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Very valid concerns and points. It's appreciated. But i do know it's not a fake match, this app verifies photos by having the user upload a photo and then do basically a full 3D face scan. So i know he's behind the profile. I also have the bottom rung paid tier of the app and can see the actual Likes i get when someone hits Like on my profile. It's not the fake ones the app sends you with blurred photo to entice you to swipe more. So I'm not concerned about that part luckily. Definitely could still be playing con man games if he hasn't got his act together since quitting Twitter/OF. But at least now I'd know to deny the money request if that happened again, i was a way easier target a couple years ago when he first got that money out of me. I know better these days. I also know it was him behind that twitter account, he was known/had enough followers where it was easy to know which account was his account and which were fakes re-posting his content. His OnlyFans page also had his link.me site that listed all his official accounts (twitter, payment app, Instagram, and more). So i do know it was him then that got the money out of me and it's him now on this dating app. I have no interest in getting money back from him. I'm coming at this purely from the standpoint of being willing to getting to know him and try something casual or romantic if mutual interest is there, on the condition that he has indeed dealt with his demons and isn't who he was back then anymore (not in terms of making content or being a provider but in terms of conning people for money and abusing substances, the latter of which he posted being the reason he was quitting twitter/OnlyFans at the time he announced his exit). I'd long forgotten about that money till i i remembered who he was after seeing him pop up on the dating app and if he's changed then i'd easily be a non-issue again. I'm not one to hold grudges and I believe in forgiveness for low/mid level transgressions, especially if someone has actually changed for the better. Also valid concern/point to bring up. Yes i am sure. The urge to disclose is purely from a place of having seen too many sitcoms/rom-coms where problems happen solely because people simply didn't communicate or kept secrets or omitted information and my own need to figure out a solution/my response when i foresee an issue or conflict coming down the pipeline so i'm not floundering in the moment. That + general anxiety lol. I have no intention to try to get money back from him or even tell him specifically about the money and how he got it from me. The money i only bring up because the transaction history is the main vector through which he could possibly figure out that we've interacted in the past. For all he knows, with how much time has passed since it initially happened, that money could be money i could have sent him to buy content rather than him getting it from me under the guise of helping him with a late bill. It's not about any guilt tripping or "look what you did to me back when" or any of that. The main thing i would want to let him know is that i recognized him from viewing his content. It likely would come up anyway because i don't hide from dates/potential partners that i enjoy porn/OnlyFans content or that i hire providers because an ideal partner for me would share those interests with me or would at the very least have no issue with me engaging in it on my own. So it just feels like something i shouldn't keep a secret. Can confirm if no money changed hands, i would still feel weird about knowing that past about him without him knowing that i know. If he made the connection on his own, I would be worried it would make him feel violated that I've seen him naked before he's chosen to be naked for me on the individual level or other wise tricked/misled/etc (kind of going back to the why celebrities usually don't date non-famous people example i gave up thread). It has nothing to do with any sense of moral positioning or anything like that. It's purely about transparency.

It's mainly an honesty/transparency thing for me. Sitting on the info would cause me stress from feeling like i was waiting for the shoe to eventually drop (the payment app and him realizing we've transacted before scenario). I wouldn't want there to be the chance that he later realizes on his own we interacted in the past and that i recognized him from his prior work and didn't say anything and then think that i had ill intent because of it. Kind of like how celebrities usually don't date regular people out of fear of ulterior motives ranging from someone just wanting to get with them for their money/fame or to fulfill some celebrity crush/groupie fantasy they have. So that's mainly what I'm trying to avoid by getting the conversation out of the way fairly early. I'm also the kind of person where something like this would sit in my head nagging at me basically forever. So with stuff like this i either need to just actually deal with it or remove myself from the situation entirely usually.

Recently a hot guy matched with me on a dating app. He looked very vaguely familiar. After a while of thought i recalled where i recognized him from. He used to do Twitter/OnlyFans content and you also could hire him through Twitter and he was a guy i followed on Twitter and attempted to hire via Twitter DMs years ago. He quit content/escorting a couple years ago. So i don't think he's doing that thing some content creators and providers do where they go on dating apps to promote. I don't know if he was on RentMen or other sites when he was working cause i didn't know about those sites back then. Trying to hire him back then didn't go anywhere after he asked me to front him some money for a bill he had due and then he ghosted after i gave that to him (very dumb of me back then lol). I moved on. He eventually quit Twitter/OnlyFans to focus on a different career path and apparently handle some demons he was battling. If i talk to him and it actually goes somewhere, I don't intend to sit on this realization, i think he should know that i know about that era of his past and that we've interacted before. It would be too weird if it ever came up in the future where i need to send or receive money from him for a dinner or whatever else and he realizes we've had a payment app transaction from before we "met". Even with out that scenario coming up, it's just not something i could have in the back of my mind all the time till he eventually brings it up himself (if ever). How, and how soon, should i bring this up and explain to him in a way that doesn't weird him out? If that's even possible.

I'm starting to notice personally, guys who have the size they say they do, take dick pics at all kinds of random angles and sometimes have items you can tell are big near it for scale. They look big almost regardless of how they're photographed. Guys trying to make their dick look bigger than it is usually use the tried and true angles that make a dick look a little bigger and don't have other items nearby for scale.

