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I've had some confusion around this myself when i first started. I have some providers i work with regularly who i always have to reach out to them first to book because they are popular and busy. But i also have a few other providers i work with regularly who almost always hit me up first. Like @JamesB said though, they're simply just trying to move you from the one time customer category to the regular category. Nothing more, nothing less. You may not need encouragement to see the provider again, but they don't know that till you've come back a certain number of times already. From what i assume too, from the perspective of the provider, if they know they need to see X number of clients a month to cover their living expenses/bills, I'd imagine that they would have you and others on a short list of guys they can reach out to each month to hit their quota. I'm pretty sure that's what one of my guys does. He doesn't let more than a month go by without hitting me up to see if i want to have a session. Definitely feel flattered though, the fact that they are cool to work with you repeatedly means you're doing something right as a client. It means you're chill or have good energy, easy to work with, reliable, consistent, you ask for stuff that's easy for them to do, etc.

He was someone i followed on Tiktok and then months later while browsing on RM i randomly saw him on there and then i hired him. It was just totally random chance.

Very very curious about this guy as well and also find this a bit sus lol. I might eventually take the plunge for us if no one else does soon. But there's a couple other guys ahead of this guy in my RM queue 😆

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No experience with him yet, but he's on my list. He's insanely hot and the vids on his Twitter... 🥵

I successfully met up with him back in March/April/May i think it was. Short and simple review. It was incredible. I cannot say enough good things about this guy. I recall at the time i had similar spotty communication at first with him, but i stuck with it and once we finally locked in details and got it set up. It was an absolutely phenomenal experience. He's super nice and sweet. He's very passionate about his interests and he'll talk your ear off about them if you let him (which for me, that's a turn on), but he is not a clock watcher and he didn't subtract our conversation time from our session time. Session itself was truly next level great. Only reason i haven't seen him again yet is because work has been my own work/scheduling issues. He's also currently in Europe according to his profile.

Tried to hire him last month. Had talked about what i wanted. He agreed. Then when i asked him to verify he was real (via a video call or sending a pic with a specific pose so i know he had just taken the pic and wasn't catfishing with someone else's photos or something) since his profile was not verified at the time (and still isn't) he ghosted shortly before i was supposed to go meet him and i never heard back. Considering the good reviews on RM, i figure he's probably real, but I'm guessing me asking to verify must have spooked him somehow? I don't know, but i was highly disappointed cause he's aggressively hot and prior to me asking him to verify he had agreed to everything i requested 🫠

New-ish user here. Going through and looking up providers I've hired to throw my 2 cents in where applicable lol. Found this guy on Tiktok initially and had been thirsting after him for a couple months. Stumbled upon him on RM while browsing (had no idea he was on RM and was not looking for him). I was so surprised to see him on RM that i literally messaged him on Tiktok from my anon account and asked if the RM page was him and he was like "lol yeah it's me". So i hired him. I personally had a great time with him, but i've seen this thread: https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/158263-some-encounters-that-didn’t-deliver/ Of someone listing guys they didn't have a good time with and he was on that guys list. So i found that interesting. But yeah that Twitter you link provided is him, MJ (Michael Julius as listed on the Twitter/OF link) is his real name. The CarlosHernandezz name on RM is an alias, most guys on RM are not using their real names for obvious reasons. I'd imagine at the time of the thread i linked, the story that guy told was true. I know a lot of providers start and maybe charge too high or think they can be more commanding of the client (with asking the client to provide a photo which to my understanding is generally not how this is supposed to work) and then over time they learn the norms of this work and adjust accordingly. So while i do not doubt what that user experienced with him or any one in the replies above here experienced. I had a good time with him and will see him again. Can confirm he charges $400 for FS. He does not make out but he did give me some kisses, just not open mouth/tongue. He definitely seems to prefer to bottom more than top, but he didn't quote an extra $200 to top when i talked to him about what he preferred. So maybe he doesn't do that anymore. He also did not ask me to provide a photo. We chatted for a good while, he told me the story of how he got into providing, he offered me a glass of water, he helped me chill out (i was a little nervous to meet him since i had been lusting over him on Tiktok for so long, i didn't tell him i recognized him/already knew who he was though and i'm always nervous meeting a new provider for the first time in general), we talked about random nerdy stuff after i noticed the Pokemon plushies in his room, then we did the session. I personally really liked him and will hire again soon. I guess you could say he's expensive based on the earlier replies above, but based on the guys i've hired so far since i started hiring, basically everyone's charging 300-400 for FS. So that's been my baseline, so it didn't register to me as being expensive. But even the provider himself said "i know i charge a lot compared to the other guys". So maybe i just haven't come across the guys who charge less on RentMen in my area lol. Or maybe i've just been paying the social media/porn/OnlyFans/Twitter porn premium and didn't realize it.

