally I prefer that role. I think it’s a result of being large; guys kind of assume you’re always a top. But I like to be versatile and bottom sometimes. The thing with doing sex work is you tend to be a people pleaser…you don’t prioritise your needs.

I do that kind of session for a few guys. They’re not interested in sex as such although it sometimes happens but it isn’t the purpose of the session. The purpose is companionship, for a short time such as a few hours (I don’t do overnight or days). Has been to meals, a walk, accompany to a sauna (some guys are scared to go alone), a theatre trip. You need to check the person is compatible, even more so than in a sex focused session.

Hello @Rod Hagen! Yes I’d better explain that one ha ha. Maybe ‘ruin’ is a bit misleading. ‘Impacts in unexpected ways’ is my experience. It makes me less spontaneous with my partners (not clients) either because I’ve been busy with clients or they book last minute and I change my plans to accommodate them because it’s business and that impacts on my sex life with partners. The work is so random it makes it difficult to have a relationship. Other impacts are the expectations people have. I find they expect me to be a certain role which in ‘non work’ sex which I don’t necessarily want to do. I guess I hadn’t anticipated these things, having not thought about it deeply before starting this kind of work. There’s upsides too! Like all the practice helps 🙂

I don’t necessarily see it as a ‘they versus us’ binary power dynamic. It’s much more subtle than that. There’s a mutual dependence. Why do I do sex work? Well it’s partly for the money of course, and because I like the flexibility of it but it’s also because it meets a need for me. Not for sex (tbh it rather ruins your sex life) but it meets other needs that go beyond the need to earn an income. Things to do with identity and being desired etc. So in that sense my client has a great deal of power over me even though he’s the one hiring me.

I think it’s not them being entitled.. The request for an Uber is simply a power dynamic playing out. The bottom line? Sex is about power in its various facets. Everyone who is in any way successful in this industry understands that implicitly.

You don’t have to agree to it though! If you don’t want to pay for his Uber then don’t hire him. The reason some ask for an Uber is not necessarily entitlement, it’s usually more to test the client’s motivation. I think it works quite well if you’re unsure whether the client is genuine or not.

Sleepyboy.com in the UK.

No such thing as Midtown in London! Its City or West End. Or if you want to be less specific, Zone 1 on tube. Faster to get to those locations by tube or bike than it is to take an Uber most time of the day…

Seems a bit difficult of him! If someone asks me for a face pic I’m ok to share it, but my public pictures on my advertising don’t show my face. For some clients it’s important so they’ll ask but in my experience most are ok with making decisions based on the pics or videos on my advertising or website.

The pic collector Venn diagram circle almost completely covers the sex chat Venn diagram circle in my experience. They say they’ve seen my ad (and presumably the pics on it) and they are interested in booking but want more information…. “what happens during a session?” (‘we drink tea and play dominoes obviously 🙄)….then they ask something like “how big is it?”…then “can I have a pic”….then the sex chat starts “what will you do to me…. I’m very tight, do you like tight?”…and they want more pics. I say “if you want to book a session please let me know” and close it down because this chat is going nowhere. They always come back with “definitely going to book once I sort out my calendar or once I get paid etc”. That means he’s never going to book and once he’s finished wanking over the sex chat and pics he’ll forget about it until next time he’s horny and he contacts me again (often months later having forgotten the first time!). Dealing with enquiries is just part of the business. It’s fine, many are genuine and turn into great regular clients. I think some clients ask these questions to see what kind of person you are. If you’re irritated by a few questions, want payment to send a pic, don’t want to engage with someone who genuinely seems to be seeking information about booking (especially if all of this hiring thing is new to them), then it tells them you’re probably not going to be a great experience. I’m ok for potential clients to know as much about what I’m like as possible because if they then choose me I know it will be a great experience for them (and therefore for me too).

I share a dick pic or other pic if they want one. Clients can also see my pics and a demo video of me on my website. I think it’s fine if they want to see that because it’s a better session if they choose to book knowing what I look like. Where I draw the line is multiple requests for pictures via text or WhatsApp. That’s just a picture collector. I tell them if they want more pics they should follow my twitter. They usually go quiet after that.

Like any job some people do the job just for the money and some do it because it’s their vocation. A client will be able to tell who’s in it just for the money and who’s in it because they genuinely enjoy the work. Why shouldn’t a provider who discovers he’s good at the work not get paid for it just like any job? If you enjoy the work you don’t see clients as ATM’s but as customers to keep happy (because that’s a big part of the job satisfaction) and as individuals to value (because that’s what being in a people business is about). The providers who see clients as ATM’s don’t last long in this business because it’s all about repeat clients.

Once had a client ask me “is it in?”….. I’m 8 inches and reasonably thick. I replied “couldn’t miss”. He was annoying anyway…always asking for a discount and last minute bookings.

This. This sums up my view to the work. Sex is a mind business. I find most bottoms are good to take it quickly, they want the load of course. Never met one who (once he was over the anxiety of taking loads) didn’t want to be bred. I find it difficult to cum in there sometimes if the bottom lacks skill so I’ll need to do some hand work to get close and then dive in so to speak. Most of the time there’s been a nice slow build up through massage and lots of erotic play which gets everyone close!

If I try to post an explicit pic to my profile the system rejects it. Those kind of pics have to go in my private gallery. I think the system must use some kind of AI to review pics because one or two slip through occasionally. It’s fair enough that the explicit pics are only available to subscribers because that proves they’re of legal age to see that kind of content. The site can’t put those pics on open display where children could possibly come across them. It would undermine the legitimacy of the site.

Key to this is that if the guy says he will definitely do something in the session and it’s part of his quoted rate then he should honour that in the session. No good to say you’ll kiss and then decline to do so or only do it for extra cost. That’s poor form. I do think that kissing shouldn’t be an extra cost thing but that’s just my personal preference. I agree with @keroscenefirethat kissing is kind of an essential. But of course for some it’s too intimate and might even be considered too ‘gay’ if someone is exploring their sexuality. If I’m asked will I cum in the clients mouth I’ll say it’s possible but not definite because I can’t be sure to do that (much as I’d like to cum on demand it’s not always possible especially if I’ve seen a few clients). However kissing is something that is possible and I’m always good to do that subject to the client’s oral hygiene. There’s two sides to this issue: if you want to be kissed make sure you brushed and used mouthwash. Similarly if you want to be rimmed make sure you’ve showered. If you want to cum in my mouth make sure you’ve been eating pineapple (well….maybe not that far but please don’t have eaten asparagus thank you)😂

I get a lot of enquiries via twitter DM. It’s quite good for advertising. I’ve two profiles on there which combined have about 40k followers so it has good reach. The trouble is there’s also a lot of misinformation and crazy people on there!

It’s not necessarily the booking length that is relevant. It’s the rate. You could book an hour but if he’s travelling all day to fulfil that hour then his rate will reflect that. Therefore if you’re paying a high price you might aswell book him for a decent length of time. Either way it’s going to cost you his full day rate for an out call. Maybe a better idea is for you to travel to him, make a day out of it, maybe stay overnight in your destination and take in some sightseeing alongside your session with the escort? If you visit him you can also get his in call rate, or have him come to your hotel if you stay overnight.

Yep, far too ugly for movies

What? Not mine??? 😳. (I’ve done a film with Blissbodywork - great guy 👍).