DMonDude

It's because you're being an asshole for no reason. "Not your type" does not equal "ugly fats", nor does it mean someone that's not your type can't be an escort. It's insane you don't understand this.

The times i pay cash, they've always counted it in front of me, but i've heard some guys don't. And i think they should and i don't see it as rude if they do. I'd much rather they know they got what they asked for and i know i didn't accidentally hand them less/more than intended. I definitely think the notion that counting the money whether in front of the client or not is rude/impolite isn't right. I think it's similar to the false notion that office workers discussing their pay is rude/impolite. It's not, it just isn't conducive to the employer getting away with under paying or unevenly paying the employees 😆.

Is being such an asshole about it necessary though? Have you learned the language of every country you've visited? Or even an "acceptable level" beyond basic greetings? Most people who feel this way definitely don't do that, they expect tourist areas/attractions to be in English for them or they use a translator for convenience. Very interesting double standard.

In my experience in Los Angeles, the rates are in the 300-400 range. You'll find a few 500s and a few 500-1000 guys too, usually some of the porn stars/onlyfans guys. When you scroll down to the very bottom of the RentMen home page and click "Contact Us". It should open a DM in your inbox with RMs webmaster account and you can message them the issue. That's not working? If not you can also go to their profile directly and hit the message button there and see if it works that way? https://rent.men/WebMaster If neither of those work, the only other way i know of is the Bug Report page https://rent.men/about/report-bug

Some here would disagree with you on that, but regardless, neither of those things bar someone from being an escort. That may be disqualifying for you individually wanting to hire them, but this notion of yours of "i'm not attracted to them, so it's weird they're an escort" is kinda goofy.

The same AI that confidently, but incorrectly, told a bunch of hikers the incorrect duration and needed supplies of a planned hike that resulted in them getting stranded and needing to be rescued? 😆 https://abcnews.com/US/3-hikers-ai-plan-trip-rescued-after-becoming/story?id=136176177 The same AI getting multiple lawyers punished and fined for using AI generated work that cites non-existent cases/precedent and makes up testimony after they prompted it to come up with a "bulletproof" summary? 😆 https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2026/sep/11/new-mexico-lawyer-ai-chatgpt-testimony

I think it's less about the other destination for play and more about the location to location transition in general.

I've been feeling a bit similarly lately. I feel like for me personally, the type of guys i like aren't the type that are most popular here. So people aren't trying those guys much, if at all, and thus have no intel when i make a post about them here. I also have guys i hire but have never seen anyone ask about here. I also think more and more, people are sticking to the same set of well reviewed providers. Which is somewhat understandable, but yeah i feel like sharing info on newer/up and coming guys or guys who just aren't the norm isn't as robust here. No one wants to be the one to take the chance when they can just hire from the go-to list again. Everyone's just becoming more risk averse. Which is also understandable, but just not conducive to us getting intel on newer guys or those guys being able to build reputation. Some of the guys i do take the chance on myself (which i'm doing more and more often), i then don't report back here about them because if there isn't already a thread on the guy, i assume no one else here was interested in him.

It's weird because you seem to think your preference for who can and can't be an escort matters or is universal. And you don't realize you're insulting both the escort and all clients. The "Clueless" in your screen name once again really on display here.

According to yourself, you did. You said "I say this often and is not well received in the forum". Or maybe you just say that about a bunch of escorts. Which is weird either way.

What do you gain by being a dick about this guy not being your type repeatedly?

Correct. That, plus expired profiles don't usually get any of the boosting that Gold/Platinum/RentMen of the Day/Sponsored profiles get on the front page and in the top of the Search. That's what they're really paying for. Not a provider, but i have access to one's RM account cause i pay for his subscription sometimes 😅.

I believe they still can get messages on RM with an expired page. Their Call Me option just gets removed from their profile though till they re-up their subscription. They can still check messages and provide their number manually to those who still inquire. Whether or not they show up in search isn't based on if your profile is active/lapsed. It's a separate setting. So if a guy you see in the search has an expired profile that just means they didn't go turn their searchability off, either by design or they just forgot. It's not necessarily a purposeful decision. A guys page being expired kinda doesn't actually mean anything about their availability unless their profile is expired in combination with also having not logged in in a while. Or unless you see the below message on their profile (which means they actively froze their account and are away indefinitely):

I'm with you. I really don't like the table much if i intend for the massage to progress to HE and other activity. I find massage tables to be too hard, and the material the table tops are made of either leave my skin dry/itchy or make me get hot/sweaty. They're also usually small and i feel like I'm going to fall off of them if i move the wrong way. And like you said, getting up from the table to go to the bed is highly awkward to me. And doing the extra activities on the table also just feels precarious and dangerous depending on what positions and such are being done, which makes it very not fun to me. A bed with the right soft/firm ratio and even just decent sheets/cover fixes all of that but doesn't impact the effectiveness of the massage pretty much at all, for me personally. Massage on a bed, to me, only doesn't work if the bed is far too soft and cloud like. Beds that are cushiony but still have some firmness/support are perfectly viable for massage to me. So i greatly prefer that.