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I don't do the thing of giving a friend the identity/address of who I'm seeing and where I'm going, but i absolutely should and would if i could. I just don't have anyone I can give the "if i don't text you by the morning, call the police" responsibility to that also wouldn't ask a million questions as to why and what precisely I'm doing, and i have no intention of telling anyone in my life about this hobby of mine. Like others have said though, I always meet providers at a hotel in the lobby and then bring them up to my room/go with them up to their room. Or i go to their apartment, i definitely have less control and am taking more risk in that scenario and i don't really have any risk mitigation for that. A hotel and meeting in the lobby is the next best thing i can think to do for in person vetting. I also usually stay at hotels where the lobby is fairly populated and well lit. I have no issues about being seen meeting a provider in the lobby, no one around knows what we're going to do or how i know them, so that's not something i worry about. So it ends up being a nice mostly neutral place to meet them at where if something feels off, enough people are around i know that they aren't going to try anything and i can say "actually something's not right, no you can't come up to the room, sorry" if i need to (have never needed to do that though).

With how much more common it is for some of us to do business via CashApp/Venmo and particularly Zelle, which requires your real name and is not screen name based, now. I tend to know an escorts real name, and they mine, right from the first meeting. But we almost never actually call each other by our real names. I usually offer them calling me by my nickname (John instead of Johnathon for example) and i tend to stick with whatever their escort name is. Some of the guys use their real name or a variation of their real name as their escort name though. I've noticed a lot of guys use their middle name as their escort first name. Some of the guys we kinda just stick to calling each other man/dude/bro and not really use names, kinda just happens naturally, we never make that a rule or anything.

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@mike carey@MikeBiDude@Kevin Slater whoever else. Might as well just go ahead and lock the thread now.

You are so fucking obtuse about literally everything. Jesus christ.

Intense making out is not assault. If you are choosing to take it that way, that's you choosing to take that on yourself. Many here are very vocal about how much they require making out as part of service and have specifically said deep tongue and such. If that's part of the service they like to order, then that's not assault. I simply was clarifying that this guy doesn't do that. Again, if you read that as you being accused of assault, take that up with yourself dude. I didn't say that or put that on you.

When the fuck did i say that?

He does kiss but not make out though, which is a dealbreaker for some. Wasn't an issue for me personally, but if you want to jam your tongue down his throat on the first meet, then correct yeah that's not something he offers.

If anyone still "doesn't get" pup play, from my understanding based on what my friend who is into it told me. It's a gear thing of course, but it basically is just dom/sub play but specifically owner/pet themed. So one guy is the owner and the other guy in the pup mask is obviously the pup. It's about obedience, care giving, teaching the pup "tricks", praise kink play (sexualizing being a "good boy" and Pavlovian training), etc. The pup play community has a lot of crossover with the Furry community (which isn't always kink/sex focused).

I've always thought Nyjah Huston was hot. He's a pretty well known pro-skater, arguably one of the "Tony Hawk" level guys of the generation after Tony Hawk's prime. Repped the U.S. at the 2024 Olympics when skating was one of the sports that year.

I've learned over the course of doing this it's incredibly common to book multiple providers for 4 hand, 6 hand, or other group play. It's likely not a new request for them. Doesn't hurt to ask. The worst they can say is "no i don't do that".

Echoing what most others have said. Pro shot photos are fine, they don't detract from the profile, but yeah always still have some normal life selfies/photos too. Pro shot photos imply you take the work and other related work like modeling or porn or OnlyFans seriously but it's the normal life selfies/candid photos that are more what i use to get a sense of your vibe and true in person looks since most pro shot photoshoots are usually heavily airbrushed and edited and the model did 20 push ups/sit ups right before the photo was taken lol. Pro shot photos definitely are more attention grabbing for the main profile photo thumbnail though.

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It definitely sucks he didn't do everything he said on the phone, but i personally wouldn't let that stop you from doing this. That'd be like trying a new restaurant and after not liking that places food or having a bad waiter, you swear off eating entirely. It's a bit of an overreaction. Sure, don't go back to that restaurant, but there are plenty of other restaurants that are good. As evidenced by your own prior experiences. This hobby, and anything really, has good and bad in it and is never perfect. So every now and then you're going to find a dud. It's kind of part of the game unfortunately.

Unless you're paying them to be your texting buddy, you're expecting too much in my opinion. The full experience to my knowledge has never included initial meetup setup texting. And they are not worried about missing out on your high roller experience. They have plenty of other clients. No one client is gods gift to providers. Also, you messaging dozens of providers yourself is not the same because your time looking for someone to hire isn't your money, the way their time fielding clients is their money.

I've seen it mentioned here that the app Mr Number is one of the apps/sites they use to review customers. General consensus I've seen here though is that they generally don't give us full reviews or even talk about us that much, other than "this guy is not safe/won't pay" type stuff. Just red alert level stuff to keep each other safe from potential dangerous situations.

From my understanding, that setting is exclusive to profile views. Private gallery requests always still send a notification i think.

Nah, definitely not part of the interest. Not for me at least. Tattoos are art pieces to admire. Tattoos aren't scary, long as you aren't subconsciously associating them with being something only gang members get. This is one of my favorite tatted guys though (DarrenJakke on Instagram):

Agreed! In addition to that, i even like it on young guys, it gives them a certain added manliness and it gives them another thing on themselves to take care of and make stylistic choices with that help determine my attraction to them. I just like the way facial hair adds shape and texture to a face. It's a positive and negative space thing for me. Like having a painting of a landscape and the sky is blue with no clouds. You add a couple clouds in to break up the monotony of all that blue and it's more pleasing to my eye. Facial hair does that to the male face for me. I'm personally pretty picky with clean shaven/smooth faced guys 😆

I've been in this scenario before. I basically was just very upfront and direct about what i wanted, what i wanted to try, roughly how much i wanted to be pushed past my limit, and things i knew were absolutely off limits. That way they know your baseline, where you want to go, that they know they're allowed to push a little past that, but know where the hard line is and to absolutely cannot cross it under any circumstance till you explicitly say otherwise. This lets you feel safe to dip your toe into discomfort to find pleasure, but not be so scared of falling into the deep end before you know how to swim that you don't even stick your toe in the pool.