I've even gotten to the point where i not only get to enjoy finding that type of guy on RentMen for example, i sometimes find a specific guy i lust after on Tiktok on RentMen (hired him and it was everything i hoped it would be).

For me, it's effectively to get access to guys i don't see in my local or app based hookup pool. I enjoy a nice scroll on Tiktok or Instagram sometimes, and there is always some hot 20something dancing without a shirt on. "Thirst trapping" as they call it now. And some of those guys tend to have a really specific look that i really like but i never ever see those on Grindr or just in my social circles (i'm young enough where i can run into Gen Zers in day to day at a party/gathering or whatever). I only ever see them online, occasionally at a bar/club at the gay part of my city (and i have a very hard time getting myself to approach them in this scenario), but a lot of those guys (gay, bi, straight or otherwise) are all hustling on OnlyFans and now more and more of them are providing. So hiring is how i fulfill my fantasy of plucking those guys off my social media feed to being right in front of me.

Thank you all, i appreciate all these replies. Lot of good advice here 🙏

I think both of you have different definitions of what Objectify means. You're giving it a ton more weight and negativity than they mean it with, and they mean it in a much more easy going way than you do. I think that's the disconnect here. Objectification to some just means there isn't an emotional/romantic connection, which is what is at play when clients work with providers. We go to them for a physical experience and then we both go about our lives after. We pay, they provide a service/specific experience and that's all it is and that's ok. This is not the scenario of victimization or treating them like they are less than a person. And objectifying or interacting with someone purely for their aesthetic or physical ability is not inherently that, especially not when they are consenting to the interaction. And it seems like the notion that it is, is the side of this you're coming from and that's why you and the other person are clashing over this.

Have you guys ever had issues with feeling distracted by knowing the fact that the provider isn't attracted to you or even may actively find you ugly? If so how do you handle that? I'm obviously never going into any provider session under any delusion they think I'm hot, but sometimes i get in my head about maybe I'm really putting them through a tough time if they find me to be actively unattractive/ugly. The feeling doesn't necessarily bother me in terms of my own self confidence, but more so in the way that I'm very much the kind of person who wants to be easy to work with or be a bright spot in the day of someone who does what may be a tough job (i love to be kind to or tip customer service workers cause they deal with a lot). So the thought that that's an aspect of myself i can't change to make the job easier for the provider kinda bothers me sometimes.

Also, this line of work is literally where fetishization works in the providers advantage. Every worker is appealing to someone's attraction or fetish. That's what makes the client agree to pay. It's part of the marketing from the providers end. That's, that's just how this works... Why are we pretending like this isn't what it is?

This is only an issue if you still live 20 years ago. This is a very old timey way of looking at things. It's 2025 and the proliferation of Asian culture via K-Pop, Glenn from the Walking Dead show, K-Dramas, Anime, Japanese muscle bars, Physical 100, etc, in media/pop culture has completely changed what "type" of Asians are sought after and how they can be perceived as attractive and what the Western perceptions of the East are. If you think people only want smooth boyish sub bottom Asians, you're stuck in the past. I literally joined this site to vouch for a provider who is a muscular Asian top and i got multiple DMs from people interested in details of my experience with him. OPs desire to be serviced by older men is not niche and the stereotypes of yesteryear are not the only way an Asian man can do well in this work.

I'm very curious how they determined he was an escort at the airport. In the era we're in of ever increasing online surveillance and tracking. I do worry sometimes that the days of this profession/business are somewhat numbered if some country (any country) decides to make a database using the ads on sites like RM combined with the increasing use of facial recognition and other forms of government surveillance. It kind of feels like it's a matter of when not if. At the same time though, i know multiple providers who i hire regularly who fly all around within my country many many times a year and are never stopped or hassled. So, similar to the taxes issue often brought up regarding how some governments are more concerned about getting their cut than they are about your actual activity, your friend may have been more suspicious to security of non-visa work more so than specifically being an escort/masseur. Still curious what exactly would tip them off to that though.