1700 out of the overall Texas population isn't the number to compare against, it'd be out of the Texas population that actively hires. And there isn't a reliable data point for that.

My two go to L.A. masseur guys are: https://rentmasseur.com/MikeChris https://rentmasseur.com/ProfessionalHand Been seeing both pretty much since i first started doing this about 2 years ago. Both of them are traveling more and more though. MikeChris travels once a month. ProfessionalHand is out of town more frequently but is back in L.A. roughly every couple weeks. But both are currently based in L.A. That said, both are great at the massage and the sensual/erotic side for me.

I think it's to disincentive clients from buying which then may have upstream affects (or so they hope). They think if less clients are willing to take the risk because of increased punishment, then sex workers will find other work and traffickers will have less incentive to traffic potential victims into the job. Everything the U.S. does in terms of anti-sex work law is generally from the logic (however genuine or not) of stopping human trafficking and exploitation. Trafficking victims get swept up in stings and can get charged like they're committing the crime of their own free will. That's generally agreed upon as wrong and also just bad optics. So there is now more pivoting to putting more criminal onus on the clients in an attempt to address that in a round about way, dry up the customer base and the rest subsides on it's own (which is silly in my opinion). Rather than just decriminalizing or legalizing + properly regulating the sex work part like other countries do and focusing law enforcement priority on actually targeting the traffickers.

If it's the first time meeting a guy and i haven't vetted them here/they have no reviews here and i am taking a chance on them. I do leave my wallet in my car and i only take my phone/cash/car keys in with me if i'm meeting the guy at their place. Once i get a second phone, in this scenario i'd leave my main phone in the car too. If i'm hosting at a hotel, i hide my stuff. Once i know the guy is cool/safe after a couple meets, or if it's a guy who is well reviewed/recommended here. I admittedly get much more lax though and don't really bother.

You never have to do anything you don't want to do or aren't comfortable with. But yes, to a certain degree, expectations seem to have changed because of PrEP/Doxy Pep. I'd definitely recommend to be even more upfront about your limits and stipulations and make that part of the default information you tell the client about yourself in initial conversations. And you'd just have to be ok with the fact that some arbitrary number of inquiring clients may go elsewhere because of it. Purely anecdotally, but I've been hiring a couple times a month consistently for coming up on two years now. Pretty much all the escorts and masseurs that offer full service extras that I've hired either exclusively use condoms with no exception (whether on PrEP/Doxy Pep or not) and thus list Safe Only and never offer raw as an add-on. Or they are on PrEP/Doxy Pep and list Ask Me/Anything Goes and usually just default to whatever my preference is, in that if i don't say anything they'll do raw but if i bring them a condom or i ask them to use one they will. The split has been roughly 50/50 for me. Two providers. One escort and one masseur who offers extras, started safe only/with condoms but after I became a regular client they gladly switched to raw at no added cost without me asking. And only one escort I've ever hired started with condom but offered raw at extra cost. And he sprung it on me mid session while topping me. "I'll nut in you for an extra $1,000". I said no, both because i wasn't on PrEP at the time and i didn't have a surprise extra $1,000. That apparently works with some of his richie rich clients who like being financially dominated though, so more power to him i guess lol. I was pretty put off though by the fact he sprung that on me in the heat of the moment and even if i was on PrEP/Doxy at the time, and was ok with paying extra for raw. I do personally think double or more, is much much more than that's worth (and I'm obviously biased there by my experiences doing this) these days because of PrEP/Doxy.

I'm sure certain providers operate under the notion that if you already can afford to fly people to you from out of state on top of possibly covering their hotel, and their actual hiring rate, the extra cost for seat upgrades is negligible. Or at least, that's the level of client they're seeking/expecting/used to when they make that kind of request. Doesn't hurt to ask to try to figure out some agreement, but I'd imagine they'd de-prioritize you for someone who would just buy the more expensive ticket if they happened to come along.