It's hilarious to me that this is something that bothers some guys so much. Having your middle finger up in a photo isn't a literal "F you don't hire me". It's just something younger people do to look non-chalant/casual/cool. It literally doesn't even register to me as something crazy, it's just a pose people do in pictures as a default. I might piss some of you off for saying this, but if a middle finger or a tongue out in a photo is a "hard pass", you're kinda showing your age (and on the other end of this, so am i to be fair) 🫣

Can't speak to this provider, but considering some of these providers are getting dozens or hundreds of inquiry messages/texts a day. It's not unfathomable to me that they don't really have time to write a flowery letter for every reply (I'm being hyperbolic, but still). They're trying to book appointments, not be our pen-pals and we are paying for time with them not to get cordial texts from them. I've seen the Inbox of a provider friend of mine before and it just immediately made all "he doesn't text back in a timely manner" and "he wasn't cordial" complaints make sense. Now if they bring that "i must be hyper efficient and get in and get out" energy to the actual session, that's when i'd be mad.

I actually wouldn't mind providing professional services to a provider. I do video editing on the side. And i know a lot of providers also maintain an OnlyFans page which can sometimes require them to edit video. But the level of editing OF videos require is literally just cutting back and forth between like 2 or 3 angles, you could do it on your phone in like 5 minutes (and most OF creators do). So i've never been asked for that. But it would be my most applicable skill to what they might need haha.

Not directly tied to providing assistance to providers, but i also just experienced this myself. For a while i was used to providers who do not ever message me to initiate them being hired. I assume they're too busy for that and even if they weren't, why would they? I thought. I always reach out to them first when i want to hire. So recently when i started working with two providers who always reach out to me first to "hang out" or "meet up" (always for hiring though) it really threw me for a loop cause i just assumed why would they ever reach out to me first? So for like a good couple weeks i thought they were low key kinda into me or at the very least they "liked working with me" more than they were letting on but that seems like a silly porn premise. So now i just go, "hey everybody does business differently i guess" lol.

Considering all the great points others have made here. If i was you, what i would do to "get around" all these potential danger points is ask your friends who do escort on RentMen to put on their profiles that they offer "4 hand massage" or "can set up 3sum or groups". This tells their clients that they have friends they can bring in (also for hire) to the experience. A client would reach out to your friend through their ad, maybe ask about a group experience, and then your friend could show the potential client just some regular photos of you that are public like screenshotted from your Instagram for example. This lets the client see you, you be hired alongside your friend (which helps with physical safety when you get there), get paid in cash, all without having any hard digital evidence that ties you to your own escort account because if the only photos being shared of you are publicly available photos then you have plausible deniability if somehow a screenshot from the DM with the client leaks or whatever.

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Similar to NJF, i actually have had the opposite experience. Everyone I've hired so far has had accurate pics.

It's starting to not be a good or bad metric on it's own to me anymore. Things that used to be red flags to me are starting to be ok depending on the context of what else is on the profile. Reviews that sounded like English wasn't the first language used to be a red flag to me (because it can come off like a bought bot farm), but depending on the guy and who that guy is most likely to appeal to and what area they're working in, that may be normal. I've seen guys with dozens and dozens of reviews which to me used to read as fake/botted/bought reviews, and then i've met them and they actually just are that good and had that many people leave reviews. I've also come to not be skeptical of lots of reviews in a short time span anymore either because some sites like Rent Men show publicly the metric of how many profile visits a profile gets. Even new profiles can wrack up thousands of views in a matter of weeks. So to think that even a new profile that has like 10k views and already had a few people take a chance and leave 5-10 reviews doesn't seem that crazy to me statistically. Now if somebody with a month old profile had 30+ reviews that would seem a little fishy. But i personally haven't seen that. Particularly on Rent Masseur too they tell you not to be too explicit in the review for obvious reasons. So there's kinda only so much you can say without getting into the details. So the fact that basically every review all use a lot of the same buzzwords to describe the massage doesn't really ring the alarm to me anymore. It really now comes down to do they have NO reviews at all, how new is the profile, do the pics look like they were taken in this decade/recently, is their profile Verified, and what their bio/description write up is like.

Nope, it's a drop down selector. Everyone picks a (+/- a few years) age, and then never updates it as the years go by 😂