I think this can be the case for some if they already had lost sight of what the deal is before being asked for extra money, but i don't think it's true of everyone all the time. I personally don't see it this way. I see it more like a small business making a plea for donations if they're struggling due to whatever the circumstances may be. If i like the business i may be inclined to donate/invest/loan (whatever we want to call it) because i don't want to see them go out of business or see them fall on hard times when i enjoy their product/service, it's not because of feeling delusionally closer to the owner than i actually am.

I help out an escort between meetings sometimes, he's a regular I'd been seeing for a couple months before he started asking for extra help. I'll get a text from him every now and then when he needs some extra cash to pay off a late or upcoming bill or a ticket or whatever else it may be. If I'm able to, i usually will send him what he asks for or a portion of it that i can afford to. If you have an escort asking you about this. I wouldn't say jump into it immediately, but i wouldn't say never ever do it either. I'd say just be careful and use your best judgement like others have said. And consider all the factors. Unless he's the kind of guy who shows you proof of what he needs help with, you don't actually know what you're funding and you have to be ok with that and the possible outcomes. The escort i mention goes out of his way to show me proof of what he's asking me for help with (always at his own behest). Usually a photo of a bill or ticket or once it was a photo of his vehicle after a fender bender/light collision. All with his personal identifying information uncensored. Which, is a nice gesture on his part to show that i can trust him because he trusts me to not use all that info to steal his identity 😆. I initially started doing it for this guy under the agreement he'd pay me back, which i knew wouldn't happen. In life in general i always give money under the assumption i will never see it again, and if i truly don't have the money to give i just say no. It's just easier that way, especially when dealing with friends/family or anyone really. Then it shifted to like what jmichaeliii said of paying for sessions in advanced, and those i have been getting. So that's worked out for us. This guy is the only one that's ever asked me for outside of session help before, and he'll probably be the only one i do it for. I don't want to make a pattern of this for financial reasons.

I pulled the trigger and saw him. He's a nice guy and very easy to talk to. We had fun 😈. A little more expensive rate than I'm used to though, but not as high as some of the porn stars/twitter famous guys ask for. Can confirm the pics are real and that's actually what he looks like. He told me he gets a lot of people questioning the pics and are hesitant to book because of it.

If you didn't tell him specifically what other pics you wanted to see he might not reply, he was probably expecting you to specify between face pics or more nudes. I personally would have said "i need to see face pics or maybe we can do a video call for verification". For reverse image searching. I personally do my reverse image searches with Google. On the Google home page, if you click this button: You can either upload a screenshot you take of the photo, or paste a link to the photo. And Google will bring up photos that either look similar, or are an exact match (if it can find it). When i reverse image search a provider's pics, if they used a photo that they also have on a public social media profile somewhere, it will usually bring up that social media page. It's not based on facial recognition, so it can make the connection to the photo from another site without the face in it. It's doing an overall visual match. However, the photo i used for this guy that Google found on his social media, he no longer has on his RM ad. The gym photo there does not turn up in reverse image search (don't reverse image search the nudes, Google's search tool is built to ignore that request for obvious reasons). So you're probably S.O.L. for finding his socials/other pics. And just in case, if you do find his other pics/social media another way, do not post them here. That is against forum rules.

This has mostly been my experience as well. I definitely think there's an art to a clients opening message that is a factor in a provider's likelihood to respond. I don't get super cordial in the message but over my time doing this i start with more info up front, specifically asking about a specific date/time. I've found that when i start by asking about rate, or confirming their "intos" or asking for pics first are the messages that are most likely to get slow or no replies. Definitely agree with this as well. At a certain point, we have to realize some of the guys advertising are getting tons of messages in very short spans of time. They physically cannot read and respond to every person in a timely manner. The ones who try are also usually the providers many then complain about being on their phone during a session with us, can't really have it both ways. I have an escort friend who's shown me his RM DMs and the amount of messages flooding in at any given time he gets online is insane. He looks at the first couple that come in when he gets online and responds to those and which ever one is most efficient at booking is who gets the slot. He doesn't even look at the other messages. So, OP or anyone who gets frustrated with not getting responses, that can sometimes be what is happening. There is simply a finite amount of people who will get a response and you're playing a lottery that your message is one of the handful the escort opens when they sign in at a given moment. It's not something that should be taken personally, or even necessarily be tied to a lack of professionalism. It simply is a factor of the difficulties of fielding clients at scale as a one person operation (who then is also expected to not be on their phone at all when with clients).